 Ladies and gentlemen Tony Gaskins here Yeah, I don't have too long tonight. I Got to get up early tomorrow go out to my college basketball team speak to the team tomorrow and so Got an early flight. So want to pop in didn't get to do a video today was coaching all day In coaching you have this thing called crisis calls So basically what that means is person have a pressing situation And they need to talk to you my calendar is booked out three four weeks So they pay double the price to talk to you within 24 hours so that's been happening to me quite a bit lately and it just kind of You know eat up that day me trying to help people through whatever situation they're going through But I want to pop in tonight and do a Q&A and so y'all Put the questions. I got my first question now when I'm answering the question. Don't put a question wait till you see me slowing down to To pop your question in because if you pop in any questions while I'm talking that I'm gonna miss it Cassandra all the members thank y'all for for being here Cassandra, I'm a single mom of Special boy, I was married but after hearing Tony, I open up my eyes. Hey, God bless you. God bless you Want to thank you so much for all your videos Gave my life to Christ Amazing. Hey, that's a blessing Alexis. God bless you. I love the Lord. I'm glad you gave your life over Now I don't see any questions yet. Now y'all now eight go and put your question in here now Because when I got to go, I got to go ain't the cold God bless you. Why do people think it's an issue being single? You know, I feel like that just comes from conditioning We were not created to be alone and that is the truth, you know God didn't create us as individuals So sometimes people take that to heart and they don't understand that there there's such a thing as a single season and It's time for you to work on yourself. And so That's why some people will look down on it, but to be honest with you today with how messed up Relationships are I don't think anybody's judging single people as much as they used to back in the day Precious sexy. All right Okay, you feeling good Hello, mr. Gash is my boyfriend does not believe in Jesus Christ and he said Christianity is not real he got mad and cussed me out and Cussed me out Christianity Maybe you cussed out Christianity. Well, precious. You got a real issue right there. So you got to decide if if You're gonna live for Christ or you're gonna live with Satan and so if you believe in Christ And you are Christian and he's not Then you wasting all of your time because God got plenty men of God out there for you So you want what you want or you want what God got for you? That's what you're gonna have to ask yourself a very real question Alexis what is your insight for praying for your husband even though I'm single You know, I hear that More recently now people saying oh Praying what's the prayer you prayed and I saw some of the celebrities put out the prayer they prayed and Sometimes God on bit more hit at prayer didn't demand on the moon So the thing about it is God to give you the desires of your heart When you are what? His heart is desiring. So what I mean by that is really your prayer should not be About your husband. It should first be about yourself Asking God to help make you into the woman you need to be Help you to see his purpose and his will for your life because a lot of times you're single Because there's still work for you to do and what I mean by work for you to do not just work on your body Your brain your brain But work on you on your purpose. God might be saying Get your book out Get your book out Get start your nonprofit organization Get yourself in in line produce some of these dreams so that they can have legs because if God sent a man out of Season see God won't send a man out of season But if a man come out of season because see you could be praying for a man But you're not where you need to be and what you have to realize about prayers the adversary Here's the prayers too. So you praying for a man You praying for destiny the adversary hear that prayer and he sent a distraction that looks like destiny so now here you will is booed up on your back spread eagle or Your legs could be closed but you dating the wrong man when really God hadn't sent your man yet because he needed you to produce for the Kingdom and fulfill some of your purpose give your purpose legs before your man came Because if you know like I know when a man comes into a woman's life things change because If y'all might want to start a family. So now you got to sit down For a period of time because your body changing and all of these things You know, you you might have to move you might have to do this do that for this Relationship and now what you're supposed to be here for and what you're supposed to be producing is not being produced I saw some questions get by me my Simone I called you my daughter's father is 48 and he keeps crying every few months Saying he loves me and wants to be with me but never moves forward He cheated before I had our eight month baby. He has been seen with other women So he wasting your time and then you wasting God time in prayer and Wasting my time too. He's not so what he's effectively doing He wasting all our time and I say that in a sense of You know jokingly saying when a man is not doing what he's supposed to be doing then You can't take your time fixing your mouth to ask a question about a sorry man That is not even making any moves, you know, you just got to close the door and move on with your life because He probably got indigestion on them nights. He crying about being with you I've been with my husband 24 years and I just woke up God bless you How do I lead with love as the wife so my husband will follow? That's gonna be a little tough to be honest with you because you got to remember men come from a lineage of kings and Even the people who were not from the lineage of kings if they were Pompers or whatever you want to call him the street people they want it to be a king So what I what I mean by that is from the beginning of time men have been spoiled by women And so in this day and age especially with the type of man we have today You may need to pray for your husband and the most with leading in love meaning Not arguing not fussing not fighting not disrespecting or not belittling him not attacking him But and and that's leading in love But don't confuse leading in love with serving him hand and foot because if you serve in a man hand and foot he might just give you his foot his told to suck on because most Men when you start giving to a man who is undeserving What he does is he gets complacent? So you could pray for this man and what you need to do is sit down and talk to this man and Tell him what you need and ask him what he needs from you and then ask him can we come together as a team and Me serve you and you serve me as a team so that we can build our relationship But if you just come in and go to serve and You liable to get used Why do you think that some women aren't so approachable for men? Do you think that I am not ready for a relationship? Every woman is approachable for a man unless you Intentionally not trying to be approached meaning if your head always down you walking too fast You're always on your phone. It's not that you're not approachable sometimes it may just be The packaging a lot of times women don't understand when you say I'm looking for a man Or I'm ready for my man You don't understand what a man is looking for and so it takes some time I recommend taking my course on dating one-on-one on Tony gaskins