 Doing everything the traditional way sets you up as the provider. I do believe you should provide for your family and so on. But the way that most guys use provider is in that we give women things in order to get them to like us. We do things for them just in order for them to like us because we think that's the way we have to do it. There's absolutely nothing sexy about the provider I'm talking about. We've all seen this scenario of the rich guy, he's got a nice car, he meets some girl, he takes her to an expensive restaurant, spends all his money on it, in and I get a kiss on the cheek and he drops her off. I've done it for sure. Then there's the other guy. He doesn't spend any money on the girl. He's not a great dresser. He doesn't seem to have many skills but she's addicted to him and can't get enough of him. And this guy doesn't do anything that the other guy does. He's not the provider. He's more of the friend with benefits type guy. He's more carefree. He's not trying to push her into doing anything and she's addicted to this guy. Always trying to find out where he's at. What is he doing? She's texting him and sometimes this girl goes from the date with the rich guy and texts the friend with benefits guy and the way home goes over to his house.