 Welcome again, everyone, to another NARC Survivor Live video. Just checked into this new room. I'm near Osaka in Japan. Still just exploring. Driving around, travelling. So straight to it, in this one, a very important topic. And by the end of it, you will know how the narcissist feels when you cut them off. Before I begin, do show your support down below by giving this video a thumbs up. It helps to support the YouTube algorithm and gets this message out there to other survivors. So let's begin, let's get straight into it. I know it may seem like very egotistical. They're very full of themselves. They think they're the best. And it's as though you need them. They don't need you. That's the narrative that they portray, which doesn't really make any sense because they are always there. They're always around you. It's like you can't get rid of them. And yet they make you feel like you're the one who needs them and they don't need you. That's what they make it seem. So those of you who haven't gotten to this point where you have cut the narcissist off or got no contact, you might assume that maybe they just won't even care. They won't even bother them. They won't even notice. But actually they will notice and they will be very sensitive to that rejection because there is nothing that hurts a narcissist more than rejection. So when you cut them off it will cause a narcissistic injury which will be followed by narcissistic rage. Yes, they will get very angry. But don't get it wrong. They're not angry because they love you or because they miss you. It's nothing like that at all. Now this goes for whether you're dealing with a full-blown narcissist or someone who has narcissistic traits. I mean just anyone who is not empathic, anyone who lacks empathy, anyone who is not an empath which means that they do not possess the amount of affective empathy and what affective empathy is as someone who has high amounts of it I can tell you if I see someone in pain in distress, that hurts me. I might even feel it as if it's happening to me and it doesn't have to be physical pain. It could be someone going through emotional distress, psychological trauma. I will feel that just as much as they do. I will take it on as if it is my own pain and before I became an awakened empath I might have even have assumed that it was my pain more than anyone else's and it's kind of a blessing and a curse at the same time. I mean, if you're around another empath you can both use this beautiful gift to share with each other, to love each other, to understand each other but when you're around narcissists they will use this gift against you. Yes, they will use your affective empathy against you and it will feel like a curse when you are around them because they feel a lot of shame and a lot of pain which they will project onto you and because of your empathy you will identify with it you will take it on as if it's your own but as I said, when you cut them off and it makes them very angry that has nothing to do with you as a person it's not that they miss you or love you or that they care about you it's not that they are angry with people who are not empaths people who lack affective empathy because it's that affective empathy that gives us the ability to connect to another person to be able to feel and understand their experience and emotions as if it was our own I mean, that's really what a true connection to intimacy is and yet, believe it or not but only 1-2% of the world's population are empaths who possess high affective empathy which means that true connection and intimacy is actually very rare but back to the narcissist or those who have narcissistic traits you've got to look at it like this everything that they perceive it's from their brain their brain just as ours does, it gives us the ability to perceive things it allows us to have these 5 senses sights smell taste hearing touch these are our 5 senses which are controlled by the brain take the brain away you can't perceive of anything so everything that they perceive of is through their brains and when they're interacting with us as with anyone else it is their personal experience which is separate from our experience so how they perceive of us when they're interacting with us it may have very little to do with who we actually are or how we perceive ourselves because even if we are presenting ourselves authentically it doesn't mean that they are receiving us in that same way unless, of course if they do possess high amounts of effective empathy if they are one of the few people in this world who are empathic because as an empath myself and I'm sure many of you can relate to this you can feel another person's emotions and pain and especially if you are an awakened empath you know exactly what they are feeling even if they don't openly reveal it to you because you can feel it as if it's your own emotions but when you become an awakened empath you can then dis-identify from it you can then recognize hold on a minute these are not my feelings or emotions and what can help you to do that as well is when you realize that before interacting with them you didn't feel that way so where did that energy come from? obviously it came from them but also when they come around us as empaths many of us are high vibrational people and when they come around us they sense that we are happy and contented that we can experience joy and because they can't experience these higher frequencies it makes them very mad and you will see it straight away they will try to pull you down to their level and they don't even have to do anything all they have to do is just be near you that's enough to bring your vibration down because as an empath you can immediately sense it so you really need to see it like this because this is the reality of it and it may completely change how you've thought about them up until this point not just how you've