academy calm and Real love university Venetia God bless you. Thank you for jumping in the super chat. I Have recently become single being free from a narcissist and believe me it was not prayer I Would not be single and living in peace if it was not for prayer I think I get what you're saying listening to you has also been heaven sent. Hey, God bless you. God bless I'm glad you came out of there I'm glad you came out of there. How do you keep from? Clashing in the middle of a breakup You stop talking, you know, a lot of time you got to do more action than talking So you clashing because you talking so instead of talking about it You got to be about it and and when you be about it, you're not gonna have to do all the clashing So stop explaining yourself stop trying to get him to understand something and just move forward Carita Brown the guy I date said we can be serious in April You need there you need to run in February You need to run in February. Listen to what I'm telling you when a man put you on LL wait That is that is what it means when somebody say love on LL wait And the man with you now he say we could be serious in April That's love on LL wait if I ever heard it He doesn't want anything but to be left the H alone I'm 66 and kind of scared to be alone But he chose his cats over me 24 years never gave me anything I Got to go scared and all yeah, you got to go God bless you 66 years old God bless you Yep, you got to go. It's used around that 24 year mark Well, man get tired of faking and waiting and he just tell it like it is But you know what though? He been telling you that for the last 21 years and a lot of time women just don't pay attention to the sign Just don't listen the man trying to tell you you ain't the one. I'm not the one for you We're not meant to be he tried to take breaks. He tried to cheat on you He tried to cut you out. He tried to do all this and that and a lot of time You just don't catch the signs or you see it and you just say all I'm just gonna pray through it And all I'm just gonna love them through it and all I'm just gonna lead in love and all I'm just gonna do this and When a man is not your man is nothing you can do about it Hi Tony, how long do you recommend a person wait to start dating after a divorce? it depends on how long the divorce how long the marriage was but Typically after any breakup you need to wait unless it was less than a year You need to wait about a year now with marriage. You're gonna need a year And so what I mean by this in this year is is you can go on a ticket site like event bright calm and Every month in this year you need to go to a seminar now It might be some people in there don't know what they're talking about But you can at least learn what not to do based on what they don't know what they're talking about But it's just the fact that you're going you might just hear one sentence It's gonna be at least somebody at the seminar that saves one thing that makes sense So it might be one sentence that add to you and move you forward every month You need to be taking a course every month You need to be reading a book and what's gonna happen is your mind is full of all of the experiences that you had in the Relationship and so when you take and you're getting new knowledge It's literally like you taking out some old junk and you putting in something new and healthy And what that new stuff is gonna do is it's gonna renew your mind And it's gonna build you and it's gonna make you wiser and stronger And then what's gonna happen from that is it's gonna build your confidence and now that you have new Confidence because you have new knowledge Now you're able to move forward and in this process is what I call becoming love And when you become love that is when you truly attract love but see the problem with most people is They go through a breakup and then they don't do anything they listen to sad R&B and blues They watching junk television they hanging with they miserable friends who is just as miserable if not more miserable and They saying when am I gonna heal when am I gonna heal you're never gonna heal You're gonna be still stuck three years five years from now thinking about your ex because you're not doing any work But if you do the work, it won't take that long. You might be ready in six months What's the best way to cope with the mistakes you have made in your past? I only had three relationships and I can't stop thinking about my past mistakes. Well, uh, Deidre today we have this We have relationship coaching, you know and life coaching and so in order for you to heal from your past mistakes You have to do what I talk about watching the game film So when you sit down and you start talking about it You're gonna be able to say okay that right there that experience was a red flag. Okay, that was a red flag Okay, that was a red flag. That was a red flag. Then you're gonna be able to look and say okay That was verbal abuse. Okay. That was physical abuse. Okay. That was financial abuse. That was social abuse Okay, that was self-hate that was insecurity. That was jealousy that was control So now you're able to look at all the experiences you've had and you're able to put it in a box and label it and Push it on out your life. And when you do that now that is preparing you to move forward So you sitting and you thinking about your past relationship by yourself But you can never solve a problem from the same level. It was created So it's individuals in the world like myself who may have a different understanding of your situation and being an outsider looking in can look in and say Okay, this right here what you missed cuz see you was in the game I'm on the sideline looking at the game. So I see some you don't see and so now from that you like Oh, wow now your hindsight becomes 2020 and so you need to get some coaching in 2020 the year of perfect vision so you can look back over what you've gone through and really understand it and speaking of Y'all write this down now my mentor Dot life some y'all heard me mentioning some of you have not is my mentor dot life now some y'all don't know about websites It's a news. They got some new suffixes now. So instead of calm It's dot life and it just made more sense than calm to my mentor dot life You go on there's a bunch of coaches you can scroll through thank y'all for typing that on there You can scroll through I'm on there, but I think my schedule is is booked out You might find some here or there, but it's coaches from $25 an hour To $500 an hour. That's the most the site let people charge and we got a couple coaches that charge 500 hours I don't charge that. I told ready to though. What look here I'm draining me need calls. I need to run that price up. You mean Hi Tony my boyfriend says I'm too tough on him and that I need to let my guard down because he knows the kind of man He can be for me You having your guard up is not stopping him from being the type of man He could be your guard is not stopping him from having great conversation with him Your guard is not stopping him from getting you some flowers for nothing gifts for running your bath water rubbing your feet Cooking your dinner planning the day your guards ain't stopping him from doing all of that Basically what he's saying drop your guard so I could knock you out And you know what the guard is nine boxing this the guard So what happened in boxing when you go to dropping that guard you go to dropping that guard that the other person Catch you with a hook. That's what a man mean by drop your guard, which mean play the fool Which mean be dumb which mean let me