 الحمد لله رب العالمين له الحمد الحسن والثناء الجميل وشدوا الله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له يقول الحق وهو يهد السبيل وشدوا عند سيدنا ونبينا محمد صم الله عليه وعلى آله وأصحابه والتابعين لهم بإحتال إلى يوم الدين أما بعد إن شاء الله وتعالى سوف نذهب إلى أربعون حديثة 40 حديث من المسجد صلى الله عليه وسلم وإن أنه صحيح إنه 42 حديث ومع أنكم all know if they are 42 حديثة they are rounded off to what 40 ألمام النوهي 40 حديث how many 42 and it's called what أربعون النوهية the 40 حديثة of ألمام النوهي so what we're going to do is we're going to go through 42 حديث each and every one of those حديث إن شاء الله وتعالى it contains in it fundamental matters and we're going to extract from it some of the benefits that are in it we will not be able in any way shape or form to extract all of the rulings from these hadith because time will not allow it you can imagine 42 حديث is a lot and to finish it in 4 hours is very little or 5 hours is very little these 42 حديث were gathered and collected not by myself but by my teacher who recently came and he visited me here he's the one who gathered these 42 حديث and I haven't personally come across or I have not seen anyone write in 42 حديث like this I have seen 40 حديث of women but I haven't seen 40 حديث that were hand picked and chosen in this manner and I'm not saying that because it's what because it's my teacher I'm not saying that because of what I honestly believe before I start there are principles that we all have to agree on if we don't agree on these principles we're going to have problems so insha'Allah I'll note these principles down these أصول principles, foundation and I would want each and every one of you to memorize these principles once we take these six principles once we tackle each حديث it will make a lot of sense to you and you won't have a problem so note these six principles down write it down in the beginning of your book you have an empty page write it down principle number one is every single one of us should know with certainty the first principle is every one of us should know with certainty that the rules of Allah and the judgments of Allah is the best and the greatest Allah's judgments Allah's rulings are the best the most noble that's why Allah said in the Quran و هو خير الحاكمين الله is the best of ones who judge this has to settle in our hearts brothers and sisters there's no one's judgment better than Allah why because Allah's judgment contains it و تمت كريمة ربك صدقا و عدلة two characteristics Allah's judgments has it's truthful and it's just it is what it's just سبحانه وتعالى الله also says in another ayah إلي الحكم إلا لله أمر أن لا تعبد إلا إيا ذلك الدين القيم ولكن أكثر الناس لا يعلمون الله refer to this religion as what ذلك الدين القيم it's the best the greatest form of religion this is the best religion why because Allah is the one who judged humans are biased when they judge something they look at their own benefit first لكن الله سبحانه وتعالى observe what what's good for you this we all have to agree on we all have to agree that Allah is the best do we all agree on that first one yeah no question we move to the second one now we move on to the second one is that we need to accept we also not have to only accept but affirm that our happiness our honor our nobility is connected to obeying Allah we have to accept and affirm that our prosperity and our success is deeply connected to the obeying of Allah and following his his rulings that's why Allah سبحانه وتعالى he says in the ayah انتجتنبوا كبائر ما تنهون عنه نكفر عنكم سيئاتكم وندخلكم مدخلا كريمة if you stay away from the sins and if you stay away from disobeying Allah what does Allah do Allah says in the ayah ندخلكم we will enter you into a good place meaning in this world you will enjoy yourself and in the hereafter جنة awaits you if you follow what Allah tells you to do and you stay away from what he told you to stay away from you will live a what a joy for life Allah is promising you here and we need to understand وَلَا يُنَ بِأُكَ مِتْرُ خَبِيرَ no one is going to inform you the way Allah is and no one will tell you what it really is better than Allah عز وجل Allah is saying to you you will live a good life and the opposite is true which is what when you turn away from Allah's rules and you think that other constitutions or you think your culture or you think your personal thoughts is better than the laws of Allah then you will live a very hard and painful life you will suffer you will be running from one consultation session to another or because what this was not what was good for you look at the story of the man who Allah mentioned in Surat Yaseel وَدِلَ اللَّهَ تَلَى سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى that the man came to his people and he said to them اِنِّي آمَنْتُ بِرَبِّكُمْ فَسْمَعُونَ I believed in your Lord I believed in our Lord listen to what I have to tell you he said to them take from me that good is in following Allah the man they didn't listen to him and he died Allah tells us it was said to him قِلَ دُخُولِ الجَنَّة انتَ جَنَّة انتَ what جَنَّة why did he enter jannah because he said اِنِّي آمَنْتُ بِرَبِّكُمْ فَسْمَعُونَ قِلَ دُخُولِ الجَنَّة and then look what he said he said وَجَعَلَنِي مِنَ الْمُقْرَمِينَ he said I wish that my people who are left behind they knew what I received and he mentioned what بِمَا غَفَرَ لِي رَبِّي مِنَ الْمُقْرَمِينَ وَجَعَلَنِي and Allah made me those who he honored even following Allah's religion and adhering to the deen of Allah honored me he said وَجَعَلَنِي مِنَ الْمُقْرَمِينَ so what are you looking for Honor are you looking for respect Allah respects and honors the one who follows his religion so that's something we have to accept and digest and place in our hearts Allah also says in the ayah قَدْ أَفْلَحَ مَنْ زَكَاهَ وَقَدْ خَابَ مَنْ دَسَّاهَ Allah told us Prosperity افلح فلاح is prosperity Success is for who من زكاها the one who purifies himself from what three things شرك بِدعا ومعصية he purifies from his heart شرك he purifies from his heart innovation and he purifies his heart from thisabiness of Allah what is he going to receive فلاح success وقَدْ خَابَ and destruction is for who من زكاها the one who tenses heart with doing what شرك and doing what بِدعا and doing what معصية thisabiness of Allah the third principle that we all have to agree upon is the third principle that we all have to agree on is every single one of us when we were created I'm starting from the creation of Adam that day an enemy started for us the day Allah created Adam and Allah told everyone to prostrate to Adam and the angels Allah said فسجد الملايكة angels all of them prostrated اجمعين all of them one individual refused to prostrate and this was Iblis he refused and he became an enemy from that day to today you now have to prostrate to brothers and sisters this enemy his enmity started that day and he made a covenant and a promise with Allah he said اجمعين I'm going to misguide them all in another ayah he says وَلَأُدِلَّنَّهُمْ وَلَأُمَنِّيَنَّهُمْ وَلَأَامُرَنَّهُمْ فَلَيُبَتِ كُنَّ آذانا لَا نَعَامِ وَلَأَامُرَنَّهُمْ فَلَيُغَيْرُنَّ خَلْقَ اللَّهِ وَمَا يَتَّخِدِ الشَّيْطانا وَلِيَا مِنْ دُونِ اللَّهِ فَقَدَ خَسِرَا خُصْرَانا مُبِينَ يَعِدُهُمْ وَيُمَنِّيهِ وَمَا يَعِدُهُمْ الشَّيْطانا إِلَّا وُرُورًا اِبْلِسْ وَلَأُدِلَّنَّهُمْ وَلَأُمَنْ يَنَّهُمْ اِبْلِسْ سُغُوا وَمَنَّهُمْ وَلَأُمَنْ يَنَّهُمْ I'm going to place false hopes in the hearts by telling them they're going to receive freedom and liberation I'm going to lie to them I'm going to glorify things for them وَلَأُمَنْ يَنَّهُمْ وَلَا أَامُرَنَّهُمْ I'm going to command them The British is saying this What is it that he's going to do to them I want you to underline what he mentions in the ayah وَلَأُدِلَّنَّهُمْ وَلَا أَامُرَنَّهُمْ فَلَا يُبَتِكُنَّ أَدَانَا لَا نَعَامِهُ وَلَا أَامُرَنَّهُمْ فَلَا يُغَيِّرُنَّ خَلْقَ اللَّهِ Underline this They are going to change how Allah created them So Iblees is going to work towards changing the way that you look Naam He's going to make the woman pluck her eyebrows He's going to make her what change the way Allah made her look It's going to make the men There's some men that do make up in this time that we're living in There are men who do some of the things that women do And this is true وَلَا يُغَيِّرُنَّ خَلْقَ اللَّهِ I will make them change the way Allah created them Do you know why Shaytan wants you to change the way Allah created you Because it was the creation of Adam What took him out of Jannah And it's that same creation He wants to humiliate It's that creation that took him out of Jannah And told him And made him leave Jannah And so today What's more greater for him Than to see the creation Drunk Falling on the ground And sleeping inside their vomit This is the creation He was told to prostrate to For him there's honor To see them humiliated like this وَلَا أَامُرَنَّهُمْ فَلَا يُبَتِّكُنَّ عَذَانَا لَا نَعَامِ وَلَا أَامُرَنَّهُمْ فَلَا يُغَيِّرُنَّ خَلْقَ اللَّهِ نقور الله سيد وَمَا يَتَّخِيلِ الشَّيطانَا وَلِيًّا مِنْ دُونِ اللَّهِ Anyone who takes Shaytan as a close ally Besides Allah And takes Shaytan as his close ally فَقَدْ خَسِرَ خُصَّرَانَا مُبِينَا This person is truly in clear misguidance Shaytan is not going to give you What is prosperous for you He's not going to tell you the path to Jannah He's going to take you away from Jannah And bring you close to the Hellfire So we need to believe that But you know what people don't understand They think the Shayateen are only Shayateen or ins What do they think? The Shayateen is the only Sorry, the Jinn They think it's the Jinn They think the only Shaytan is Iblis And he is Jinn لا Allah tells us in the Quran وَإِنَّ الشَّيَاطِينَ لَا يُوْحُونَ إِلَا أُولِيَا إِنْ لِيُجَادِلُوْكُمْ فَإِنْ أَطَعْتُمُوهُمْ إِنَّكُمْ لَمُشِرِكُونَ Allah tells us That the Shayateen and the Jinn They send revelation to the Shayateen and the ins And they are the ones who propagate Where they bring Take women out of the shackles of religion Out of the shackles of oppression And we want to liberate them and give them freedom These are Shayateen and ins What do they want to do? Take the women out of the what? The households And bring them out And Allah says So the man leaves the house And the woman leaves the house Both of them are outside the children at home Who is nurturing and cultivating the children The television The western televisions are the ones Who are nurturing the children Fathers outside running around Bringing a risk And the one mother is outside her She is working and she is And they come home They don't know each other They don't have a relationship They don't understand each other And the children are in their own world as well Three parties are in the house The children, the mother and the father Right So this is what Shayateen wants for you This is the حقائق and the reality Number four The fourth أصل that we have to agree upon is That توفق The ability to be upon the true way The ability to be upon what is حق And your matters becoming correct And your affairs being steadfast Is in the hands of Allah سبحانه وتعالى Brothers and sisters We cannot be guided Except if Allah wishes for us to be guided That's what Allah said in the Qur'an وَمَا يُهِينِ اللَّهْ فَمَا لَهُ مِنْ مُكرِمْ If Allah humiliates a person There's no one to honor them And if Allah chooses to honor a person There's no one to what To disgrace him There's no one who can help you Whichever decision Allah makes for you سبحانه وتعالى وَلِدَالِكَ Guidance is in what? Where is the guidance in? The guidance is present in Allah's religion And it's in the hand of who? It's in the hand of Allah سبحانه وتعالى وَلِدَالِكَ The Messenger used to say اللهم Oh Allah أصلح لي ديني Oh Allah perfect my deen for me وأصلح لي دنيايا And perfect my dunya for me He used to ask الله عز وجل الله perfect my religion for me Guide me And also what? Oh Allah Perfect my worldly affairs for me The poet he said من اهتدى بهده فقط ظفر ومن يحدى أنهجه فقط حسر تلفي به إلى الفلاح مخرجة وعن جميع المعضلات مخرجة فليس خين قطن إلا قررح ولم يكن مشر إلا حذر فديننا لم يخل عن حكم على مر الزمان لو بدأ ما أعضل لأنه قد احتوى قواعدة سستخرج الأحكام عنها راشدة من اهتدى بهده فقط ظفر anyone who follows Allah's guidance he has reached the goal ومن يحدى أنهجه فقط حسر anyone who diverge from it تلفي به إلى الفلاح مخرجة وعن جميع المعضلات مخرجة if you go every time a problem happens in your household and you go to the Quran and the Sunnah والله you have an answer there Allah hasn't left anything behind is it possible Allah created us and then he forgot the manual guidance going to guide us for you to say I couldn't find an answer in the Quran and the Sunnah is attributed to Allah ignorance and it's attributed to Allah that he didn't tell you a path for prosperity the Prophet ﷺ he said ما من نبيه بعثه الله there is not a prophet that Allah sent down إلا كان عليه حقا أن يدل أن يدل أمة على خير ما يعلمه له there is no prophet that came from the time of the name of Allah I add them to today no prophet came except that it was upon him to guide his people to the good that he knows that that prophet's job was to guide his people to every good that can take them to Jannah and every harm that can harm them that prophet came to tell them stay away from it there is a harm in this for you so guidance is in whose hands it's in Allah ﷺ number five make your ultimate aspiration to please Allah سبحانه وتعالى don't make your ultimate goal to please an individual an organization don't make your ultimate goal to please Allah سبحانه وتعالى a lot of sisters who would follow the deen they don't because they are scared because of what others may say or a cousin what he would say or family relatives what are they saying about my hijab and the way that I dress and the way I hold them to my deen don't worry the honor where is it it's in the hands of Allah please your Lord Allah سبحانه وتعالى anyone who tries to please the creation that which under the creator Allah will finally make the creation hate you and Allah is going to hate you trying to please the people is a goal you are never going to reach والله you won't رِضَ نَاسْ غَائَةُ اللَّهَةُ دَرَكْ pleasing the people is a goal you are never going to reach if you please these people there is another group you can't please who is it that you need to please الله عز وجل it's him that you need to please and the almost honorable person to Allah is what إنه أكرمكم عند الله أتقاكم the one who has piety that's all you need to focus on number six and the last one is this is specific to sisters that the احكام that the sharia has given to you specifically the ahkam was tailored and it was cut for women some ahkam that went for men and ahkam that were made for men and not for women are we all together brothers we're going to learn some rulings that are specific to sisters the woman has to know and she has to understand these ahkam that we're mentioning it is in accordance to her creation what did I just say the حكوم the ruling is in line with your creation and the ahkam for the men is in line with their creation and the creation of the man and the woman is different I hope that doesn't require me to prove that that the creation of men and women are different true or false if a man and a wife are walking together and the wife is carrying all the shopping and is walking next to her what would you say that he's a good man yeah as a question what would you say yeah but what about if the man is carrying everything and the woman isn't is that bad that's normal that's what's expected from you the point is the reason is because the people who are making these ahkam have tailored it I mean the حكوم was tailored in what in accordance to the essence of the man and the essence of the women so I want you to all realize brothers and sisters Islam did not come to fulfill fairness our religion has got nothing to do with fairness it doesn't observe fairness but we all together it observes justice our religion does not observe equity and equalness in things it doesn't observe that it observes justice and there's a difference between the two not everything that's equal is justice why if I ate a burger and I gave that same burger to a newborn baby is that fair but that's equal I ate a burger so did the newborn baby eat a burger but is that fair is that justice it's equal but it's not justice and then Islam came to observe what justice it came to observe عدل it's the concept of equity eliminate that term it's nothing to do with the Quran or sunnah عدل are we all together now insha'Allah we're going to start these 42 حديث and we're going to extract rulings out of it men and women can benefit insha'Allah بإذن الله الكريم الحديث الأول the first hadith the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said من على ثلاثة بنات عن أبي سعيد الخضري أبي سعيد الخضري he narrated that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said من على ثلاثة بنات anyone who cares for three daughters فأدبهن I want you to underline each point I mentioned فأدبهن he disciplines them number one وزوجهن and marries them off وأحسن إليهن and is good to them فله الجنة this issue of daughters is a specific ruling to daughters not to the sun men cannot say this is not fair and they make a men's movement men's liberation movement and say these حديث are pressing us this is the rule unique for who? it's unique for the women specific for a girl الله سبحانه وتعالى صلى الله عليه وسلم anyone who cares for three daughters we're going to see less than that the sheikh is going to bring the next hadith what does he do? he cares for the girl he disciplines her what does it mean discipline her? it means whenever rulings he taught her he observes that she's following it after he's taught her this is how you eat this is what you this is what you can eat this is how you pray this is how you fast when he teaches his daughter he's overlooking her are we all together? yeah it's not just tell your children it involves observing them overlooking them seeing are they following it he does that okay so he cares for her what does it mean? it means he does three things it means he does three things he shows his daughter affection number two he shows his daughter appreciation and three he shows his daughter attention three A's affection affection towards his daughter he gives her good names my princess that he calls her that to be affectionate to her appreciation is that when she does something he doesn't go hard on her he's a bitter her what about her nature that doesn't mean she doesn't get disciplined she gets disciplined but she showed appreciation the third one is attention the father doesn't dismiss his daughter I'm busy himself with his phone message it or using that what he does statistics has shown girls who do not receive this from a father or a male figure statistics have shown the rate of going for prostitution is very high when a girl doesn't receive that and doesn't get it from her father and her brothers and those who are closest to her statistics has shown of what has been stated and our religion has told us this before so a man and a father should go and show good manners towards