 Ok, hi! Hi! Nice to see you all here. I'm going to try to start on time because I'm always late. And I think it's quite ironic that I have the last session of this Drupalcon because I'm always last minute. I'm going to give a little bit of insight to my life and how I tend to manage my work. And if you have any questions, we can go over that afterwards. I'm going to talk a little bit about myself and the challenge of being me and the battle tricks and then we'll go over the key takeaways of this talk. So I am born and raised in Iceland. And currently I live in Barcelona. I have a master degree in international management and a business degree as a BSc in marketing and management as well. My background comes from media in Iceland, in retail where I lived in London for six years and had shops there and then in marketing as well. And I'm currently working as a marketing director of Onex Internet. And yeah, I think it's pretty much cover says. This is me and my three kids. We are all dwarfs basically. So here we are all tiptoeing, like trying to see who is the shortest. And currently that's me. That's the situation we have now. And yeah, yeah. So the challenge, sorry, the challenge. Is it funny or is it frustrating? I have often asked myself this and I was often very hurt. Oh Jesus, you're such a weirdo, you're a weirdo. Or you are like, oh my God, here she goes again. And I'm like, yep, that's me. Then at some point I realized it's not actually funny. It's just hard sometimes to be who I am because of the condition. And I actually realized four years ago when I divorced my partner and I became a single mom of three kids and managing my life and everything. And no one was there to grab me. Then it became really challenging when there was no one to let me in, when I locked myself out. There was no one to drive to the airport when I forgot the passport. There was no one there to come and help me when I lost the car somewhere and these daily battles. Is it destruction or is it ADHD? That's the thing. I'm sure you all have experienced being like looking for your keys or you can't find your wallet or something like this and it's frustrating. But then when it comes to these situations, for example, me when I was 20 I reversed out of a garage and I had both the doors open in the car. And I actually reversed out with the doors open. I was at work and luckily my boss was my dad. We were working in a football stadium and he was just dead at me like, what are you doing? Why didn't you close the door on the car? I thought, well, he told me to reverse, I just reversed. I wasn't checking the doors. And that's a true story. I also took my dog for a walk the other day. I walked out of my house in Barcelona, was down the street. I realised I forgot the dog. I only had the dog lead and I was walking like this, really happy with myself and then I realised I didn't have the dog. And the feeling is similar to when you fall and you stand up and you're like, I'm fine and I almost saw this. I was grabbing up the lead. It wasn't even like a lead that goes, pulls when the dog moves. It was just a long lead that I should have maybe noticed. And the expression on my dog's face when I came back in with the lead says it all. She was just sitting there like, so I took her out. But with this I just wanted to tell you a little bit like the difference of being like distracted or having an ATSD. And it's the zombie syndrome that I once heard in a talk and I really related to this because most of the time I feel like a zombie. I'm constantly like waking me up. And it's actually a phase that we all go through but the circle is usually around two hours for no more people. You have to stand up, you get a tea or something, but often with people with ATSD it's two minutes. So you can imagine where the mind always drifting into a mode of daydreaming and being relaxed. It's quite hard, the two-minute cycle is not much you can do at work when you're always daydreaming. Living alone is sometimes tricky because we need the system to wake up and with ATSD we are often loud. I listen to really loud music and I don't think it's loud but then people come in and like, what's happening here? I'm like, yeah, I'm just listening to music. It's really loud. So living alone can be bad because you really need something to distract you and wake you up. But it can also be a really massive choice for people with ATSD because they need freedom. They need to be alone and distract so tiring to be like this. So this is Molly, the dog that I left and she's actually my closest workmate because she's always with me and she actually helps me a lot because she drags me out every day. So how do we turn our system on during the work? Loud music, like I said. We eat chewy stuff, we scribbling. We're not like in meetings I can probably often be seen like this and it's not because I'm not listening, it's because I'm scribbling to keep my attention going. We move, lots of people argue and even a lot of people go to doctors and say, you have to help me because I keep thinking like I really want to kill someone or have this like thought of them doing really bad thing just to keep the system going. It's not because they want to be murderers but it's just like this really gets me up. So people with ATSD are at more risk to develop post traumatic stress disorder because we totally ignore our symptoms. We just keep going and we want to have fun and we never want the party to end and we have a really, really strong and fast mind and pauses can be uncomfortable and that's why like people with ATSD sometimes come across a bit odd, let's say. I just want to have fun and it's so ironic I have actually a tattoo it says it's not forbidden to have fun and then I have the one next party tattoo next to it. So it's a little bit true cliche. The battle tricks. So the first thing first is to take care of your mental and physical health and I say you can't do anything if this part of your life is not in order. I would always tell you to sleep to focus on your sleep because sleep to a private person is not going to do anything in their life or work life or anywhere. A lot of people with ATSD have a really late sleeping circle so they tend to fall asleep between four and five in the morning and they don't really function at work. So I say sleep and then we can do the rest. I encourage people to enjoy the nature to be out to be with the people in your life to move to eat