do what I want to do to you and with you so I can have my way That's what that means because a man who got some sense who who trying to be a real man He understands that it is of the essence That he works for your heart and he knows the more work He's put in the more comfortable you're going to be but when he just come in and he's not doing any work and saying drop Your guard no the guard come down when you do the work So send him that tell him start doing the work My brother Now y'all throw in some of them questions. I was talking so I got to try to scroll back up And now when I scroll up I'm gonna scroll to the last question I told y'all don't put the question in there while I'm talking wait I finished talking then put the question in there So I ain't got to be scrolling all day because here I am scroll scroll scroll. I hit the X button and be done ended the lives I almost did that five times Tony I've been dating someone and he recently requested to be exclusive after two months of dating Do you feel two months is too soon? Also? He said he's willing to abstain till marriage now Now no Nika You miss my video. I think from yesterday. Now. This is what y'all need to do. I post a video every day So if you ain't watch a video every day At the end of the week if you ain't seen seven videos you miss the video So when you're free time you need to go back and look and YouTube gonna show you which video you to see Which video you have not seen, okay? So what you have to see is Where I was talking about on there when a man is ready and he doing the right thing He will ask you to be exclusive within three months and So a coach rock God bless you my brother. I appreciate you Somebody say all snap coach rod is back now coach rod He now he be in here now and I coach rod ain't you list is I think you listen and did a charge back on And then dropped out the bless drive ain't seen you listen since he donated that hundred fifty dollars their first live You listen and had to pick up a second job after that donation. And so listen to two months is not too early if Remember I said unless it's Extenuating circumstances, okay? So when a man saying can you be Exclusive you need to look at what does he need you? For if all he needs you for is love then it's not a red flag, but if he does not have a car Or the money for transportation if y'all live somewhere where you don't drive If he don't have his own place to stay and you got your own place to stay if he doesn't have a job When you look and you see that he lacking something that you have and And it had something to do with Finances or financial security or some type of security and he asking you to be his woman within two months That's when you got a issue That's when you got a issue Veronica God bless you. Thank you for joining the bless tribe now to be a member of the bless tribe So you could submit questions. I think the link is in the description of this video Crystal my husband tripping over here. Hello. Well, he's a grown boy. I may have a mistake You might have it now Yesterday's video about how to date had a lot of great information. Hey now, that's a hard way It's a hard way to date now, but I got to get to y'all all the way because I know you're gonna cut corners anyway Let me see Glenn Ness Nessmith I Thank you for looking for that cash out. God bless you Hi Tony, do you think it's best to heal from your past love yourself and get right with you? Before dating again after a heartbreak now. Let me ask you this Jenny You need to go take the life coach certification because you just you just coach me you just told me Absolutely, you need to take life coach certification so you can tell some other people If I'm 38 can I talk to someone within 10 years younger now? listen to me as Women y'all should always be dating your age or older now think back to You know young When you look back young you notice women Girls mature faster than boys You and I had to learn this I go, you know and talk To my son and the people and you'll hear the the the boys they just bumping gone Bop bop bop bop bop bop bop bop and then you'll hear the girls. Hi. My name is Lisa. How are you? Oh, really? Thank you great to meet you. So, you know my mom packed me a lunch today I love peanut butter and jelly. What is your favorite food Tatens dad and then here go to little boy And I'm like wow But this is a huge gap. I'm like Lord, what in the world did you do? But so I need y'all to understand that because women mature faster You should never be dating a man younger than you Because when a man your age is five years behind you nine out of ten time nine out of ten time So when you get a man that's five ten years younger than you he fifteen twenty years behind you mentally Now he has now unless he got a gift on him and he dripping with anointing, but other than that Here average everyday man if you don't see greatness oozing from his pores you got there He got to be your age or older I'm trying to tell you that the best place to be is to have a man that's three to five years older than you I ain't gonna tell you no lie I'm not gonna tell you no lie sad to think I have to sell my first home because this grown boy won't get it together Shake in my head. I'll do it right next time. Hey You that's all you could do is learn from it. You hear me How long do I wait during no contact? During no contact. I did a lot to push him away before learning from your videos Or does he not really love or want me if he was able to be pushed away without fighting to fix us Now see you told the truth right there when you said you did a lot to push him away Now when you pushing a man away when you the woman pushing a man away Men are not like women men are not built like women women Y'all to get pushed away and and come fighting trying to get back y'all to get pushed away and be like No, don't be pushing me back. Don't be pushing me back. But a man you push him away. He gonna take that push Okay, bye So with this is a no-con if you pushed them away and you to ruin his heart his mind his soul his ego and all of that Keep on going just keep on going trust me keep on going Cuz cuz you bringing a scorn man back Veronica. God bless you ET. God bless you 1999 God bless you Stephanie Stephanie over there got a good job Was in a long distance relationship for three months broke up due to distance. He said it's hard for him He still wants to be friends calls me calls me babe wants to see me Says he can see me in his future yet doesn't want to commit Stephanie you got the run just lose his number listen to what I'm telling you okay Listen to what I'm telling you Stephanie lose his number Okay, cuz what are you trying to do is he's trying to put you on his roster? He want to put you on his roster and what this mean is you're gonna be one of many and That's why he calling you babe and all of this but he's not telling you he won a commitment So what do you want to use you for cuz you long distance you you the news you for the news That's what he bought. That's all he gonna be asking you for here in the next 30 days ago Send news. That's what he's gonna be hitting you with And you like what in the world and because he calling you babe and all of this You might be in there with that camera trying to find your angle listen Lee let him go take off running a Man I was with seemingly had it all together has a nonprofit seen as a leader wanted to marry me But we broke up and I found out he went back to his ex which is one of his baby mama's thoughts I'm not thinking about him and you shouldn't really be thinking about him You're gonna have to stop