 I'm live. I'm live. I'm coming to you at night because I know a lot of y'all work and don't get to come on live during the week or whenever I decide I want to go live. So I decided to come on on the weekend on a night. Oh, hold on. I'm on mute. Raise this volume up. Okay, can y'all hear me now? All right. So I titled this women get what they put up with. That means if you enter into any type of relationship or dating arrangement or anything and you start putting up with BS from the beginning, that's what you're going to continue to get throughout the relationship. That's why it's very important to, you know, set your standards super early in the relationship. Otherwise, you're going to get exactly what you're putting up with. That's going to continue. And when you accept a man as he is for months and months and months at a time, and then one day wake up and say, well, I don't want him to be like that anymore, and I want this and I want that, you can't just spring it on him and expect him to just change because that's not what he signed up for. That's not who he thinks you are. So I know a lot of, I know a lot of ladies are watching the videos and they've been in a relationship forever. And now they want their man or partner husband to change. And it's too late. Like, you already agreed to that lifestyle. So either you have to change or you have to get out of it or you have to let them know, look, we need to upgrade our life. You need to do better. And if he's not down for that, you can't expect him to change because that's not what he signed up for. Okay. He thought he was getting a good 50 50 hard working, like a man woman. So you got to stay doing that, or you got to move forward and say, look, I don't want to be the hard work and stay, you know, 50 50 woman anymore. So either you change or I got to go. You know, you have to tell them, look, I'm tired. This is not how it's supposed to be. I was brainwashed. You're the one that's supposed to be doing ABC and and, you know, if you can do that, great. If not, I need to see what else is out there and my other options. You know what I'm saying? So don't be afraid to ask for what you want and to tell people what you want. Even if it's, you know, far down in the relationship, you know, if that's what you want, that's what you want. Sometimes a lot of people want something and they never get it. And then they regret it later on in life. You know what I mean? So it's very important to get what you want because people can struggle by themselves. They don't need to be with a partner to struggle, you know, you can struggle alone and then still be free to date and actually have a chance to actually improve if you meet somebody better, you know, poison drinks the poison. Okay. So remember, don't try to change something or a man into someone who he never was. He settled for the relationship that he has with you because you were willing to go 50-50. Okay. So let me see. So I have, I've been watching a few videos. I've been listening to music. Jay-Z's new album came out where he actually apologized to Beyonce for all the stuff that he did to her and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's a good album. It's a mature album. He talks about being a real man and providing for his family and investing in real estate and art and how other guys need to get up on this type of thinking or else they'll never be financially free. So he was basically giving really good advice to men who, you know, are fake ballers or not really doing anything with them, with their lives or careers. So he's trying to give them some pointers in the right direction instead of like wasting their money on stupid stuff. And, you know, he said some lyric that, you know, you can't, we can't be rich if the, if we don't take care of the family, you know? So he was all about, you know, family, taking care of the family, you know, staying with his wife, making things work, teaching people how to earn money and make money instead of lose money. So I think it's a good album because people can learn something from it and get paid, you know what I'm saying? So shoot, he made me want to start going invested in real estate, but from listening to that album, like, I'm ready, I've got my money, let's go, you know, I'm gonna tell my husband, hey, you got some money saved, let's go invest in some real estate, you know? So the kind of thinking that grown men have versus, you know, boys is very different. So hopefully this album will help them start thinking in the right direction. And instead of, you know, skrr skrr and bad bougie, you know, maybe they'll start trying to grow up right there, you know? Yeah, I was lucky I have Sprint and I could get the title for six months for free and the Jay-Z album. I was, I've been with Sprint forever, y'all. I've been with Sprint since I've been with my husband. So long time. Anyway, tips on dealing with an ex's new girlfriend. She's obsessed with me. An ex's new girlfriend. I don't deal with anything ex. And, you know, I don't, you can't ask me to tell you how to deal with some, your ex boyfriend's girlfriend. Like I would just treat her like my best friend and like I really don't care about him, her dating him. And I would actually, you know, be cool. I don't, I don't deal with any ex's. So I don't know. But just play it cool and don't get, you know, emotional about it and just be friends, you know? He's her problem now. Right? I do have my own money. He got a bar, you know, today he asked me to borrow some money. And I was like, um, where's your money? He's like, oh, I have it in savings and I don't want to spend any money today. And I'm like, oops. I don't have any cash. I'm so sorry. I never have cash. So he went and got his money at the bank because he didn't feel like going to the bank. And I say, I do have my own money. And he does it to see if I'll give him money and I'll make him feel guilty for doing it. I'll say, um, I'll tell Layla, Layla, go get your piggy banks if you have any cash. And he'll say, no, no, no, don't do that. Don't do that. I'll go to the ATM. You know, he's trying to get lazy and I'm like asking me for money is like asking his daughter and child for money. So I always say, Layla, go get your piggy bank. Like, because I will never have cash and I don't carry cash. I just straight up cards. I have my own money because I do a lot of things online that I earn money for and I don't spend it. It just all goes to a savings. Like I might spend a little bit here and there on makeup and stuff, but the majority of it is in a savings. And I'm about to see if, you know, I can start investing it soon because I've saved up a lot. Um, so I do have my own money and, you know, that's a good thing. But I didn't have my own money for a long time. A long time. Let's say the last two years I just got my own money. But since before that, he's taken 100% care of me, like everything from my makeup, clothes, everything, like since I was 22 years old. So, and I'm 38 now. So he's been taking care of me for ever. I just started making, you know, money two years ago and I've been able to save a lot because I don't have to work and I don't have to pay bills. So I'm lucky like that. So, yeah, so women always, you know, if you're going to put up with something, prepare to put up with it for a long time. Don't turn around the next month and expect him to be Prince Charming when he wasn't that in the beginning. Make sure you ask for what you want in the beginning of every