 Oh boy, did I really make this subscriber mad. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health. And typically what I do is pull different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional wellbeing. So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And by the way, did you know, did you know that Rewire Your Anger is now available over on Audible? So if you want to, if you've been waiting for it to go up on Audible, it's there for you now. So go check it out. I think it's like less than $5, alright? So anyways, go check it out if anger is something that you struggle with. Rewire Your Anxiety should be coming, hopefully in the next couple weeks or so. Alright, but yeah, anyways, I stumbled across a video by one of my subscribers, by one of my own Rewired Soldiers. And they were talking about how they were pissed off at me and it was like 22 minutes. I'm like, oh my God, this is Elsie. I ain't no Elsie. What is this? Why is she so mad at me? And I'm like watching it and like, and like I'm getting upset on all these other things. And then I stayed and watched it. I'm just like, oh, okay. But anyways, anyways, I wanted to talk about, you know, tough love, accountability, all sorts of things. But anyways, like, I'm not the right person to talk about that. Why don't I have Elsie come in and explain why she got so pissed off at me? Hey there, Elsie W here. Thank you, Chris and all you Rewired Soldiers for allowing me to join you for a few minutes. I've had my channel for nearly six years now and in all this time after years of coming up with tons of video ideas that I wanted to make, I didn't put out a single one until a few weeks ago. And you might be wondering, what was it that finally motivated me to get over my issues with self-down and perfectionism and procrastination and my intense anxiety and low self-esteem? What was it that finally pushed me to complete and upload my very first YouTube video? I'll tell you. It was watching a video by the Rewired Soul that really pissed me off. And don't get me wrong, I've been watching the Rewired Soul since about September of last year and I even joined the Facebook support group a little while after that. I found Chris's videos and started binging on them at the lowest point I have ever been in in a very long line of low points. And I distinctly remember watching the video that he made about losing his job just a few weeks after I had lost my third job in less than six months. And he wasn't prettier than me. He wasn't living fancier than me. He wasn't even really more qualified to speak about serious mental health issues than I am right now. And I actually found that kind of comforting because when I couldn't think of a single positive, healthy line of thought, I could just redirect my attention to this regular guy who was doing the same thing as me, trying to dig himself out of his own hole and turn his life around to change his mental health and his well-being every way that he could. And I gorged on all of that so much and became so full of criticisms that I could finally start doing that for myself, identifying my own problems and solutions in my real life. And even though I love his channel and respect his hustle, earlier this year in January, he put out a video titled The YouTuber Burnout Myth. And it got under my skin in ways that I haven't felt since I was being coached in youth sports. I got fired up. I was mad. He click-baited me into watching this video and wasn't even talking about how burnout really feels. He wasn't even talking about other YouTubers or fans. He was just talking about how he's not gonna burn out anytime soon. And then he's calling out these other YouTubers for making excuses and brainwashing their fans into co-signing their laziness. And he wasn't just calling them out. He was calling me out. And I about lost my mind when I got to the part of the video where he said, if you spend 40 hours a week working on videos, there's really no fathomable excuse that you can't put out at least one video a week. And I'll be real with you. Since I was a child, defiance has been one of the strongest motivators for me. I will move mountains if it means proving someone wrong. And maybe that says something about me that I should spend a little bit more time reflecting on, but we're gonna save that for another video. Bottom line, I wanted to call Chris out for being lazy too. I wanted to pull a booty on the rewired soul and use his own format to do it. I actually took a lot of inspiration from that video that he made, why I hate tea spill. But even just from that connection in my mind, when I first watched this video that pissed me off so much, I realized that my feelings were rooted in some issues that I need to work on for myself as well. I have insecurities, I have sensitivity about burnout from my experience with it last year. And the only reason I could even recognize that was because of the months I had spent watching his videos tell me more about myself using a bunch of YouTubers I'd never even heard about before and showing me that not only could he relate at some point in his life to the problematic behaviors that they had, but there was a reason I could relate to that too and that it didn't have to just stay that way, that we can change and we can get better. And if he could do it, I could do it. So if you wanna know the full story on what I learned about myself from that whole process, you are absolutely welcome to come check out my channel. I only have a few videos so far and I've already gotten a ton of comments from other rewired soldiers who have been doing the exact same thing as me putting off things that they know are good for them or that will make them happy for no good reason. And so I really hope that all of you who can relate to that will take this opportunity to turn that around right now and just embrace the solution. I know that sometimes