thinking about him and you're gonna have to watch Videos to help you go to sleep. You're gonna have to listen to podcast Just to help you focus throughout the day, but you should not be thinking about a man You I know it's easier said than done, but it has to be said in order to be done So listen, he went back to his ex because he has a soul tie with her He probably not gonna give her anymore than he gave her the first time around You can't worry about it. That was the key is what you need to ask yourself is did I get on my back? And if you got on your back, that's where you made the mistake And that's the lesson you got to learn from because if you don't give a man your body Then if y'all don't work out you've lost nothing So in the future, you just learn from look at everything that happened and learn from the mistakes And then just move on and listen You you're gonna have to just feed your mind and fuel your mind so much to where you get so much new knowledge That you can think about him and it not give you a stomach ache or a headache Because you understand what you're thinking about you understand the issue was you got With a taken man you got with a man who had a soul tie and didn't know what a soul tie was and Was not over his ex and did not do the work to get over his ex So he came and use you as a band-aid and a practice dummy You he use you as a hold me over and that's what's happening Sometimes when you let people in your life and you don't check to see what work they've done And you know they got an ex when you know somebody got an ex Then you got to be doing work and presenting the work to them you got to say okay. Hey, have you read this book? Let's read this book. Oh this retreat coming up. Let's go to the rich retreat Oh this seminar coming up. Hey, you want to go to the seminar? So even if the man ain't doing work because you working you invite him along for the work And if he unwilling to do the work, that's when you know, you got a damaged man And what happened to you gonna happen every time Veronica God bless you. I got played by a grown boy. I felt stupid naive and embarrassed I did see the red flags and chose to ignore them. Did I fall for it due to loneliness? Most likely that's most likely what it is. It's loneliness and a lack of knowledge See once you get the knowledge a lot of women has been writing me and saying Tony I watch your videos. I watch your videos. I watch your videos. It changed my life and changed my life I don't let this man go out and let that man go out and did this I did that, you know how the women able to do that because they got new knowledge So it's not just loneliness. It's also a lack of knowledge So when you get the knowledge then you're gonna know The red flags when you see them and then when you see them you say you notice them But when you have knowledge, you're gonna have confidence Caramel kisses telling y'all about the workshop now I don't know if I got my events link in the description But it is Tony gas and calm for slash events. I got a singles workshop in Atlanta coming up So I got to go to Atlanta and then on the 22nd is the life coaching certification So if you're ready to become a life coach and join my mentor that life meet me there Beat me there and then on the 23rd in Orlando is a self-law workshop and in April is The st. Lucia that's a island now st. Lucia is island self-love retreat and Then I'm doing another self-love retreat in August in California. The April one is not my retreat I'm just going for one day to speak and I got to get on back home So I'm not gonna be there that long my son birthday that week and then but the one that's in August that's my retreat. So I'll be teaching three days So so if you can't make st. Lucia Be in California in August 14th through the 16th. Go to my website Tony gas and calm for slash events Ruth okay Ashley giving roof some advice Roof, I hope you see that what does it mean when you met a man? He stated he was he has been watching me and saw I was about my business But he had to wait to find the right time to approach me then we exchanged numbers He asked me to Your message cut off that now when you measure cut off that means you need a session When you mention longer than this here, that means you need a coaching session But he did he did like any man to do Deidre Allen God bless you God. He did like any every any man who sees you If he could feel and sense that he gonna get to be able to see you and he gonna be able to get to watch you a little bit And that's what he gonna do. Oh my Tosh Yep, February 21st. Hope you'll be there. Hope you can make it now It's limited seats now So it ain't many tickets left because it's a it's a small little venue because I and I keep it small I'm nice. I'm not gonna be a hundred two hundred three hundred people because I like to Conversate with you and every person get to chime in ask a question. So it's just like this basically but in person and so When the tickets gone they gone, so they'll be writing in. Oh, is this a little more tickets? Oh, can you open up two more take? No, I can't open up no more tickets because that's all the chairs that sit in there and Nobody wants you in their lap and I'm not doing standing room only either So if you near Atlanta, it's a Friday night now. So if you work Two hours away, then don't get off to a fire. Don't worry about it Do not worry about this one. I do one on a Saturday later and you'll be able to catch it So you need to be real close or be off on that Friday Duns beautiful people. He does not believe in going to church but says he loved Jesus Christ Is this a deal breaker by the way you've changed my mindset on sex and dating? God bless you It's if he believes in Jesus and he lives like Jesus see that's the key now It's a lot of people believe in Jesus, but don't fear and respect Jesus when I say fear I mean reverence Jesus, but if he lives like the Bible, then no, it's not a deal breaker that he gone And that he doesn't go to church, you know today the church is different and it's a lot of Rampant stuff going on in the church. I love the Lord, but I have to be honest and real It's hard today to find a church where this pastor that is the head is doing right And I'm gonna tell y'all men know men and cuz anytime I say this women say You need to stop saying that about the church you need to stop saying that about the church Somebody could be on the fence get ready to go to the church and then here you go saying this You need to stop cuz you a Christian and you driving people away from the church No, I might be saving them by telling them to get to know Christ for yourself Because they might go to somebody church and it be one of these churches that is all of these you know devils in there and Then they really off of the Lord when Jesus are coming to your house You hear me I don't even get to go to church on Sunday and y'all hear how much I talk about the Lord Because I'm working on Sundays out of town or my son have a soccer game Because and he lives for Christ But God gonna give and use soccer which is a world-renowned game to be his stage for Christ So we are we at the soccer field on some old Sundays But and you see the life that I live so I'm here to tell you if he live like Jesus then Not want not want to go to church. It's not a deal breaker Especially if it ain't no good churches in your area He just don't like the leadership because of the way to pass the carry his self in the way he running things You hear me? So listen to him on that there Because a lot of people could just go to church out of religion and tradition and don't