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آپ آنہ،stoffہ اس اپنیت منعجت ہے۔ میں نے ہمارےیہ جو کسی بڑے جیسے اس بہنہ ربار گاہدہate اللہ سبحانہ وحاتہ لحا but there's no point to say my daughter is gorgeous and the way you dress her is totally against the سبتہنہ و ψاکشن rotation who gave you the daughter who gave you the son what type of school have you sent your child to we are not saying you need to send your child to a school where the ایڈکیشن از ا away but something where the moral values are also held up the child comes out with a ریسپونساب Represent نوئننو کھلے رسائل مرز پہ لے ۔ نوئننہ Remember نوئنہ سیدتے ہیں ، اس سے مغعم کہاں ان ترقی طور پر وہاںیاں ل کرتے ہیں ، ہمیں دروگز ہے ، مثل سے جو هاں جانتے ہیں ، مغ終یان پر در ایک گلوب کساہف ہے ، اور کسی کچھیں کہ یہ درگزی کیا ہے۔ آپ جائے گے د Girl اچھا سکتا ہے۔ یہ کہو میں کیا جانتا ہے۔ ہم آپ کی트가 بھرہنے کی بارےپ ۔ جو اسیما شکر۔ کہاں다면 آپ کو برائق تھی ، آپ کیوں کیا ہے۔ اللہ سبحانہ وعالتا ہے ، مترزت ہوں. ہم یہاں جانتا ہے۔ مہ اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ سی طرح یہاں گا ۔ اپنے سیداری ملک نہیں کرو کہ مرونہ سب نی چکل کنے ہوں۔ اس سندگی بڑے ہے۔ مہ اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ سیدارے ہوں ،타�ب۔ اگر مرور ہم سب نی چکل کے جانتے ہیں ، اور لوگوں کو کہتے ہیں کہتے ہیں ، مدیسان کو کہتے ہیں گے ، آپ جانتا ہے کہ اپنے سیداری سیداری بھی ن جانتے ہیں ، عیسی کرتا ہے ، کبھیators آج سواری کبھیسی ہے ، جنہ میں ساتھ پورا ہے۔ ہم جانتے ہو سکتے ہیں۔ اور ذاتہ فرم beispielsweise ہمیناہ پر سکتے ہی کتے ہیں۔ ہمسے اچھی اس کے لئے کتی کی بارے میں بلتا ہوں۔ بب آپ اپسٹی کنی انگریار میں سے مطالقت ہے ، بچی بارے ہی ہے ، ہمیناہ پر اپسٹی کنیان ہو پر آجار ہے ، اللہ کے فرم کے لئے میں سکتے ہیں۔ اور اگر آپ تو جانتے ہیں کہ اللہ کی وجہ کو نیوی کو بتا کرشتکتا ہے سبھانہ اللہ سے جانتے ہیں ،정 ہم کا حیث بارے سے بہت بہت بارے سے لگتے ہیں ، انہیں اس کے庭 تلوں کو بہتارے ہے ، میرے والے کیا کہ بھرے کے لئے میں کچھ چاہتا ہے ، نیا کے لئے آ نہیں بڑھشتا ہے ، بناہ بھی بھی کامی حالت ہوتا ہے ، سبحان اللہ Omar جیاتا ہے ، اور ایسا آئے جو آپ کو جش کیا کہ بھئیوں سے بہت بچے ہیں۔ میں ہم بارنکشا مِا اللہ سبھانہ وPlue ڈارالہ ڈالا ڈراندس Relation یہ مبارکا ہے today they are taller than us one wonders what they are eating and what's happening well it's us who buying the food for them i always used to say are you sure there is no fertilizer in your shoes something's happening you know they shoot up far taller than us by allah subhanahu وatalab bless us what a big responsibility if you're not prepared to spend time with your children why did you have children if you're not prepared to spend time with your wife if you're too embarrassed to take her somewhere and to spend time with her quality time why did you get married why did you waste somebody's life if you don't want to talk to her correctly why did you marry why did you take someone else's daughter subhanallah this is someone's child the same applies to the females if you really did not want to speak properly to your husband why did you marry you should have been honest you should have been upright you should have said so from the beginning that look i'm marrying you but to be honest with you i will just look at you without talking may allah help us really you need to smile and the smile is an act of worship when it comes to your مسلمین you know your brethren you smile you break into a beautiful smile mashallah you know you smile imagine if a smile is an act of worship when it comes to fellow human beings what about when it is your own spouse it is a far greater act of worship you need to show your teeth to your spouse and when you grow older you can show your dentures too mashallah really subhanallah for as long as you smile and you know you just smile look at them admire them from top to toe look twice thrice she is not a woman whom you need to lower your gaze from but you don't look at her but the others we look at them head to toe head to toe and we go to the sheikh saying that was only one gaze i didn't look away not yet but your wife whom you are supposed to praise you're supposed to tell her darling you're gorgeous you know you are mashallah figure like a trigger the other day we used the term ایرو دینامیک ماشallah you know subhanallah beautiful you see the shapes of the motor vehicles are changing every year subhanallah may Allah bless us we will praise the shape of the new c class and say wow that's a baby s class i'm sure you know what i'm talking about well look at your wife and tell her mashallah you are my baby it's an act of worship if you are not going to say these beautiful words your knot is probably going to break to be honest with you that knot would be so loose that you can't even say a good word every time you say a good word you're actually making sure the knot is tight so my brothers and sisters make sure the knot is tight enough it mustn't loosen and it mustn't break you know when you are too hard then what happens the lace if it is a lace it would break and if you are not bothered at all then the knot is so loose that it would actually come apart may Allah subhanahu وطالہ bless us this is why we say you will have qualities in your spouse that you may not like it's normal they are human beings human beings work on them do not just want out in two days five days one month i recall a wedding without a joke where the nikaah was done and they had the walima and the function was full of sin may Allah forgive us really you know i have mentioned in the past that those who have functions of sin when it comes to their nikaah they pay for it some somewhere down their lives unless they have engaged in towba so sometimes you know people say look i had the wrong function when i was getting married we had music we had intermingling we brought in dancers we had so much it was just a party some of them had alcohol some and it's a celebration subhanallah of a great segment of your iman subhanallah so they say now i'm worried i say there is a way out it's never too late even though your marriage was 30 years back 40 years back some people are paying in the form of their children disobeying them because the day they tied the knot they disobeyed Allah so now they say why is my child so disobedient and i go back and say brother the day you got married was