it's more comfortable to sit in the problem but you're just gonna waste yourself there. There's so much that you can gain and so much that you can give by just putting yourself out there. So I strongly encourage that and also Chris, thank you so much for pissing me off because otherwise I probably never would have done this thing that I've been dying to do for years now and I'm having so much more fun than I ever could have imagined. So thank you all and I'll see you around. Booyah! And that's LCW for ya. By the way, I've never told LC this but I love how her name just kind of rolls off the tongue LCW. LCW, say it with me. LCW. But anyways, I am so, so, so, so proud of LC like please, please, please go check out her channel, go subscribe to it. Like I can relate to, I can relate so much to everything that she's talking about in her videos and everything. Just the perfectionism, just holding ourselves back, just not doing something out of fear and all sorts of things. And like she said, like she connected with me on like the job loss and all of that and that fear that comes along with it. Like I am a recovering drug addict and alcoholic. I have been fired so many times and just working at a job, I constantly had this like, this anxiety of getting fired like every minute, right? Like every time like the boss is like, hey, can we talk or whatever? I'm like, oh my God, what do I do? What do I do? What do I do, right? And it kind of puts you into this freeze mode, right? Cause we talk about anxiety, you know, fight, flight or freeze when the amygdala gets triggered, that little piece of our brain in the limbic system. And a lot of us just freeze and we don't do anything, right? But anyways, like Elsie's only made a few videos, but like I keep commenting cause I can already see her getting more confident and getting better at it. And it's absolutely amazing. But the last thing I wanna talk about is kind of tough love and calling us out. Like not all of us are wired this way. Not all of us are wired this way. But when Elsie was talking about how I made her mad enough where her defiance kicked in, she's like, okay, okay, Chris, you mother effer, I'm gonna prove you wrong, right? And like I can absolutely relate to that. Like you guys, one of my secrets to recovery that doesn't work for everybody, but it worked for me, one of the reasons that I am still sober over six and a half years later is because of all the people who didn't think I can do it, right? Like I had this weird thing in me, maybe it's, you know, competitiveness, maybe it's like part of that defiance that Elsie was talking about. But when people tell me that I can't do something, it is just this fuel to make stuff happen, right? So like, if, like that's something that I talk about a little bit and rewire your anger as well, right? Like take that anger and channel it into something good. You know what I mean? And I've turned it into, you know, not only a way to better myself, but also to better like the message I give, the way I grow this channel, like despite what people say, like I'm always trying to reach a larger audience because I wanna help as many people as possible. And like, I originally just put a lot of hustle and hard work into this channel because there were a lot of people who didn't think this channel was gonna go anywhere. You know what I'm saying? So if you could tap into that like Elsie did or like I do, like use that as a fuel to get better, right? Like because we have two options. When people are saying these things to us, we either prove them right or we prove them wrong. And what I like to do, what I like to do is prove them wrong, all right? But anyways, this is actually, this is actually the start of a brand new series because the rewired soldier was never, the rewired soul rather was never meant to be about me. There's a reason why my channel isn't just called Chris. You know what I mean? Like it is about all of us, okay? Because like I learned a long time ago that us sharing our stories helps other people. So I had Elsie come over to do this first video but I want to get all of you involved as well. So I've set up an email, it's rewiredsoldieratgmail.com. It'll be linked down in the description, down in the pinned comment. If you have taken anything from any of my videos like if you learned something that made you like go out and do something to better your mental health, whether it's going to therapy, starting to meditate, starting to journal, getting involved in the Facebook group or the Discord server, just send me an email, tell the story, right? Or you can do like Elsie did and send me a video clip and I will be doing this at least once a week because I want to put a spotlight back on all of you because like no matter what I do on this end of the camera, it's all of you out there who are actually doing the work. You know what I mean? Like it's something that my mentors and sponsor told me. Like they weren't doing anything. It was me who had to put in the work. So now I am telling all of you that as well and I want to share these stories with other people so maybe they have some hope to change their mental health situation, all right? So again, thank you so much Elsie for coming over and doing that guest clip. Go subscribe to Elsie. I'm going to link it down below in the description and in the pinned comment. It'll also be linked in the end screen. Go check her out on her journey. It is absolutely phenomenal, all right? But anyways, that's all I got for this video. If you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up. If you're new, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And a huge, huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon. You are all amazing and just like I promised, boom. Right there, there is Elsie's link to her channel. Go check it out and go subscribe. All right, thanks again for watching. I'll see you next time.