 It took me a long time to learn no one is the judge of me. And this isn't quite true, because in many ways I'm judged all the time. At school, at work, on the Twitter sphere, everything I say and write is criticized. But if you aren't careful, this judgment will each you alive, as the comedian Jenny Slate said about a low point in her career. I felt I had to sit still and be quiet until someone told me what the verdict is on me. And this is the terrible side of judgment, the side that stifles creativity and leads us to forget we're all people, we're all more than the sum total of our mistakes. So let's stop giving judgment the final say.