thought about the narcissist but people in general I mean just remember how everything that we perceive of it's all operated by our brains and without that affective empathy it's like we are kind of cut off from the world a person who is low in affective empathy they kind of live in this world inside their heads with a population of one which means it's just them there's no room for anyone else to come in because they're unable to empathize they're unable to feel or understand other person's emotions and experiences as if they were their own and this is why the world is the way that it is today this is why empaths are so rare why there's so many wars so much problems with divorces relationships, families it's because most people they do not have the ability to feel and understand another person's emotions and experiences as if they were their own most people do not have the ability to do that so even when you cut off the narcissist and it looks like they're so mad that's all just anger frustration and shame and it's disconnected from any experience with you it doesn't mean that there is a connection between you and them it doesn't mean that at all they're just at the effect of you cutting them off and then they are responding to it to try to keep you down so that they can then elevate themselves at your expense they have cognitive empathy where they can read, they can detect how you are feeling I mean even a child can do that they can tell when you're happy, when you're sad they know what to do to push your buttons to make you angry or upset even a child can do that but the effect of empathy is to actually feel another person's emotions as if they were our own now narcissists cannot do that and this is how you may have noticed they can really hurt you they can cause you a lot of emotional or even physical pain and it's like it doesn't even bother them it doesn't even affect them but for me if I see someone in pain like if I see a homeless person on the street I just have to help them out if I see a cat or a dog crossing the road and it looks like a car is about to hit it then it will affect me I might flinch I will experience something in reaction to it and although at times people may make me angry they may upset me I don't desire to hurt them even in the rare case where if I did do that I would have to make it up to them somehow what I'm describing is affective empathy this is something we feel as empaths empaths are 1-2% of the world's population other people do not feel that they can quite easily watch you in pain leave you in pain and not do anything about it and not feel any need to be there for you to support you or to resolve it most people can quite easily do that and feel nothing it won't even affect them because they lack effective empathy they do not feel or share feelings and experience as if it was their own so they have an inability to really be vulnerable or to connect and this is how you know that even when you cut the narcissist off and then they go straight away to their new supply they flaunt it in front of your face to try to make you jealous what they have isn't even real it's not even real they have an inability to be vulnerable to connect or to experience true love, intimacy, joy and you should already know that because if they have the ability to do that and to care about another person why didn't they care about you how were they able to watch you in distress and not step in not do anything to support you or to resolve it this is how you know wherever they go whatever they do whoever they are with they are still miserable they're still not happy they still don't care about anyone but themselves they're still imprisoned psychologically in their own minds in this world inside their heads with a population of one meaning there's no room for anyone else but themselves in there and it's because they chose a different path as most people do when they're children when they experience a traumatic event when they're going through something as a child whether it's abuse or neglect whatever it is I mean we all experience trauma in our childhood and the reality is that most people they are not strong enough to choose the right path to choose to be empathic rather than narcissistic so what happens is that doing this time in their childhood when they experience abuse or neglect or whatever it is because they're too weak to deal with the shame they avoid it they deny it they deflect it they just don't go inwards to deal with it and their parents aren't there to guide them through it to make them feel better to help them to regulate so what happens instead is they become shame-based people and they never learn effective empathy which means that they never have this incredible ability like many of us have on here as rare as we may be to actually connect to someone and feel what they feel as if those were our own feelings so this is what you have to realise with not just these narcissists but most people in this world and I'm sure many of you have realised this already most people do not feel what you feel they do not care the way that you care I hate to say it but the truth is a lot of you who are watching this I mean we have to consider that most definitely there's no more than 15% of the world's population who actually have full-blown narcissistic personality disorder of course yes there is COVID narcissism as well and those who just have narcissistic traits but I would say that many of you you may actually just have been dealing with someone who's not too far off normal but you may assume that they are narcissists because they don't seem to care they don't feel what you feel truth is that's going to be the case with most people in this world they are not going to feel what you feel they are not going to care so much they are going to be more worried about themselves more than anyone else because most people are not in