even have a relationship with Christ And some of the we don't we don't talk like that. That's how y'all don't talk like that. That's just how y'all sound to me That's how y'all sound to me. I just want to thank everyone. I have learned so much. Hey, God bless you God bless you. Hey chunky butt 2010. No, I'm not now. I ain't calling her chunky butt. That's her name Okay, a man doesn't have to practice religion to be a discipline. Hey, I Got a relationship Now I'm trying to find a question y'all I've been told I'm gullible up. I got low power now I was trying to keep my phone charged today. I was trying to keep my phone charged today, but You know, I got 20% left So I might have to cut this one short tonight and I can't unplug my microphone So when I unplug my microphone to whoever got my phone tap, it starts sound like a I'm sitting by the ocean And y'all can't hear me and then people be writing me clowning me about my sound. Oh Your brand is too big to have a phone sounding like that. And what a lady told I'm like male You want to help get one of new one of these expensive phone Tony when is it okay to ask a man if he's talking to other women as well as you? Thank you for all your advice. You don't have to ask a man that you don't have to ask a man that Mary Johnson because he's not gonna tell you the truth anyways And if he tells you he talked to another woman didn't that mean he don't care nothing for you Because a man who liked you is not gonna tell you he's talking to another woman Understand that and so and the next thing about this is You just got to watch his actions if you getting called every other day then he talking to other women If he's short with you he talking to other women Sharon I don't know how y'all do the money thing. It should I don't know how people do that Tony what is your perspective on women like myself who has no kids? Let me see her. Oh, yeah You don't look that old That that's that's I mean, it's no man a Man like that because it's just less headaches Because you know a lot of a lot of women Sharon be running that new man through all kind of chaos You ain't my daddy Don't tell me nothing ain't got to listen to you And so when you don't have that it just make it that much easier then a man don't have to be worried about if if Your child father is crazy if he's a shooter You know and all of this so it just left stress on a man now when you have that He got to take those things and cut into consideration He got to ask himself how much does that do I like this woman? Justin Justin case her her ex is a head case and just in case her kids back How much do I like this woman and am I gonna be able to deal with this taking care of Someone else's responsibility Can I make this my own so that takes a mature man and a lot of time? You know my sister she's single and she got three kids And so, you know, it's a hard conversation to have with my sister my only blood sister But it's just you know, it's a reality. It's like some women women is easier To understand and women understand it better because you're nurturing nature, but men Barely know how to take care they own and and truly love and be a shining example for their own So it is it takes a mature man to be that for someone else is that didn't come from him And so y'all have to understand that you can't get offended about that You just got to understand that that's the cause of doing love, you know That's the cause of taking a gamble on love. Sometimes you walk away with a blessing that It's gonna be with you for the rest of your life and if somebody can't accept that oh Well, and if and if you don't have him in a man judging you because of that Tony when you leave a man if he doesn't call every day Within that 14 days does that mean you should let him go? Yes, don't bite your business when you leave a man if a man Won't you? Then he will be after you Tony you always talk about saving sex for marriage But you never talk about what to do if you have already Slipped up and had sex in your relationship. Is it too late to start over by stopping? Sex um The reason why I don't talk about that. I just assumed that was Common sense, you know, I just assumed that if I'm talking about not doing it And you already didn't did it then you need to stop doing it Versus just keep on doing it saying oh, I know I already did I might well stay on my back And I know I already did it so that's why I didn't talk about it. I thought that was but absolutely now y'all see this Sometimes I think you just gonna know and so when y'all see me doing a video that some of y'all give me the side I why are you doing this video who need to know that people need no stuff Not everything is You know known to people we when you in the situation sometimes you cannot see yourself So I understand that and I apologize for not addressing that. I just did not think about it. I just thought it was You know, that's what the message is what I'm telling you, you know You in the message too because when I'm doing these videos about saving it until marriage I'm not assuming that everybody watching is A virgin I'm assuming everybody to have been on a bank You see I'm saying and so I'm telling you that now you need to save it until marriage and so Yeah, it's not too late, but listen to me When you let a man ride a bicycle and then you come tell him now you got to walk That ain't gonna be easy for him to understand so understand this now When you flip the script you might lose that man because that's not what he signed up for He signed up for a woman to be on her bike Not for a woman how her legs glow So you should close your legs because what's gonna happen is you're gonna see if he's really about you You're gonna see if he's really in love with you and if he in love with you Then he's gonna respect that now listen to me listen to me now Listen to me when you change your mind whether you are Already absent going into the relationship or whether you've slipped up and now you want to change this thing When you do this this man is going to give you a hard time He going to be on you he gonna be pressing you bugging you bothering you He gonna threaten the lead he gonna threaten that he got he gonna suffer from this Disease and that disease and all these ailments that men get when they got to be after them He gonna be doing all of that he gonna be telling you all of that guess what you cannot You cannot fall for it. You got to do what is right for you regardless So what he got to say about it and then he will get it and move on or he will Whip in the shape and realize this is serious to you It's not just a little trend that you own It's not just a game you trying to play because of a video you seen online But you really real about this change and if he's the man for you He's gonna respect that and he's gonna grow with you And male friend of mine has feelings for me, but I don't feel the same for him He's a good guy, but we are not equally yo Because I am trying to better myself not drink and build myself Don't pay it no mind. Don't pay it no mind and listen to me When a man is a man for you Nine out of ten time he gonna come in he gonna come in as The man for you. He's not gonna come in as a male friend When a man come in as a friend and you see him as a friend and you put him in the friend box And he okay with that friend box and he don't make it known from the jump like no I ain't trying to be no friend. I'm won't I want to be with you Then if he went in that friend box and didn't tell you from the get-go and you put them there Because that's how you saw him then don't take him out the friend box