there a big ball where people were dancing and Allah was you know forgotten and they look at you and say what do i do now my children are forgetting me they don't want to know me but brother you went wrong the day you were getting married if you did it correctly you listened to اللہ اللہ will give you children who will listen to you simple so now what's the solution we already did it wrong 30 years ago 20 years ago i need a solution اللہ's love for us is such that there is a solution what is the solution oh اللہ when i got married i did it wrong forgive me ya Allah ya Allah forgive me ya Allah grant me forgiveness and open my doors and Allah says my worshipper my creature i love you so much at least now you've realized what you did was wrong i forgive you subhanallah you can make amends don't lose hope in the mercy of Allah something i did that was wrong in the past it requires me to understand that Allah's mercy is greater than my sin definitely Allah's mercy is greater than any sin subhanallah it is only if a person dies in the condition of shirk and association of partnership with اللہ that they need to be worried otherwise we have a rub we have a lord who is most forgiving for as long as we try we try you know you can't have a youngster coming to you and saying okay so i'm on drugs but i just heard Allah is most forgiving Allah's mercy is bigger than my drug no don't fool yourself perhaps technically you are correct but you are tempering with the wrath of Allah with the anger of Allah this is something we need to understand so this is why we say we will have bad habits sometimes or habits that might not be ideal we might have a small irritation you know a person sometimes may not know how to handle a woman and a woman may not know how to handle a man the nature is a little bit different we know that so sometimes a woman prefers to remain silent for a while and you can't just get excited and agitated and irritated and you better talk to me and you lift her up what are you doing you tightening that not so much it's about to break and it will break by the time you put her down there's no not left really tie the knot correctly for the sake of Allah she someone's daughter would you like someone to do that to your daughter your mother your sister the answer is no so watch out treat her correctly she has a nature if you don't know how to handle a woman go for classes prior to marriage we encourage the ulama here to have marriage classes really coaching what should i do سبحان اللہ اللہ سبحانہ وتعالہ گرانت از ایز and goodness because how to treat the opposite sex and to know their temperament to know what they may or may not you know what you will find in the opposite sex important very very important some of us you know we know we know nothing the last thing سبحان اللہ you get married and you think i'm the boss that's it boss boss is a perfume for all like hey اللہ سبحانہ وتعالہ bless us if you are boss you will be sprayed and you'll be sprayed all over the show my brother may Allah سبحانہ وتعالہ help us remember this this is Allah this is a gift of Allah upon you you need to treat a person like a gift like i say be patient work on them mashallah you know when you have when you have a diamond where do you find it you will have to mine when you find it initially it's all mixed up with stone you won't know the difference and you then you need an expert to tell you how many carrot this is can you tell yourself if you haven't studied no you'll probably throw the stone away and one man says hey hang on this is a diamond the same applies in marriage we want to marry stones sometimes without realizing there is nothing here and sometimes we leave those that we think are stones just because our parents have told us you know what marry here it's not wrong for your parents to guide you remember this i have to qualify what i said yesterday remember this it is not wrong for your parents to guide you in marriage in fact it is their duty to guide you the problem we were guided already at the age of 11 and we've already fixed our eyes on someone over before the parents came we've already seen the matter father says son would you like to get married daughter would you like to get married and you say yes i was waiting for the question and then he comes up and says okay i've got a very good idea for you i've got some really good proposal or i've got an idea for you perhaps you can listen to me but dad i don't mean that type of marriage why i've got someone in my own mind okay in that case dad you did not involve yourself correctly in the life of your child so your child has made big decisions without you you are also to share the blame do not deny it if you had a powerful friendship with your child the minute he met or she met the opposite sex he or she would come home that day and say dad you know what i met someone and you say watch out be careful you need to know this and know that you are able to talk to them the problem with us no communication child comes from school we don't even ask what did your madam say you know what did the teachers say what happened to school today nothing he's scared to even sit on the same table as dad because dad is sitting there you don't know how hard i work to send you to school you don't know how much money i have spent you don't know i have sweated my backside off you probably say dad get up let me see Allah forgive us really so that is the relationship we have in the home where it's cat and mouse we don't even speak to our children but if you embrace your child you learn to kiss your child you learn to have a relationship with your child oh my beloved child my son my daughter subhanallah and you do not just shout the child for a mistake that a child has made just like you do not shout a spouse for a mistake they have made some of us for food we make such a big issue that the knot breaks your spouse burnt the food mashaAllah today we had some beautiful food this time i've been eating a lot in kalambo may Allah subhanahu و تعالی bless us may Allah grant us ease you know i was thinking may Allah subhanahu و تعالی give us the food of jannah one wonders if there is such beautiful food what about jannah what will there be