 So a good friend of mine recently asked me how is it that I can be so obsessed about my goals and be Kind of 24-7 just thinking about them day in day out, you know giving up everything for them And he wanted to be more like me. He actually said, you know He said I'm kind of ashamed to say it But but problem is I want to be more like you like I want to be That obsessed guy because he was always always about balance and now he wants to be the obsessed guy So what I explained to him was that me being obsessed when I had the periods where I just focused on one single thing It was actually very detrimental. It was bad Why is that? because when you choose just one specific thing like let's say your fitness or Your business and you say, okay, this is above everything else So I'm gonna focus on this 24-7 if I have a chance to maybe eat healthy It's it's willpower. That's not spent on the goal. So I'm not gonna do it If I have a chance to meet somebody I like No way because I want to focus on what makes me get to the goal so if I what if I hang out with people and I lose sight of the goal and You simply dedicate yourself like a do or die, you know, this is the mission But the problem is you become extremely Melancholic better You just you just hate your life basically because when you do that you say even my happiness Isn't as important as the goal So I'm still obsessed today. I'm still You know the same obsessed guy, but the whole difference is That today I obsess over everything. So I ask myself. What are my goals? not my one goal what are my goals in life and Then I come up with you know, I want to be fit. I want to be healthy. I want to be famous I want to have this much in assets. I want to coach this many people. I want to public speak I want to travel. I want to be calm. I want to be happy I want to have an amazing body and I use all these goals to fuel me and I am still obsessed 24-7 about my goals But the difference is that now I'm obsessed about everything So it's all my goals are number one Everything else is secondary. It's not this specific goal is number one and everything else in my life and me and my well-being is secondary Everything that I want is number one Everything that will make me happy. They will make me feel good Everything about me is number one everything else secondary And that way, you know, it might not be as effective as that single-minded focus But that single-minded focus like who's it good for? It's it's good for a very specific type of person like if you're like a Black guy from the Bronx Who all he knows is crime, violence, hate, rape, drugs You don't really have a life You have okay You know play basketball until you reach the NBA or you know build a business or or escape or you know Whatever it is you that guy thinks about doing to escape And everything else is like, you know drugs crime, but like Yeah, so you're you're one-sided you're very One point focused Because there's nothing else But as long as you have a social life you have friends You have uh, you care about happiness. It's not just survival based Well, if you don't maintain that respect towards all areas of your life You're going to be miserable So you have to take stock of everything you have That you care about right now or that matters to you Happiness wellness fitness Business, you know, even things you're not sure that you care about like Like some people will say, okay, once I become rich, then I worry about money, but It doesn't work like that. You know, there's many fat billionaires so Really make that stop like what are the things that I care about long term if nothing else matters You know, I want to be rich. I want to have this body. I want to be this famous I want to have take care of my family. I want to be calm or everything you want in your life And be obsessed about that. So be obsessed about everything In your life, and then you can allow yourself to fully go at it 24 seven And then you're happy while working towards all your goals Remember people who who get that level of success they think in terms of all They want everything they don't just want that one thing because Again, that's scarcity thinking you want to be a winner. You want to think I want to have everything I want to have everything in abundance. So whatever your one goal is Instead of trying to focus on it take everything that's important in your life take stock of it Make daily goals out of it and see what you get and you'll see that when you get the list You'll you get a list of that if you do everything every day, you'll be happy you make money You know, you love everything about your life, you know every single area And it's really important to attack it this way. I mean it's better to be You know, let's say, you know multimillionaire than a billionaire If going for the billionaire goal means you're going to give up everything that you love And going for the multimillionaire Means you get to keep everything of everything like, you know Makes sense So yeah, I hope this video helps you let me know If you have been affected by this kind of thinking And if you have any questions, let me know. Please subscribe if you haven't And I do coaching so contact me if you need help