relationship, even if it's just, you know, your preference of a place to go on a date because you have to set the tone. So I know in the group, a lot of women are declining all these dates because these guys are trying to take them to cheap places or just to coffee or drinks and they're like, no, no, thanks. You know, so make sure you let them know because if they think they can get away with it, the next time it's going to be, you know, something else that you don't like. So don't ever agree to anything. It's best to hold out and get exactly what you want because you'll just be disappointed if you don't, you know what I mean? You'll just, you'll be sitting there embarrassed. You know, first of all, you got to be seen out with some guy. You probably wouldn't date unless he had some, some type of money. So, you know, he's not going to be that attractive. Then you got to go somewhere cheap with him. You know, that's like too bad things. You know, you got to pick a struggle. Are you going to be ugly and rich? Are you going to be, you know, you're going to be with somebody ugly and rich in a nice restaurant or somebody mediocre and ugly and chilies? Which one is going to be? You know what I'm saying? You can't, you can't feel like, oh, you know, a lot of women will date just for drinks and food. Like it doesn't even matter where it is. But if you're trying to land somebody or you're trying to, you know, have standards, you're going to have to, you know, you're going to have to say no on those chilies dates and apple bees and stuff like that. You guys say no, sir. I'm sorry. I don't even feed my dog that, you know. I remember one time when I first started dating my husband, like he had taken me to nice places and stuff like that. And we used to eat at really, really nice restaurants. And one day we were driving around, he's like, hey, do you want to eat at Golden Corral? And that's like a buffet. And I'm like, are you serious? And he's like, yeah, I saw a commercial. The food looks pretty good. I said, you can eat. I'll watch you eat, but I'm not eating. And so he's like, never mind. Let's know. But never mind. Let's not go. And so I was like, yeah, because I'm not eating there. And so years later, we passed by another one and I said, do you remember when you asked me to eat there? And he's like, yeah, I said, I can't believe you asked me to eat at Golden Corral. Do you know that's that's like $6 for one plate of all you can eat? I said, can you imagine, you know, what type of stuff is in that? And he just laughed at himself. He's like, I was just going to see if you were going to say yes. So men do test you, you know, if they can give you a $6.99 plate versus a $200 dinner, they will. Even if they got the money to spend, they're going to test you. They're going to see what your standards are because some some chick would have said, oh, yeah, let's go, you know, you got a nice car, you got a nice job, I'll go eat wherever you want to eat. No, you say, you got to put your foot down. You're like, oh, no, I don't think so. Keep going. So tips for not blaming others for my own mistakes and realize I grew up learning this to increase my frequency. If you've made mistakes, fix them the best that you can and avoid doing them over, you know, avoid making the same mistakes over. And instead of seeing them as mistakes, see them as lessons, you know, and when you go to blame someone, ask yourself what you can do to fix your own problem. It doesn't matter who you have to blame, you still got to fix the problem anyway, you know, you can blame anybody in the world, but it's still your problem. So figure out how to fix your own problem before blaming people, you know, then blame them after you fixed it. Works out better that way. But then you'll want to take the credit, you know. What are some jobs to meet rich men? Oh, receptionist in like country clubs, golf clubs, tennis clubs, gyms in nice areas, doctor's offices in nice area, any place in a nice area of town, bartenders at steak houses, bartenders in nice areas, like I said, also mill clothing stores, the clothing, the men's clothing department and major clothing stores, department stores, things like that. I would say paralegal, lawyer's office, doctor's office, like I said, I said that already, you know, homes, just anywhere where rich men are, where rich men work, just get the lower positions. I also think that like massage therapists, but sometimes they get mistaken for hookers, so I don't know. Pharmaceutical sales, you know, you go and try to sell pharmaceuticals to the doctors, wear your nice little skirt, which you'll not always see them when I go to the doctor's office. They always have all these cute outfits and dragging a little suitcase behind them, you know, one of those. People that do, what do you call it, advertising or marketing, they will go to different doctor's offices and ask if they want to be put in certain magazines or newspapers or websites and things like that, and you get to sit down and actually have a conversation with them, close up, you know, so things like that. And I feel like any job where you are around very highly successful men and can dress nice, not in some uniform, you know, or you can wear your own clothes, you know, or something that's close to regular clothes, you know what I mean. Hospitals, but make sure you're not doing like service work, because I don't know if they'll give you the time of day that they would someone that's more professional, you know what I mean. So, you know, things like that. Okay. Hi, there's an engineer. We had one date so far. He flaked on two dates. He made me, no, he made with me and how do I let him know my time is valuable and flaky manner turn off and don't accept this one. Block, stop answering his text messages and tell him you're busy and stop chasing him because if he's flaked on two dates, that means to cut him off, you know, you don't you don't deal with that type of stuff. If he doesn't know you're valuable already, he's already had one date with you, and then he's flaked on two dates. So obviously that means you're not a priority to him. So let him go and don't waste, don't waste your time with him anymore. If he wants you, he'll come back for you. And this time, it'll be on your terms. So, yeah, I know a lot of women that are not in my group and I know regular Facebook and I see them posting stuff and I just shake my head. I'm like, they really are buying into this 50 50 thing and they're really buying into it thinking it's normal when, okay, some of these girls are really pretty, you know, and they're buying into it. And guess what? There's girls that are less attractive that are getting way more than them by men and, you know, they're not even half, you know, as attractive and they don't have to pay for half the rent or half the bills. You know, they're getting flown here going on vacations and things like that. So a lot of women just don't know and they've never been told any better. So whatever I see a post like that, I will comment because sometimes they just don't know. And I think it's our duty as women to let them know that's not how it's supposed to be. You know, I think it's our duty to be like, you know, you don't really have to pay 50 50. That's not your job. You know, you're just you're enabling I call them enablers. If you're paying 50 50 and any type of relationship, you're enabling that man to be mediocre. Because a man is I mean, a woman is supposed to inspire a man to become better