subhanallah in order to get there you need to make sure you are the best to your spouse خیروکم خیروکم لئہلے the حدیث says the best from amongst you are those who are best to their wives the best from amongst you are those who are best to their wives subhanallah best to their family members best to your spouse best to your husband how do you treat them some people the wife has burnt the food do you know that's a test from اللہ that's a test from اللہ he's watching and to be honest with you the angels are writing what's your reaction that's all that's happening nothing else she might never burn it again and we get up and say do you know how much money is wasted here you know this food is rubbish it's rotten it's bad it's filthy throw it out is that the attitude well why did you get married that is someone's daughter how are you speaking to her have a bit of shame your children are watching if you have committed a crime that is one thing but you are teaching your children how to commit a crime that they will commit in a bigger way this is why i encourage people who want to get married if you want to get married to someone go and look at their parents look at how they are living if their parents are living correctly with beauty with respect with honor it would mean that they have learned beauty respect and honor but if their parents are fighting like cats and dogs and if their parents are swearing each other and there is a relationship that is totally absurd then it does not mean the child is bad no it doesn't but there is a likelihood that the child might have qualities of that nature especially if it's a male may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ protect us it's not a rule but it is something we need to consider it is something we need to think about may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ grant us the ability to mend our ways and habits in such a way that they do not seep through to the next generation this not is a blessed not سبحانہ اللہ it is to be tied for the sake of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ and this is why when tying the knot in islam when tying the knot in islam you will find very clearly that Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ has made it easy and he's asked us to say a few good words that is a sunnah of Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم every time there was a nika there was an officiation of a marriage we find Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم used to say a few good words you know advice to those who are not married to those who have come together perhaps to those who are still waiting he would say all youth whoever is able and capable to get married do not waste time don't delay let you should get married it's a piece of advice and mashallah you see your friend and he's excited he's sitting there and you know he's saying i'm about to say yes to the imam سبحان اللہ so now he looks up and he says the imam is asking have you accepted it's just yes it happened to me once where and i mentioned it not too long ago as well where there was a youngster so excited and i'm busy telling myself son i hope you're as excited as today as you are today one year down the line اللہ و اکبر may Allah help us today we cry we make dua that Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ جانتا ہے you know a goodness and make this bond solid they say triple x glue you know why they call it triple x if i were to tell you this video is triple x what does it mean i think everyone knows what it means it means it's no go area you will hurt yourself you will harm yourself don't watch it leave it triple x this is something x rated imagine the glue is not x rated it's double triple x they call it triple x glue when you tie the knot it should be with triple x glue there is no haram that is there besides very very little and that too you would have to learn may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ bless us that's your woman you are intimate with her that's your man that's your husband you intimate with this person you can talk to them you can undress in their presence سبحان اللہ whatever you'd like within the limits of Allah you can get it done ماشا اللہ there is nothing x rated there because that is your spouse what a blessed knot Allah tells you yes we know you have needs we know you have desires we know you have a lot within you that is there that is instilled by Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ we will show you a dignified manner of fulfillment of this we will show you a respectful respectable manner of fulfillment of this and believe me it is a given take not just a take and take it's a given take people sometimes think that you know my wife should do as i say no sometimes you should do as she says as well where you are wrong and she's right she has the right to correct you in fact it is her duty to correct you you are the spouse she will earn جنہ if she corrects you getting you up for صلاح don't just think i'm a i'm a husband don't you dare get me up you're interrupting my سلیب she has the right to pour water on your face my brother اللہ اکبر اللہ اکبر may Allah help us getting up for صلاح it's the duty of your spouse to get you up for صلاح she is sinful if she doesn't so sometimes you have to listen to your wife as well she has the right to say things she is a human being so she might have a better brain than yours admit admit hey the men are looking at me today i see what's happening no subhanallah it's a reality she might come up with better ideas than yours she might be more qualified than you are in terms of religious knowledge and various other things she might know how to handle the the home better than you she might come up with ideas look at خدیجہ بن تخوانی رضی اللہ عنہم محمد صلا اللہ علیہ وسلم was the highest no competition no debate like we said moments ago never ever a bad habit or an evil quality from the beginning all the way to the end perfect subhanallah in every way کان خلوقوں القرآن his character was made up of what the quran teaches completely but he used to listen to his spouse sometimes because that was a teaching not because anything was wrong i give you an example خدیجہ بن