 If you are not trying to be better every single day, what are you doing? And if your answer to that question is, I don't know, let me tell you what you're doing. You're wasting your life. And I'm not apologizing if that hits you pretty hard, because maybe you don't know where to start. Maybe you don't know what to do. Maybe you're thinking, it's too hard. I can't do it. Well, you can do it. And I'm going to help you out by giving you 10 easy ways to be better every single day. I'm Brian Sakawa. You are watching He Spoke Style. And on this channel, I give you the advice and inspiration you need to dress better, develop your personal style and gain more confidence. All right, starting off here. So the number one thing I think that can prevent you from being better every single day might be a little tricky and difficult to navigate, because it will require you to make a huge shift in your life and how you move through it. In fact, I will go so far as to say that it may be one of the most difficult things you'll ever have to do. If you have toxic people and toxic relationships in your life, now is the time to remove them. Get rid of toxic people because they bring you down and keep you from being better. In many cases, these kinds of people don't want you to succeed. And what kind of friend is that? Now, I said it could be difficult because a lot of times, you know, these are people that have been in our lives for a very long time. Maybe you grew up with this person, but if that's a toxic relationship and that person brings you down and doesn't make you feel good about yourself, the relief you will feel getting rid of this relationship will far outweigh any comfort you feel just because you've known this person your whole life. Trust me. The next thing you can do to be better every single day requires you to stop for a second and think. Think about what it is that you want and visualize your goals. This type of visualization is important. I know that it works because I do it myself, but I didn't know why it worked, so I looked it up. Basically, what you are doing in the process of visualization is that you are training your subconscious to be aware of that end goal that you have in mind. If you do that, what happens is your subconscious reminds you consistently about that goal. Here's where it gets really cool because that then trains your brain to respond as if that outcome were true in the present moment right now. Listen, we live in a ridiculously fast-paced society with constant information, lots of interruptions, distractions. The hardest thing here is going to be making time to stop, slow down, clear your head, and visualize your goals. I'm not saying you've got to block off like an hour every single day to do this. Just start with every morning. Take five minutes, max, and do this. It's time well spent wiring your brain for success. The idea of stopping and taking time actually flows really nicely into the next thing you can do every day to be better because what happens when we just get caught up in that whirlpool of everything going on around us is that we just start wasting time. How many times, be honest now, how many times have you picked up your phone, started scrolling, opened and closed the same app like three times in a row, and then 45 minutes later you're like what just happened all that time and I like literally have absolutely no idea what I just did and nothing to show for it. It is so easy to fall into that trap and wasting time like that takes you away from being better and accomplishing your goals. So what can you do? Do things with intention. So if you decide this is the thing I'm going to do, do that and nothing else. Where I find myself falling into that unproductive circular time wasting loop is when I'm sitting at my computer with like 10 to 15 tabs open in my browser all competing for my attention. So if there's something I really have to do like focus on writing, editing, giving feedback for a video, I'll open a new browser window with just one tab so there's nothing else distracting me. I mean it sounds like so easy when I say it like that but it does take effort and I always get way more done when I focus and stop wasting time. Now the whole time wasting thing as I described it what that is is a bad habit. It is an unproductive routine and if there's one thing that's true about bad habits and unproductive routines it's that they're easy to fall into and very hard to break but in order to be better every day you need to develop productive routines and the specific routine I want to focus on here is one that has tons of power to influence how you feel, how you see yourself, how other people see you and one that has incredible short-term and long-term benefits. Now what I find kind of fascinating is that bad habits are easy to fall into but good habits and good routines can sometimes be more difficult to develop because it often feels like they take more effort and developing a good skincare routine can often feel like that but that's why I'm proud to partner with Tish Handley, today's video sponsor, because they make getting into this productive routine so easy. 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Now everyone has different financial situations but I think regardless of where you are that you should make a plan to save money and be disciplined about it. I think back to times in my life when I wasn't particularly financially stable and those were some of the darkest times for me. Do not underestimate the power that financial security or independence or having that safety net can have on your ability to improve yourself. So talk with someone get online and do some reading and start making a plan to save that fits within your budget. Now we just talked about saving money but the next thing that can help you be better is giving money. Donating has incredibly positive effects and I'm not just making this up because there are studies that prove it and here are five ways that giving makes us better. Number one giving makes us happy so if you don't believe it there was a Harvard Business School study that found that giving money to someone else lifted participants happiness more than if they spent it on themselves and a study from the NIH found that when people give to charities it activates regions of the brain associated with pleasure social connection and trust creating a warm glow effect. Who doesn't want to have a warm glow? Number two giving is good for your health so there's been a wide range of research that links generosity to better health and decreased stress. Number three giving promotes cooperation and social connectedness so basically when you give you are likely to be rewarded more in the future and that trust you create is central to both mental and physical health. Number four giving evokes gratitude and research has found that gratitude is one of the keys to health happiness and strong social bonds when you express gratitude you boost your own positivity and others positivity as well and number five giving is contagious when you give it inspires others to do the same and all those good feelings have a halo effect and the last thing I'll say about giving as a way to be better is that you don't have to give a lot to make a big difference now if you're not able to give money what I would encourage you to do as a different way to be better is to give some of your time to be a mentor to someone this is probably one of the most important things you can spend your time doing it's a form of giving back it gives you a new perspective it gives you a deeper appreciation for your own value and worth and what you have to offer it helps improve your communication skills and develop leadership skills I personally volunteer as a mentor for the empire state youth orchestras young leader program so I was in this youth orchestra when I was in high school it had a big impact on my life and I tell you it feels great to give back to an organization like that and inspire the next generation now you can't be better every day if you don't have energy and you're not well rested if feeling tired throughout the day is a problem you have and it impacts your ability to be your best you are going to want to improve your sleep habits now what are some things you can do to improve that first is to stick to a schedule you get in a rhythm your body likes it good things happen second pay attention to what you eat and drink don't need a big meal before bed don't drink too much both of these things will affect the quality of your sleep third create a restful environment free of distractions don't watch tv in bed put the phone down instead read a book or just lay there in silence fourth manage your stress and one of the easiest ways to get rid of some of that stress is to get organized put things away plan out some things for the next day and then forget about it and fifth is to include some type of physical activity throughout the day if your body's working you'll have more of the right kind of tired and you will sleep better and speaking of physical activity not only will it help improve your sleep habits but it is also a way to be better every day now we often talk about the benefits of fitness on physical health it's pretty self-explanatory what i want to talk about are the benefits that fitness has on your mental health in addition to better sleep which has its own positive mental effects exercise can contribute to sharper mental thinking increase self-confidence more energy and stronger resilience it can also help fight depression lower stress and decrease anxiety i don't know about you but all those things sound pretty good when you're talking about trying to be better every single day the last thing you can do to be better every single day is to be in a certain mindset thinking positively is incredibly powerful think about it if you tell yourself that you can't do something if you believe that you can't do something well guess what chances are it's not going to happen but if you think positively and believe in yourself the potential for success increases exponentially now if this kind of thinking doesn't come naturally to you to get yourself on a path to thinking more positively go back and review everything that we've just talked about in this video but especially the first thing removing toxic people from your life if you want to begin thinking more positively surround yourself with positive people it will motivate you it will inspire you and the energy you will feel will help you be better every day thanks once again to tshanley for sponsoring this video and reminder to click the link down below in the description to give tsh a try for yourself and receive a free gift with your first box