and strive harder to earn more and be more successful. But if you're sitting there handing him half the rent, he doesn't have to do anything. You know, he don't even need a raise because you got the other hat. So I feel like if you're paying anything on if you're paying 50 50, you're enabling your man to stay at his level. And you know, I feel like a lot of women who do that, they always get left anyway, as soon as the man starts making a lot of money. And he can get a girl who does not accept the 50 50 thing. Oh, I bet baby, I can pay all your bills and I got you. You've been paying 50 50 for 20 years. And now all of a sudden he meets some young girl who don't pay 50 50. And then he's going to take all his paycheck and his earnings and savings and 401k and go pay her all her bills. You know what I'm saying? So don't get stuck in this trap ladies. If you're paying 50 50 figure out a way to at least listen it to you know, where you're only at least paying 20% 80 20 or something, you know. So how okay, someone in the comments asked how do you marry an ugly rich man if you want if you want children to be beautiful. I think you know, most if you look good, the children should look good. If anyway, if he's rich, they can get plastic surgery when they get older. You know, look at Khloe Kardashian. Okay, all you need is money to look good. I wouldn't be worried about my how my kids look. I'd be worried about if they're going to get you know, what they need in their life, are they going to have a nice house, a nice car, college education, you know, stuff like that they can fix their nose or their teeth. Have I written any books? No, I have not written any books. But you know, that could be in my future. You never know. So yeah, I know a lot of women probably don't like to hear what I say, but you know, it registers later on. I'm not trying to be mean, but you know, think about back in the old days, when men paid for everything and how how much more they respected their women and how long they stayed together and how they were, you know, raising the children together and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, because the woman expected the man to be a man. You know, these days, women are like, I don't need you and they're over-emotional kicking them out every two days, every week. And you know, sometimes the man just like, you know what, I'm tired of packing my stuff and moving back in with my mom. I'm just going to go away with somebody else, you know, and then you cry in the corner. Well, he didn't call me today. Well, you kicked him out 20 times. You're sending miss mixed messages. Do you want him to be with you? Well, if he don't act right and he don't treat me right. Well, you know, he never took vows with you, lady. You're not, he's not your husband. He is your boyfriend or baby daddy. So either, you know, you got to deal with the person that you chose, how you chose them or stop messing around. You can't kick somebody out every two days because they won't be, you know, a responsible adult when you, when you obviously pick the boy. You can't do that. So, you know, that's like a mom, a mom threatening to kick out their son if they don't clean up their room. You know, you can't do that. If you're going to, if you're going to baby a grown man and then expect him to do right and, you know, in two weeks, three weeks from now or when the baby comes, why would they, how would they know how to do anything if you've been their mother the whole time and enable them to be like that? You can't, you can't do that. If you are, if you enable them in any way, you're, you're not going to get the results that you want. So, you know, women are, someone says women are made to feel like they have to settle and they don't, you don't have to settle. They're, like a lot of women don't know that there's just, you know, there's plenty of guys that will pay, you know, your bills and everything. You just, with the wrong ones, you know, maybe they're the wrong age. Maybe you need to go older, you know, and I feel like a lot of women, some of, okay, and I don't, I'm not trying to be being, but some women think that they can get the same type of caliber of man as other women, but you have to remember. You got to remember men have preferences too. It's not about what, all what you want and what you think you deserve and what you, what you can get. It's about are they going to accept you as well? Okay, so if you're a little older or something like that and you're trying to go for like an older sugar daddy, you got to go way older. You can't go like five years older if you're already old. You can't go 10 years older if you're already old. You got to go like up in the 20s because you'll be young to them, you know. I was talking to this one girl. She's like 30-something. She's like, I want to get me a sugar daddy who's 45. I'm like, no, you got to go to like the 60s, basically, because you are already 40, almost 40. So you got to go up into the 60s. No 40-something-year-old rich guy is going to go for somebody and be their sugar daddy when they can go get a 20-year-old, you know. So you got to be also realistic, especially when it comes to age. So yeah, so if y'all have any questions, go ahead and put them in there. I think I covered the topic and if y'all have any questions on the topic or if you have a situation of dealing with the topic, you can ask and I'll try to look through these questions. Okay, my kids are watching TV in the other room if y'all hear some TV. Okay, I need help with justifying making men pay for everything. It doesn't seem fair. I need help with justifying making men pay for everything. It doesn't seem fair. It's fair. It's fair, believe me, because they're getting more out of the whole thing than you are. Men are getting more out of the relationship than you are. So it's only fair that they pay you and compensate you for being with them. You know what I mean? Plus that's a man's job. They shouldn't be dating you if they can't pay to date you. You understand? A long time ago, men courted women. They paid for everything. They tried to do everything to impress them because back then, men had to impress women to get it. You know what I mean? Or to get close to it. These days, all you got to do is say, hey, you want to go two for two at Applebee's. You pay half. You give me $10. And the women are stupid enough to go for it. Men are supposed to pay. That is their role. They're supposed to pay. If they can't pay, they don't need to be dating. And it looks stupid when you go out to a restaurant and you, as the woman, have to pay. You know, it looks dumb. Other women are looking at you saying, she's desperate. Look, she has to pay. Look, I'm sitting over here, old glasses, gray hair, looking worse than her, but she's paying and I'm not. So obviously, you know, you got to use your brain. You don't have to pay. If I ain't got to pay, you don't have to pay. I'm serious. If you're with a man who's making you pay, you could be doing much better. You settled. I can't even believe that came out of a woman's mouth. That's crazy. Wow. Maybe you're just learning. I don't know. What age should a girl start looking for a serious relationship in their action? Well, it depends. You know, if you want to work forever, if you have a career, you might want to put that on hold before you want to get married and have kids. If you don't have a career, the best to start early, but make sure the man is older because young guys don't want to get