 One of the more common misunderstandings about PDA is that it's related to having a really high ego. It could be seen as just being annoyingly difficult when people are telling you to do something. It could also be seen as trying to be like a control freak or someone who really just wants to be the boss. That's what it comes across as, but it is a lot to do with people's expectations. It's a lot more to do with aversion to expectations. So the expectations that people put on us causes stress, causes to act in kind of like a fight, flee, fall and freeze response. People react differently to it. For me it's a lot more internal for other people. It might be a bit more external. It could look like avoiding situations where you're around that person who's giving you demands could look like telling them off saying no.