 Well, hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm your host Jonathan as I have Jonathan as a comment I'm so excited to be sharing this short video for you today our topic the six behaviors men just love Okay, before we begin real quickly if you'd like to learn more about my work, please check the links below I've got a copy of my book that you can get and certainly my membership And if you'd like to schedule a one-on-one call with me check out the links below Okay, let's just jump in our topic those six behaviors men just love Okay, so let's differentiate between the average guy and the quality guy and what I mean by a quality guy is I Really mean an emotional grown-up and if you watched my video recently about chivalrous men I shared with you kind of the basic Commonalities of men who are emotionally grown up emotionally mature emotionally available and Certainly those are the highly attractive men those are the men who know what they want relationship And I'm sure that's the kind of man you'd like to have in relationship But sadly not all men represent this and what's so fascinating is not all women represent this So I want to share with you the six behaviors Men just love in women and I think once I share this to you or with you It'll make a lot of sense on how this can help you in your own dating and relationship life. So Behavior number one is that your actions match your words your actions match your words While we all like to think we're consistent in our behavior Not every human being is actually follows up Their actions, you know with their words, you know oftentimes you say you're gonna call someone and You know and they don't call at that certain time. Sometimes you say you're available at this time You're not available sometimes you say yes to a date and you're not available for the date There's there's the element of whether if your actions aren't consistent with your words Whether it's a man or woman, we're gonna doubt your integrity So a behavior that quality men love is this is you know this Ability for your actions to match your words and I'm sure most of you are watching this are consistent this way And yet I can tell you from a dating perspective I've noticed this with women certainly in the beginning stages of dating and online I can see a tremendous amount of flaky behavior and when I notice flaky behavior I lose interest undone because I don't like that and I know you don't like flaky behavior So my invitation is to be consistent with your words number two is That you take personal responsibility for your choices and you have victor consciousness You have victor consciousness, you know, it's so interesting when I read dating profiles And you can literally read how a woman or a man in this particular case is a victim by By writing down what they don't want in relationship. I don't want cheaters. I don't want liars. I don't want flakes I don't want hookups. I don't do this but that's screaming. I've been victimized by this before and I'm not in an empowered place. So when I say to take personal responsibility for your choices You're coming from a place of empowerment You're coming from a place of saying I take ownership for what's happened in my past and I'm gonna persevere going forward And this includes not complaining about an ex spouse or an ex relationship and making it all about their fault Because here's the thing. I'm sure that ex spouse could say the same about you So just recognize that when you're complaining you're not taking ownership and What's really sexy and what men and women love is being able to take ownership for your part in your experiences in life number three I call it Healthy conflict resolution or I'm just gonna about say I call it fighting fair What I've observed in a lot of human beings is their inability to express when there's a Disagreement in a relationship in a way that's seen heard and understood because they're not haven't learned the skills of fighting fair And one of the things I call it fighting fair, but it's really mutual conflict resolution skills It's being able to listen to the other person's point of view and accept their point of view Listen to their point of view and accept their point of view and while you may not agree with their point of view Everybody has a right to their point of view So when you disagree with someone's point of view saying that they're wrong and that I'm right Then your ability to actually fight fair is not going to serve you long-term in relationship And I'm not here to say that you your feelings aren't important. They matter Absolutely your feelings matter But it's just a perspective and so just remember someone else has their perspective as well And we love it when we can be in partnership with someone who actually knows how to accept our feelings And you want the same thing from a guy you want them be able to listen to accept your feelings And I want to encourage you to do the same Number four wait four not five four is empathy Now what I really mean by empathy is feeling someone else's feelings and most women have an empathetic side But recognize them when it comes to men We oftentimes feel like our feelings don't matter what we think about what we care about doesn't matter So in relationship what we really want is a partner that again going back to what I said before about Fighting fair is also to accept that our feelings just might be different than yours You know sometimes men say I'm feeling fine and Recognizing that if that's how he's feeling except that's how he's feeling and Not needling which oftentimes can happen because an empathetic person appreciates someone else's feelings and that's what I'm really going here Number five is Transparency and what I mean by transparency is when someone asks you a question You're open and available to answering their question in other words. You don't run away. You don't shy away You don't deflect you don't get defensive you literally are open and oops got a itchy head here You're open and receptive to someone else inquiring about you and this happens with men a lot They become defensive. They become deflective, but anytime we become defensive. We're not transparent. We're guarded It's a very unattractive behavior and I'll tell you a behavior that both men and women love is that ability to be open to Be expressive to be able to lean in and not lean back And while there might be times in a relationship that if something comes up, you may need to take some space That's okay, but you lean back in When they appropriate time is because we might all need a little bit of time to feel safe and now the sixth behavior that men just love and Here's what I've observed with both men and women, but what's interesting is women oftentimes get They get tons of compliments in a day they get how wow you have nice shoes. I love your haircut I love your purse you get tons of compliments and men rarely get compliments in any given day In fact, we probably average about this many compliments any day So when you compliment a man both in his behavior and his looks Now a lot of men reject compliments I mean they have a hard time taking compliments in and yet our little kid inside of us loves it when you compliment us He like you God, you're so handsome, and I love the way you look and I really appreciate what you did for me You know because that's a appreciation is also a compliment as well And when you can lean into giving men compliments, we just love that On the inside we may not always show it on the outside But we our little kid loves it on the inside and any man who doesn't love it is probably a bit emotionally wounded And then we'd have to second-guess whether or not we're not second-guess We might have to evaluate whether or not that's the right guy for you anyway But I'm going to tell you emotionally mature men love to be complimented as well I know you thought this video was going to probably go into little behaviors like Be a great girlfriend and be a nice person and that sort of thing But we went deeper into the behaviors that men Emotionally healthy men those quality men love is when we can mirror when we're mirrored With the behaviors we're going to show up with and you're mirroring it by showing up and leading by example as well Okay, I'd like to get your thoughts on this video Please post a comment below if this resonated with you if you have something to say if you like it Please click the links, you know, please click below Certainly join my YouTube channel if you're not already subscribed and hit the bell or wherever it's at Also, if you'd like to talk to me one-on-one like to schedule a call. 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