married. You got to get the older guys who have been there, done that, seen everything, dated everything. And now they're ready to settle down. You can't grab a hold of a 25 year old and say, Hey, hey guy, let's go get married. You got to get somebody older who's ready to marry. Okay, that will let you stay home and be a housewife and raise kids and financially support you. You don't get married to someone your own age unless you want to struggle together. You know what I mean? Or unless they're super rich. So make sure you don't marry somebody young because they're going to mess up, especially men. Young men are no good at marriage. That's somebody old. Okay. I haven't found men my age or under 50 willing to pay for dates and meals. I look like a mix between Tamela man shape and big evidence. Okay. Well, I don't know if this is like, serious question. But some guys are not going to pay for certain women. You know, you got to be what they want. You know, you got to be at least in the area or the genre of what they want because, you know, a guy is not going to pay for some girl he doesn't want. Okay. How should a 24 year old young lady dress every day to attract the right man? They always say dress for the job you want. If you're going for older guys, dress classy. If you're going for younger guys, you know, cover, at least cover up. You can still dress sexy, but don't show everything. But like a housewife, like, you know, someone says like a, like a hot wife, you know, heels, nice jeans, tops, dresses, you know, makeup, hair, things like that. I don't suggest sneakers. I don't suggest flip flops or anything like that. Unless they're like nice sandals that are you know, fancy or something, you know, but no sportswear, no, you know, no super trendy things, you know, keep things classy. How do I bring up meeting the family? We talk about getting married, but he's been dealing with the business so much that he put me on the back burner. But now he's way wanting to be more into us and making a, um, don't like, don't even worry about meeting the family. Like, don't even talk about it. Just act like you feel like you'll never meet them. Just like, you know, just talk about your family all the time and pretend like he don't even have a family. Then he's going to be like, well, my family this and my family that and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And you're going to be like, well, I don't know anything about your family. So, you know, um, I, you know, that's cool. You know, make him start talking about his family more that way. If he keeps bringing them up, that means eventually he's going to have to introduce you to him, to them. And you know, you can say, oh, you know, that's nice. Maybe, maybe you'll take me to meet them one day. So I don't have to, you know, hear about them from, you know, stories about them from you and have no clue who they are. Anyways, okay, I'm looking for a serious like relationships, but going back to finish my college degree at 24, what I've seen too old to still be in college. No, that's young. A lot of guys, that's still young. If you had a couple of kids young and now your kids are grown and estranged, should you lie and say you don't have kids to increase your chances? Um, we'll just say my kids are grown and they're on their own now. You know, I feel like lying would backfire on you because eventually it would come up or come out in some way. And if they found out that you are estranged from your kids, they might think something is wrong with you. So I feel like just saying they're grown and doing their own thing is fine, you know. Is a 37 year old man a good, with a good job, no kids, no wife, suspect, suspect of being what gay? I don't know. It just depends because it depends on what race they are, especially because some people's culture and religion, you know, forbids them to do certain things. Some people are financially conscious and they don't make certain decisions until they're financially stable. So it just depends on what race they are. Okay. What can you say to your sugar daddy first to stand out online? Um, you mean in your profile? Because if you're like, okay, a lot of women who I do consultations with, they will, they always make the mistake of trying to contact the person first. You don't do that. Someone told me that they'll like poke or, you know, flirt or hit a button or something to say oh hi to a person on there to a guy. You don't do that. You let them come to you, you know, it shows that you're desperate. So don't ever contact a man first on any of the dating site. But I would suggest putting something super simple and mysterious so that they are intrigued by you. You know what I'm saying? Don't write out your whole life story and stuff like that. Three, four sentence tops. That's it. That's all you should have on your profile. Less than four sentences. If they want to know more about you, they're going to click. Okay. But you tell your whole life story, your hobbies, your favorite color, your favorite restaurant, what you like to do, what you like to eat, you know, they already know who you are. They don't even need to know who you are anymore and they'll just scroll on to the next person. You left no mystery. How do you respond to I'm not ready for a relationship? When someone says they're not ready for a relationship, it means they don't want to have strings with you. They just want to use you up and toss you out because they don't want to have a relationship with you. Basically, it means I don't want to be with you. I don't want a commitment with you. You know, I'll sleep with you. We can go out and hang, but I don't want no type of connection between you and I except when I call you. It's kind of like a no strings situation. That's just what they're saying. Look, I don't want a relationship. I just want to hit it and quit it. That's all they're saying. Or I'm not ready for a relationship. It also means I don't want to have to buy you gifts, listen to you nag, and worry about hurting your feelings. Because I don't have time for it and I just want what most men want. And I'm not afraid to tell you that. That's what it's saying. Why do women use the economy as a reason to go 50-50 with a man? Because instead of making an excuse for the man, they use the economy. Oh, it's a bad economy. Instead of, oh, my man just broke. It's just an excuse to deter people from thinking their man is broke or whoever their dating. It's 25 too young for a white man to get married. Usually, any race that gets married at 25 usually end up cheating. I think 25 is too young to get married, period, unless you're a woman. It doesn't matter how old you are as a woman to get married. As long as you're over 25 and up is a good age to get married for a woman. Before a man, you need to at least be close to 40. You know what I'm saying? I'm going to have to pop in fireworks when I'm done. But I'm not going to be on here very long. Probably about 30 more minutes and then I'm done for the night because I've got to go downstairs and do some stuff. I'm going to Austin this weekend. I mean, not this weekend, but I'm leaving Monday. I'm live. What's up? They're far. I know. I heard it. I heard it. I heard it. Rico's going crazy. Why don't you go let him in the backyard so he can mark. He's ready. All right, close the door. I'm glad everybody got a bunch of fireworks. Oh, you know what? It is Saturday. Maybe they're just doing it for Fourth of July weekend since it's on a Tuesday. Okay. Do