تخوانی رضی اللہ عنہم at the time of revelation what did she do when he said زمیلونی او دت تیرونی you know cover me and develop me she embraced her husband and she offered support this is why at the time of difficulty offer your spouse support either way husband to wife wife to husband offer her support you don't have to say listen i got nothing to do with this i'm out of here subhanallah that's your spouse you offer them support you tell them look don't worry she says کلہ واللہ علیہ خزیق اللہ ابدن never Allah will never let you down Allah will never disgrace you never embarrass you you are such a good man how many of us can tell about our wives or our husbands that they are such good men or women and tell it to someone else altogether meaning are we able to do that you might tell your wife oh you're so lovely and and you're saying it was quite hard to say that be genuine be honest look at the look at how lovely she really is it is character it is conduct it is sacrifice خدیت ابنت خویلی دردی اللہ و عنہ حال she says i have an idea let's go to my cousin this وارقب in نوفر let's go to him perhaps he will come up with something perhaps he will know so she thought up ideas محمد صلح اللہ علیہ وسلم did not have to listen to her سبحان اللہ but he walked with her he went out with her he heard and اور سبحان اللہ سے مجھے آتا ہے. کسی مجھے یہ سکتے ہیں؟ ہم محمد صلح اللہ علیہ وسلم لاگتے ہیں۔ ہم اللہ کے بیردات نہیں ہے۔ ہم ان کوئی مئے کھون ہیں۔ ہم مطلیان سے اپنی مقاوم ہیں۔ ہم مطلیان سے اپنے بیاروں کو محاورت ہونے ہیں۔ جو ہم سوچ دے جو ہمارا ہے۔ لیکن ہم نہیں چاہے ہیں۔ ہمیسنے کے ساتھ مخیف پر تو اپنے کو مجھے ہیں۔ سبحان اللہ جو مجھے ہیں۔ جانتے ہیں اور جو ہمیں اس کے ساتھ دیکھنا ہے لیکن ، look ، میں محبت ہے کہ آپ آپ کے مطالق کیا رہا ہے جو یہاں ہوں ، ملہ سبحانہ وتعالہ ، ہمیں ہمارے جانتے ہیں اور ہمیں دورتے ہیں ، میرے بھائیوں اور بھائیوں ، امام میں محبت کرنا ہے ، اگر یہ ہے کہ اس نے ایک انہوں کے قیدہ دیکھے ، یہ نہیں سب پر ہے جائے ہے ، لیکن today ایک قیدہ ایک نماز کے لئے کہ ہمیں چند کیا ، لہذا ہمیدن دیوان میں جو جو بات آنیойред کے گاہر ہیں ہمیدتے ہیںٹ چیز ت نہیں مبارہ جو کسی منظر آپ کو دک Transportation gleich ヤہرلی بریبہ لیکن نہیں جہن کیا اس i about youishing کیا اور د pregnancy کے旰ر auch acabar مجھ دیوان تNG than بہتا اس لر haben parler جاگگے اensus ایک باب انہ مجان کو lookingٹ ہے ماہmel شی gently walk ام کم Ihr مجھاسترنٹ جو مقطع ارجا بروجی جو باہ کرہتی ہے اور like I said figure like a trigger do you know why they call it like a trigger you know pull a bit and you are shocked اللہ و اکبر مالہ سبحانہ و تعالی فغیفہ us really tamper with it and the bullet goes straight through اللہ و اکبر so remember imagine if there is a woman who's walking past and she's absolutely new your wife is with you and she's watching and you look down and you don't even look up and she looks at you and looks there و اللہ she will feel in her heart hey this man mashaAllah you know he and then you look at her a little bit later and you say mashaAllah darling you're gorgeous mashaAllah gorgeous today we heard a new word aerodynamic mashaAllah wow you know bmw does not stand for be my wife no مالہ سبحانہ و تعالی help us may he bless us really I hope looking down was out of the fear of Allah not out of the fear of your spouse مالہ بلسہ so we cause it you will never get to the woman who walked by but you said a lot about yourself you made a huge statement to your spouse that you know what I don't look at you this way but I'm Allah forgive us really اللہ سبحانہ و تعالی strengthen us may Allah سبحانہ و تعالی protect us from temptation don't think you are too grand and powerful and strong anyone can fall ask Allah to help you to protect you from temptation ask him and ask him every day and he will protect you اللہ اُم مدفع عَنَّ الْغَلَا وَالْوَبَا وَالْرِبَا وَالْزِنَا وَالْزَلَازِلَا وَالْمِحَنْ وَسُوْ أَلْفِتَنِ مَا ضَحَرَ مِنْ ها وَمَا بَطَنْ the dua of محمد صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم includes the dua or Allah take away from us keep far from us certain things inflation and this and that and one of them is Zina keep away from us ya Allah I'm a human being I don't want to fall ya Allah keep it away from me may Allah سبحانہ وعالیٰ ہوا تَعالیٰ ستنکتن اس trust me we achieve nothing from adultery and fornication we achieve lots of goodness through our own relations our spouses our children Mashallah spend time at home it brings me to another point we get married we have kids we have a function of this nature Mashallah and you know Mashallah it's an important function there are so many brothers and sisters who've attended in your thousand's Mashallah may Allah bless us all like I say may he gather us like this on the day of qiyamah insha Allah in the right camp and may we be granted Janan Amin so what happens we come and your friends phone you so are you going so I'm going okay let's go together who is a real man is he who can say sorry my buddy I'm going with my wife that's a man the others are all little they are scared of their friends and losing their friendship they want to be called men when they are not men a true man is he who knows how to treat his family that's what a true man is are you a true man really if you want to know it does not mean how much money you have you know today I was sitting I was seeing people and Subhan Allah I learnt a lot and I learned one of the things I learnt is that a rich man is not he who has a lot of wealth no you've got a lot of wealth that is not the gauge of whether you are rich or not in اسلام in islam a rich man is he who can spend that wealth so you judge a person based on how much he has spent or he will be judged based on how much he has spent even by Allah Subhan Allah what's the point of amassing amassing amassing what's the point I haven't yet spent it let me earn my paradise let me spend left right and center Subhan Allah that is a true wealthy person so similarly a true man is he who knows what a family is all about Allah made you a man and made the other a woman in order for you to get together in marriage and be able to reproduce for the sake of Allah in order to increase the umma of Muhammadﷺ what's the point of reproducing like popcorn when you don't even know what your children are doing you don't know you have no time