paths most people are not looking to put other people before themselves like you or I so it doesn't always mean that you were dealing with a narcissist of course if you have witnessed the traits such as the arrogance the sense of entitlement the grandiosity the narcissistic injury the narcissistic rage if you've witnessed all of that definitely makes it more likely that you are dealing with a narcissist but even then we cannot diagnose what you need to know what you need to understand is that there are very few people in this world who will care the way that you care who will feel the way that you feel and how do I know that? well for a start you're watching my videos this information resonates with you you obviously care enough about that narcissist you are dealing with and that relationship that you are in to come on to here and watch this video and right now it's over 28 minutes in shows how much you care shows how much it means to you reality is that most people in this world they're not going to care that much but I'm not here to judge whether or not you actually were dealing with a narcissist I'm sure that many of you were but also many viewers likely were not they've been someone with narcissistic traits maybe a covert narcissist or could have just been a normal person normal people they actually do not care that much about other people they really don't I mean just look around at the world there's wars all over the world there's people who are homeless they've got nowhere to go no money no food do most people seem to care? no they don't care like I said most people in the world are living in a world inside their own heads and they're the only ones in there because most people are not empaths they have an inability to connect to other people to feel their emotions and experiences if it was their own and this is very important for you to be aware of and this is why I really want to drive this home because of my own experience I remember when I tried to cut the narcissist off when I rejected them I was shocked because I was thinking all of this time you devalued me you made me feel like I'm not important like you don't really care about me like I don't matter and now I'm trying to leave I'm trying to cut you off and suddenly now it's like I'm like the most important person in the world and you could be fooled especially if they come back and they try to love bomb you again they make you believe that this time they're actually about something it could fool you into thinking into believing that they actually care like they actually feel your pain after everything they did to you after how they treated you yeah it could fool you into believing that as it kind of did for me on a few occasions but no when you see when you try to cut them off and you see them react in that way where it looks like finally they care so much they actually don't care about you at all it's still all about themselves they only care about themselves most people in this world only care about themselves they do not feel what you feel they only feel for themselves I'm sorry to say but that is the truth we've only got to look around at this world and see all of the pain all of the suffering in this world there's so much poverty there's so many things that people are going through and the reality is that most people do not care they really don't and it's very different to many of us who are here right now because you're watching my video I already know that many of you are just like me you may be highly intuitive highly perceptive empathic you have this ability to read into other people's experiences you can put yourself in their shoes and for that reason you may choose to spend a lot of time alone because it's hard taking on other people's energies all of the time you don't really like being in public spaces too much but when you see someone in pain it's like you just can't help it you want to step in even if you know that it's going to affect you you might even put your life on the line just to help someone in need you might do whatever it takes you may be the type of person to jump in front of a bullet for someone someone you don't even know because it's that empathic concern it's something that you've learned in childhood sadly it does tend to come from abuse we were abused as children possibly by a narcissistic parent who made us believe that their feelings and experience are more important than our own so we will sacrifice ourselves for other people just to make them happy even when we're not getting anything out of it and that is real connection real intimacy but believe it or not a lot of people they are actually repelled by that and you may have noticed this with the narcissist that you were dealing with Dr Ramani did a video on this as well where she said that narcissists actually hate our empathy and they are very jealous of it because they can't experience at a deep level like we can they can't connect they can't get the same fulfillment because they chose a different path they were too weak in their childhood to deal with that shame we weren't, we self-loathed we confronted it and many times we confronted it on our own our parents weren't even there for us we regulated our own emotions but narcissists couldn't do that so instead they abandoned their true selves when they were children and then they created a false self who's all powerful but also very manipulative they have to manipulate people abuse them so that they can regulate their emotions because they never learned how to do that on their own in their childhood so when you cut them off they're not actually feeling anything for you everything they're feeling is just for themselves they have an inability to connect to you and it may really shock you when you see their reaction it's like the entire time they never even cared about you it's like they never even knew that you were there half the