his daughters our messenger who is his what his daughter فاطمة he said فاطمة فاطمة is a part of me whoever loves her loves me whoever hates her hates me the messenger said this when fatima came to but I want you to remember this if it comes to religious issues you're strict with your daughter when fatima came to the prophet's house and she asked about the prophet and aisha said he's not here but when he comes I will tell him that you are looking for her so aish fatima went the messenger came home and he was told that his daughter fatima came he didn't even sit down straight away he went to her when he came he saw fatima and her husband and he looked at them and he said what is it that brought you both and the fatima said I heard that you have slave girls made slave I want you to give me some because I want to use them to help me in the house and then she showed the prophet the splits in her pink hands and the cuts and the messenger loving his daughter he looked at her and he said is it better than the slaves that you're asking before she said of course because he wants jannah for his daughter he wants a great place for her and she said of course tell me father and the messenger said do the adkaab subhanallah 33 times allhamdulillah when I heard that from the prophet because he was there sitting I never left it I never left it the narrator said even the day when you were fighting with the khawarij sorry the day that not the khawarij the day that the fitna was happening when you were fighting with the khawarij did you the khawarij na'am when he was fighting with the khawarij did you forget this I made my dhikr that day I never left it so this shows you when the messenger he didn't become emotional with her situation he gave her what was what better for her he prescribed for her what what he prescribed for her what was better صلى الله عليه وسلمه وعليه وزوجه جهنة and he marries his daughter off the daughter who she married off to a man that's good for her that's the right that your daughter has on you you don't marry her off to your man who's got a lot of money because you father to get money from the father this man you marry off the person to your daughter which is who the best person that you think is fit for her فاله الجنة anyone who does that he has جنة why is this specific to the women because before Islam women had no value no status الله says if his wife gave birth to a daughter his face would become dark and he would become stressed and worried when he sees a person from the community he would hide from them behind trees he can't face the community so he's hiding from the gatherings where the people sit because they're gonna say to him all you know this man he's gonna do it he's gonna give the daughter how low it was seen as because of the evil that was promised to him he thinks of two things only shall I hold on to my daughter with disgrace and be humiliated by looking after her and be called the man who has the daughter disgrace for me he thinks and if I do marry her when do I marry her and how do I marry her that's all he would think of when Islam came it's onerated it's onerated and it's venerated women and the position that Islam gave it was justice beyond that it's injustice below that it's injustice because we're ready to whose hukm is the best Allah chose this for the women so whatever Allah chose for you is the best if you look at the concept because in university I study linguistics language shift how language changed how language shifted in advertisement when they advertise things if you look 100 years ago the advertisement of powder liquid powder washing clothes it was a woman that would do it they would be washing the clothing and it was a woman it was old 2 in 1 it was a woman as time moved on it's a brother it's a man he comes and he's got the powder and the woman there she's telling him I'm going to work it shifted why the reason it shifted is because political gain when the world war 2 happened the women they left the men they left the government was going down and in order to get money they told the women to go work so women started to work the war now is over the men are coming back they realize they have an opportunity to make the men under and the women both work so what did they do they pushed the women for them to say that the men are trying to oppress us and keep us in the house because the government wants to make money from who they want to make money from who both parties are we all together this is the worker no one cares about the woman in the UK till today the wages that is given to the women are less than the wages given to the men till today did you know that the ones from the UK know it but those were not from the UK did you know that that the salary for the women is less than the salary of a man why is it fair that they can observe the essence of the women and if you ask them they will tell you the women the reason why we give them less is because they have postnatal leave when they have birth we have to let them go so they have 40 days where they can leave times when they can't do work properly because of the yearly cycle monthly cycle the work ethics they believe it goes down they did the calculation if they are right for work that's up to them the point is that they observe the women's creation and then they gave the salary in accordance to that they passed the rule is it fair that they can do it and Allah are we all together the one who created the creation men and women he cannot say this is for the women and this is for the men فتنب be alert on this issue أنا سبن ماليكن أنا سبن ماليكن أنا سبن ماليكن قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم من على جاريتين anyone who looks after two girls this is how many girls now you see the translation it says daughters it can come across as what that's his own daughters no even if you look after any other daughter it's the same if somebody else's daughter it's not an issue if you look after your siblings you fall under it it's just two girls you look after them until they reach age of puberty we'll speak about what are the size of age of puberty جاء يوم القيامة this person will come the day of judgment أنا وهوا this person and me will be what like this in jannah so the middle finger is the prophet and two girls is going to be like this so we benefit to two hadith the first hadith what did it say the person will enter jannah the second hadith what did it benefit us you're actually close to the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم what other status is a woman looking for this is not for a man so now when a man is told that his wife gave birth gave birth to a daughter what does he get he's happy so what not to jannah only to be what like this with the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم in jannah okay regarding this hadith we write this down it's good he said that this person stands up to financially aid the girl her clothing, her food her head and the parents do that what and also the father and the mother they look after their daughters her deep some parents only understood from the to just physically raise their children they believe the child is a place to sleep and food to eat and doing good what is it that you have to do you have to educate your children about the religion when it came to the ayah what did he said all those of you who believe protect yourselves and your families from the hellfire what does it mean to protect your family from the hellfire it means don't educate them you see so you educate them by telling them this is what the deen believes what to look over them check if your son or daughter is waking up from a fever because they are 9 or 10 years old now check if they are waking up don't just tell them you have to pray are we all together also what falls under the تربيع of the children is setting them a good example if you are waking up at 8 o'clock 9 o'clock or at night time you pray all of them quickly and then you say look at my children they are not good or the minute that you the children come into the house you are on the phone until they leave you are on the phone as a parent and this is not تربيع the child looks at you as a role model بارك وتعالى توليس about the messenger لقد كان لكم في رسول الله أوسوة الحسنة the messenger was not one to just talk to his companions and say to them this is what Allah said and this is what the messenger and this is what Allah said and this is what you need to do they used to look at him and they used to follow what he used to do are we all together وذلك نبي الله الشعب when he said to his people he says وما أريد أن أخالفكم إلى ما أنهكم عنه لا أريد أن أقوم بك في ما أخبرك وما أخبرك أن أفعل شيئا لا أريد أن أفعل خلافا أريد أن أخبرك أريد أن أخبرك أتأمرون الناس بالبِلْرِ وَتَنْسَوْنَ أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَأَنْتُمْ تَتْلُلُونَ الْكِتَابَ أَفَلَةَ أَعْقِلُونَ هل ستخبرك أنك لا تفعل هذا وانت تفعل هذا مهمة هل هذا يفهم مهمة ينظر لك ينظر لك وما تفعل وما يتفعل يفعل مثل لك ان شخص جديد لأن أمهانه يقوم بك يقوم بك يقوم بك يقوم بك وين يفعل هذا أنت صحيح من أمهانه بمجرد انه قام بك لكي يجب أن تقول أنه لا يوجد شيء مباشر ، لا يوجد شيء جيداً هذا هو الحقيقة واللهية ، الكبير يجب أن تفهم ذلك الحريث الثالث ، الثالث حديث وعن أبي سعيد الخدري ، أبي سعيد الخدري العنين نبي صلى الله عليه وسلم المسجد إن الدنيا حلوة خذيرة هذا الدنيا هو ماذا؟ إنه صحيح وماذا؟ صحيح وماذا يجب أن تقول خذيرة؟ ماذا يجب أن تقول؟ ماذا يجب أن تقول؟ يجب أن تقول أنه ماذا يجب أن يكون جيداً المجموعة، المجموعة يجب أن يكون جيداً هل أنت بخير؟ هل أنت بخير؟ وليداني كيبر القيم من كتاب قدبن مع المدينة المفترية يجب أن يتكلم one of the cures في مكان أين؟ إنه مجموعة يذهب إلى مكان مفتراتنا هو جيد لمدينة هل قايم يكتب أنه يستخدم ذلك؟ أين كان يجب أن يأخذه؟ لأنه صفراء أولاً تصر النظرين وماذا أم يكون؟ صفراء يلو وما يتصر النظرين يجب أن يجب أن يكون جيداً مع ماذا؟ يعني يلو يجب أن يأخذ السلطة و السلطة يأخذ السلطة هل أنت أخي؟ يجب أن يأخذ السلطة لذا يجب أن يأخذ السلطة ولكن هذا مجدداً إن الدنيا حلواتون هذا العالم هو سلطة خاذيراتون و ماذا؟ السلطة السلطة و السلطة و إن الله مستخليفكم و الله يجب أن يقوم you to the governance of this earth مستخليف is a successor يأخذ السلطة يأخذ السلطة و يأخذ السلطة الله يجب أن يقوم this world to people like that يقوم بإمكانه هل نحن نحن؟ إستخلاف يعني يجب أن يأخذ one group of people to control the world و يذهبون إلى أخر group الله يجب أن يقوم this world to everyone هل يأخذ السلطة؟ لماذا؟ يرغبون أن يرغبون يريدون أن يرغبون ما يجب أن يرغبون في هذا العالم الذي يقومه to you كيف ستقوم بإمكانك أن يرغبون سلطة في هذا العالم ستقوم بإمكانك to follow what Allah has told you to follow ستقوم بإمكانك to stay away from that which Allah has told you to stay away from look at what the messenger then said he said فتقوا الدنيا and what did he say? واتقوا and Nissa women question are women not part of the dunya? why have the women been made an entity equal to the dunya? This is a good question right? why is dunya mentioned and then women right next to it isn't the women part of the dunya? are they not part of that? we all know the famous hadith إِنَّمَا الْعَمَالُ بِالْنِيَاتُ وَإِنَّمَا لِكُنْ لِيْمَرِ إِمَا نَوَا فَمَنْ كَانَ تِدْرَةُ إِلَا اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِيْ فَإِدْرَةُ إِلَا اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِيْ وَمَنْ كَانَ تِدْرَةُ إِلِي دُونِيَا يُصِيبُهَا أو المراءة يَنْكِعُ وَهَا فَإِدْرَةُ إِلَا مَا هَجَرَ إِلَيْ the dunya has mentioned and a woman? wow wow wow I have to ask this question because the fitna of the dunya and the women are equal the fitna that comes from women is very great the way that a fitna from a woman an evil woman can put a person a man through it's great ولي ذلك الله تبارقه تعالى he said this is worth mentioning الله عز و جل he said about shaitan he said inna qaida shaitan كان ضعيفة shaitan's planning and his plotting is weak but when it came to the women الله said inna qaida kun'a ali they're planning and their plotting is what it's great why? because the shaitan you can say عودو بالله and he will go the woman you say why you say عودو بالله for me this is of course we're not talking about a righteous obedient woman who believes in Allah in the day of judgment we're not talking about that فتقوا الدنيا have taqwa take precautions protect yourself from the dunya واتقوا نسا and be cautious about women women any society if you want to go to a country and feel this country the people are good good future awaits them what do you do look at two people two groups of people they're women and they're youths that's all you need to look at any community that you want to find whether they have a good future or not look at their women and their youths if their women are righteous and their youths are good then this is a community and a society فرجو الله الخير hope good for them they are upon a good way because shaitan whose experience none of us can ever come to understand at least has experience مسجد he started it from the time of Adam until today he's been planning and shaitan made his efforts through women they would use a woman to get everything he wants that's his way of seeing it we'll see some of that insha'Allah we'll go to see that ولي ذلك today ولي ذلك شايتان today I'm talking about الشياطين الإنسان جنبوط you're going to go to the internet and you want to get a car insurance okay whether that's permissible or not in the UK I'm talking about you have to it's another discussion or you want to go online and you want to buy a tissues on this side there's a woman what does the woman have to do with the tissue why is she always there why is she looking at me and always standing there why what does she do have to do with the bag's system why is a woman there they realize that's where everything comes from are you with me brothers the enemies that's what they understood ولي ذلك الله tells us in the Quran وَدُّ مَا عَنِتُمْ قَدْ بَدَكِ الْبَغْضَاءُ مِنْ أَفْوَهِمْ الله tells us وَدُّ مَا عَنِتُمْ the shayateen they hope وَدُّ مَا عَنِتُمْ اَيْ عَنَتَا كُمْ they want your destruction وَيَارْطِينُ الْإِنْسِيَا وَجِمْ they want your destruction that's all they're looking for to destroy you to destroy the community to destroy the society to make the men and the women lose their deem and everything that's what they want are we all together الله is telling us سبحانه وتعالى that these shayateen that's what they want وَدُّ مَا عَنِتُمْ وَدُّ مَا عَنِتُمْ الله they said قَدْ بَدَتِ الْبَغْضَا وَمِنْ أَفْوَهِمْ the enmity that these shayateen have is now coming out from what their mouths they're telling you the enmity وَمَا تُقْفِي سُدُّهُ رُومْ أَكْبَرْ and what they are hiding in their heart is what it's greater they're hiding more things in their heart are we all together brothers and sisters is it fair that you say today the people who Allah is telling you رب العالمين is telling you that they are enjoying your suffering they want your men and your women to be like this they want the community destroyed they want your women to not feel success they want depression and anxiety to grow in the community imagine if you say those people are the ones who have my freedom and they're the ones who know where my good lies isn't that disbelief of Allah is best سبحانه وتعالى isn't that questioning Allah أتبارك وتعالى is deep it is very dangerous الحديث الرابع the what عن عائشة أم المؤمنين عائش رضي الله تعالى عنها عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم أنه قال that the prophet said لا يقبل الله Allah does not accept صلاة حائظ إلا بخبار Allah does not accept the salah of the woman who has reached age of puberty لا يقبل الله Allah does not accept a woman who has reached hailed I'll accept with a khimar she asked to wear a khimar she prays Allah will not accept her prayer a woman who has reached menses accept with khimar so a woman's prayer is accepted when she reaches menstruation to wear hijab what is it that the woman has to cover the woman has to cover every part of her body except her two hands and her face every other part of her house her body is awrah even if she is in a chamber there is no one else in the house except her she has to pray like that her face can show and her what her two hands her legs the bottom part of her legs the white part I cannot show has to be covered her foot the bottom white part has to be covered she has to either wear socks or she has to wear a long garment that covers her legs her feet her fingers her toes sorry they are not fingers her toes all of that she has to cover it she has to cover it her face and her hands are the only two that can show that's when the woman reaches what حيب then we take from this حيب is علامة من علامات البلوغ number one know this down when a woman reaches age of puberty how do we know menstruation when a woman menstruates what do we say she has reached she has reached the blog she has reached age of puberty that's important when you have mothers specifically have to look over their daughters and find out has she reached that time teach their daughters these أحكام and tell them it's nothing to worry about as we are going to see later this is not natural this is normal the way to deal with it is this these are the أحكام when you have to follow the rulings like if the sister doesn't know one that doesn't have cannot give so they themselves have to learn it the mothers this is why this course is very vital it's important I will speak about that in more details Insha'Allah أليمام الخطابي you said يريد بالحائظ المرأة إذا بلغت سن الحيض ولم يريد به التي هي في أيام حيضها لأن الحائظة لا ترصلي بوشن some people may understand from this that the prophet saying when the woman is on her menses and she is actually on the menses that particular moment she has to wear khimar to pray no that's not what the hadith means خطابي is explaining that to you he is saying it's when she is reached the time when menses has started in her life she is now become she is reached puberty she is hit puberty now she has to start wearing حجاب توات pray the Salah that's what it means and then I'm going to ask you later what's the first sign that a woman has reached age of puberty حيض so far we've taken this علامة من علامات البلوق it's a sign from the signs of what puberty good حديث الخامس حديث number 5 وعن عائشة رضي الله وطعالة عنها عائشة said أيضا أصل قالت دخال علي the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم entered onto me دخال علي رسول الله the messenger entered onto me وعندي فتاة and there was a what so the messenger entered onto my apartment where I lived and the messenger when he came there was with me a young girl عائشة had a young girl the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he had a garment a lower garment the processor used to wear a lower and upper garment are you there brothers so he went into his house and he brought صلى الله عليه وسلم what his lower garment he brought it فألقى إليه حقوة the processor عليه وسلم he threw at me his lower garment and he said to me شقيه tear it into two the cloth rip it into two between who بين هذه الفتاة this girl that's with you و بين التي عند أم السلامة and أم السلامة the one that's with her أم السلامة has a girl with her and so do you divide the cloth give one to أم السلامة's girl and give one to your girl why فإني لا أراهما إلا قد حضتها because these two girls have now reached age of puberty that's what I believe he said the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم that's what I think he said highly that these two girls have reached puberty صلى الله عليه وسلم what is the word in the hadith that was mentioned it says حقوة إبن أثير he says in the end في غريب الحديث he says مادة حقا والأصر في الحق مع عقيد الإزاري وجنعه أحق و أحقائه ثم سمي به الإزار للمجاورة it's the garment you wear from your waist from the middle this hadith what does it show us when the girl reaches age of puberty what does she have to do cover herself حجاب is obligatory the prophet saying to عائشة take this cloth give it to this girl she's reached age of puberty لها cover her hair the other one with أمو سلامة also she's reached age of puberty I think tell her to cover herself up this shows she's reached age of puberty she's reached age of puberty she's reached age of puberty I think tell her to cover herself up this shows the responsibility of the the parents to observe their children now she has to wear حجاب now she has to cover herself up و لذلك أبو بكر بأبي شيب narrated in his مصنف عن أمي سلامة رضي الله رضي الله عنها that she said إذا حاضت الجارية if the girl reaches age if the menstruation happens to the girl واجب عليها واجب علي أمي لدَتَسَتُر whatever was obligatory on her أم is obligatory on her which is to cover herself even if the girl reaches age of puberty at night she has to wear حجاب are we all together إذا she reaches age of puberty at night what does she have to do ها she has to cover herself up ها دا ديك you do that that's our religion that is what that's our religion دمانس ريششن is a sign of puberty ماذا يحدث لها؟ السكولات now differs what age. The evidence is, what does it show? 15. At the age of 15, if no other sign has seen in the boy or the girl, then we wait for 15, as soon as we reach 15, even if the other signs don't come, he's reached age of puberty. Are we all together? But if we have the other signs before 15, you can't say I'm waiting for 15. So Abu-Halifah said how many? And Imam Abu-Halifah said 18. And Imam Abu-Halifah, what did he say? 18. Like Imam Abu-Halifah is wrong because we have a deal. We have evidence. And the evidence takes precedence of the statement of age. The scholar, however high he is. Are we all together? We're going to come to that hadith which mentions 15. But pay attention here. This idea that you see a lot of people saying she's only 12. She's only 13. And she's got menstruation. Or this boy is 13, but he's had a wet dream. Are we all together? He has احتلام خروج الملي. Came out of him. You're going to wait for 15 or 18? No. The more important signs have already come. The only time we say 15 is when we don't have any of the other signs. Does that make sense? Okay. That was the first sign which is حيل. الحريث السادس. The sixth حريث. And عريب لابيطاريب رضي الله تعالى عنه. قاله يسأل حفظتو الرسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم. The sixth حريث. عريب لابيطاريب. And he said, I memorized from the message of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم. What did I memorize from him? لا يتم بعد احتلام. There is no orphanhood. You're not an orphan. لا يتم. You're not considered an orphan. بعد احتلام. After there has come any احتلام which is a wet dream. Are we all together? اخراج الملي. That the money the semen comes out of the man. All the women. The women have it as well. These two signs are what. احتلام is what. This child is not considered an orphan. Why is he not considered an orphan? Because he's reached what? Puberty. You can't say at this age where you've got a big beard I'm still an orphan. I lost my parents when I was young. That was when you were young now. But once you reach puberty, it stops. So this حريث, what does it show us? A second علامة من علامة البلوك. Are we all together? A second what? A second sign for puberty. Which is what? احتلام. احتلام. ولذلك بيهق نريتي للسنة الكبيرة عن عائش رضي الله تعالى عنها انها قالت عائشة اذا احتلمت المرأة فعليها مع امتها من التستطوري. ومسلم ودشسي. ومسلم I said before اذا اردت المرأة بيهق نريتي ما عليها فعلها؟ عليها تتكلمها. ما يفعل اذا اردت المرأة في حضورك؟ وما عليها فعلها؟ عليها تتكلمها. ما عليها فعلها؟ عليها تتكلمها. سوى احتلالها ما. سوى احتلالها. هل نحن. لأن إحتلال is a sign. حيث is a sign unique for who? unique for the girl احتلاب is a sign unique for the what? a shared by who? sorry by the man and the woman is a sign for both of them and the third sign is what? the third sign is what? 15 الشيخ is being all of the signs for you in order he's not going to be the third sign which is what did I say the number 15 so the first is حيث if that's not present for the girl احتلاب if that couldn't be found what do we go for 15 now we wait when she reaches 15 and now she's a considered A she's reached age of puberty عبد الله بن عمر رضي الله و تعالى عنهما أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم عرضه يوم أحود و هو بن عربع عاشرة سلاه عبد الله بن عمر he presented himself to the messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام when he was what when he was 14 he said to the prophet of Allah I'm 14 I want to participate in the battle of أحود فلم يُجِزني the messenger said I'm not going to allow you no go back you're too young because عبد الله بن عمر didn't have what he did not reach age of puberty he didn't have احتلام and he hadn't reached what 15 he's 14 so the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم said what I'll go back ثم عرضني يوم الخندقي when he later was the battle of what the trench he came و أنا بن عاشرة I was 15 this time فأجازني he said he could participate now why because he's reached what he's reached age of puberty قال نافع و نافع نافع is the mowla بن عمر he's a slave boy of عمر عبد الله بن عمر he said نافع said فقدمت على عمر بن عبد العزيز I came to عمر بن عبد العزيز و هو خليفة عمر بن عبد العزيز was the governor at this time فحددت هذا الحديث I told him about this of عبد الله بن عمر didn't allow him at the age of 14 but he allowed him at what age 15 I told him this عبد بن بين الصغير والكبير عمر بن عبد العزيز then said this is the distinguishing factor between the one who's young and the one who's reached age of puberty و كتابه إلى عماله he wrote to his what his workers that were representing him the governors he wrote to all of them و يفرضوا لمن بلغة 15 anyone who reaches 15 it's obligatory on them it's obligatory on them it's obligatory on them now they reach age of puberty but before that no the child is so now what did we take we've taken three signs one unique to women one shared the second shared by men and women and the third is what shared by both parties الحديث with family عن عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها عائشة قالتش he said قال رسول الله the messenger said في الحيضي regarding the woman who's on her menses إنها هذا this أمر كتبه الله على بناتي آدم menstruation is what is something Allah wrote on the children of what on the women from the children of Adam so what did the Christians believe it was a what they believe it's a punishment from God towards the women we don't believe that but we believe إنها هذا أمر كتبه الله على بناتي آدم this something Allah wrote for the and as ordained for the daughters of Adam pay attention here that's what the parent needs to teach his daughter or the mother needs to teach her daughter that the daughter shouldn't worry this is a normal thing this is a normal thing Allah created this in women Allah created them in it and this is something that the person the girl is taught that no hope a weddel has to come from her this is what needs to be taught and this type of hadith is there to say that are you all together الحديث التاسع the night hadith and Ali Ibn Abi Talib رضي الله تعالى عنه قال رسول الله رفع القلم the pen has been lifted and three types of people the pen has been lifted meaning it's not written on nothing is written against them okay the pen is lifted from three types of people and it's a boy until he reaches puberty a girl until she reaches puberty the pen is lifted from them the girl and the boy when they are young they do what what they do wrong things but no one is holding an account like if some people misunderstood this concept which is what does it mean that it's not written for them what about if a child jumps into the parent's car and drives it and then he damages things what has to be done do we say that رفع القلم وعلى ثلاث that the pen is being lifted from three yeah this means the judgment of the day of judgment nothing is being held account for him on the day of judgment لكن wherever he causes problem in this world he has to pay it back that's not he's not exempt from that just the same way if a crazy person jumps into the steering wheel and drives and runs the person over it's not considered to be deliberate killing but there's blood money we can't just say to this person who lost his family member رفع القلم وعلى ثلاث that the pen is lifted from what three اخان الدنيوي that accountability of this world is present like in the day of judgment no like in the second if he did to himself what made him crazy he took drugs and then he became crazy he is held account for what he does all the salah he misses all the disabilities that he comes with he is held account for that are you with me brothers رفع القلم وعلى ثلاثة عن الصبي حتى يبلغوا the young boy until he reaches age of puberty حتى يبلغوا وعلى النائم حتى يستيقظى what if a person is a heavy sleeper and he doesn't wake up then Allah won't hold him account until he wakes up وعلى المجنوني حتى يبراع and the one who is insane until he gains his sanity nothing is held account the Awamir and the Nawahi are lifted from him like in as we mentioned the Awamir and the Nawahi of Allah is lifted from him like in the consequences of his action he has to be paid الحريث العاشر the 10th حريث أسمى بنت أبي بكر رضي الله تعالى عنهما أسمى بنت أبي بكر رضي الله تعالى عنهما أنها قالت she said سألت مراءة رسول الله any woman asked the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم she said أرأيت أو message of Allah إحدانة إذا أصابت ثوبها الدمو a woman a menses happens to her and then the menses goes on her clothing the blood goes on her clothing مين الحيضة from the menses menstruation كيف تسناعو what will she do in this situation and these women didn't have a lot of clothing so what did she do فقال رسول الله the messenger said إذا أصابت ثوب إحدى كنا if the menses the menstruation goes on one of your clothes meaning for the women مين الحيضة فلتقرسه what the woman should do is rub it try to scratch it off once it becomes dry on there ثم إلي تنضحوا بمائل and then she sprinkle water onto it ثم إلي تصلي فيه and then let her pray on it she didn't have to wash the whole clothes wherever place it went on to she has to just wash that place okay and she has to sprinkle water on it and then she can pray on it even if there's still a stain that can be seen لابع سبيه there's no problem as long as she washed she washed it with water and she took what was on it if there's still a stain اللابع سبيه there's no issue with the women have to understand quickly the blood that comes from the women are three types the first one is حيضة menstruation what is it menstruation okay that's the most common one that's known the second one is called نفاس نفاس is what postnatal bleeding is the one that comes after بعد الولادة when she gives birth 40 days the shari'a gave her the third one is called استحابة استحابة is what it's called continued bleeding it just goes on it doesn't stop the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam told us that the استحابة the postnatal bleeding is شيطان kicked the vein of the women and that's what's causing the bleeding to go on the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam the messenger told us this and we believe it who told us this the prophet told us it's a it's a kicking from who شيطان each one regarding it we'll take it after the sallallahu alaihi wa sallam so we were talking about the blood that comes from the women we said that the blood that comes from the women is how many types three types the first one is called الحيضو حيض is the well known blood that comes from the women once a month what is the minimum of حيض what's the bare minimum and what is the maximum the scholars لا حد في شرع اللي قلتي اللي أقله و أكثره the minimum and the majority that حيض is the Shari'a didn't mention this so a woman cannot say the bare minimum of my حيض is this much and she can't say the maximum is this much this all goes back to what ها والعرفو معمول به إذا ورد حكوم من الشرع الشريفي لم يحد if the Shari'a does not give a restriction to something what do we go back to we go to the custom and the culture and the norms of the people the second blood what do we say it's called and نفاس نفاس is the what postnatal bleeding it's the blood that comes from the women after who are done with خارجة بسبب الولادة it is the blood that comes out after giving birth this how much is the maximum the postnatal bleeding is 40 days okay this is based on the Hadith of الله تعالى عنها she said كانت النفاساء تجلسوا على أحد رسول الله أربعين يوم the women who were on her that were on their postnatal bleeding at the time of the messenger they would stay and hold back for 40 days for 40 days they don't pray if the woman becomes pure before the 40 days she prays her Salah if she becomes pure the 40 days is the maximum okay it doesn't mean that she's pure she still sits around for 40 days it means that the 40 days is the maximum and if she reaches 40 and she's still not pure she prays her Salah if she reaches 40 and the blood does not stop she what she carries on praying her Salah and she just purifies herself does that make sense that's the postnatal bleeding the third blood is called إستحابة what is it called it's called إستحابة إستحابة means blood that comes out في غير أوقات الحيض والنفاس it comes out other than the time of حيض and other than the time of نفاس نفاس is what the postnatal bleeding so it's not menstruation nor is it postnatal bleeding it's a blood that just goes on women in this situation are two types the women are how many types when it comes to إستحابة the continuous bleeding they are two types one is a woman which is known as معتادة معتادة is a woman who can distinguish one from the other how could she distinguish it from one another how could she distinguish it she can distinguish it from two ways this woman she knows it in two ways إستحابة started in later stages of her life and her menstruation that used to come was well organized meaning it was scheduled and he never used to miss it scheduled so she knows her time when her حيض comes has never changed it's always been the first of every month for example are we all together she knows it if إستحابة starts later she knows the days when she used to have her menses she follows that معتادة معتادة she knows her she has a routine but she knows it the second way she can know it is she knows when she sees it when إستحابة is a vein it's normal bleeding it's red blood the density of the حيض is heavier than the density of the إستحابة the smell of the حيض is different from that that of إستحابة there's a bad smell to the حيض where is that إستحابة doesn't have that that's the woman who's called معتادة she knows am I making sense yeah the second one is متحييرة she's confused what she called متحييرة she's confused she doesn't know one from the other she doesn't know because maybe when حيض started in her life so did إستحابة start with it so she doesn't know which one is which she's confused oh it started later but her حيض was never was never scheduled it used to just go all over the place it never had no routine are we all together when إداليك one of the hardest chapters is حيض because the women don't make it easy why because they don't memorize their it's very important it helps the sheikh when he gives fatwa to help him to be a معتادة to just have a schedule of your routine and no when it starts when it ends when it starts when it ends she'll come to you and she says to you I don't know nothing I have no knowledge of it when إداليك is the hardest chapter متحيلة she's confused are we all together she comes with a unique situation the answer has to be in line with her situation so what she called she's called متحيلة she's confused this متحيلة and who's confused she doesn't know what will be done is will be said follow pick a when it starts when it finishes that's called the متحيرة are we all together this is fast rulings what is the woman who's on her استحاذة what is not allowed for her if she's on continuous bleeding is there anything that's prohibited from her no استحاذة she prays, she fasts she can touch the مصحب she can read the Qur'an she can have intimate relationship with her husband nothing changes are we all together the woman who is what استحاذة like in the woman who is upon a hailed and what and on nifas there are two things that are three things that are unanimous agreement she can't do the woman who is on hailed and she is on what nifas three things are اجمع she is not allowed to do she is not allowed to fast اجمع there is no dispute in this issue we are going to touch on that later more the حديث of معادة number 2 is الوطف الفرجي intimate relationship a man cannot have sexual intercourse with his wife while she is upon a hailed or while she is in state of nifas و لذلك after he bought the حديث اصمعوا كل شيء إلا النكاح و نفاست كل شيء للمساعدة او نفاست و نكاح يدعم الوطف و نكاح يدعم على مجدد الوطف والعقد و يعني اتمسي و يعني اتمسي امان يدعم كل شيء مع his wife و يدعم حديث و يدعم حديث اتصد امام النووي اتصد امام النووي اتصد امام النووي و لو اعتقد مسلم خلا جماع الحائضي that he is allowed to have intimate relationship with a woman while she is on her menstruation he believes it is Halal في فرجها صار كافر و مرتد he becomes a disbeliever if a man believes it is Halal nothing wrong with it فهم to have intimacy with a woman while she is on her menstruation نووي says كافر مرتد he becomes because this is a question there is a book in the Sunnah they say الله says and there is a consent no two scholars disputed if one thousand four hundred something years later someone comes and says she is my wife I can do what I want it doesn't make sense to me if we want it it is a consent between the two of us this he said it is what كافر مرتد و لو فعله انسان he does it فإن كان الناس if he forgot أو جاهل أو he is ignorant بوجود الحيض he didn't know she was on menses or she didn't even know okay they didn't know or they were both ignorant and they didn't even know the ruling أو جاهل متحريله أو مكرحن or if he was forced to do it فلا إثم عليه there is no harmony but what about if he does it deliberately علمان بالحيض he doesn't believe his حلال he knows it wrong what he is doing he believes his حرام in the شريعة but he does it deliberately and he knows that she is on her menses and he does it he said here فقد يرتكب معصية كبيرة it's a major sin نص الشافعيو ألمام الشافعيو said that it's a major sin و تجيب عليه التوبة he has to repent و في وضوم الكفارة قولان and there is two views whether that person should give a