women, does women market value decrease after 25? Why should we get married? I don't think it decreases. I think if you get married 25 after 25, you're good because you know, you can still have kids at young. You don't have to rush off to work. You're not really you're still young to your husband for many, many years. And he's not going to be looking at other women because you're young. You know, if you wait till like a lot of women will wait till like they're almost 40 to try to get married or 30 something to try to get married. And you know, unless you're marrying an old man, you're not young anymore. You know, and so it kind of takes the what I what I want to call it the novelty off of it, you know. So, and plus, you know, you can you can say, Oh, I'm a housewife at 25. I don't work. I'm a lady of leisure. And you can wait all those years to have your own free time, build a business, stay at home, you know, work on your business. And then when you get ready to have kids, maybe a few years later, or maybe wait till you're 30 something and have traveled and gotten to experience the good life and have had time with your husband, you know, then you have kids, you know, and your relationship will be so good with your husband. And when you bring kids into it, it just makes it even better, because you're not rushing things, you know, you've had enough time, you're still young, you're gonna be the hot young mom, you know, at school, you're not gonna be the old, you know, Haggard mom that, you know, had kids at the last minute, you're gonna look good. And so that's why you won't get married young. How do you get him to buy you a car, wreck your other one, or try to get him to get you a down payment and be the co-signer that way if you can't pay your bills, they're gonna be looking for him. So try to get a down payment and for him to co-sign on it, and then you can then you mysteriously lose your job and have him or mysteriously have extra bills pop up that you need him to handle. But if you want him to buy you a car, you know, just keep talking about it and say, you know, I really want this new car, just bug him until he does it, you know. I feel like if he's got enough money, then he'll get it for you. If he doesn't, then you're aiming for the wrong person and try somebody with more money, you know. Guys with a lot of money don't mind putting down a down payment for a car, because it's not that much, you know. And then they'll make the notes, they'll pay the notes for you. Like, okay, well, whatever your note is, let me know, you know. So if they got the money, just ask. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want. That's, a lot of women mess up like that. They just don't even ask. And so the men don't think that they feel like they deserve it. I ask, I'm like, look, I need a car, or look, I need some new shoes, or look, I need to go shopping, you know. I just tell them straight up, you know, I need this. And I look at them like, okay, I'm waiting, you know. But you have to be bold sometimes. If you're dating a man that's not generous, and understands the dynamic of the relationship, then you're fooling yourself. You know what I'm saying? I don't like begging. You don't beg, you tell, you know. I don't beg. I say, I need, not I want, or can I have, I need such and such. If they don't give it, you'll find another way to get it. That's what I say, you know. And you just have to tell people, you know. So make sure you're not afraid to tell people what you want. If they say no, then they said no. But at least they know what you want. And they know what you expect. And in the future, they may be able to do it, you know. What is a good age to have kids? I say at least wait until after your, maybe, I had my kids at 27 and 28. But I've been married, I was married a while and then, you know, I've been with the same man for years. So we had already done everything there was to do together. And then kids was like, okay, you bored? Yeah, I'm bored, you know. Okay. Gold digging 101. Yes, I'm advocating women to be gold diggers. Someone asked me that. She was seven. I need him to put me in the D to the house. We don't live together. He doesn't want to get married yet. I'm 40, look 30, he's 50. That takes, like, you know, if you want to be put on the deed to the house, find out where his deed is. You can write yourself on the deed. And he might never know. Scam, join the scammer. There's, if you look on your deed, like, if you, if you've ever owned a house and you look on your deed, there's room to add people with a pen and everything. There's room to add. So you can just find that deed, get you some, get a pen and write the name of that and put it right back where it was, where it gloves, so your fingerprints ain't on it. And that's it. That's it. That's how you get on a deed. But seriously, it's kind of hard to get on a deed of someone unless you live there. And they want, you know, they ask you to be on it. You know, you can't just say, can you put me on the deed to your house? That seems kind of suspicious, you know what I'm saying? To say, you know, make up an excuse, like, I need to get something done over on this side of town. And they only let residents that live here or near here get this service. So they would like, they want to see like a deed or something with my name on it and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And that I live over here. So could you put me on your deed so that I can, you know, get this taken care of or work in the school district or, you know, send my kids to the school district or just something, you know, make up something, go research on how to get on the deed. But I feel like if he did it for you, he would probably forget about it or forget to take you off. So just like, oh, it's temporary, you can take it off at any time, blah, blah, blah, blah, and then just keep his mind off of it. Yeah, this is Gold Digger 101 for y'all who didn't know. Gold Digger is not even a bad word anymore. It's like a compliment now. It's like, if you're not a Gold Digger, you're a 50-50 girl or a pick me. So I would rather be a Gold Digger than a 50-50 girl any day. I'm sorry, because that just makes me look better than them because I can figure out how to get it for free. So I feel like Gold Digger is no longer a derogatory term towards a woman. It's actually a compliment now because, you know, if you can get what you want out of a man, you know, why is that a bad thing? You know, if you're sitting over here paying somebody's rent and, you know, giving them your paycheck and you're proud, that's the problem. You know, when those holidays roll around, you're going to wish you was a Gold Digger. Those holidays roll around and you're getting that Walmart gift that's on aisle two right around the holiday season. It's already nice and packaged with the bow on it. It costs $9. So when you get that, you're going to wish you were a Gold Digger. You're going to be like, dang, I'm going to whip a gold. Now I've got these cheap bubble baths that won't even bubble up. Merry Christmas. Those vibrating house shoes that don't work after five days. That's what you're going to get. Okay. Okay, I'm leaving in 10 minutes. Okay. So learn about kids. How to embarrass a guy when he goes shopping with you, so he buy you what you want. What should I tell him? Well, take them to the mall and when you get close to the counter and in time to pay and like the person, the cashier is like, you know, around or