Don't take him out the friend box because nine out of ten all that is if he just want to touch something He want to touch something. He want to you know taste some and then once he get it the thrill is gone Jay Dilla and he'll look him for his wife Now Jay Dilla I'll be sending any comments now and I'm not sure now y'all let me know nine You know when y'all end up dating Jay Dillon. He do you wrong? Let me know we calling the police on Because I'll be saying I'll be like Lord. Let this man be I Said Lord, I hope this man ain't paying to be a part of the blessed tribe Just so he could get one of these women and and may cut go against all my advice To get the biggest notch in his belt that a man could get Because you know how men used to now ain't saying Jay Dilla doing this, but I'm saying you got to watch yourself now and You remember how men used to love The sleep with a Christian woman So if y'all one of y'all start dating Jay Dilla, you got to say love you to her at all Jay Dilla so you need to be One of the best men out here because you know her at all the conversation You've been all in it and all that so I want y'all to Might say I made a fake account Cuz men used to love to sleep with Christian women a woman be talking about she a Christian and she go to church It used to be a man go to get up because it was like a extra notch in the belt You did talk about it Tony in your videos the same the exact same thing you are saying now Okay, little tiny little tiny be listening now So you so little time you talk about the lady that was telling me I never talk about What to do if you know already slipped up you will you right? I have talked about that What about when your parent does not agree with the person you want you got to ask why you got to ask why You got to ask does your parent love you does your parent love you as your parents stable-minded and If that's the case then you need to listen because your parents not gonna lead you wrong Listen, okay. I was coaching a Lady and she was saying her mom kept telling her kept telling her kept telling her but she thought her mom was Judging them for the wrong reasons from the from the wrong angle and then boom Come to find out mom was right. So Your parents be knowing they really be knowing Okay, now these people tell me how to talk about a thank y'all now Thank you cuz but when I'm doing videos. I'm just talking, you know, I'm talking I'm just letting the spirit flow. So by the time the video over. I don't recall a word. I said it's just a The channel I'm just being a vessel in that moment I shoot all my videos in one tape just like how I'm answering these questions These ain't pre-recorded answers. There's coming right to me and I'm just letting the Lord speak through me And so when I'm done, I'm drained and I can't remember a word. I said so people come up to me Shout out to on Golden Crust. I went to Golden Crust. It was three ladies in there I went to get my wife a snapper and some dumpling because y'all know my wife's you're making And the three ladies that was in there watch the YouTube videos God bless y'all and then the ladies watch the YouTube videos I told me how much the video help them and then she's still gonna charge me for the food Okay, you can't so that food into my life The lady at me pay. I mean the bill was $34 and then she gonna flip the rest around for me to hit the tilt I gave her 15% I said Lord Well a prophet has no honor in his own country Hey, big brother Tony. I have been really good friends Almost best friends with a guy for the past two years. We both flirt and talk for hours I think I'm falling in love. What should I do? You playing yourself like Nintendo? You playing yourself like Nintendo? Here's the key word Really good friends almost best friends for the past two years He understand that The best love Megan is made in the oven so he didn't let you slow bake You hear me and he want to wear you out and then when he done Out of there What I need y'all to understand about this now I could be wrong the gamble is on you you want to take that kind of What I need you to understand a man who want you a man who wants a woman is not gonna be your friend for two years Listen to me Listen to me. You got you got a week the two weeks for a man to fake like a friend and then he gonna let you know Okay, a man is not finna be your friend for two years. So you About to play yourself, you hear me you about to play yourself. That's not your man He won't do with you. You hear me? He liked being your friend and it is a notch in the belt It is fun for a man to be able to get a friend So-called friend and I wrote in my very first book I wrote this book at 22 years old in my very first book. I Answered a question. Can guys and girls be just just be friends the answer is no Now a lot of people say, oh, I got friend. I got friend a lot of women say that listen to me You fake like you'll sleep with that friend. Guess what? That man will be on you like white on rice. You hear me? You think that's your friend you want to you? You you tell him he can have something that very friend that you thought was your friend will be On you like white like peanut butter and jelly. You hear me every single time. Tell me I'm lying now Tell me I'm lying. You don't believe me Try if you if you think he ain't aggressive the way he gonna get crazy You try you you you play like you gonna let him get some and watch how fast he jump Watch how fast he on them. You hear me ain't no such thing as no male friend. You might have male colleagues You might have male co-workers You might have male associates. You ain't got no male friend Because he colleague co-workers associates all I'm gonna get to you. And so whatever you call a friend Listen to me listen to me You might not like him like that But trust me he would touch you and twice on Sunday I'm going through a divorce my husband dating another woman want more time To look for a place. I want him gone ace out. What is the best way to handle this? If you can't get him out and you really want to be gone then you got to go You got to go to just show him how serious you are about it But if you you can't kick them out, you know, ain't no sense of fighting them Ain't no sense of setting clothes on fire, you know, if you in the police they probably gonna tell you it's a silver matter so You know it come with the cost of marriage So, you know, let him have his time to look for a place. He's gonna be gone Great for heart. God bless you. Now what you might need to do on this Is you might have to you know, just stay in a corner of the house Don't talk to him. Don't look at him. Don't say don't say nothing and and and Ain't gonna give you no advice on that because me and me and me and could be crazy You say not to introduce your boyfriend to family until after 12 months of serious dating and engagement What if he introduces you to his before that? That's fine. That's fine. They got nothing to do with you You're gonna right on there and meet him and see the thing that a lot of women don't understand about meeting the man family if he take you to meet his family, they don't mean nothing, especially if he'd do it early if he Do it early on it don't mean anything because Some men mama used to meet in a woman every week She know that's just what her son does. She knows that that's just who he You know who he is and he want to meet him. She want to meet him every week. Okay. Who you bringing this week? Okay. Oh that Jessica. Okay. That's Lindsay. Okay. That's such and such. Oh, that's such and such And she treat all of you like you the only one she ever met