 Even people we don't agree with, we can learn from. Even people where we don't fully understand their reality, we can still learn from. And I suppose that's partly because I've worked with people who you don't see. And I'm going to be quite frank, the people who are functionally non-verbal, the people who smear, the people who do it. Yeah, they don't have the voice. Exactly. And I've worked with these people and I can tell you now, they're the nicest people I've met that some of these people are very distressed. And I don't mean this in a facetious way or a condescending way. They humble me because what you learn from these people very quickly is you have to take you out the equation and the focus has to be on them and their reality. And that is very humbling in those experiences. And I'm thinking of at least three gentlemen I've worked with, all varying degrees of functional language, but beautifully connecting people, very cheeky. I humanize these people. This is why I agree with you about humanizing. It's so refreshing. Even with people who present, as I've described, one of the things that made me connect with all three of these gentlemen is because I saw them as people, because I saw them as equal to me, because I allowed them to be. It's what a friend of mine, Samita Munjandar, who's on the spectrum, she's an artist, a poet and a writer. And she's talked about this thing, permission to be, like the permission to be. And I can remember, I'll give you a lovely example, I may as well. I used to work with a chat with fragile ex called Jonathan. Yeah, that's quite quite a crossover with autism, some stuff. Yes. Yes. I remember her mum, he's mum, I do apologize. John, it's your about your mother. I remember having a conversation with her. And she challenged the diagnostician good on her because he felt that he couldn't have both. And she says, Well, I, I want to challenge that I do believe he has both. But that was a very interesting dialogue. But nevertheless, with John, what I done with him is is presumed competence. You know, I read a lot, a lot of stuff about fragile ex and it's quite negative. I'm going to be quite frank, you know, low IQ, mental retardation, things like this, you know, very, very cold, analytical descriptions, where the person is is not really seen. Well, I've had enough of reading this. I just want to meet John where he is. And I remember and he loves, you know, we're talking about Snoopy and peanuts. He loved Snoopy. And he loved peanuts. And he loved Charlie Brown. He actually related to Charlie Brown very much. And he's printing, he likes printing out pictures of different emotions, very clever. He would use pictures to convey how he is. And I said to him, you know what, John, I said, you're really intelligent. And he took his fingers out from behind. The reason why they used to be behind rather than on, he had some people fragile ex have a narrowing of the tubes because of cranial differences. He had a lot of ear infections and he's partially deaf. And I just giving you a bit of information about why the thing is behind. The reason why the thing is behind the ear is you've got a honeycomb piece of soft bone behind your ears. And it's a he's massaging it because it's very tight. And he would also do this as well. And press here, which is all think it's communication. He's telling you he's poorly. And he took his fingers from behind his ears. And he turned to me and he said, Yes, I know. And that this wonderful smile. And from there on in, because that had been communicated, a lot of his speech speech was was very much pattern theme and feel. But he said that to me. Yes, I know like this in a very sing song way. And I thought, Right, OK, we're going to build up a friendship. And that's what we done. What what was built from there on in over the months and years of working with him was a very nice relationship where, you know, he liked wordplay. He liked me using words from his favorite cartoons that would usually get a giggle out of him. And we would talk, you know, in it may not be the interpretive way that other people talk, but I'm meeting him where he is. And he's very tapped of like a general giant, you know, would. And this is all about acceptance, right? If he wasn't going to get this this day sent. So, you know, it'd be quite odd. I would feel and it was respecting him as a person. And his meltdowns could be quite extreme. You know, I had hair pulling. He would pinch you. But the one thing I never done, which he didn't deserve, by the way, and I think he probably got it when he was younger was judgment. You know, soon as he pulled someone's hair or pinched them up, we're not going to go near him again. But what I always done is I thought, Right, why did he pinch? You know, the one reason actually the reason I pinch me and it is quite hard as well, it may But because I'm disconnecting my body a bit, actually, it was actually player who had to intervene. It was really interesting. So he was like going like this, like round my my stomach. And she's going, Oh, Paul, I thought, Oh, okay. And then it was all to do with the computer wasn't on. But he didn't have the language to say, I'm really upset. I can't get this computer on. So you have to again, look it from the other person, person's reality. What is their reality? And I always found with him, after I made that connection with him, you're never quite the same with the people who present as such again, because when you've made that connection, that meaningful connection, not just some superficial thing, you've garnered trust, which I think is the baseline for any human being, you've got to have trust, haven't you? You're not going to go anywhere. And yeah, just not being fearful of him when he has these these meltdowns. And a lot of the time after he melted down, he cried anyway. And he actually needed a lot. He's a very emotionally sensitive man. So he actually needed a lot of TLC after a meltdown, but lots of crying, lots of, you know, he would like to rub his back and show empathy. So I know that's a long tangent. Hopefully it gives you an idea of the people I have worked with. Hopefully it gives parents who may have people, you know, sons and daughters with fragile X or people who present similar to the John, you know, that if they are going to be in the right place with the right staff, you know, it can be a very happy and meaningful experience for them. It's a human, it's a human necessity, isn't it? It shouldn't be seen as a choice. You should be in places where you're being treated as an equal valid person.