I've got money and that's it and let me just have as many kids as I want so we've got 25 kids none of them know what islam is all about what was the point so this is why quality is far more important than quantity remember this and if you're a real man you will know that your spouse comes first really first as in the human beings that are around you so much so that if there is politics between your mother and your spouse you will not disrespect your mother but some people misinterpret the term kindness to the mother as meaning obey her even when she is wrong your mother is a human being a lovely human being yes we did say you serve her we did say you will be kind to her mashallah but when she's making a mistake you must be a man to say mom I love you so much but you know what this is wrong man you cannot do this mom please don't do this you are messing up things and don't go and say my wife complained to me about you because now you're messing a relationship you're not a politician learn from the politicians around you mashallah they know how to play the politics really you need to be a politician to be able to hold that not properly you need to be one you need to be able like I said it's become a tight rope the reason why we say it's become a tight rope is people have lost the value of what Islam teaches they don't want to follow if all of us were following what the dean teaches including our mothers and fathers our spouses and everyone else then it would be a simple walk it still happens in some homes may Allah bless us and increase the number of homes where there is harmony and peace and goodness subhan Allah but in a lot of homes sadly today life is all about TV and materialism and the internet and whatsapp and the phone and social media and whatever else we've been speaking about all along subhan Allah people have removed Allah from the equation sometimes we have people who think Islam is reduced to Salah and to dress code so you have a nice long beard Mashallah you wearing hijab and niqab perhaps and you read five Salah a day and you think that I'm a good Muslim no way no way that is a part of Islam indeed but it's not just Islam that is not just what it is that's not all that Islam has no Islam has a lot and a lot more than this subhan Allah you need to pray you need to ask Allah you need to develop your character your conduct you have fulfilled your right towards Allah subhan Allah when it was direct between you and Allah what about the rights of fellow human beings guess where it starts یا ایوہ اللہ دینا آمہ نوپو آفوسا کم و آہلی کم نارا اویوہ who believe save yourselves and then your family members from the fire from hell fire it would mean that if I want to be good and kind I need to start with my own spouse my children and I need to stand up for what is correct that's a man subhan Allah even if you're a woman and your parents are maltreating your spouse your husband you should be good enough to say I am kind to my mother my father I am really good to them I do not harm them I respect them but at the same time what I need to know is communicate with them that how you are treating the spouse of your of mine is wrong you need to say it many women are suffering at the hands of the mothers of their husband's solely because the husband doesn't have the courage to be a man and we're not saying be rude remember kindness is a duty and obligation you need to respect your mother but with respect and kindness you need to understand she's just but a human being she also has her weaknesses you know the best of people can fall the best of people from amongst us can make mistakes the most knowledgeable from amongst us can make mistakes subhan Allah but to correct them in a beautiful way it doesn't mean that you know what that's it I must go and swear my mother no we need to address the situation correctly with utmost respect and this is when we will be able to consolidate what we have you know the spouses who respect their spouses are those whom when they have a difficulty the spouse is the first to rush to their assistance subhan Allah the first to rush to your help and as time passes do you know what will affect you the sacrifice the sacrifice that you have made for your spouse is what will increase you in value and the sacrifice that your spouse has made for you is what will increase him or her in value so you need to sacrifice what did I sacrifice not just my wealth not just my time but my kindness مینن I need to be kind my heart I need to say good words and I'm encouraging even the older people to go and try it out it works the other day I was talking to one person rough roughly my age and we were saying you know our fathers I don't think our fathers told our mothers I love you even once but they loved each other tremendously more than we who say I love you 20 times a day but I tell you what if your parents are still alive I hope they're listening try it out go and say I love you and that's not how you say it you don't just go and say I love you and then you walk out no there is a way like I said there is تجوید for everything subhan Allah I love you subhan Allah that holds much more weight than I love you تجوید you know say it correctly properly Mashallah that's your spouse you can say it how you want you can flick your eyes and blink them and do whatever you want that's your spouse come on the value of that speech is such that you can you know beautify it you want to add that the deed no problem you want to add a mud no problem you want to do him and اختہ no problem that's your spouse Mashallah بھائی اللہ know you want to sing a song for them why not say look my darling I've prepared a song for you I love you اللہ عقبہ what's wrong that's the not may Allah bless us all my brothers and sisters there is nothing wrong in Islam to do that ہے جو پیارت ہے but the problem with us we will send messages with these you know on whatsapp there's a heart when you send it it actually blows up a little bit and it starts pumping have you seen it میں شلیہ بہت ہوتا ہے yes's I hope you're sending them to the right people my brothers and sisters I hope you are really it's a beautiful heart but how many times do you send it to your spouse I don't think your spouse will become upset by you sending it تو رو میں جانتا ہوں ہوں ہلکہ 10 دنیجا پہن imag دنوں میں بھی گڈھیں گے جو کہتے ہیںingle کیجھا ہے کہ ہمارے thanا سال مابقہ میں ہوتا تھا oftentimes جندیک آپ ہوسکتے ہیں ہمارے thanا نگ آئے ہیں ہمارے thanا نگ راکھتے ہیں ہمارے thanا نگ جانتے ہیں ہمارے thanا نگ آئے ہیں ہمارے thanا نگ آئے ہیں آپ جانتے ہے جانتے ہیں جنو part ہلکہ باقی لپس مابقہ اس سے جنود جنو ہمارے thanا نگ آئے ہیں وہ خیلی ب 내일 سبحان اللہ ہوتا补ا شاہی ہے جو ہمیں شاہے ایشاہ کرتے ہیں اور ہی کہتے ہیں لیکن ہماری یہ کوئی خطرا ہے جو نقل کر سکتے ہیں نقل گئے انہوں کو کوئی کامیار کے لئے اور اس اطالحاہ کی شیطان کو ارتانا دیا گیا جانا ہے میں نہائی میں ایک شرب ہے مجھا recently کہتا ہے ایک لیکن آپ انہوں تک لگا ولہوہ شیطان مجھا ہیں لیکن شیطان جاتے ہیں نہیں ، ایک نمی ، ایک بیردتا جاتا ہے۔ سبے اللہ کیا آپ تو صلحے رہا ہے ، بیردتا جاتا ہے۔ ہمارے انداہوں کو حالت ہے ، لہذا اچھا ہے۔ جب ایک آپ نے بیردتا ہے ، ہمارے سامورج میں کیا اور اس کے شخص میں آپ دکتے你在 جانتا ہے۔ بہت پر آپیں جانتے ہیں ، ہے کہ میں آپ مور تک میکنا بھی۔ میں نے خاص ہے۔ اس میں کیا؟۔ لہذا ہے، مرحا اللہ کیا آپ یہ پڑھتے ہیں سے بہت سکتے ہے۔ کہ حیاتے ہیں ، ہمارے ص которое اخص بھی سب تھا ، بہت ہمہارہا ہے۔ آپ کو سیلی مجھے توہاں ایک مجھے لینگا آپ کو شاہتا ہے۔ آپ کو شاہتا ہے۔ کہتا ہے کہ ہم ایک جانتا ہے ، اپنے اپنے حفاظ ، آپ کو کہا, کوشان ہے کہ اگر لمی بارے پیدا ہے مع包جای ساللہ کے نیدار سلہم ، کہ sometimes وہ مفیادہ نہیں کیا ہے ، کیا یہ خصا کرتا ہے۔ سیک نمی طرح جانتا ہے. کچھ کیا ہم کے سارے جانے کے لیئے ہم کے ساتھ مجھے تک ہورای اپنے بھتنا ہے ، ایسا امیدیت ہے، اور سو ہم آپ کو نظرہ دلیاں یہ بات مرور ہے۔ اس شہر میں ایک محق جاتا ہے کہ میں اس کے حالت کو دیکھا ہوں اور شہر کہتا ہے۔ ہمیں بہت ہی ایک اس کیا ہے ایک محق جاتا ہے۔ لیکن ایسا کھوڈانیں اوٹی اس کے ساتھ انہوں نے محمد کرنے کے لئے۔ میں اسے جانتا ہے اور میں کہا کہ آپ اللہ تھی سبت کیا ہے۔ آپ اللہ تھی سبت کیا ہے۔ آپ جانتا ہے جانتا ہے جنہ کے لئے محق جا گا۔ سبحان اللہ اگر یہ ہے۔ your mother is irreplaceable that does not make it such that when she is wrong that wrong is also irreplaceable you can replace the wrong with right tell her my mom i love you i cant replace you you are my mother Allah chose you for me you are a test for me but my beloved mother do you know what in this instance you were wrong or get someone like me to tell your mother that you know what you are wrong really get a scholar get someone else whom she respects to correct her and I've been and I've done this in certain homes where you tell the person this is the problem please let your daughter live or let your son live without interfering so to speak and sometimes my young spouses it's not interference it is guidance we mix the two up they are guiding you like we said it's their duty to آپ اگر ایز دیکھتے ہیں تو آپ ایک بہت ہو گزی صلب کے ساتھ ہوتے ہیں ، تھا جو اگر آپ کو مرات ہے جو بہت بہت از آپ آپ اگر آپ ایسے اور ایک بہت بھر آجا تھا  کہ آپ نے میزھ پر بھی فرحانت بر گوہرہ کی تک کہتے ہیں بھروا سالی conditions You will but she mustn't say and this is a mistake many women make ever since you got married that woman I don't know what she does to you at night. آپ اپنی لئے اپنہوں کیوں نہیں پر بہت بہتر کے怕اید فو صعبہ quería اور ایسا چیوہا سکتے تھے۔ لہذا جو ملے ہوتے ہیں کہ ہمیں یہ براہ ہوتا ہے ، ویسیت نہیں ہے کہ ہے۔ اللہ سبحانہتا ہے ہمیں ملے ہوتا ہے ، بھی۔ میں نے this بھی ہوتا ہے۔ بھی کھuarی کسی ایک بے خیل ہے۔ کماہ کے طرح بہت ہوتا ہے ،我 کو بہت ہی کہتا ہے ، وہ لیکن Cr. شق ہوتا ہے۔ ل now یہ formerly بھائی کا بہت بہت ہے۔ اللہ سبحانہ والسیت آپ کے بات میں کمازر ہیں۔ اللہ تعالیٰ اگر انہوں کو کتنے ہیں جو انہوں کو کتنے ہیں انہوں کو کتنے ہیں جو انہوں کو کتنے ہیں جو انہوں کو کتنے ہیں مسلم کو کہا نہیں should not be saying that you make ڈوار for your son او اللہ گائید my son او اللہ help my child اللہ اکبر او اللہ help me create a love between me and my daughter in law make the ڈوار او اللہ help us like this anything goes wrong you know the mother the nose is twitching sometimes اللہ protect all our mothers the wrong thing would be for her to say i think my daughter in law is doing some magic on me my nose is twitching your nose is twitching big deal my nose twitches no one did anything on you it's just a little perhaps blood circulation something wrong something here there it's normal you everyone's nose twitches once in a while you know اللہ سبحانہ واتعالہ forgive us don't think negative you want that not to be intact don't think negative think positive that is the will of اللہ سبحانہ واتعالہ he has tested you through that so this is why we say learn to respect one another become role models for your own children learn to stand up for your spouse when someone is wrong whether it's in your home out of your home don't allow them to be trampled by anyone and everyone and never ever think that your spouse is an unpaid maid lot of people happy you getting married we're going to have good food you have a masha Allah who is she just a cook if she likes to do it and she doesn't mind allhamdulillah masha Allah what a wife allhamdulillah may Allah bless us beautiful but you can't just say guys no more worries all my friends every night you can come home no problem who's going to be my wife your wife is not married to your friends my brothers your wife is your spouse yes she may want to spoil you but remember she's a human being not a machine the same applies to your husband my beloved sisters he's not a machine he is a human being he will make mistakes you know i normally tell people that when you want to know everything about your spouse the not will break listen to what i just said people say i want to know every detail you are not a lot my answer ability is not to you i swear i have come across instances where a man or a woman have faulted in life big mistake the spouse did not know they came crying to the خالص اوہ to the مسجد and they repented and they became better people and you think to yourself the spouse didn't know that's why they are really really happy because the man has become a better person than he was before the mistake he made but if the spouse found out environment teaches the spouse to say husband made a mistake kick him out so now she is depressed he is depressed and what happened it was a mistake between him and Allah it had nothing to do with you so you say i want to know every detail i want to know