time unless they needed something from you but then as soon as you cut them off now they're all over you now they're pulling out all of the stops to sabotage you to prevent you from moving on they will spread rumors behind your back they will gossip about you to other people they will try to get you fired from your job they will try to affect you financially they will start a smear campaign against you they will stalk and harass you but even then all of these things they are doing it's not because they care about you it's not because they love you or they miss you or that they want to be with you it's nothing to do with that at all it's all for themselves because they're losing their supply and their entire identity their false identity it revolves around you it revolves around manipulating and controlling you and keeping you in a certain state or condition because if you can move on from them and you become successful in your work you get into a new relationship you're happy, you get married you start a family, whatever it is all of these things it affects their false sense of self which is tied to your position in life it's tied to you being unable to move on so they have to prevent you from moving on and of course, since they're narcissistic they don't have effective empathy they can't be vulnerable, they have an inability to connect they don't care the way that you care they don't feel the way that you feel so all of these things that they're doing to you whether they're stalking you, harassing you gossiping about you maybe they got you fired from your work you lost all of your money because of them maybe they sabotaged your new relationship they turned everyone against you they're doing all of these things and they do not care they're not feeling your pain or distress it's not doing anything to them we are nothing alike they are nothing like us their brains are very different I mean, I can tell you if I see my cats Nala as an example when I would see her being sick sometimes it would happen when I'm travelling it's hard to get the same food sometimes so there are occasions where I've had to change the foods or the treats and then later that day or the following day I would see her being sick on the floor and it's such a horrible experience for me it just goes right through me I feel it in every part of my body and it makes me feel sick as well it makes me feel hurt and it just makes me want to do whatever I can to help her from going through that experience and of course to prevent it from happening again because I feel it it's affecting me but believe it or not when they're doing these things to you it is not affecting them they do not care the way that you care about them they do not feel the way that you feel about them they just do not feel the way that we feel but they try to trick and mislead you by making you think oh no, it's not it's not that I don't care it's not that I can't be vulnerable or I can't be intimate no, I just can't do that with you that's what it is that's what they want you to think and then they run off, they ride off into the sunset with their new supply looks like they're living their best lives but that is not physically possible it's not possible for that to happen because if they can just move on and care about someone else they would have cared about you they would have felt your pain and they would have done everything in their power to prevent it to make things right so it is all a lie it is all fake how you do one thing is how you do everything if you can just sit back and see someone going through it and not step in that means you are not an empath it means you lack effective empathy it means that you are essentially imprisoned in your own mind and you are unable to connect to another person that is exactly what that means as crazy as that sounds that is exactly how it is for them and it's not something that is ever going to change because they have a different perception a different concept of winning of being powerful, of being strong quite clearly to us what's most important it's connection true love, intimacy that is what matters to all of us here I mean that's why you are all here isn't it it's because you didn't get that from the narcissist and you didn't get that because that's not a concern to them they can't even experience any of that anyway they are more concerned with power and control through manipulation and deception that's all that they are concerned with so anything that you see where it looks like they are involved with another person it is all fake there's no connection there's no love, there's no intimacy it's just potentially two people who are having separate experiences I mean they are there physically together when you see them in the pictures but they are not actually there they are not fully experiencing each other that's how it looks like they can just move on they know everything is so much easier for them everything is going so well now with this new person because it's different it's not like how they had to deal with you where you are this you're this empathic person you actually care, you actually feel you're worried about a connection about intimacy, about love all of these things the new person is not too concerned about that it's not a big deal for them like I said, like attracts like they find people who are like themselves we just got tricked we weren't really attracted to them you're not attracted to the narcissist you may think that you are I mean I don't want to dictate your feelings but I want to help you to see that this person that you think you're attracted to no actually you're attracted to the false character it doesn't even exist I mean look at who they actually are this manipulative, abusive, deceptive person of course you're not attracted to that you don't want to be with someone who abuses and manipulates you really want to be treated with