 You know if you're just doing it sort of a gift of appreciation, you know, you're doing some Putting in some effort into the relationship to do something for them then fair enough But if you do that consistently and you don't ask them, you know If they want something if they want to help with something and you just do it Then it's gonna lead to a lot of dependency and their skills are gonna drop and it's not gonna be a good situation Now it may to do any of my viewers it may come across as me trying to put autistic people down and I'm not doing this because this is something that is true and It's true for everybody. It's just a little bit more true for us because we tend to struggle with the social stuff the mental health stuff and Some of the executive functioning stuff