the sales associate is around. It's like, Oh yeah, my man, he's, you know, he's going to buy me. He spoils me so much. Look, look how, you know, just like egg him on egg on his ego, like he'll spend more. Oh, my man spoils me so much. He buys me whatever I want. He's so sweet, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then he'll, he'll be like, okay, you can get that too. Yeah. He'll feel like the big man and a baller, a real baller, even though he probably spent his rent. But, you know, if he has the money, it shouldn't be a problem, you know, but just make him feel good about spending it. Like, girl, my man is so cute. He's so sweet. He buys me and spoils me. Oh, my gosh. You know, I feel so lucky to have him. Look at him, you know, just like, and he'll feel like he'll feel like the man and he'll, he'll pay for it. Someone keeps talking about the bachelor. I don't watch the bachelor. I start watching those like when I was in my 20s or the bachelor and it was, it was silly. A bunch of women fighting over one man or I've never watched the bachelorette though, but I feel like those shows, those shows are boring to me now. I need something more exciting. I wouldn't order alcohol on the first date if he slipped something in your drink when you were back his time. Well, you know, they make this nail polish now. You wear it and you dip it. You can wear it in your pinky and you dip it in your drink. And if there's some type of drugs in it, it'll, it'll change colors. So you can actually order that online, just in case you're worried about that. But I'll take my drink with me, or I'll drink it all before I leave the table. Plus he can, he can slip a drug into iced tea and still mess you up. So it really doesn't matter if it's alcohol or not. That has nothing to do with it. Okay. So yeah, I feel like a lot of, a lot of ladies, they're afraid to ask for what they want. And that's why they end up always settling. I was not afraid to ask for what I wanted because I knew I had, you know, I had to get what I wanted. And that's the only way to get what you want out of someone is to just ask, you know, and then if that don't work manipulation. And then if that don't work, get it from somebody else, you know what I'm saying? But you got to ask first. People tend to blame victim, blame, to victim blame. I drank alcohol all throughout my dating process. When I was, when I was with my husband, I drank, I drank a lot back then. Maybe that's why I was brave enough to ask for what I wanted. But that was always tipsy. It was like, I want this, like, I have that, that confidence from the alcohol. I don't even drink that much anymore. But when I, when I was young, yeah, I was drinking it. I was very bold. Just like a lot of, I feel like a lot of women are afraid to be, to do anything. They're just so like scared of everything. What if he's, what if he does this? What if they did that? You know, what if he does this? If you're, if you're going to have that fear when you go out, you're going to attract things to, you're going to attract things to you that you fear, you know, stop worrying about all that, be safe. Yeah. But stop worrying, over worrying, you know, there, there's a difference. People can sense that anxiety around you and it's not approachable. So, and especially if you're dating someone who is not really your type or is a lot older, alcohol makes them look 20 years younger. And then I take off my glasses. I can't see nothing. Just the blur with some, with some money. That's all I saw is the blur that pay for everything. You know, it's just like, you know, how they blow your face out when you're on the news. That's what it looked like to me, except I was just, you know, having fun. You know, I feel like I knew that too. And like what, and then I was like, you know, drinking my drink. No, I didn't have my glasses or contacts on. It was dark. You know, I don't know. I can't tell. Everybody looks the same when it's dark and blurry, except he's paying for everything. You know what I'm saying? What I did a man shorter than me, if he had money, yes. But if he was broke, nope. Sorry, can you do that? Got picked trouble. I have a lot of credit card that this African asked if I was ready for marriage. I said, are you ready to take care of a wife? He said, yes. How do I express to him that I'm not trying to work? Well, tell him, like, you know, in my family, we don't believe or I don't like whenever I imagine getting married, I never want it. I never believed in working. So I'm going to be a housewife. Don't ask. Tell. I told y'all, I'm going to be a housewife. I'm not going to work. I'm going to work in the home. And and he has no choice. If he wants you to be his wife, then he has no choice, but to let you be a housewife. Otherwise, you ain't gonna marry him. Do you question men who are accomplished but single? No, because usually they they had an X or they were all seeing someone who was also accomplished and the competition became too much. And, you know, they decided to try, like I always say, if you're an enabler to a man and you're his competition or you make just as much money as him or you go 50-50 with him, when he gets up there in his career or his job and making a good amount of money and becomes accomplished, he's not going to stay with you because you can't appreciate his accomplishments. He's going to dump you. You thought you was getting married, but he's going to dump you and go get some little young person who thinks he's accomplished. Oh, he's single and accomplished, you know, he did. They don't know that some woman paid half his bills for 15 years to help him get accomplished. You know what I'm saying? So, if he's like that, chances are he has an X in his past that he probably broke up with who was waiting on the marriage and he's like, no, forget that. I'm gonna get me someone who was impressed with me. You know what I'm saying? So, see if there's an X. I bet there is. I bet there's a successful X in his background. Okay, I'm gonna read some more of these. I'm going in five minutes. How can you tell a guy is a player because some men are really good at pretending. Some will wind it, wind down you and all along they are all interested in one thing when they get if they disappear. That's why you have to make men invest lots of time and lots of money into you. That way, if they do get it and disappear, they lost more than they gained. You know what I'm saying? If some guy spending $200 on you each date, taking you shopping or paying a couple of bills or bought you a purse or wine and dined you and spent at least $5 to $10,000 on you before he got sex, he's not gonna walk away from that unless he's like a super millionaire because he's gonna have to go turn around and put the same investment or similar investment into another woman. So that's why you have to make them invest in you. You know what I'm saying? If you haven't sex on a third date after Applebee's, that's your fault. A man who invests in a woman will not leave because he says, dang, I got to know her. We spent like three weeks together, four weeks together. I spent all this money on her. I took her on vacation. I took her here. I bought her some shoes. I bought her a purse. I bought her this. You know, we ate at this restaurant. Every time they look somewhere, they should be reminded of you before you have sex with them. You should have a song before you have sex. You guys should have a song together before you have sex. If you don't have a song