 Just like I talk about in conversation, the foundation of all of this, the foundation of getting sexual starts with what I like to call cultivating space, being present with someone else. Just like in conversation, just like when you go approach someone for the first time. If you're in your head, you're racing around, what do I think? What do I do? What do I say? The only thing you're going to be conveying to that other person is nervousness, anxiety, definitely not attractive. You can all agree on that. So the first thing that you have to do is you have to learn to simply be present, simply listen. It feels a lot different when I'm doing my best to quiet myself down as much as possible. When I make eye contact with you, when I'm really just in my body, feeling whatever thing is swirling around, not trying to think or do anything. The second I jump into my head, what do I think? What do I do? My voice starts to get a little more rapid and it just feels differently. It feels more nervous, right? I'm doing my best to think. My mind's racing right now. What should I say? What do I do? And you probably feel a little bit more nervous. There's something known as emotional contagion. If you sit next to someone who's really anxious or really angry, you're going to start to feel more anxious than angry yourself. If you sit next to someone who's feeling very calm, you start to calm down yourself. So the first thing, the first kind of baseline when it comes to building any sort of sexual connection, any sort of emotional connection in any way, shape, or form, is that you can't be actively trying to do anything. In fact, that's your biggest enemy. You have to slow down, create sort of peaceful environment, peaceful atmosphere. That's kind of the biggest basis for any social communication.