every detail tell me masha Allah and if she is standing with her hands on her hips it's okay some would be standing with a stick and vice versa the men are doing it as well you don't need to know every detail the sin sometimes is between them and Allah you don't need to really sometimes they will turn to Allah if your spouse turns and leaves a bad habit because of you they might get back into it but if they've left the bad habit because of Allah the chances of them getting back to it are very small because they did it for the sake of Allah you know the amount of like we say the environment and the amount of pressure that the environment puts on people to be promiscuous and to be for example to lose morals and values is so intense and immense that a person who is saved is really one who fears Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ you walk out of this whole what do you see سبحانہ اللہ there is a theater right next door may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ bless us all a person can head to the wrong direction very easily very quickly very tempting the lights are flashing it's Christmas season end of year and so on and the Muslims sometimes you find they are the ones who go to the Christmas parties masha Allah you know Diwali party Christmas party frontline Muslims at least some of them remove their head gear مہلو اکبر مہلو forgive us so this is the pressure of society pressure of community pressure of the world today the globe is such that people can fall to and fall it's your duty to help and assist get your spouse back up on her feet or his feet and help him walk towards Allah that is your paradise that is your paradise it doesn't mean when your spouse has made one mistake you cut the rope you cut the knot no they've made a mistake there are others who have made many more mistakes and they have helped their spouses in a way that today they are happier than they ever were in the past and wallahi it's a fact ask those who are slightly older when their spouses made mistakes they helped them they did not say right it's the end of story go I don't want you here anymore if that's the case and that's how we're looking at marriage someone else will do the same thing to you or a member of your family may Allah not do that to us if you have a serious problem and a crisis yes indeed sometimes that not perhaps we will want to untie it because you know what to be honest with you something went wrong total incompatibility perhaps you know something has happened here where the knot is broken you know when you become physical with your wife you say I'm a Muslim didn't you see the Quran says I can beat you you're my wife how did you interpret verses the Quran said you must beat your wife what are you talking about Subhan Allah do you know when you have a problem and a matter with your wife what are the first steps you don't even know you don't you haven't even learnt but we just read a verse on our own and today you know what the translation of this is according to this hang on relax take it easy I know of a case where the man wanted to punch his wife and the wife finished the husband up completely and then he came with blue eyes saying I didn't know my wife was a boxer اللہ اکبر you see it says knowledge box watch out she'll put you on a box she'll put you in the box اللہ اکبر you cannot melt treat your spouse never not at all make sure that you understand you have a problem speak talk to her use your mind your brain convince her some means and if she has a problem with you the same applies she needs to talk to you and this is a mistake some women make like I told you at the beginning some women prefer to remain silent just to pray to Allah perhaps don't ever reveal your problems to someone online never ever the biggest mistake you could make you sitting behind the screen and someone says oh very bad husband they advise you wrong they want to steal your heart at the time when you are on a low no ways they are perhaps worse than your spouse you but you confiding in someone you say no I can confide in them because they don't know me trust me they know your exact location your name and everything trust me you never ever turn to an anonymous person for help online and on your phone they can blackmail you they can cheat you they can give you bad advice and the worst of friends are those who give you advice that is wrong and they know it's wrong subhanallah so this is what happened sometimes a person goes to someone for advice and that person is wrong they tell you you say you know what today my my husband really he raised his voice and he was quite upset no fix him go home tell him I'm not talking to you for one month well you walked out for a month he tried speaking to you you didn't because you followed the wrong advice and he didn't you didn't speak to him not one day two days five days he found someone else to speak to after one week and then you come back a month later thinking your problem is solved but now there's a third party involved love Akbar and then the person who advised you they run away they run away what happened oh I don't know what your marriage broke I'm very sorry but your husband was a very bad man but he's living happily ever after with someone else we could have done it but we didn't because we got advice from the wrong person so when something goes wrong seek advice from those who will tell you my sister mend it try to make it work see how it goes don't worry let it try try again and so on you've tried it again if it is oppression extreme you might want out no problem like I'm saying we need to balance the statement here there are cases and incidents where there is oppression on either side there is you know incompatibility beyond repair so divorce is permissible as a last resort yes indeed but it's not just something that you throw just because you didn't get a hundred dollars when someone else got a hundred dollars love Akbar sometimes you know you find a spouse would perhaps buy a gift for someone give someone and you say but what about me where's my I don't want you know valentine's day for us is every day of the year valentine's day every day of the year meaning we don't mean send valentine