with a man before you have sex with him, he ain't gonna remember nothing about you. He's gonna hit it and quit it. Develop a relationship. Develop an investment. Otherwise, you're gonna be a hit it and quit it over and over again. Once they realize they can't dump you because they spent too much on you and spent too much time on you and everywhere they look, it's gonna remind them of you and y'all have a song together. Even if it's just a silly song that y'all hear every time y'all are together and you make a joke saying, ooh, that's our song. You know, it's in the middle. It's gonna stick. Are you sleeping with somebody on the third date after Applebee? You need to change. This is a game. Everyone's a player. But who's gonna win? You or him? I'm Mexican, but my girlfriend keeps saying I have a troll. I almost read it too. I know that all men... Okay, I just read that. Wait, wait, wait. I know that all men want sex, but some men may want a relationship too. How can you tell the difference between the guy who wants to be in a relationship and the guy who just wants to hit and quit it? The man who wants a relationship will spend time with you and take you seriously and try to impress you slowly, not super fast. The men who try to rush things and they'll press you fast and are smothering you and sweet talking you right from the beginning like too soon, they just want sex. The guy who's taking their time, getting to know you, investing in you, taking you on real dates, letting you decide when you want to take it to the next level, patience. That's the one that's interested in the relationship, but if they're sweet talking to you on the phone, texting you non-stop, if things are just moving a little too fast, they just want sex. So, okay. Hi. Okay, someone says hello from France. Hi. Okay, I have an electronic device I used to detect cold tickers. Well, good. Chance is already probably not after you though. How do I get it a money order? I'm tired of meeting in person all the time. If you meet in person, always have something or somewhere to hurry up and go or bring someone with you and just say, they were late for a doctor's appointment. We just stopped in to meet you real quick. So we really have to go blah, blah, blah, take somebody with you or tell them you have a doctor's appointment and you're going to be late and you just decided to beat him on the way there or make up something where you have to leave right after you get it. You know what I'm saying? If he's old, he's not going to know how to put no money on PayPal or MoneyGram from the computer or something like that. So just meet the old man and get the money. That's just what you got to put up with sometimes, or you need to go to his house and show him how to put money on PayPal or something. I don't know, but maybe if you teach him, he'll know how to do it, help him set up an account. That's what I would do. I'm like, look, come on, Paul, let's go to your house. Let's have some coffee at your house and let me show you how to set up PayPal. And then, oh, let me show you how to do webcam on the computer so we can talk and I don't have to see it. You know what I'm saying? He'll love that. He'll be like, oh, yeah. Okay. Some girls that, Gabriella, she said broke men think they have to protect themselves from gold diggers. Shoot, you might learn something from us. Okay, gold diggers don't go after broke guys, so you're safe, right? How to date different types of guys at the same time. Side dude slash cubby. Well, if you're married, if you're married, you got to be careful because unless he's super old, he don't care or whatever. But there's like some side dudes can say, okay, well, this lady got a rich husband, you know. And if he finds out, she might lose everything. So, you know, he might try to blackmail you. He might, you know, he might become obsessive with you or something or try to get you to buy him stuff with your husband's money. So unless your side dude makes more than your husband, don't even mess with him. Like, I don't, I feel like if you're dumb enough to have a side dude that doesn't make as much money as the other person that you're with, it's kind of dangerous. Like, use him as a plan B, make sure he has just as much money or enough money to take care of you if you get caught, you know what I'm saying? That's smart. It's done to get caught over a broke side dude and lose everything. That's a lot of, that's, that's not smart. So side dude needs to have money. When can we talk about the dark side of sugar daddy? Okay, I don't know. The dark side would be, you know, if, if they're strange, if they're mean, if they call you out your name and stuff like that, and then don't, don't never marry you, they just want to use you and throw money at you. I mean, that's something you have to accept when you go into it, you know? I never really had to worry about it, you know, because before I, before I met my husband, I would date guys just for, just for what they could do for me. And I kept it like right there. I didn't care. I was not emotionally involved. I was like, it's business for me, you know? So keep in mind, keep a business mind, you know, just like putting up with a bad job, you can put up with a bad sugar daddy, you know? If they become obsessive and crazy, then, you know, call the police or end it, you know? I don't feel like anything you let happen to you or anything that you allow and keep allowing for money is your fault. You should always have a plan B. So when you get tired of this sugar daddy, you just switch over to the other one, if that's what you're going to do, you know, or you find one that you get along with and that you like and that you can deal with, you know? That's basically it, you know? It's up to you. You can accept certain things or you don't have to. Anyways, well, you know, a lot of times women, young, I'm gonna tell, because some guys are appalled at what I'm saying, but after women have given up on love and stuff like that, and they're just going for lifestyle, this is what they need to do. Okay? There's women that have not given up on love and they're gonna fall in love and marry some dude that they love and do everything for the reason of love, right? Right? Right? Yeah. I'm not talking to those women. I'm talking about the women who've been there, done that, now they're ready to do other things. Okay? This is not to all women. This is just to women who want something else, you know? I feel like some women choose lifestyle, some women choose in love. Some women can have both, but, you know, one lasts longer than the other, so you gotta think about it. The money, you can invest money, you can grow money, you can save money. Love, people fall in and out of love every day. Love is conditional, you know what I'm saying? So if you're gonna marry just for love and your husband starts looking around at other women and he's broke and he cheats on you, it's gonna be, it's gonna feel a lot worse than if you had a man who had money and he falls out of love with you and you fall out of love with him, but you still got his money and you still got a nice house and you still got the lifestyle, you know, and things like that. It's gonna feel different, so a lot of men don't think about this. Most women like comfort, so that's why a lot of women are going more for men with money versus falling in love with somebody just for who they are, because we know most men cheat anyway, so we'd rather be shopping than, you know, clipping