love and respect and that's not who they are so you don't really love them you don't really even want them you never did they just tricked you into thinking that you did and they tricked you into thinking that they've moved on and now they have what you wanted with someone else when that's just another lie they've just found someone who's more like themselves someone who's more narcissistic they lack empathy, they have an inability to be vulnerable or to connect, or to be intimate or to experience real love their needs are very much the same they don't really care about each other they just don't feel and something like that it can actually work quite well especially in the beginning or at least they can present it very well because neither of them are concerned with intimacy, love or connection neither of them can experience that they're just more concerned with superficial things the image so they can put on a great show for you and they can make it very believable too but you couldn't do that with them because you cared about them they didn't care about you you felt their feelings as if they were your own they did not feel your feelings as if they were their own so there were all of these arguments and they would start arguments a lot too because they do know they're not completely detached they know where they belong they know that we are in paths and they know that we feel on a very deep level they're far more sensitive than they are at least in terms of intimacy and connection when it comes to anger, hatred envy, jealousy and frustration they're far more sensitive to that than we are but they will try to project these emotions on to us as well but this is what you have to understand when you are dealing not just with narcissists but most people in this world because if you google it you will find statistics show that only 1-2% of the world's population are in paths and even then how many of those are healed and awakened in paths probably very few of that 1-2% and this is why I already know those of you who are in paths you feel very alone you feel like no one understands you no one feels what you feels no one cares about other people animals, the environment and the way that you do the reason why you feel that way is because it's true your feelings are correct 100% correct and it makes sense because I don't believe that it was always this way if we managed to make it this far as a population but now at this point empaths are a dying breed there's becoming less and less of us in the world and narcissism is being promoted I do believe that there is an agenda at an elite level they're deliberately pushing this on us and they're using every possible method that they can to do this and it's because they don't want us to reach our true power which is where we are empathic it's our higher ability higher frequency they want to keep us all down because then we are easier to control if everybody is vibrating at a higher level we're all at the vibration of love that is very difficult for the powers that be to control of course if we're all experiencing a lot of anger fear, guilt, shame even desire or pride that is very easy for them to control so this is why when you look around it's why the world is the way that it is today as sad as that is that's why and the reality is that most people do not care about that even if they are already aware of it most people only care about themselves they're not concerned about other people in the way that we are that's why it's very important for us to have our own community of like-minded people other empaths it's really good that we have this where other people understand because that's really what we need is more understanding people who understand each other most people in this world they are more about separation they're more about their own groups of people they're not about diversity coming together when that is exactly what the world needs that's what we should be encouraging in this world but it's unlikely that it will ever get to that point because the reality is that most people only care about themselves and they're just using each other to manipulate and control to get their own needs met because that's all they're really concerned with it's their own emotional regulation and maintaining this four cents of self around manipulating and controlling us back to the narcissist how they feel when you cut them off they feel a lot of anger and frustration but that's only for themselves it's not for you they don't really care about you they don't really see you they don't really feel you it's just all about themselves they're present in a world inside their minds with a population of one it's just them and no one else there's no room for anyone else in their heads keep in mind everything is experienced through our brains but with empaths it's a very different experience we can share another person's feelings and experience in our own minds in our own brains that is incredible that is true connection true love, true intimacy I do see a lot of hateful troll comments coming in now though I'm just going to call them out we've got to start shaming these people Manda Jamali says you are a demon a karsh batacharya says you look like psychopath Kartik Katar is telling me to remove my glasses what else have we got here Gary Beerboy says you're like a villain in a movie a karsh batacharya says he's just talking shit Farah for you says hi Baldi hello Shambu says WTF are you speaking these are all perfect examples of what will happen if you go to a narcissist and actually I'm telling you if you go to anyone most people in this world if you go to them this could be your own family, your own friends people who are meant to be the closest people to you and if you feel like they're not hearing you they're not listening to you, they don't care about you just go to them and tell them I don't feel like you care about