and that's just He think he know most women think that means something so that make you wet know what that make you do Drop that guard and then something and and the mama she just right with it because she just happy He don't like me and so she like bring them on over here. Do what you want to do with them. That's you And the mama don't bit more care about your heart about your mind about what you thinking what you feeling what you going through The daddy don't care either. Yes. Hey knock them down a lot of time they just happy that they going that way and It don't mean nothing We talked about this at church last night. I don't think men and women can be just friend. They can't they can't That's why I don't have I don't have any women friends It's women who text me but all of those women have paid me Meaning they are a client and I tell women I've had women say Tony we friend Come on Tony. You ain't gonna you ain't gonna get on the phone and give me some advice or Tony we friends You can't do this for myself. Listen, you are a client. I don't have female friends You are a client. I refer to every woman as a client even if she ain't paid me You're a pro bono client. I don't do that. I don't do friends. It's just no such thing. You go to being friends something happen Draws gonna hit the floor So y'all y'all play with it if you want to and for all y'all ladies that thinking you have male friends Guess what you're gonna stay single You're gonna stay single you're not gonna or you're gonna get a man who gonna be cheating on you cuz men do not believe in Male friends, so you want to have all these male friends a lady wrote me today. I'm gonna have to disagree with this Now I change my voice cuz she looked like the other voice I make I'm gonna have to disagree with you on this I have plenty of male friends and they do not want to sleep with me. I ain't even respond to I said one You don't know what you talking about You mess around and let that man think he can sleep with you That man gonna be on you for you could blink you hit me you think that's your friend He waiting on that right vulnerable moment the way you didn't you know, just let your guard down Don't rearrange your spine. Why are you thinking that's your friend and he gonna get up and call you friend? Friend, I'm so sorry. Please forgive me friend and be trying to be right back on that. Amar Why do men not like you or your message my husband doesn't like what you're saying. I wonder why FYI, we're at odds right now Oh God bless I got to get ready to go here at 60 minutes. I got to get up for an early flight You know, you already know the answer why men don't like what I'm saying And we need to talk about your husband right now But if a man don't like what I'm saying, you hear me if I'm lying on fly If I'm lying I'm flying cuz Amanda and man, they never came to me and told me I'm telling a lie I ain't never came to me and told me I ain't telling the truth. And so the fact that y'all at odds That's what let me that's why he don't like me because he know that I'm gonna give you the real truth That I'm gonna give you the game and that when you get the game You're gonna be able to expose The games he playing if he playing any and it's probably why y'all at odds because of the games he playing and when I exposed the game now He can't keep doing it cuz see y'all see the questions that I get and a lot of these questions to me I'm like wow, that's a question and sometimes women be like wow. She asked that but men know That women don't know much about men because the reason why is The reason why is because Most men don't talk when you think about it your daddy didn't sit you down and Just really give you the game on this level Like a hour a day like what I'm giving you on YouTube a hour a day Nobody daddy do that. Nobody daddy do that They nobody brother does that Nobody uncle does that so that's why women don't really know much about men and the games men play So when I come up here, I'm illuminating, you know, I'm a light in the darkness So now I'm giving away the game and the reason why I'm giving away the game is because God called me to give away the game And the reason why I got to do that is because and I'm gonna cut these messages off real quick So y'all could listen to me now Cuz I got to go I got to go but y'all listen to me Let me help you understand something about what my whole channel doing and why I got over 200 videos on here is because the foundation of the world is relationships and Because men don't talk to women and share the honest truth women have been in the blind And so men we have a man code We have a man law just like it's a girl code woman code We have a man law and that man law is to please yourself as a man and to use women as disposable human beings for your pleasure so meaning have you a main woman have you a side woman or two three side women and do what you want to do to them and with them and Just to mask your pain and your fragile ego and if you If she's with a child So what you still could mess around on her when she bring him in the world So what you still can mess around on her and you can use and abuse and dog her out Lie to her manipulator Mis-treater and then still call her your woman still talking about oh, I love her But yet treating her like the limp between your toes worse than the limp between your toes And so that's what the man law is but see When you come into a run-in With your creator and your creator says that you listen you've been living by the man law And you've been breaking hearts left and right and you're gonna have to answer the mean For doing this because I created her to benefit your life For the good not for you to use her and so that's my creation. She equal to you in the kingdom That's why the Bible say to see the woman as the weaker vessel because she is equal to you in the promise of life What it's talking about is you got to treat her with respect You got to treat her with honor. You got the reverence and respect this woman And so men are not doing that today and the reason why men are not doing it is because as humans We selfish and so what happens is women and I'm I hate to say this to y'all as a man I Sit over here and I'm like Lord Jesus. Why I everyday. I'm like Lord. Why Did you do this? Why these women don't know nothing? I'm like, why am I getting these questions? I'm like, why is why what cannot this woman see that this man do not care for her at all? How in the world does a woman give? Five ten fifteen twenty twenty five years of her life to a man who don't kill Nothing about her and how did she not see this? I'm like Lord. Why Did you create a human being that is loyal to a fault that will be ran over dog doubt? Treat it like crap and stay and just be oh, I hope he get it together And I'm praying for him and I believe it's gonna work out my Lord. What is this? Why did you do this? So guess what as a man to have you a naive and gullible woman and you are and you a grown boy It is comforting because she will soothe your wounds You can mistreat her dog her out do whatever you want to do to her and she's still there So for for me and that is comforting because he doesn't have to grow He get the cheat he get the wife poor. He get the yell at you. He get the curse at you He get to catch attitudes. He get to give you silent treatment. He get to break up the makeup He get to just train you treat you worse than his dog. He treat his pit bull better than he treats you He treat his video game better than he treats you He treat his Jordans better than he treats you he he washed his car more than he washed