lot of expiation and the call which is راجح is that if a man has intimate relationship with his wife deliberately while she is on her menstruation or while she is on her post day two bleeding it's the strongest opinion is after repentance there is an expiation he has to pay where is that it's the statement of عبد الله بن عباس موقوفا و ابن عباسيو he said about the woman who is on her menstruation what did he say يتصدقوا بدينار أو نصفوا بدينار the prophet said this she pays what the person pays one dinar or يتصدقوا بدينار or half a dinar how much is a dinar four grams of gold the man has to pay four grams of what the wife and the husband be careful okay here the hadith mention بدينار أو نصف دينار the prophet said so here there is a تخيل can you choose whichever you want عبد الله بن عباسيو you don't choose whichever you want the difference he said if he does it the early stages when she is on her menstruation if he does it the last days of her menstruation he pays half a dinar وإن كان في أخيره فلسفوا دينار does that make sense so these are the أحكام كتيني تحيل but whether the woman can touch the mushaf while she is on her menstruation or she can go to the masjid while she is on her menstruation we will talk about that soon that's not a agreed upon issue it's a different upon issue whether a woman can touch the mushaf when she is on her menstruation we will talk about that soon the sheikh is going to bring the hadith إن شاء الله و تعالى وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله و تعالى عنه حديث 11 أن خولة بالتيسار أتت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقالت خولة she came to the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم and she said to him يا رسول الله أو message of Allah I don't have except a garment و أحدر I only have one garment و أنا أحدو administration happens to me فكيف أصلاع و what should I do فقالت the messenger said to her إذا باهورتي فغسليه if you become pure if you want you become pure if you become pure he said he said when you become pure wash your clothing get the clothing and what wash it ثم صلي في the praying site فقالت he said فإن لم يخرج دمو if the blood doesn't go after you cleaned it يكفيك الماء with the water will suffice you و لا يظهر كأثره the mark that there does not harm you we're already told you scratch it off and you wash it with water there's still a mark don't worry but now الحمد لله the women they have what they got other clothing so they can just get rid of that I want to wear another clothing but if they don't this is what they do و عن أبي سعيد للخدرير رضي الله و تعالى عنه قاله he said خرج رسول الله the messenger came out في أضحة and then he went and he spoke to who the women so the processor addressed the men and then he privately went to the women and that shows you how Islam gives importance to the education of the women but mainly what do we mean education here chemistry and biology yeah first of all we mean the religion and then anything after that no problem a woman to learn knowledge of the dunya no problem she can if she wants to but we mean number one first thing that she learns what the religion so the messenger came out he came to the women's فمر على النساء the prophet went by the women فقاله he said to them يا معشرة النساء oh women تصدقنا give charity فإني أريت كنا I was shown I was shown فإني أريت كنا I was showing that you women are أكثر أهلنار in the majority of the Hellfire who are the majority of the inhabitants of the Hellfire men or women the men sorry the women the majority is who is the women who said this اللذي لا يمطقوا عن الهواء the one who doesn't talk from his own women's desires يوحى everything he says is worth saying this doesn't make sense to me it's questioning very dangerous at the beginning what do we take the مقدمة the prophet is talking about a واقع that he saw a reality he saw عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم the night he was standing up صلى الله عليه وسلم all of this he saw that the majority of the inhabitants of the Hellfire were women فقولنا look at the صحابيات now and the difference between some of the women of this time when this was said look at their response they didn't say no we have to uprise, protest, billboards right they didn't say that فقولنا we said why we know we are because you told us but why they want to avoid it they said so this is what the women should focus more on and don't challenge the reality that's already there avoid your flesh and your bone from being from the inhabitants of the Hellfire she said why a message of Allah the prophet then told us عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم he said you curse a lot the women in terms of their tongue what comes out of it they are less observing they speak and they think later the consequences of what they just said تكثيرنا اللعنة you increase in the cursing you curse in your own child your own child and then you want Allah to guide him you say to him اللعنة الله عليك and then what do you want you want him to be Imam Al-Bukhari Bukhari's mother didn't curse him you see this is the reality والله the same with fathers who are cursing their own what their own children their own one day look what he saw one day he saw a man who had a riding beast and what did the man do he cursed a riding beast and then the man wanted to keep the riding beast with him the messenger said get rid of this riding beast we do not want to be with us an animal that the curse of Allah is coming down so you are saying be upon this child be upon this man I am with and then tomorrow you are hugging him and the curse is coming down on him because you ask for it and then you are with the cursed one are we all together so the first word is تكثيرنا اللعنة you increase on cursing وتكفرنا العشيرة وتكفرنا العشيرة you are ungrateful to your spouses تكفرنا here means كفران is lack of gratitude you don't show gratitude yes the man is doing so much work he is there for you yesterday you were saying I have never seen anyone like you you helped me you supported me my life has changed when I met you tomorrow you say on the way can you pick up milk for us and he goes I can't you destroyed my life yeah may Allah deal with you and if he just goes up the message it was nice before that so what is it وتكفرنا العشيرة you are ungrateful to your spouse والذلك I have to point on this point and it is very vital Allah مما بالأمان I have to be truthful and Imam Ibn Kathir mentions in this كتاب دلائل النبوة which is a book that indicates the prophet's prophecy and he graded it to be Hassan the prophet SAW a group of men came to him and they said يا رسول الله we have a camel and this camel has now become like a wolf it's eating people vicious the camel so the messenger SAW said bring the camel to me so they brought the camel and the camel was in the corner of the masjid so the prophet SAW he walked towards it the companions said يا رسول الله don't go the camel will eat you because it was biting and it was ripping so the messenger SAW ignored it and he walked towards the camel and as he walked closer to the camel the camel prostrated for who the messenger SAW and then when the companions saw this they were shocked they said يا رسول الله this is the camel he understood your status والله we know you better we should prostrate to your messenger and then the messenger said if I was to command any people to prostrate for a people لأمرت المرأة وتسجد لي زوجها لعظم الحقي عليها I would have commanded for the women to prostrate to her husband because of the great right that he has on her if I was to command anyone to prostrate for anyone I would have said look at the position he is saying it at I would have told the women to prostrate it's the highest level in عبودية highest level of servitude it's the time the prophet said أقرب ما يكون العبدل ربه the time you are the most closest to Allah is when in the Salah when in the Sujood the prophet said I would have if I was I would have told the women لعظم الحقي عليها look what he said the prophet said this نبي الله محمد said this he said that if the man had passed his body and the woman she lifted off she would not have fulfilled his right that same حديث he said it do we say that the messenger أم مؤمنة تؤمن بالله وليوم الأخير when she looks at the Hadith she shows the right that is upon her she doesn't come the day of judgment and she is accounted for الله says in the Quran وما كان لمؤمنة ولا مؤمنة إذا قضى الله ورصوره أمرًا أن يكون لهم الخير if Allah and his messenger judge something you have no choice a woman came to the messenger she came to the messenger I got married and then he said to her who are Jannatuki and Arab and Nar is in his hands by pleasing him is Jannat and angering him is what is to help me majority of you men and women probably don't hear this حديث it's not mentioned are we all together brothers like what men need to understand is the man who deserves that is a man who's fulfilled his part as well a man who's come with worries upon him الله tells us in the Quran قوامون على النساء بما فضل الله بعضهم على بعضهم وبما أنفقوا من أموالهم a man is qawam meaning he stands for the affairs of his family and he stands for what is needed from him is the one that's found from him what number one he financially supports his family a man whose wife he doesn't financially aid her he doesn't give her anything he has not fulfilled her rights and the day of judgment he's going to come he's going to be buried the second one is وبيما فضل الله بعضكم على بعضهم the physical help a man needs to physically help the wife this is the right she has on you and not to watch her take on everything physically are we all together brothers he has to help her with her mind with planning and structuring things out it falls under وبيما فضل الله بعضكم على بعضهم and not say you organize everything that happens are we all together when both parties brothers and sisters pay attention the wife and the husband both see it as these are here to save our marriage it's here for it to make it better and not the wife says to the husband you read the rights that's upon you and the husband goes well you read the rights that's upon you and no one really reads any rights that's upon them are we all together and that's the problem now the man needs to enjoy reading the rights that's upon him and he needs to every time check if he's following it and so is the what the woman إن شاء الله وتعالى الله will then look at that relationship and give it the best he deserves care for it admire the make place in their hearts love towards one another تكثيرنا اللعنة you increase in cursing وتكفرنا العشيرة you are what then look what the prophet said ما رأي تأ I did not see من ناقصات عقل those who have less the prophet said I haven't seen ناقصات عقل the prophet said I did not see I have not seen anyone more deficient in intellect and religion than you women the women are deficient in two things the prophet said what is it yeah what is intellect religion please understand the context that the prophet said it in it will make you understand a very good point okay was it the prophet putting the woman down عليه الصلاة والله he said after that he said that woman who is deficient in her intelligence or intellect what can she do he said ادهب للب الرجل الحازيم من احدى كنة ايمان who is smart and he is diligent she's able to I'm amazed the prophet said though a woman who is meant to be intellectually deficient she is able to get into the mind of an intelligent diligent man is looking around everything is vigilant, careful she is able to take it are we all together هذا يظهر لنا شيء الذي يجب أن يكون مرحبا و تعرف المساعدة إلى حياتها أنها تعرف ماذا تفعل و one of the things that a woman needs to remember is her biggest powerful weapon is her femininity مرحبا بذلك بإمكانك مرحبا with your husband and having a toe-to-toe They won't get you no assistance because the man deals with her every day on the streets at work people are toe-to-toe with him every day and Allah created him with that strength The weakest thing for a man is when his wife is soft her nature her nature and what she is can convince him to do whatever she wants she can get whatever she wants from him the Prophet stated this to us that man can be the most smartest of men he can be the what the most diligent and most vigilant man man on the face of this ad you will see him and a woman's control of his FF he says I have to go home at 9 o'clock I have to not sure that's good there's nothing wrong with that okay then the Messenger of God explains the two the Deen and the Aqal why is it deficient look at the Sahabiات they never look at the Eman they never say that's not fair that doesn't make sense what are you talking about no, they didn't say that والله they didn't say that رضي الله تعالى عنهم then the Prophet said just tell us how we are they have accepted that they are but they just said how وما نقصانوا دييننا how is our religion deficient وعقلنا our intelligence then the Messenger said نفسنا نفس الشهد the woman's witness is how many two women is equal to what this is no one is allowed to change that الله made this العلم يعلمه الله الله knows why we are slaves the way we were not consulted in our creation this ruling الله doesn't have to consult us he doesn't have to explain it to us we just have to say what سبيعنا we hear our Allah because we are slaves that's what a slave is we hear and we we obey our Allah we take what you say قلنا بلا look at the women was there a response what did they say when he said two women is equal to one man what did the Sahabiat say did they say نعم or بلا ها did they say نعم or بلا do you know the difference between نعم and بلا yes بلا is of course the Sahabiat they said of course two women is equal to one of course يا رسول الله that's what they said that's the إيمان that gushed out of their hearts that ain't question رضي الله تعالى عنهم فذالك من قصان عقليها the reason two women is equal to one is because of this عقل ليس إذا حاضت لم تصلي ولم تصم what about if the world is on her menstruation and what about when she is on her nifas what did she did she pray did she fast no she doesn't the Sahabiat they said بلا of course يا رسول الله she doesn't they said فداك من نقصان من نقصان ليليها this is the deficiency in her what in her her religion الحديث الثالث عشرة حديث 13 embrace these ahadiths if you see that you have your repulsive towards these ahadith ask Allah to cure your heart it's the illness of the heart والله that's what it is what is it it's the illness in the heart والله this hadith is going to stay and you who believe this hadith doesn't make sense you're going to perish the hadith is going to be بقاري إلا إيرف الله الأرض ومن عليها this hadith is going to be سعع مسلم and it's going to remain forever all the feminists can come and they can go بقاري will not go مسلم this hadith will stay and this understanding will remain until the day of judgment so the person should just be merciful to those there to hear after don't do anyone a favor other than your what other than yourself from the hellfire by going against the command of Allah عز وجل عن معادة رحمة الله قال it معادة she said معادة she said سأل to I asked عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها I asked her فقول to I said to her مابال الحائظ تقف الصومة ولا تقف الصلاة why is it that if a woman is on her menstruation she has to bring back the fasting but she doesn't have to bring back the prayer the prayer is important in the Salat fasting she doesn't bring the important thing back but she brings the fasting back it doesn't make sense does that make sense this woman she asked عائشة her name was معادة she said to عائشة رضي الله عنها بال الحائظ تقف الصومة ولا تقف الصلاة she asked when a woman's رمضان comes okay and a woman misses seven days in رمضان does she have to bring back the seven days of the prayer that she missed she doesn't have to bring back the prayer but does she have to bring back the fasting what's more important the fasting or the prayer the prayer is more important but she has to bring back the fasting but not the prayer I want you to benefit from this حديث عائشة first thing she said before she even answered her حرورية ايو حروري حروري was a خوارج who went out in a place called حرورا this shows that if a person comes with a statement of اهل البدع you can say to that person are you from the اهل البدع the group in which the ideology they are in line with you can ask them are they of that group you can ask them and the person should say oh you're accusing me are we all together عائشة asked she said to her are you حروري why because the خوارج the حرورية believed that the woman had to bring back the prayer the خوارج used to say she has to bring back the prayer because it doesn't make sense to us they said that the صلاة which is more important is told not to bring back and the what and the first thing عائشة first thing she said to the woman is حرورية are you a حروري the woman didn't say how is so unfair you're accusing me حروري she didn't say that she answered the question if you're not the group then you should be happy to say I'm not right why are you so offensive why are you hiding the answer you have to just quickly say I'm not she said to her let's do the حرورية I am not a حروري ولكن أسأل I'm only asking you I just want to know I just want to know I'm not a حروري قالت عائشة then said to her كان يصيبنا ذلك this used to happen to us when menstruation used to happen to us at the time of the prophet فنؤمر بقضاء you saw me we were told to bring back the fasting ولا نؤمر بقضاء الصلاة and we were not told to bring back the صلاح what did عائشة use as evidence we are slaves we are commanded what to do and what not to do simple she didn't go logically it makes sense look at it the fasting are too many how is she going to bring back five days she didn't say any of that and we were commanded to do this and we were told not to do this خلاص the woman on the other hand knowing how important it is the Kitab of the Sunnah what did she say okay that's how simple our deal is are we all together brothers we're complicating it when we try to go too much philosophical answers just say رسول الله he commanded this when عائشة say فنؤمر the Sahabas when they say we are commanded who they mean the messenger when the messenger says I was commanded who did he mean الله are we all together that's important to understand الحديث الرابع عشرة the 40 حديث عن أنسن عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم عن أنسن he said قال to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said اصناعوا كل شيء in everything do with your spouse when she's on her menstruation do with her what everything except what except نكاح نكاح يعني is what الوط في الفرج سكشو اتوكوس meaning the man can do every other thing with his wife he can hug he can kiss no problem the Jews what they used to do the Jews what they used to do they used to take the woman when she was on her menstruation and they used to there was a tent that built they built for her a tent she'll stay in that tent till the days that she's on her menstruation things were thrown at her her clothes whatever she needed soap whatever she needed was thrown at her the food was given to her on a long stick like that she ate some of them will not shower or clean themselves for those days and so when she comes to the day of her purification they will send for her a ram and the animal will die because of the smell that's how they used to deal with them so Islam came and liberated all of that what did it do it said we're not going to go to the extreme of what the Jews and the extreme of the Christians the Christians what did they do they had intimacy with their women while she was on her menstruation and killed up both parties are blame worthy the both extreme what did the messenger used to do with Aisha she said she said he will place a cloth between my navel and my my knee and then he would full play with me this but he will not do any intimate relation sexual intercourse with her so he said اصناعوا do everything كل شيء in everything إلا النكاحة don't have sexual intercourse with her unless this hadith proves that in the ayah ويسألونك عن المحيظ قل هو أذن تعتزل النساء في المحيظ and that's a مسألة which is إجماع there's no dispute and I brought the statement of who الإمام النوي رحمه الله تعالى الحديث الخامس عشرة حديث حديث what حديث 15 which is what عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها she said قالت قال رسول الله يسأل الله عليه السلام the messenger said اف علي do ما يفعلوا الحجو غيرا الا تطوفي بالبيتي the next what was the thing that the woman is not allowed to do she's not allowed to go she's not allowed to pray she's not allowed to fast she's not allowed to do what sexual intercourse and the husband is not allowed to do sexual intercourse with her while she's on her menstruation and no is the woman for the woman who's on her menstruation on her post she's not allowed to do what the wife around her she's not allowed to إف علي ما يفعلوا الحجو do what the hatch is doing غيرا الا تطوفي بالبيتي حتى تطوري a woman is not allowed to she's not allowed to she's not allowed to allowed to go around the Ka'bah how many times seven times while she's on her menstruation she's this is not permissible for her الحديث السادس عشرة the sixteenth حديث what is this حديث عبد الله بن عمر عبد الله بن أبي بكر بن أبي حزلن he said أن في الكتاب الذي كتبه رسول الله لعمر بن حزلن the messenger sent a letter to who to عمر بن حزلن the messenger sent a letter to who who did he send the letter to yeah to عمر بن and what did he say he said عليه الصلاة والسلام ألا يمس القرآن إلا طاهر no one should touch the القرآن except that they are pure and that they are pure so is a woman allowed to touch the while she's on her menstruation or while she's on her postnatal bleeding is she allowed this is where we're going to discuss it إن شاء الله تعالى after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the after the ومسلمة صلى الله عليه وسلم قلت في قرآن أن لا يمسل القرآن إلا طاهر لا يجب أن يأخذ القرآن إلا أنه ماذا؟ إلا أنه ماذا؟ إلا أنه طاهر، هو ماذا؟ هو سبيل هذا الحديث، إلا أنه ماذا؟ لا يمسل القرآن إلا أنه ماذا؟ يوجد كلاف كبير بحيث أنه ماذا؟ لكن هذا الذي يبدو صحيح هو أن هذا الحديث هو صحيح الشيخ الالباني يتكلم في الكتاب الواقع الغليل الالباني يتكلم بحيث أنه ماذا؟ أنه صحيح الحمد لله لا يوجد شيئا ولكن المتحدة هو هذا الحديث يقول أنه لا يمكنك التكلم في القرآن إلا أنه ماذا؟ أنه صحيح هذا الحديث هذا الحديث صحيح يسمى لفضل مشتراك إنه ماذا؟ لفضل يأخذ أكثر than one meaning هذا why there is a Khilafia إنه ماذا؟ مشتراك مشتراك here means what? some scholars understood it as أن لا يمثل القرآن that no one can touch the Quran إلا طاهر يعني إلا مؤمن that the only one who can touch the Mus'haf is a what it's a believer because Allah refers to the disbelievers as what إنما المشريكونة نجاسون that the non-Muslims are what? the najas the najas here doesn't mean that the disbelievers are filthy on his body his belief is filthy are we all together? he's aqida as well so they said that this حديث here means أن لا يمثل القرآن إلا طاهر and the evidence that they used was that when أبو حوريرا the messenger saw him in a road the messenger was with him and أبو حوريرا he left the messenger he ran away from the prophet and he went home and he what? he purified himself and then the messenger أبو حوريرا again and he said why did I not see you? where did you go? and he said I was not in a state of طهارة and then the messenger said to him إن المؤمن لا ينجز I believe it cannot be impure are we all together? so this حديث I want to answer this question that every time it asked can a woman touch the Quran while she's on administration today you're having an explanation so pay attention brothers if you're on a what if you're in جنابة that question is always asked right? here today we're explaining it pay attention so you don't ever need to ask anyone are we all together? and that this question doesn't keep coming back so this حديث has become a question that طهارة in this حديث what is it referring to? is it referring to the طهارة which is حدث الأسغر والأكبر the major and minor impurity that happen to the believer which is pass wind or حيث and نفاس or جنابة these are what? major impurity is it referring to that? or is it referring to the impurity of belief? is that point understood? let me repeat that one more time this حديث says that no one can touch the Qur'an unless he is pure pure this pure what does it mean? it can take two minutes based on the Qur'an and the sunnah is it talking about the purity of major and minor impurity what's major and minor impurity? minor impurity is what? if you pass wind if you go to the toilet and you urinate this is a what? minor impurity because you have to do what? وضو anything you need to do وضوء for is a what? minor impurity and anything that necessitates وصول is called a what? major impurity so is this حديث saying that type? or is it referring to the طهارة العقدي the عقيد related to the طهارة which is that if you're a believer you can touch a Mus'haf whichever state that you're in this is a dispute and that which seems strongest is this حديث is referring to the إيمان and it's not referring to major or minor impurity so what does that take us to? what does that bring us to? it brings us to that the woman if she's on a menstruation she can touch a Mus'haf and if the man is on a what? he's on a major impurity as well he can touch that? that view is the strongest according to me of course and the scholars that agree with me such as الإيمان المزني رحمه الله تعالى or together ابن حزا من رحمه الله تعالى أبو داودة ظاهري رحمه الله تعالى الشيخ محمد ناصر الدين الالباني they push that opinion that here is what? made is talking about عقيد the related issue because when the messenger said this letter he gave it to this companion and he sent it to him it was in Yemen and they were Muslims so it was saying to him اللي يمسل القرآن don't let the Quran be touched by the non-Muslims it's not talking about the Muslims aslam but my sheikh who wrote this book we had this discussion I told him I'm going to explain your book and I'm not going to agree with this hadith the way you did it's still out of it because he believes the sheikh believes what does he believe? he believes that it's talking about the woman who's on a menstruation or the man who's on his so pay attention here if this hadith has not proven the argument what do you go back to? what we go back to is the woman was allowed to touch the Mus'haf whichever state she was in the people who say she can't they have to bring the evidence لأن البراءة العصرية the default position is a believer can read and touch the Mus'haf if he or she wishes the one who says no she can't he has to provide us with what? the evidence that they brought is two this one and we responded to it the second one that they brought is the ayah in the Quran لا يمسه إلا المطحرون they said this is the evidence لا يمسه no one touches it إلا المطحرون except that which the one who's pure we say this is referring to the lawful mahfoud not this Quran it's referring to the lawful mahfoud that the angels are pure and they're the only one who touch it does that make sense? so again we go back to the براعة العصرية which is the default position is that the woman is allowed to touch the Mus'haf until proven otherwise am I making sense here? I want to be told to the side later can I talk to you can I ask you a question? I'm bringing my arguments now if you think what I brought is strong take it if you don't then and you see the other side and you think the other side is stronger you can always come to my class but you're entitled to it's a difference of opinion which is valid both parties are praiseworthy are we all together? great scholars hold this view and great scholars what? hold this view lacking one is right and that's subjective what's right and what's wrong everyone is different are we all together? so based on what I said a woman she is allowed to touch the Mus'haf in any state that she is in even that though I say that I will still say to the sisters if you're on your menstruation avoid touching the Mus'haf just avoid it to respect the Quran ومن you عظم شاعر الله فإنها من تقوى القلوب honor the Quran venerate the Quran that's only from that angle but if you touch it you're not sinning are we all together? because all of those evidence I brought the proof I brought here is what? the براعة العصرية the default position and the evidence to prove otherwise that the woman can't touch it are we all together? yeah and not to mention when the woman's on her menstruation is when her Eman is the lowest and it's the time she most needs the book of Allah عزم are we all together? and now the people hold this opinion that she can't touch the Mus'haf they're now in a dilemma why? what's the dilemma? technologies come out the iPad it's got Mus'haf in there what about when it turns into a Mus'haf can she just have to drop the tablet or the phone she's not allowed to hold it all of that wouldn't have come if they just believed that it can be touched are we all together? the other issue is can she read the Quran without touching it? if I've said that she can touch the Mus'haf then I would definitely say what? she can read it are we all together? so I don't have to provide any evidence to show that she can touch the Mus'haf or she can read the Quran the أصل is she can she's a believer Allah سبحانه وتعالى he mentions those who read the Quran the Quran is touched anyone who says no there's an exception here she can't touch it when she's on her menstruation he has to bring an evidence are we all together? and if all of those evidence are responded to we go back to the أصل which is that she's allowed does that make sense? even that though Abu Hanifa and Imam Malik and Imam Shafiq and Imam Ahmed all said she can't touch it are we all together? before Imam said she can't touch it the overwhelming majority of scholars said she can't touch it جوور أهل العلم said she can't touch it like he wasn't more beloved to us عبد عزيز مباز he said she can't touch it شهر من عثمي she can't touch it بالشيخ الباني this is not democracy where we look at number what we really look at is and is there's no strong evidence on the side of those who say she can't but the only thing that scares me personally of this opinion that I hold is the overwhelming majority of great powerful scholars I'm going to read a couple of statements on you to show you that that side who believe you can't touch it have a very powerful point let's read this one ابن عبد البر يبوت اجمع what did ابن عبد البر say? يبوت اجمع there's no difference of opinion I'm only mentioning this because it's fair right that I mentioned both sides ابن عبد البر he said ولم يختلف الفقهاء ولم يختلف فقهاء الأمصار بالمدينة والعراق والشام أن المصحف لا يمسه إلا طاهر على وضوء وهو قول مالك والشافع وأبو حليفة والتوري والأوزاع وحمد المحمد والإسحاق والأبو ثور وأبو ريدن وهؤلاء الأئمة الفق أبو ثلاثة أنه said ولم يختلف فقهاء الأمصار فقهاء ديبن ادفا عجيب right ابن رجب said ازواء انفتح الباري شفح سعو البخاري he said هذا قول جماهير العلماء وروي ذلك عم علي والسعد وابن عمر والسلمان ولا يررف لهم مخالف من الصحابة الصحابة ديبن ادفا يقول يقول كلهم يقول لا يتخلص هذا مخلص اوه صح بيج من هذا ومن هنا هؤلاء هؤلاء لذا فقهاء فقهاء قول عبدالبر وابن رجب وسبب لم يتفهم فقهاء لأنهم يتكلموا اجماع وخارقوا اجماع يعني يجب عليهم فقهاء when somebody claims اجماع طريق اجماع is just to bring one person who is against it وخارقت جومهور امبهور المجورة صح هل They make sense here? امبهور كذلك هل ذلك but we can't say no to is the overwhelming majority of the scholars they say ولكن هل هذا الأمر يجب أن أعطيك بعض الأسئلة الآن؟ الآن أنت تفتح أسئلةك أيضاً من هؤلاء تحبك؟ هذا هو your choice حسنا عن المهاجر ابن قن ذرن أما عن المهاجر ابن قن فذن أنه سلم على رسول الله المهاجر ابن قن فذن بهذا اللمل للمسلم على رسول الله هو جدته إلى رأيك السلام عليكم وهو يتوضع و과ده، وماذا هو يفعل؟ وضع فلم يرد عليه حتى يتوضع لم ينجده فعنق رأيك تم وضع وذنر سلم على رسول الله وذنر عليه إنه لم يمنعني لا يوجد شيء لا يبقني ورد عليك أن أفعل لي your سلام إلا أني كريتو أن أذكر الله إلا على فهارتين أريد أن أتكلم الله's name in purity لذلك الشيخ يتكلم ذلك أنت بخير لذلك عندما يحدث أنه كريتو أردت أنه حرار لكن أردت أنه لم أحبه لذلك نقول أنه أردت أنه يتكلم المصحف لذلك أردت أن أردت أن أردت أن أردت أن أردت أن أردت أن أردت الحديث 18 وعن عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها عائشة قالت she said قال لي رسول الله the messenger said to me قال لي رسول الله the messenger said to me now will you give me الخمرات عائشة pass over to me that mat from the masjid give it to me من المسجد عائشة get me that mat from the masjid قالت عائشة she said فقولت I responded meaning the messenger was what in the masjid and she was what in the house and you know the prophet's house was close to the masjid the prophet said give me that mat عائشة and the prophet was in the masjid and she said I'm in a state of what فقاله he then said to her إن حيراتكي ليست في يدكي your menstruation is not in your hand in other words what she was trying to say was I can't come in so the sheikh is trying to take from here that the woman should not what she shouldn't go into the masjid if she's on her what menstruation some scholars they understood the opposite from that hadith they used the ax and the thick was the opposite that they understood from it which is that عائشة her understanding the prophet corrected and he said to her حيد is not on your hand come in he said to her the menstruation is not in your in your hand some of the فقاله like ألمام البيه القليل سولين الكبرى he said if the woman fears and ألمام موزن he mentions in المختصر as well if the woman the menses is dropping from dripping from her she's not allowed to enter the masjid it's a barar on the masjid it's a harm towards the masjid but if there isn't that fear she is permitted to go into the masjid and she's allowed to sit in the masjid even if she's on her this is another issue disputed amongst her and it's best that the woman avoids it what is it it's best that the woman avoids it وعن عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها عائشة said أن فاطمة فاطمة بن تأبيح ريشن كانت استحاضو she had administration فسألت النبية she asked the prophet about this issue فقاله ستها ذالك عرقن she asked the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم about the continuous bleeding she asked him about him and the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said to her ذالك عرقن that's a vein he replied by saying it's a vein عرق is a vein but a blood clot that's all it is nothing big وَلَيْ سَتْ بِالْحَيْضَاتِ it's not administration meaning the continuous bleeding it's a blood that's coming from your vein fresh blood whereas the haith is from the womb it's different فَإِذَا أَقْبَالَةِ الْحَيْضَةُ when your administration comes فَدَاعِ الصَّلَاتِ leave the prayer وَإِذَا أَدْبَرَةِ when it leaves فَغْتَسِلِ وَصَلِّيْ the woman who's on istihad I didn't mention something which is that she has to do وصل في every prayer سنة and obligatory is وضوء we're going to see that later إن شاء الله و تعالى اغتسالت for her to do وصل السنة but the wudu' for every prayer is what? واجب because the prophet وضوءك للصلاة do a what? do wudu' like the prayer and to do وصل في every prayer سنة we talked about what استحاذ we discussed that عن فاطمة رضي الله تعالى عن فاطمة عن فاطمة ابن أبي حبيش رضي الله عنها she said أنها كانت تستحاذ حي استحاذ used to happen to her فقال لها النبيو the messenger said to her إذا كان أدم الحيظة إذا كان أدم الحيظة if it's the menstruation blood فإنه أسوى do it black the menstruation blood is what? it's black you're rafu it can be recognized there's three ways that the menstruation can be recognized one the color the color two the density the weight it's heavier than the what? the other blood three the smell those three فإذا كان ذلك فأمسك عن الصلاة if you recognize it because of its dark color then he said to her فأمسك عن الصلاة hold back from the prayer فإذا كان الآخر if it's the استحاذة فتوضع وصلي do it do it and pray فإنما هو عرق the strength the pain فتضع if it's theanno doesn't please if that's the يجب أن يكون هناك أسماع والدينسيتي إذا كانت المساعدة لا تستطيع أن أعرف حياتها من الإستحاضة ما قلتها؟ ما قلتها؟ ليس تحييرة، إنها تشعر لذلك، ثم تتبقى ماذا؟ أقلت أخوة أخوة أخوة أخوة أيضاً أخوة أخوة أيضاً إنها تتبقى إنها أمرتها فاعتمت بإنت آبي حبيشن وتسأل رسول الله فأمرها أنتقعد الآيام التي كانت تقعد ثم تكتسلوا هذا الحديث، ماذا يقول؟ يقول ماذا؟ عورة البنوز وعورة وسور عورة ووسور عورة البنوز وعورة ععشة كانت اخوة اخوة متانو فهي يجب أن يدفعها بلا حجاب لأنه فأخوة ووسور هذا ما بي تابيبكم هذا one of the benefits that he had he would go and he would ask any questions he wanted his auntie and Aisha was a what she was a faqih و لذلك ألمام زركشي هذا الكتاب كول he called it he called it استدراكات عائشة على بعض الصحابة عائشة catching our other companions times they did mistakes she would say you are wrong where did you get that from are you with me brothers استدراكات عائشة على بعض الصحابة و لذلك زركشي wrote it some places where Aisha would what she would correct other companions or sometimes they would even what they would come to her to find out و لذلك one time عبدالله عمران some group of companions they came to her and then when they came she was a very serious woman very serious so they came and she said you haven't been seen in a long time and then عبدالله عمران he said increase in absence and the hearts find love towards what we miss one another if a person is every day in your face yeah you see him every morning duck is on your door step and you're meeting him every day yeah what happens you are Mr.Person sometimes it's good to not see each other then the sahaba started to talk عائشة رضي الله عنا she said hurry up ask the question that you came for do you guys have any questions of what you came for ask and she used to have a big curtain between them there was a what big curtain رضي الله تعالى عنها and this woman was a very righteous pious woman رضي الله تعالى عنها عائشة when Abu Bakr look at this story the prophet died when the prophet died he got buried in the house because the prophets are never buried somewhere else prophets are buried where they died then Abu Bakr died where was he buried right next to the prophet and then عمر when he was on his deathbed he commanded that they go and they ask عائشة if he could be buried right next to Abu Bakr and the prophet okay and then عائشة said I was preparing this place for myself this is the place I wanted next to my dad and my husband then but she said I let you عمر I will give it to you no problem she said I will let you عمر then عمر said she might have said this out of respect for me when I die verify ask her again if she says no take me to بقير she might have said that because she respects me I'm the amir of the believers and she might pressure might have made her say yes so ask her again when I die what do you do ask her a second time and see if she allows it if she doesn't then take me to بقير and عائشة said no I said it when he died and he was taken she said of course I promised him so عمر got placed in where inside the house عائشة started wearing hijab she covered her head top tip from the tip of her head to every part she used to cover up is عمر alive can عمر see her that's how she was رضي الله تعالى عنها and you compare that to those who leave the house without no hijab so these are the role models that your sister has to have عائشة رضي الله عنها عروة تبلو زوبيرن does his auntie he said فاطمة told me عمرت أسماء or أسماء و حدثتني أو أسماء told me أنها عمرتها فاطمة that she commanded فاطمة و تسأل رسول الله to ask the message of Allah فأمرها to ask the prophet her situation we already know what her situation was right the sheikh is just repeating the same hadith فأمرها أتقعد الأيامة the prophet told her the days where you're on your menstruation don't pray don't do nothing and do with it الحديث الحادل والعشرون حديث what sorry sorry what number is it الثاني والعشرون the numbers are confusing now الحديث الثاني والعشرون the twenty the second hadith و عن عائشة عائشة رضي الله عنها قالت she said دخلت أسماء أسماء entered صلى الله عليه وسلم فقالت she said يا رسول الله كيف تسلوا إحدانا how does one of us purify herself إذا طاهورت من المحيظة when she wants to cleanse herself clean herself from what menstruation how should she do it what way should she do قالت the prophet said تأخذوا سدراها the woman she will take what she will take سدر today is like a soap سدر is like a what سدر is seeds that are taken from the tree it's meant to make the person smell nice and today we can exchange it with what سوب she takes her soap and her وماعها and water and she cleans herself with it the purpose behind it is what then she what so the woman washes her hand then she does وضو فتوابأ she purifies herself ثم تسلو رأسها so the وضو goes what the وضو goes what the وضو goes first the person does وضو here is a discussion amongst عُلَمَة does she do the legs or does she leave the legs to the end are we together and both are present this was done once some narrations mentioned this no problem whether she does the full وضو or she does all of the وضو and she leaves the legs and then she does the leg after that both are present how does she then do the وضو ثم تغتسلو رأسها she washes her hair she washes her what the head and then as well from جنابر و ت sl transparent means she runs the water through thewhat remember this point sexual intercourse the woman does not have to wash her after the the غصر of what the غصر of sexual intercourse the woman does not have to wash her but does she have to إلا فللأخير نسخبوينة يجب أن نسخبوينة يجب أن نسخبوينة بشكل كبير بل أن نسخبوينة بشكل كبير ثم تفيدوا على رأسيا لذا once she washes her head what did she then do she pours the water over her body it's recommended that she does it on the right side on her hair first when she washes her hair she does the right and then she does the left and once she washes the boss body it's recommended that she does the right based on the Hadith of Aisha رضي الله تعالى عنها when she said كان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم وفي شأن كله so she washes the first this side and then she puts her head her hands into this one and then the right part of her body and then she does the left like that and if she doesn't and she just throws the water all over herself no problem no problem this is recommended ثم تفيدوا على جسدها she pours the water over her body ثم تأخذوا فيرصتها فتطح حروبها then she should take a piece of cloth the woman should take a what a piece of cloth this cloth should be cotton or wool or whatever it doesn't matter and purify with it meaning her private part قالت يا رسول الله she said يا رسول الله يا رسول الله كيف تطح حروبها كيف تطح حروبها she wanted more explanation The message was shy now Remember he just mentioned the cloth and the wool and the she stopped there he didn't use the cloth Asma was like how the message size was very shy this teaches us a good characteristic which is even if something is true you have to say it sometimes you should have she's a hayat نحن نتكلم عن الأشياء الأسيئية أخذ الأشياء الأسيئية ونقول ذلك عائشة ثم تقول فعرفتوا الذي يكني عنه رسول الله أعلم من العالم ما كان يتكلمه ما كان يتكلمه فقلت أعيسا على بحافة المسنجاء تتبعين أثارة فقط تتبعوا طريقة العالم كان شايا لذا عائشة تظهر أنه شيء أخر المساعدة يجب أن يكون مرورة أن تكون نفسها يجب أن يكون أردن ويجب أن يشاكسها ومشاكسها أنه ينسى على أن تذهب في المساعدة يجب أن أفهم أن أعرف أنه يجب أن يمكس وردن أخي مرحبا العديد الثانيس والعشرون وعن عائشة رضي الله وتعالى عنها عائشة رضي الله وعنها قالت she said قال رسول الله the messenger said دعي عمرتك وانقذي رأسك وامتشيطي وأهيلي بحجين عائشة said that the messenger said to her delay your عمرة and undo وانقذي رأسك your hair open it up وامتشيطي and comb your hair وأهيلي بحجين and do إحرام فحج here we have to understand the thick that is taken from this hadith is that the hair needs to be open for the woman when the is done that we took from the previous hadith عن أم عطية رضي الله وعنها وكانت she was باية النبية she gave pledged allegiance to the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم قالت she said كنا لا نعد الكدرة وصفرة بعد الطهر شيئة we would not take into consideration the brown and the yellow fluid after the purification the woman after the hate finishes a brown and a yellow fluid comes from her this is not considered to be part of the hate she's pure no problem don't consider this to be anything that's just a normal discharge okay it's a dark black as brown or it's yellowish she said that we never used to consider this and we never used to give it any we consider that just to be a normal discharge meaning this is not hate this is not it's not hate but this is referring to after she purifies herself right like inside the hate that's a different ruling وان أم ع القامة مولا عائشة ام ع القامة she was a slave جاو فهو عائش رضي الله تعالى عنها أنها قالت she said كان النساء with a woman يبعثنا إلى عائشة they were sent to عائش رضي الله تعالى عنها بالدرجة فيها الكسرفو فيه الصفرة من دم الحيضة they used to send little boxes وفي هذه العام they were cloths in it different colors they wanted to know is this part of the حيضة or not and عائشة would look into it this shows us the need that we have for women to be ones to do this a woman who knows thick very well who when the women come to her they can show her things that men can't see things that women will be shy to talk to about a sheikh with or a da'i are we all together and you brothers need to study so you can answer them for your wife or also you're going to tell the sheikh to call your wife to call the sheikh are we all together brothers and sit there and just listen to the sheikh give a verdict to your wife no study learn study learn these issues so when it comes in your household you are the one who can deal with it and number one the woman should learn it for herself she should what she should learn these for herself and the fact that we need a sister who studies these issues very well that she can respond and help the sisters in these issues and the women in these issues so they used to send it to عائشة and they would ask her hey what did she think about this is this part of the حيضة or not and عائشة would say in response is this from the حيضة is this that she has to pray and عائشة will say don't hasten women حتى ترين القصة البيضة until you see a white discharge don't hasten until you see that to read until you see the pure closeness don't وعن أمي سلمة أمي سلمة she said أمي سليم she came to the messenger فقالت شيسر يا رسول الله or message of الله إن الله لا يستحيى من الحق الله is not shy from the truth فهل على المرأة من وصل إلى حتلمة if a woman she has a wet dream and fluid comes from her فأس she said يا رسول الله الله is not shy of what الله is not shy of the truth she started with that آية so meaning she's gonna ask her what are you with me brothers she آية indicates that something to be shy about but she said don't be shy or message of Allah I need to know this and shyness what does it do brothers and sisters it prevents a person from learning the scholars they said المستحي والمتكبر لا يتعلماني the shy and the and the arrogant they never they never learned عائشة said رحم الله النساء الأنصار عائشة said may Allah have mercy upon the women of أنصار لم يمنعهم الحياة شاينس did not prevent them from learning the religion it didn't stop them they learned it they came to a prophet and they asked okay so ask if you have an issue don't let shyness prevent you from learning ask find out so what did she ask she said if a woman has wet dream see she's something in her dream and the scholars they say it means she sees intimacy in her in a stream and then fluid come from her man or woman what should she do in this situation so sometimes the person may have a wet dream or may see something in their dream but when they wake up nothing is there this is there's nothing upon you there's nothing upon you all you just need to look at is what came from you that if the woman and even if you don't remember a wet dream but you see fluid you're like when did this come from and you don't remember a dream what do you have to do you still have to do it doesn't matter the fluid is what determines everything look at umu salamah when she asked a question what did she do yeah she covered some of the scholars used this to say is the face of the woman is it aura does the woman have to cover her face was umu salamah's face showing at this moment or not huh why are you answering the question brothers yeah i'm of the opinion is where do you for the woman cover her face i'm of that opinion i'm of the opinion that is what but how do you respond to this حديث umu salamah ها what do you think but if she was shy why would she cover her face if her face was already covered should have been covered in the first phase what but the messenger she covered her face from the prophet the reason why she was shy she just asked a very question that so she covered her face she was nervous so if the niqab is wajib she should have had her face covered she shouldn't have to worry yeah what is that confused here we don't have all of that this is before the i to niqab and hijab came this is before the what before the ruling are we all together be careful like in this is a مسألة is a خلافي issue like in the strongest opinion is that the woman's face is what is the is the legs of the woman aura is her legs aura her foot is her feet is her feet is it aura yeah what's more fitna her legs or her face in the face how is the شريعة then say that she has to cover her feet i'm not a faith شغل باني said that's what did he say he said that's a philosophical argument he said that شغل باني is of the opinion that the face is not he doesn't believe his aura he doesn't believe that and he said this is a philosophical answer he said if you guys ask me that and i'll say the same thing to you what is more fitna her eyes or her cheek which was more of a fitna he said eyes is the why you show in the eyes شغل باني رحم الله i said that in his kitab جل باب المرأة المسلمة على كل حال we just we need to take benefits from these our habits because there's a lot of things to take from it and sometimes you have to think on these issues right you have to think وقالت يا رسول الله she said oh messenger of allah وتحت وقالت يا رسول الله وتحتليم المرأة the prophet she said oh messenger of allah there's a woman have a dream the prophet said نعم she does ربت رب he said he said yes let your right hand be dusted i'ma be put in dust and what and that is why the sun resembles his mother what does he mean by that it means that when the wife and the husband they have intimate relationship a fluid comes from the woman and it comes from the man if that fluid comes from the woman first then the child looks like the woman and if it comes from the man first what is it that the child he looks like the father that's what the fuqaha mentioned medically i don't know but that's what they mentioned وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله وتعالى عنه قال رسول الله the messenger said خير صفو في الرجال رجال أولها the best line for the men is the what what line is the best for the men the front line وشرها اخيرها the west did i jump something the brothers like this حديث ها you really want us to cover this حديث okay we'll cover this حديث for your brothers وعن عبد الرحمن عوفن عبد الرحمن عوفن he said رضي الله وتعالى عنه قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم إذا صلت المرأة if the woman prays her five daily prayers وصامت شهرها and she fast in the month of ramadan وحفظت فرجها and she protects her private part واطاعت زوجها and she obeys her husband قيل لها it will be said to her أنت من أي أبوابي which ever of the doors of jannah you wish الجنة تشيطي you choose whichever of the eight doors of jannah جنة is eight doors how far is how many how far is seven جنة is eight it will be said to the woman you choose whichever of those eight doors of jannah you want to enter from but five things are needed from her the first one is that she prays her صلاة five daily prayers she fast a month of ramadan she protects her private part and she what she obeys her husband واطاعت زوجها she obeys him she listens to him you see obedience is obligatory on the side of the woman are we all together a woman has to obey her husband واجب she's sinning if she doesn't do what her husband tells her to do if her father commands her and her husband her husband takes presidents شر عن the husband takes presidents even over her father very vital are we all together واطاعت زوجها and he she obeys her husband she listens to him ها واطاعت and she obeys زوجها قيل لها it will be said to the woman او دخولي انت من اي ابواب which ever of the doors of jannah you wish you're free you choose meaning she's so guaranteed جنة that she she could choose which whichever she wants الهديث الثامن والعشرون the 28 حديث وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال قال رسول رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم at the messenger said خير صفوف الرجالي the best line for the man is which one اولها which one the front line is the best for the man وشرها and the worst line for the man is which one اخيرها the last وخير صفوف النسائي which line is the worst for the women اخيرها which one so the first is the worst for them and the best one is for them is what the last وشرها اولها why at the time of the messenger there was no barrier between the men and the women so the men and the women they could see if the man looked back you could see that you could see the woman are we all together so the last line for the man would be next to the word and the more closer you are to the women the more great the closer you are to fitna we all together the closer you are to what fitna ولذلك لذا كتابه طرق الحكمية طرق الحكمية في السياسة الشمعية written by ابن القيم الجوزية it talks about islamic politics you know what he said he said governments go down governments go because of free mixing free mixing destroys constitution government it goes Allah collapses it dangerous free mixing the consequences of it is great we've seen it with our own eyes people come to me on a regular basis and there are cases of rape on women oh if you look at it it's because of free mixing in the household a cousin who was not meant to be in that position and my girl who's not could have been divided fitna came from it and when Allah's commands are gone against this is the consequence of our bed to be very vigilant in our children and our household who comes in and who leaves is your uncle don't worry he'll take you is a far uncle where where this was the uncle is because in the tribe this is a problem cousins where where is the cousin dad's uncle's friend's neighbor that's the cousin and he's in the house with the wife and his children and everything and then later problems come from it are we all together يا اخوة this religion came to protect our honor it came to protect our women our children it came to protect our issues are we all together your brother is living in your house and sometimes you're leaving him in the house with your wife شرع الله يا جوز you permitted this for you i trust my brother i know i trust my brother but i don't trust sheypan are we all together brothers for anyone let them look at you as though you came from a different world let them see you as that that's more better for you than the evil consequences that will come from this والله that's something you need to keep in mind divide the children don't mix with the opposite agenda don't let them stay together in the room alone شيطان will not give up and he will make sure he brings corruption here he wants عائلين لا يجب ان يجب ان يتبقى في نفس الهيب فتنا فساد so والله يتبقى الشريعة هذا الهيب ستنظر after us it's gonna take good care of us if we follow it if we do as we should وعن أم عطية رضي الله تعالى عنها قالت أمرنا رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلمة the messenger commanded us أن نخرج هن that we bring the women out في الفطري والأضحة عيد الفطري sorry والله i don't know why i'm jumping yeah وعن ابن مسعودين رضي الله عنه عبد الله ابن مسعودين narrated قال قال رسول الله the messenger said إن المرأة عورة the woman is a what she's a aura this hadith shows she's all aura because it didn't say except so it's unrestricted isn't it not unrestricted the woman is aura look فإذا خرجت فإذا خرجت إذا الخرج في وئش she goes out what happens is تشرفة شيطان شيطان اخذ مدعوة بها معجشة انها تبدو تبدو تبدو like what she isn't هل انت with me if this woman even did not look good what would you do أيضاً يجب أن يجعلها تظهر أفضل للجميع. هل أنت معي أخي؟ أخي شاء الله تعالى أنه يبدو جيداً. لكن أنا أقول أنه يجب أن يأخذ شيئاً ويجعل شيئاً منه. يجب أن يأخذ. لأنه يجب أن يكون لديه مباشرة. أقرب ما تكون من وجه ربها وهي في قعر بيتها. She is never closer to Allah. وأقرب ما تكون من وجه ربها. The time that she is most closest to Allah is when she stays in her house. The woman, the time she is most closest to Allah is when she stays at home. وقرنا في بيوت كنا. ولا تبررجنا تبرج الجاهلية الأولى. وأقمن الصلاة وأاتين الزكاة وأطعن الله ورسوله. The woman should just stay at home. والله this is good for you. I'll give you a prime example. The queen of the UK doesn't walk around on the streets. She doesn't. والله she doesn't. And guess what? The queen, no one is allowed to touch her. Even if she's not touched. Are you with me? And she gives you her four-frogged fingers and she wears gloves. What am I like that? They protect her. Are you with me brothers? All of that. She's not like you can't just jump on her. Better than that. Has given what? That to our women. Kept them at home. Protected, cared for. Look, why can't a woman be happy? That she's at home. And a man's running around like a headless chicken. He's bringing money home. And he gives it to her. She should be happy. And he says this is the money. Isn't that something to be happy about? And you all seen this new hashtag that came out which is called what? Me too, right? Where? Think about it. That's what they want. These are the people who say freedom. Why they don't want it? They just want these women to come out and this is what they want to do to them. That was the read. That's what they understand of. Let the women come out and let them do this to her. These are the biggest countries in the world who claim what? Freedom. That's really what they want. And Islam is against that. You know what it is? They are jealous. We Muslims, they can't see our women. And their women are running around like this. But our women are protected and hidden from us. They're jealous. So it's like, why don't they come out? You're pressing them. Bring them out for us so we can see them. Wallahi, that's what it is. Am I making sense? Wallahi, that's what it is. I want to see what you have at home. Wallahi, the most valuable things are the things that you don't see. Is it not true? Why is a rock a rock on the surface of the earth different from a pebble? The jewels are the diamond that's found deep down. What's the difference? Are they both rocks? Are they both not rocks? What's the difference? The one on the top is a man. The diamond is a woman. Meaning the man is all over the place. And the woman is hidden and she's covered and she's not seen. That's the value Allah gave us. When you take that away from yourself you lose value. Wallahi, you lose value. The men who say the woman should come out and they are deep down. Deep down. They know that that's no value. They know deep down that that's not true. I'm not kidding, they won't say it because it's تحوذ عليه بالشيطان. الشيطان has taken them. الحديث الثلاثونة. The 30th حديث. وعن أم عطية رضي الله عنها قال she said أمرنا رسول الله رسول الله the messenger commanded us أن نخرج هنة that we bring the women out. في الفطري عيد الفطري وعيد الأطحة we bring the women out. الأوائق والحيضة وذواك الخضوري the women who are menstruating the women who are in the inner chambers all of them and it's obligatory for every single person to come to عيد الفطري even the women is on menstruation it has to come. Today is about number. It's about numbers and everybody being there. The Muslims that's what they have to do. Everyone comes. The woman on her menstruation what did she do? She doesn't pray with the people she sits on the side but she comes. What did she do? She comes. The Prophet said فأم الحيضة the woman who is on her menstruation فاعتزلنا الصلاة they don't pray with the people. ويشهدنا الخيراء and they what? They participate with خير. ولي ذلك I remember شق عد المحسر رحمه الله تعافظه الله he said something very good which is a question that was asked to put to him sometimes you find men who see women standing somewhere when the Salah is being prayed and he says to her why don't you pray? غريب man doesn't talk to a woman and say come pray Salah because the woman can come to the place where it's been prayed and she sits on the sign and she doesn't pray because there's a رضر شرعي are we all together? so this is not your bad don't enter it don't enter it don't talk about it let them do what they're doing ويشهدنا الخيراء the women will come and they will participate with the good ودعوة المسلمينة قلت يا رسول الله look at the صحابيات and how they were like she said احدانا لا يكونوا لها جلباب one of us doesn't have a jilbab what she do? يسأل لي تلبيسها اختها من جلبابها let her sister share with her say look sister here I can spare a job in which I can give you this is to show that she has to come that emphasizes on that the وجوب she's saying I don't have it do I come? yeah you still have to come what do you do? you borrow it so that shows عيد الفتر عيد العضحة if that's for the women who are on their menstruation is it obligatory for the men to come عيد الفتر is wajib for the men as well wajib you have to come نعم unless the concept of it coming with I raise another discussion وعان أبي هريرة رضي الله تعالى عنو قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم the messenger said ليس للنساء وساط الطريق women the middle of the road is not for women a woman should never be walking in the middle of the road and she's walking عجيب you see a woman walking right in the middle of the road and the men don't understand around her لا the prophet said عليكم بحافات الطرق the woman should be on the corners on the side the woman should hide herself are we together sisters and brothers the sisters have to conceal themselves even when they're on the road you know and a sister will see another sister أم لا how are you on the other side of the road and she's talking to her and let me introduce now that you've come out because of a necessity something necessary brought you out stick to it be necessary what do you do go out hide yourself do what you have to do come rushing back home don't stand in the middle of the road and start thinking and texting and messaging أصلاً the woman's أصلاً is that she should hide herself may Allah protect our women for us and all of them in this world and hereafter وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله تعالى عنه أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال لا يحل it is not permissible لمراعة in a woman تؤمن who believes بالله she believes in Allah واليوم الآخري and she believes in the day of judgment to safiru she should not travel مسيرة يوم in the distance of one day and one night إلا معذي محرم عليها except with a محرم this hadith it shows what what does it show the duration of one day and one night another narration says she should not travel at all the one that says she should not travel at all encompasses the rest under it even if it's 20 minutes she's not allowed to a woman should not travel travel and leave her land that she's in if she believes in Allah a woman should not travel and the man she should not let his wife just travel countries destinations and distances she should not this is this is this is a prophet he said are we all together brothers this is not permissible it's a it's a harm when a woman travels by herself in that air what could happen what could go wrong what could take place are we all together a woman should not travel the messenger said that لا يحلو it is not permissible لمرأة a woman تؤمن بالله did she believe in Allah did she believe in the day of judgment she should not travel some scholars they said some scholars they said that if there is a woman if there is a if a man takes her from one side of the airport or he she's for example she's leaving from Dubai and he takes her to the airport and then on the other side who's waiting for her her brother her father or somebody on the other side then there's no problem and if the journey is less than a day and night some scholars they said that there's no problem with this there is there is a problem what about if the plane goes to another destination change of route are we all together for whatever reason the fuel finish I'm just saying what about if something goes wrong technical problem and they say you know what we have to go to Hungary and she was going to a different direction like she has spent a day and night in a hotel by herself are we all together brothers this is not something good this is not something good don't question avoid it stay away from this I hope these these we will see if we implement it or if you are Allah don't make these evidence on proof against yourself by doing this inshallah you find happiness open your heart and it will be easy for you Inshaallah رضي الله تعالى عنه قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلمة سنفاني من أهل الناري 2 طيب من كارتوريستي of the people of the hellfire لم أراهما .. I have not seen them The messenger is saying 2 types of people I haven't seen them Meaning they are going to come in the what? The late .. They are going to be the signs of the hour I haven't seen them So something that was present at the time of the messenger سنجع عليه صلاة الله عليه وسلم سنفاني 2 كاراترس تقاتل لم أراهما لن أرى هل جاء شخصكم يتقلوا ثقاء كأدناب البقرة كأدناب البقر هنالك ماذا الهيارة يضربون بها الناس يحضرون للأمور what are they doing ? lashing people goatee what are you doing ? it's whatever is mentioned pay attention that is going to happen in an hour to come it doesn't show it's permissible and doesn't show it's not impermissible are we all together ? do not come and say our police officers are haram no it's not the profit is just stating something that's goatee are we all together ? just because the profit stated that this is going to happen it doesn't mean it's haram but the other one is which the profit is going to mention are we together ? we are going to mention it this is talking about a people who are lashing people unjustly oppressing them wronging them whips and they are lashing and beating the people unjustly that's going to be present when it's out with women كاسيات العريات they are wearing clothing and they are naked they are wearing clothes they have clothes on and they are naked how ? the scholar has mentioned two ways either the clothes is too tight so everything can be seen or the clothing is see through see through you can see right through it كاسيات عريات they are wearing clothes but they are naked كاسيات عريات these women they are inclined to and they make their husband inclined to them they are women who try to attract كاسيات البختي their women is sorry their heads is like the hump of a camel they make their hair high شرعان is not permissible for a woman to wear a hijab and then she has her hair help she is not allowed to when she does her hijab her hair has to go down this indicates she is showing the people she has got a lot of hair because that makes sense are we all together where the Sharia talks about it رؤوسهم their head is with her that is high up she puts her head she makes a knot right at the top to give the inclination this is how it is كاسيات البختي المائلة and it is tilted لا يدخلنا الجنة these women will not enter Jannah and the first group that was mentioned as well are not going to enter Jannah ولا يجيدنا ريحها and they will not smell the fragrance of Jannah وإن ريحها they will smell the fragrance of Jannah will be smelled from لا يوجد من مسيرة كده وكده meaning that will be so far from Jannah let alone entering Jannah they won't even smell it and they will be placed in a distance far from Jannah إِنَّا لِلَّهُ وَإِنَّا لَا رَجْعُونَ الله إِفْنَا رِيْهُ وَإِنَّا لَهِ مَحَمْدْ سَوْهُ Instagram if you saw Facebook yeah if you saw snap Snapchat all this that's going on إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا لَا رَجْعُونَ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيَ رَجْعُونَ this is normal now there's no hiding this مشكلة women have to watch how they dress I advise you because due to time we can't go through all of it my plan was to go through it but sisters there are seven conditions for a jilbab if it does not meet those seven conditions it's not a hijab are we with together go to the Kitab جِلْبَابِ المَرْعَةِ المُسْلِمَ بَرْشِخَ لَلْبَانِ he mentions the seven the whole book is about those seven conditions for a jilbab hijab if it doesn't meet those seven conditions it is not a hijab are we all together from them being it can't be tight also it has to be hard if a woman is wearing it's worse here but it's silky so it sticks on her skin and her body it's not permissible it has to be tough so it doesn't stick on her body not allowed two, three the woman is not allowed to wear colorful that attracts people she's inside a group of sisters who are wearing black and she's got pink on wearing a pink hijab or she's wearing a bright yellow hijab and a juice it's not permissible fourth it can't look like a men's clothes fifth she can't wear a hijab that's made out of jeans مثلا why? because that falls under تشبه الكفار imitate the kufar and whatnot where it's a Calvin Klein and whatnot hijab or wearing a hijab that imitates a men's clothing are we all together you see men and women when it comes to clothing the texture the texture they both seem to be the same are we all together except the women have silk the men don't that's the only texture that men are not allowed the difference between men and women's clothing is the form in which it's made not the texture does that make sense it's the form and the way it's made does that make sense we're together so Sheik Al-Bani mentions the seven go through it إن شاء الله تعالى he brings evidence for each one each one he mentions evidence for it if it doesn't read those conditions then you know you're not wearing a what you're not wearing a hijab الحديث الرابع وثلاثول وعن وعن أسامة بن زيد رضي الله تعالى عنها عنهما قال كسان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قبطية كثيفة كانت من ما أهداها دحلة الكلبي أسامة بن زيد رضي الله تعالى عنهما he said the message of صلى الله عليه وسلم he gave me a thick material that was known as it was known as قبطية that was the clothing it was known as and it was a clothing given to the message of صلى الله عليه وسلم by the noble companion دحلة الكلبي he gave it to the messenger as a gift فَكَ سَوْتُهَا مَرَأَتِهِ صحابه he loves his wife so he went and he gave it to his wife what did he do he went home and he gave it to his wife he said where it's yours فقال لي رسول الله the messenger said to me ما لك لم تلبس القبطية why didn't you know what the cupitia that were you given as a gift I said يا رسول الله I can sew to him right I gave it to my wife فقال لي رسول الله the messenger said to her said مروحة فلتجعل تحتها غلالة tell her to wear under it something غلالة something aligning or whatever under it إني أخاف أنتصفة حجم عظامها because the cloth I know the way it was I'm scared that it may what show her joints and her body parts and her figure it might show her physique I'm scared it might do that so tell her to wear something under it what does that show you this shows you that the hijab that the woman is wearing cannot be something that sticks on her body it can't be tight and even if it's not tight but there are some hijabs that what do they do they they stick on your skin or they stick on your body or it sits on your body whereas if it's hard what happens it goes out and it doesn't stick to you that's what's needed you see وعالبن عباس رضي الله تعالى عنهما عبن عباس الهنراتن قاله he said لعن رسول الله the messenger cast المتشبهين من الرجال بالنسى the men who imitate the women الله's curse is upon the man who tries to imitate a woman even if it's a joke and you're making your wife laugh your curse of Allah is going to be upon you some men what they do is they're joking with their wives and they wear hijab they want to make the family laugh لعن رسول الله the messenger cast المتشبهين من الرجال بالنسى you can't wearing makeup for men falls under this are we all together men plucking their eyebrows feminine men doing what they call her all of this لعن رسول الله the messenger cast what is لعن اطرض من رحمة الله الله's mercy is distanced from you that's why some people are suffering Allah's curse is distanced from the mercy of Allah is not coming to this house also what والمتشبهات من النسائب الرجال the women who are what dressing like men the women who are dressed like men are we all together she's wearing men's clothes clothes in the house she's taking her husband's clothes and she's wearing it she's sharing his clothes with him dangerous because she took it from Hollywood that she takes his t-shirts and she wears it she takes his what she wears it لعن رسول الله falls under this حديث okay brothers and sisters why are you all looking at me like that for حديث حديث حديث حديث حديث حديث look like that for حديث this is a rulings these 42 حديث are meant to change your lives ليهلك من هلك ع养ينات السادس done 36 وعن من عباسه Meter radar Heran ؟ أنه ήسمع النبي صلى الله عليه و سلم تقوله فقاما راجولون اي ما استطلق فقال اي سر يا رسول الله او بسجل الله اكتو تيب تو I was written في غزوة كنا وكنا I was written in the journey so and so وخرجت امرأة حاجة and my wife is she is doing Hajj she is doing Hajj she is doing Hajj she is doing Hajj she is doing Hajj she is doing Hajj and I was written in the battle so and so meaning I can't go with her to Hajj the messenger said leave the battle go to your wife catch her and do Hajj with her this shows that the woman cannot do Hajj without her محرم pay attention pay attention can a woman do Hajj without a محرم yeah can a woman do Hajj without a محرم if you say no then that means you believe that a محرم is from the conditions of Hajj is that what you believe so you are saying that it's a chart for Hajj that the man is a condition for the Hajj we know that we know it's for everybody so you say there is an additional condition for the woman yeah so does that mean she can do Hajj without her husband the scholars they say pay attention to this Hajj is still upon her but she can't travel so she has to pay for somebody else to do on her behalf she has the money she has the ability to go but she doesn't have anyone to take her she's not allowed to go she funds somebody else and somebody else does it for her and I expanded this on in my شرح it's great details we don't have too much time now الحليث السابع وثلاثون وعن عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال the messenger said أي ممراءة in any woman نكحت who gets married بغير إذن وليها without the permission of her Wali فنكاحوها باطل فنكاحي pay attention can a woman get married without the permission of her father we're talking about a father that is a Muslim if he's not a Muslim he has no willaya over the woman we're talking about a Muslim father a Muslim father if a girl goes and she gets married without her father's permission she goes and she gets married is that نكاح صحيح but what about if they had children are those children يا no he's children are fine he's children there's nothing wrong but the minute the ruling is told to him if he carries on his dinner now does that make sense like the Hanafis they believe that the woman can get married without the permission of her Wali and it was wrong in this issue are you with me so you tend to find that you might come across some individual say to you oh my parents got married without the father's permission they were in the UK and they met each other and they tell us they had me and look at me I'm 45 now now what should we do in this situation are you with me we say no problem there's nothing wrong with what your the son masha'a Allah everything's right this is called نكاح الرفوب I made a video on this quote the ruling on marrying without the permission of the guardian I made a 5 or 6 part series on it where I bought all the evidences even if the woman is a widow some people think if she's a widow or she's a divorcee they think she can marry herself off she still needs the guardian to marry her off are we all together the only difference