me I don't feel like you're hearing me you're not listening to me you're neglecting me I don't feel like you're my mother, father brother, sister, friend relationship partner, whatever it is husband, wife, child go to them and say that and watch how they react that will tell you what exactly you are dealing with because I've experienced it myself in my own life with many different people and what do they do when you speak on it and you suggest that or you just express your feelings that you feel like they don't care about you in my experience they got very mad they kind of went to making accusations against me and acted as though I'm selfish and I don't care or they just started making demands they became very entitled they went into denial or just blaming but you know what they never did they never actually took any action to correct it which is very funny because in pretty much every situation in my life whenever someone ever came to me they confronted me and they may have been completely right in doing that and they told me that I should care more about something or someone I need to do more, I need to be more I'm thinking yeah, what have I got to do? just tell me what to do and I'll do it and I did do it every time I went above and beyond, I went out of my way to please them, to satisfy them, to make them happy most of them though, they never really cared they never said thank you they never appreciated it they just became even more entitled and made even more demands but never did anything for me in return and I know I'm not alone I know there's other empaths out there who have been through this exact same thing as I've said before most empaths in the world they're likely to be alone and isolated they're almost always the scapegoat child they're targeted by their family maybe in their workplace, their school in their community this is just how it is this is just how it goes and I would just like to say I would like to speak on behalf of everyone I am very sorry for those of you who feel like you are alone in this world you feel like you don't matter you feel like no one cares about you and I want you to know that I do care I read your comments every day I've been doing it for over 5 years now and I do care about all of you a lot everyone who makes themselves known on this channel and you show your appreciation to me you show your support I care about all of you I really do and I think it's very important that we do show people just how much we care we need to promote and encourage this type of behaviour I mean this world is just getting worse there's a lot of things that are going on and it's becoming normalised things that just never would have existed 10 years ago, 20 years ago it just keeps getting worse and we need to be the change that we want to see in this world it all starts with us we can't change other people but we can change ourselves we can be the change that we want to see and hopefully that will help to influence other people I'm asked definitely a part of my motivation it's what makes me want to get on you every day and do this to just try and spread the love and positivity because there's not much love in this world anymore there really isn't the sad truth is most people are not willing to go live on YouTube and speak in front of tens of thousands of people around the world I just come out and say that yeah, the reality is most people in the world do not care about each other they don't feel what you feel but I think it's very important to speak on this and to accept it because with acceptance we can then change it we can then make it better as long as we deny it we reject it nothing is going to change and this world is never going to change completely I mean there's always going to be positive and negative there's always going to be good things and bad things and we do kind of need the bad and the negative as well that does have a place in the world but it's getting out of hand these days I mean there's not so much good in the world anymore just look at the things that people are going through look at all of the wars and it's just not nice to see especially as empaths we just take on all of this energy as if it's our own but what you need to do when people project this energy and emotion onto you use it use that fear, that anger the grief, that shame transmute it into something to where you can help other people instead of using it to become hateful like they do like they did to you let's focus more on connection rather than hating each other I mean I genuinely believe that all of us we all have good things about us inside there's something beautiful about everyone I do believe that that many of us who seem bad we seem no good evil, whatever it is maybe they were just around the wrong people in a bad environment maybe they just spent too much time alone I can do things to you as well this is why if you put those types of people in the right environment around the right types of people who are supportive and encouraging they're motivating and inspiring you would see a very different person after a certain amount of time so what I'm saying is we are all responsible when we see anything bad anything wrong, anything evil in this world we all have a duty we are all equally responsible for that and we need to accept it we need to be the change that we want to see in the world and I take it upon myself that's why I began this channel I started making these videos because I knew no one else is going to do it though not many people at least I have to take responsibility for the bad, the evil that I see in this world and begin by inspiring and motivating people so that's really the message that I want to finish with tonight and I hope that it motivates you to be the change that you want to see in this world it all starts with us so thank you all for joining me on 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