you with love And you don't even see it and you sitting there and you like what in the world Man listen here. I don't know what it was, but but my wife you hit me this woman got the life This woman get treated like a queen. You hit me every day on round. He'll massage and bang massage and scalp rubbing feet You hit me. I'm around here doing everything head to toe. I'm touching it all loving it all a New gift. I'm ordering a new gift by every day Anything you want to do any way you want to go you could do it. You can have it go do it I'm treating her like a queen and you know why? Because it made me feel good and because I know that's what God called me to do and I Realized sometimes I go broke on my wife I literally go broke on my wife just because gifts is one of her love languages and it's also service And so it's the thought that counts. It's not about the material thing But I go broke on my wife and guess what the next day God to open the window heaven and send me a flood He'll send me a flood of blessings and I'm like whoa I'm like whoa the good books say He who finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord. So I say, okay I'm gonna treat her the way you treat her the way the creator treats her Though it says she was fearfully and wonderfully created So I'm a treat her fearfully and wonderfully and when I do that guess what? I'm flooded with blessings because that's the the way of the world You got the creator and then he made man and then for man He made woman, but he say listen man in order for you to get my blessings You got to treat my daughter the way I Won't her to be treated and when you treat her the way I want her to be treated I'm gonna give you everything your heart desires. See I understood and tapped in I don't Decoded the matrix. I don't figured it out. I'm like Lord for me to live my dream For me to have 50 plus streams of income 11 companies be able to go anywhere do anything I want to do now have to punch nobody clock You mean to tell me all I had to do was love your daughter The way you created her to be loved and you was gonna shower blessings on me like this Because to be in right standing with God is to be in right standing with your wife See you can't please God if you're not pleasing your wife If you in fornication and adultery you are displeasing to God So while you praying your prayers ain't getting past the ceiling Your prayers ain't made it through your roof. You hear me? And so the manlaw is causing us so much pain and the system still at work The system is still at work today. Listen to me. That's why I don't have a lot of subscribers on YouTube That's why you get so caught up in the message You forget to share the message because the devil said don't don't share it You don't even share it, you know why and so it's compressed and it's just for who is for but stuff like this Don't go viral. That's like it's not gonna be on them the morning news They're not gonna put this on the new because it's too real it up ends the system Because as long as men dog and women out Then the homes are broken and as long as you got a broken home Then guess what you got irrational creatures who will do whatever you tell them to do So you tell them to spend a trillion dollars on Black Friday They can do it because they broken hurting and they and they lost you tell them the To spend all of their money to go broke the max out their credit cards And now you got to pay the money back to the car with interest so that the big banks can make all the money And you just gonna live like a rat on the on the hamster The hamster on the wheel and you're gonna be in the rat race just chasing So you got to work a job because you don't have to wear with all to go start your own company and build your own brand Because your mind is it's so crazed over a relationship or your past relationship. Guess what you keep the system going Because the rich get rich and the poke it poor So when you decode the major when you break the man law now Guess what women become enlightened to things that they did not know now when women know things They did not know now men cannot get away with the things that they've been getting away with So now a man has to become a real man. So now when a man got the man up Now he understand what life is about but see when he becomes a real man, although it be Reluctantly he then reaps the rewards of the discipline and the sacrifice of being a one-woman man Who treats your woman like the daughter of the creator? Now that example between husband and wife is passed down to Son and daughter they go into the world and they are love they radiate love They become love they repel evil spirits and they attract the positive So now they attract a spouse that is equally yoked with them and then they produce Children who then become law. So now you rewrite the system now you decoded the programming that has kept you Broke busted and disgusted because the number one greatest gift given to mankind is love It's not money. It's love. So when you understand love That's when you understand life and when you understand life That's when you have peace and prosperity But until you have self-love and then you can attract love you broken and you empty and you lost So then you come and you ask a question Like I've been with a man for five years and he doesn't really call me and he says he's not really ready He doesn't know if he'll ever marry me, but we sleep together. I cook for him. I do his laundry I give him anything he needs, but he's cheated on me several times, and I just don't know if I should leave or stay You did what you did what? Okay, okay, so he so he has not cheated on you one time he cheated on you two three times And he's put hands on you before And he's ghosted you before When you do something he doesn't like he gives you the silent treatment He told you That he likes you, but he's not in love with you. He told you he doesn't believe in marriage He told you he don't know if you the one but give him some more time. He'll see he'll think about it And you're doing what? You stand You wondering who created you Not the Almighty who child is you Are you a child of the king? So if you're a child of the king, then why you let a man treat you like a concubine Like a handmade like a prostitute like a slave Come on out. Come on out. You got the right to make a choice Because it's millions of men in the world. So you sitting there wasting time energy and effort You losing sleep you losing unhealthy weight You losing jobs you losing money you losing focus You can't even build and bond with your children if you got them You can't build and bond with your friends and your family because you were about a no-good sorry man You watching his dirty draws Cleaning up after him just like his mama did and it bit grown musty, but way past the age of 18 What is you doing? Come on now Come on now. Don't let my wife be the only woman getting treated like a queen She ain't she ain't nobody else daughter than you both of y'all got the same creator your father her father So how she getting treated how she getting treated and you getting treated like you getting treated Because you making different decisions You gonna have to make a new decision you gonna have to let that sorry man go And so he got the answer to God and when he got to meet his maker And God ain't gonna make him wait until he die to meet him God gonna confront him right here, but see God can't confront him because God can't show up and show out on his son When his daughter right there watching because he know if he if he need to touch his son, he know he know