healthy and try to meditate. These are all like very very simple suggestions that every one of you have possibly heard many many times and it's said again and again because they work. And do what makes you happy again and again and then we can start focusing on what to do at work. I was actually telling my friend today that I could never listen to audiobooks or anything before I started meditating because everything irritated me. The reading was too slow couldn't remember any names of the books and I just basically didn't get this how people could just listen to audiobooks. I started meditating and all of a sudden I was really able to focus and listen. So I just want one example. I'm also not going to come here with any like amazing advices on how you will improve everything in your life regarding your work but I want to share what I do. So before I leave on my birthday I always try to plan ahead the day I see next coming up because if I start chaotic it will be chaotic. That's for sure. I do this very very simple square on my desk and I always have to have everything written it cannot be in my calendar because I don't function like that. I write down very important things important things can wait and to do but not too important. And with this I have a visual and then I feel better. I'm calmer. I check the prior task for the day I check my meeting schedule to see when it's best for me to focus on tasks to take longer time and I always tend to finish issues where I know it takes me less than 20 minutes and especially if I know that people are waiting for me it happens a lot. I have an amazing marketing team with me at ONEX and they wait often patiently sometimes not so busy. So this is what I prioritize to not keep anyone waiting and no one out of work so that will obviously always be my focus. I make lists this is a list for one day I did and I take them off and I know we're in a technical conference and you guys will probably all have this in Google Tasks in your issues and I do that as well but having it like this it really helps me because I feel like I want to take off I feel awarded I feel like I have achieved something and I can see that I'm actually doing the things I need to do and then next morning or like the evening I will have a different list, updated and I go through many many books of the ONEX note pads I cannot recommend anything more than put your phone on silent because people that respond to everything I hear tick I hear the neighbors washing machine go off I hear I've worked at home for 16 years by the way I hear everything was going on the building the elevators going and I'm like just everything distracts me so the phone being like we know constantly going on I've had it on do not disturb the whole conference I have not missed out on anything so put the phone on disturb or have it turning somewhere else mute slack during focus hours I often say to my team we are not saving lives this can wait and if we cannot focus on anything anything that we're doing nothing is going to happen stand up when you can feel when you can feel you're not productive and I'm obviously really lucky to have an understanding bosses, a team that understands how I am and when I feel that I'm like zoning out, listening to the elevator and everything that I've told you I just stand up and take a break I go out with my dog I block 20 minutes every lunch I go out fresh air sometimes I have a coffee and then I come back so this is my desk how I want to have it this is how I want to start my day there's a list there on the table with what I need to do and then this is my desk one morning after I was looking for a bill in the evening before and I left it like this and you can imagine sitting down to this having to start the day having slack pinging you daily meeting starting and this is what you're dealing with it just can't be good no matter how much coffee I'm going to have this is not going to be good communicate effectively so this is a really tricky balance when you work remotely be available but not always I really want to be available for everyone that needs me at all times but then I'm not going to do anything else so that's why I have slack muted and not visible on my screen when I know I need to write a blog post or something else have one to one meetings with my team I think they're really really valuable because you get totally different stories you get a different perspective of the people's life what they're dealing with how they are like doing with work and task and I think they're super important have dailies in bigger projects not with everyone just people involved and have weeklys a monthly and status meetings with your team so that everyone are wrong in the same direction I always say communicating is key to a good life and I love to communicate and I think like when people are stressed we all have shitty times if we know we can all do better together if I don't know that you're going through a rough time and you can't perform at work there's no way for me to help so I think we are pretty good at this in the marketing team of 1x we speak we are helping each other on all levels so I think this is really really important so the key takeaways I have no idea what time it is I'm on time ADHD is a superpower I always say this you have to have a person with ADHD in your life otherwise so boring with all powers come responsibility so I think we all have to be responsible for how we are feeling and performing and how we are doing things and we need to constantly go over this we need to constantly estimate or look at how did this they go how did this meeting go how did this conference go did we do okay and then I think how are my kids doing like okay I maybe need to get some dinners you know this balance is a practice and one bad day will not determine the whole week or month or one bad event will not determine the next event so I just encourage people to obviously experiment with what was for you this is just something that was for me it's very very basic there's no new science here and my biggest maybe what do you call it like advice would be to avoid staying on autopilot to always check like how it's going how you're feeling at work are you doing enough are you doing too much do you need help communicate and it's all good we got this I think that's just my takeaways for this if you have any questions or anything I'm off for that but otherwise just want to thank you for coming