is that the virgin she's shy when her father brings her brother for her she's shy she will look around she's confused but she wants it but she can't say that I want it nowadays they can things have changed but back in those days they will look down are you with me because she went through marriage automatically she will say I don't want this one he's not the one I'm looking for so she can speak for herself that's the only difference but both of them they need the permission of what the guardian and everything for that is the story of معقلي بن يسار he got divorced by a man when he divorced her معقل said to the man I promise you you're never going to marry my sister but watch I'm never going to give you my sister again because what happened was they're finished he divorced her and he never took her back in the time that he could have taken her back so they're finished and now men started to come for their sister and then the ex-husband heard they were jealous so he came running and he came to her brother and then he said to her marry me off to your sister and she wanted her ex-husband she doesn't know who these guys are coming she knows her ex-husband so what happened he said I'm never going to marry you off to her I told you this then Allah reviewed معقل بن يسار معقل بن يسار for this action of not marrying her off to his to his sister the question here is Allah said don't stop them from marrying the man that they want and become an obstacle between her and the man Allah is rebuking the guardian معقل if she could marry without the permission of her willy Allah wouldn't have to speak to معقل بن يسار she could have just went and married so the guardian is there to marry the woman off based on who she wants and if this person is good for her he shouldn't use the guardian as a form to what abuse the girl that's not why it was given to him if the girl brings a guy he goes good qualities religion, deem everything is there he shouldn't say no he should not what he should not say no you وإلا تفعلوا تكون في الارضي فترة great calamities and great problems will come from this pay attention to that so any woman who does that gets married without a willy or the man does it without a willy then this niqaah is bad you don't need to divorce her by the way when you find out that this niqaah is not right what do you do? just go separate ways and I remember there was a situation like that where we had to tell a people who were married for 32 years we said this niqaah was bad because the father wasn't asked so we separated them and then we said go separate ways and then we said to the husband if you want now we can do a niqaah for you the woman said Allah saved me I don't want him tell him to leave me alone Allah saved me 32 years I was with him she said don't marry him off to me it was a jeeb and he said why this was a sign so yes it's her choice now it's something new if she wants to consider it are we all together what about if he had intimacy with her we told them to go separate ways but what about the meher the meher here is what not what they stated it's not a null and void it's not a null and void but the meher here is called meherul mitli what is it meherul mitli the women of her time 32 years ago how were the women and what were they married what was the equivalent that's what's given to her no man can have intimacy with a woman and not pay her شارع عنط not permissible are we together فأيليش تجروا فالسلطان ولي يوم اللى ولي اللى if a woman doesn't have no guardian no person then the guardian is in the hands of what an imam or a qavi somebody takes the control of that issue for example she's a new muslim ومائلة ذا لي وعن حسيني بن محسنين قال حدثتني عمتي قالت أتيت النبية حسيني بن محسنين he said that his paternal art came to the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم for something and he dealt with her need فقال اي هذه أدات بعلن أنتي then he صلى الله عليه وسلم said do you have a husband he asked her do you have a husband she said yes he said how are you with him كيف أنتي له how are you towards him قالت she said I do not shoot him إلا ما عجزت عنه I am not a person who holds back I do everything I can for my husband unless when I am unable to do something قال then the messenger said to her فأين أنتي منه where you are from him فإنما هو جنة كي ونارو كي he is your jannah and your na'a be careful this is what the path to jannah or the path to the hellfire وعن بسعيد الخضرير رضي الله قال رسول الله the messenger said إن من أشر الناس the worst of people is in the eyes of Allah يوم القيامة الرجولة يفضي إلى مراعتي has an intimate relationship with his wife واتفضي إليه and she has an intimate relationship with him and then what do they do they both talk about the intimate relationship to their friends or other people ثم ينشروا سرها he talks about his wife other wife talks about her husband these are the worst people in the eyes of Allah إنالي الله وإنالي رجع they are very common that people do this they speak about their private life إنالي الله وإنالي رجع you have no secret your life is out there people are talking about it you only think you told one person or two people eleven people know one and one is what eleven you think you told three people 111 people know إنالي الله وإنالي خبيت it's filthiness that a person talks about their private life this is your wife and a wife is talking about her husband I'll tell you brothers and sisters something if you and your wife are together and there's a conflict between the two of you don't tell anyone keep it to yourself if you do tell anyone let it be a time when you're going separate ways that's my policy why do I say that because you both might have a conflict and you go to your parents either the father's side or the mother's side and then you make up later because you both know it was a trivial issue like if the mother hasn't forgotten she's like this girl has destroyed my son other girls parents are saying this guy is causing my daughter problems but you both knew that you took it out of proportion when you were talking because you were angry that day you were frustrated but you really know that's not what your husband is like and your husband knows that really this is not how your wife is really like the day you come to your parents let it be a time when you are going separate ways what you have to say is going to be the last thing you say before that be strong enough to solve your own problems are we all together because wallahi I've seen this myself the more people that get their hands into your relationship you guys are not controlling anything it reaches a point subhanallah sometimes where the husband can't talk to his wife he has to go through a waspah a chain of narration he has to say look talk to her sister that's my wife doesn't that happen why did that happen in the first place if you want if you locked your lips and you don't talk don't let people talk about your life don't let people speak about your issues remember your tongue and your teeth are the closest and you bite yourself you are the two closest people are we all together this is going to happen 29 nights he had to boycott all of his wives you guys know that famous hadith 29 nights he boycott all of his wives he left them for straight and upset I'm not going to go into that now but the point is it happened to him and I want you to all remember something you both grew up in two different households two different lifestyle of course you're going to see things different sometimes as long as before I go into that you both have grown up in two different environments two different mindsets two different households some of you this family will say the cup is half full and this one say half empty none of you guys can say what you what you were raised up is the dean it's not it's culture it's what it's the way your parents saw it they raised you and this one none of your sides have a everything they said does that make sense even sometimes just because you grew up like this doesn't mean it's always right open your mind and say maybe I should try something new are you together معاوية was asked how do you govern these people for this long you are strong معاوية govern powerfully how did you do it he said I saw it as though I had a rope between me and the people when they pulled I let go and when they let go I pulled that's a marriage both people cannot let pull gonna snap in the middle if you see a problem in your spouse I can reassure you there's thousands of other good things that she has and if you complain about your sometimes a sister calls me she asks me a question my husband's this this this and I say to the sister that's me you're describing سفقان نحن هكذا we're all like this sister who are you looking for that's the واقع are we all together it's the truth every household has the same problem don't let no one fool you we're all going through the same problems are we all together we just have different ways of responding to the issue are we all together and how we control the situation and we can we don't let it go bigger are we all together brothers and this is very important so just this perception that the marriage has to be good every day it's gonna have downs it's gonna go up it's gonna tolerance this time you're gonna laugh about your mistake how silly were we to do this and how but the point is be open minded that not necessarily everything you've been cultivated is right it's not always right and not everything you were told it's this it's not always the case if it's issue related to the religion now don't compromise I can't but if it's this should be done like this and not like this okay let me take things from you you take things from me إن شاء الله إن شاء الله الحديث الاربعون وعن أم سلمة رضي الله وعنها قالت دخل علي النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم وعن دي مخنث ومسلمة she said دخل علي النبي the messenger and there was a مخنث مخنث إذا ما أنه زوات هي شيء what's a good way of saying it what are the things with all these terms transsexual what do you call it she, he, she I don't know she, male all these I don't know which one is which I've got confused at the end the point is male and female so he has the tendencies because the عرب the word مخنث it means all of those words can be فسلعتوا يقولوا يا عبد الله إبن أبي أمية I had him سيت عبد الله من أبن أبي أمية يا عبد الله أرأيت إن الله إن فتح الله عليك الطائفة غدا فعليك ببنة غيلان يمخنث is talking he said إذا الله تبارك وتعالى tomorrow allows طائف to be conquered then upon you is what the duto of غيلان why for and with eight meaning he was able to describe her he knew some secrets about the women he was sitting with the women but he was looking meaning there was شهوة in him towards men's side so he was talking about things so the Prophet ﷺ said لا يتخلن لها أولى عليكنا don't let these type of people come into you because they know what's happening and that's another issue there's boys who are big and they sit with women and the mother is like no he's a little kid he knows everything that's taking place so this is dangerous this is dangerous be careful الحديث الحادي والاربعونة the 41 حديث وعلى عبد الله يبلم السعود رضي الله تعالى عنه وقال لعن الله ما الله سكاس بي أبن الواشماتي والموتشماتي والمتنمصاتي والموتف اللي جاتي للحسن المغيراتي خلق الله may Allah's kiss be upon who the ladies who practice الواشمات the women who do tattoo on themselves they are cursed and the men of course the ones who do tattoo are cursed okay tattoos were present at that time are we all together but if somebody done it before Islam and they've got it on them or before they started practicing the religion it's not obligatory to get rid of it it's not necessary it's not obligatory it's not لأن الضرر is hard the harm that comes from trying to remove it is hard like in some of them when you're in Da'wah and you're the Imam of the mosque then these issues come to you I remember one man he had a tattoo of a naked woman on him are you with me and another one across Salib on his arm you can't what can you do and this harms the skin skin cancer even if it goes there's still something still there the money you have to pay to analyze too much these things they need from the Ulama it needs to be revised and looked at because this is a big issue لعن الله مالله سبحانه وتعالى الواشمات the people who are practicing tattoo were placing tattoo on themselves so the ones who are doing it and the ones who are practicing both of us the one who's doing it does it for the people he doesn't do it for himself but he does it for the people and the other one who's doing it for him والمتنمصات are those who pluck their eyebrows what falls under the plucking of the eyebrows شخصة الحفوزان I mentioned is the woman who bleached their eyebrows and they write a pen on it they didn't cut their hair what did they do they bleach it the hair becomes the color of the skin so you can't see their hair on the eyebrows you can't see it and then they take a little pen this is what she does شخصة الحفوزان I said it's the same it's the same والمتنمصات she's plucking her eyebrows she's cursed والمتفلجات والمتفلجات were women who used to they used to make a little space between their teeth that was a beauty at that time changes over time chip their teeth there was a time in history when they used to do this little chip their teeth to make it beauty all of those is impermissible can a person change the way Allah created them yeah a woman cannot change the way Allah created her she can't but what about if the woman is so she can't do plastic surgery on herself and not she can't do that لكن if a woman has had a lot of children وما إلى ذلك and her body has changed the strongest opinion is that if she wants to bring it back to how it was before then this is not falling under وليغير نحلق الله if it doesn't fall under that الأثار والارباعون وعن أمي حبيبة أمي الممينين رضي الله عنها قال شي سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم شهد مسجب الله يقول سين لا يحل المراعة it is not permissible for a woman تؤمنوا بالله who believes in Allah واليوم الأخير and the day of judgment and to حدة على من يتن that she wails and moons for for over 30 over 3 إلا على زوجن except her husband except for what for her husband a woman is not allowed to moon over 3 days except for her husband فإن تحدوا علي أربعة أشهول وعشراء she can wail and moon not wail but moon feels sad for how much 4 months and what 10 days which is the عدة for the woman who loses her husband I now have to mention the issue of عدة which is that the woman if her husband dies how long is her عدة yeah how much أربعة أشهول وعشراء what about if she's divorced huh ثلاثة who said شهور شهور قراء extreme menstruation or extreme purification أسأل خلافي we'll leave that for another time whether it's three menstruation she has to count or three purification she has to count that's the difference of opinion but I want to say something if her husband divorces his wife because this is a big issue I had a case one time a woman came to me she got divorced by her husband عدة didn't finish she got married to another one second husband the عدة didn't finish then he divorced her without the عدة finished for the second one she married the third one he divorced they went separate ways and then عدة she married the fourth one she's on her fourth one now she comes to me I said to her you and this man go separate ways you have to all the عدة you missed you've been here now every single عدة that you missed the three months three months how many three, six, nine right all of them you have to bring and guess what your first husband if he wants to take you back he can take you back because the عدة wasn't counted dangerous the detailed dangerous matter are we all together brothers each عدة is تعبودي you need to come with it and if your first husband finds out that you're counted the first عدة what is he going to do he's got the time he's got the chance to say رجعتو I come back from it right and if he wants he can take you back and if he doesn't take you back the second one here is that you're doing the عدة for him what can you do he can take you back are we all together brothers another issue that you find is that a man divorces his wife he divorces his wife and they go separate ways and this was the last divorce الطلاقو مراتاني he divorced at the third time it's all over finished so what does he do to her he says to her go and what go and marry somebody else go get married they call the sheikh and they say sheikh this what happened okay that's a divorce sister I can't do nothing for your brother he is a divorce it happened they go separate ways he tells her okay you know what go get married when she goes when she gets married to another man شرعاً there has to be intimacy for the other man that she's going to get married to are we all together he has to and she has to marry that other husband with a will that she wants to be with him she cannot do it because she wants to come back to the first why this would be زينا with this one and if she comes back to this one it's زينا with this one شيخو الإسلامي بلوتيمي wrote a kitab بيانو الدليل في بطلاني التحليل are we all together these are issues that are taken very lightly very very lightly are we all together when we had a situation came one time a woman did that she her and her husband agreed he said okay I got a brother you can get married to go get married to him how does he even feel but he told her she said okay she went and she got married when she got married she said I'm going to stay with this one sorry I don't want to come back to you he got angry he came to me he came angry he said this is what she did we had an agreement I said first of all she's not married to that one so when she went to was it an agreement for both of you no she's not married to him she needs to leave him number one are we all together nothing here what she's doing in زينا she has if he wants him now she can get married to him he said but what about me I said that's between you two I can't force her into it are we all together that's important that these nowadays people are taking money out of the people there's a website they made for this there's men who are registered they do this for women do you guys hear it there's a website they made for it لا يجوزو it's not permissible we need to fear Allah these things you see people just want to make money out of people all of it was if they just followed the what the حكام of the شريعة they would have all been good I guess you guys learned a lot today things that impressed you and that was good for you and that was in favor for your lifestyle and things that what that upset you right هذا دين الله everyone here knows their life and their situation بل إنسان وعلى نفسه بصيرة ولو ولو القامة عادية all I want to say to all of you is the family the family is the heart of the society the household I mean is the heart of the society if our wives and children and husbands are all good we will live a good life let's fear Allah in all of our affairs may Allah perfect our marriages our lifestyle our children our household if I offended anyone in what I said that wasn't my that was not my intent I did not intend to do that