coupons, okay? Anyways, there's a difference. Just like most men say, we know most women are crazy and emotional, you might as well get one that is not gonna go anywhere because she's dependent on you and you got all the money or that married you for more than just your love, because if she married you for other reasons, it's gonna be harder for her to leave you, you know what I'm saying? So if you married someone just for love and she's making her own money and she falls out of love with you because you did this, this and that and cheated and stuff, she's gone on to the next and then she's on my videos looking for a man with money, okay? So a lot of people told me how they found my channel. They went to Google and typed in how to stop attracting broke men or worst date ever or just like they were angry when they came and typed in, you know, how to get money out of your boy or how to get your man to pay bills or, you know, how to get your man to be a real man or whatever. They googled all this stuff and my face keeps popping up and they click on it and that's how they found my videos and I'm like, when women get mad, they're gonna go and Google some stuff and I'm gonna pop up and I'm gonna be there and I'm gonna tell them what to do. So if you're out there and guys are out there making y'all mad, guys are y'all out there making women mad, they're gonna go and Google something and I'm gonna pop up so they're making them mad. Someone says I'm not interested in broke ass holes. Well, you know, who is rich men? Rich men are very interested in broke ass holes, you know why? Because they know that broke ass holes are not interested in broke men and they're only interested in men with money who could do things for them so they know they got a chance, they know they could be seen out in public, what's up, 20, 30 years younger than them. They know that these women are going to treat them nice and cater to them and stuff like that and they know they're gonna have some armed candy. The women know they're gonna get something out of it so everybody wins, you know, except the broke dudes. They don't win, they just move on to the next victim. So, hey, you know, when you're when you don't have a lot of money and you got stuff to pay, you get real resourceful real quick, you know what I'm saying? And you're like, okay, I look good, this old man looking at me so my eyes will get paid, you know, I might hey, you know, my car notes do, I'm worried about what I'm gonna do, you know, I really want to go on a date with you but I think I might have to, you know, take a rain check on there because I don't know what I'm gonna do and just I'm not in the mood. Oh, I'll pay your car note. Okay, here you go. That easy, you know, you don't have to touch him, but the car notes paid. So just cry, look worried and promise to see him afterward. You know, we can go to lunch. I think I told the story one time, but I went to high school with some guy, he was like real popular, he was real cute, whatever, whatever, you know, and he was, I think we had went out one time and stuff like that. And he was kind of cheap and, you know, I know it was high school, whatever, you know, but like years later, maybe two years later, he was like a waiter in a restaurant and he, he was our waiter, like I was on a date with this old guy. And he was like, I see you like, I see you like, I know you're gold digging because it's me, it's way too old. I say, yeah, but I'm drinking, I'm drinking for you, I'm eating for you, my bills are paid. I don't have to work. I don't have to wait tables. How are you doing? You know, so I feel like, yeah, gold digging, it's fine. It's not something to be ashamed of, you know, if you can do it, why not? It's just like getting paid to, because you're gonna, you're gonna have boyfriends anyway, you're gonna sleep with guys anyway, you might as well get one with some money, who's gonna pay your bills as well, you know, rather than sitting there struggling with somebody who's not gonna do nothing for you, you might as well benefit from dating, from going to lunch with people. They can also help you figure out how to start your own business, you know, if they're financially stable and they have all this information and knowledge, they can help you learn how to start investing, you know, start your own business, pay for your school, all that. So why wouldn't you get that information and help and knowledge if it's being offered, you know what I'm saying? Other guys can't do that for you. So you'd be a fool, you'd be actually foolish to pass that kind of stuff up because it's only gonna help you in the future and set you up for your, you know, the next level of your life, you know. And I'm not saying be a gold digger and just take someone's money, put it somewhere where it's gonna benefit you later. Don't just spend it, you know, save it open a business, create something. I said that's in the Bible. Yeah, it should be in the Bible. Maybe I'd, maybe I'd like it if that was in the Bible. You know, a man is supposed to take care of his woman. So a lot of people don't have to rush to get married faster than some people or, or they, you know, I've seen people rush to get married for certain reasons, you know, a lot of people get married young because, you know, they want to look good in their wedding pictures and they might be aging. So they want to hurry up and get married. So their wedding pictures can be pretty, which is kind of shallow. But you know, you don't want to look like haggard on your wedding picture. So a lot of women do get married a little bit young. So I don't know, they got Photoshop now. So maybe I don't have to work so much. Okay. Well, my time is coming on. Thank you all for tuning in. If you'll have any questions, if you all have any thing like that to add to the video, you all can put them in the comments when it's uploaded and go back and watch it or share it with somebody who needs to hear the message or, you know, whatever. And, you know, leave some feedback because when I do these live videos, you know, I always go off topic a little bit. But if y'all want me to cover something that's, you know, in a regular video without being live and just talk about it, let me know because I probably do another video that's not live and that's on a subject and that's just going to go in on it without the distractions of like the comments and the trolls and stuff. So if there's something that you want me to do or discuss, let me know because I think a lot of women could benefit from this information. You know, there's too many women out there going 50-50 with these broke men who look good enough to get a rich man and it's just not fair for you. You know, you're sitting there struggling and you don't have to. You don't have to do that. You don't have to do that at all. And if you are doing it and you want to stop, you know, I feel like you have to let go of that guilt first. You know, that's not your job to go 50-50 with a man. That's not what women are supposed to do. You know, you're being duped. You're being taken advantage of and you're being tricked. Okay? You're not supposed to pay when you are in the presence of a grown man. If you are, you are enabling them to be mediocre and not allowing them to reach their full potential and you're also giving away more than you're getting. Okay? So remember ladies, if you're paying for some dude, if you're working and paying 50-50 with somebody, you're getting scammed. All right? I'll see you later. Bye.