and so on but expressing love should not just be on a certain day but I know of muslims whose marriages have broken because the husband did not bring a rose or a flower or a gift for the wife on the day of valentine's muslims marriage broken valentine's day valentine's day you I want out I want out all my friends got flowers I didn't get anything I want out finish back how am I going to show face to my friends my sister you don't need to show face a marriage that works is not a marriage that is displayed on facebook a lot of those are actually not working that's why they have to show it on facebook if yours is working you're busy working it you're not busy on the net so people want to put all me my husband an eye and you're hugging and you kissing and the pictures up wallahi the evil eye is the truth it happens it comes you want to show everyone how delighted you are tomorrow broken what happened everyone was saying what a couple they getting along so well people forget Allah's name and so next thing you're busy fighting and you don't know and everyone says oh this marriage was made in heaven even the marriage is made in heaven break why do you have to show why do you have to say oh my beloved husband and speak to the globe tell your husband that subhan Allah tell your wife that so this is why we say I know of another marriage that broke because the wife suspected the man of giving her flowers that were supposedly from someone else how's that so here comes the day of Valentine's and the flowers came I told you the flowers are supposed to come anytime not only when you go to the graveyard sorry I need to explain myself you know the graveyard you get these roses on people's graves sometimes the people put you know we in Islam were not supposed to be doing that you'd rather make it do after the deceased than to do that but some people when they go to the graveyard and they are standing there they see a rose hey that's good for my wife take it so the only time they get roses you know one woman says every time my husband gives me a rose I've got to ask him did you pass by the graveyard so the reality here is there was a case and this happens and I'm talking about it because it's connected to the knot there was a case where a man says he came with the flowers the flowers are presented now there's another problem what's it where did you get these from who sent them to you how did you bring them here if I don't bring them there's a problem if I bring them there's a problem what do I do may Allah help us really learn to appreciate like I said you don't need to probe every detail if you are kind and good towards your spouse and you give them time and you look at them often trust me the love will increase if you are kind and good to your spouse and you have good words to say you have time for them you look at them often you talk to them often with good words trust me the love will increase they won't need to go on to the phone in order to find love they have it at home there's no deficit nothing at all may Allah سبحانہ واتعادہ help us really by all means may Allah make dua ask Allah's help and work towards it a beautiful topic this evening Mashallah tying the knot you see I want to mention something important when tying the knot in Islam it's very easy it is simplified the reason why it's simplified one of the reasons people must not have an excuse to say I committed adultery fornication because it was very difficult to get married brings me to an interesting point to delay marriage in Islam is actually prohibited once you know that the two are to get married you get the nikaah done you delaying it you are sinful remember this so people say we are engaged the next year I met them we are engaged the third year I met them we are engaged the fourth year oh she felt pregnant we had to quickly do the nikaah it's happening in society they were supposed to be married get the nikaah done even if they are living separately so what who said that as soon as you marry you have to go to your husband's house if your father has agreed that no problem you're still at school you want to finish your education get your nikaah done stay at home don't worry the day we are finished with your education four five years down inshaAllah you can go to your husband's house and we can have a big waleema that time inshaAllah no harm but with us we say no no no keep it what am I going to say son doesn't have a degree son in law doesn't have a degree what am I going to say no hold it no marriage you must wait they are already together they are already together and who is accumulating the sin you are a part of it a part of it I'm not saying the entire sin but you are a part of it why you are a stubborn parent that's what it is stubborn really stubborn take that out learn from the sunnah of Muhammad where he teaches us when nikaah is confirmed get it done when the time of salah comes fulfill it when the janazah happens to be in front of you get them buried you don't delay janazah to say you know what let's just wait for one two years put him in the mortuary why no more people will come you know what are you talking about that's what you're doing to your daughter that's what you're doing to your son in law اللہ forgive us get the nikaah done do you fear Allah or do you fear society get that nikaah done don't delay the two want to get married come on let it happen and they don't have to live together like I said tomorrow when he's got a house he can come ahead masha Allah qualification degree سبحان اللہ some of the happiest marriages are to those who have no degree trust me some of the happiest marriages are to those who have no qualification the man treats your daughter like she is a queen he carries her on his back and walks around masha Allah a guy with a degree one wonders I don't know to say won't do that but one wonders what he does اللہ سبحانہ واتالہ forgive us you're talking to me like this I have a degree masha Allah PHD you know the he'll tell his wife to call him doctor so and so I have a PHD you don't trust me like that اللہ سبحانہ واتالہ really you look at the man if his dean is good his character is good reasonable responsible person get him married how many of our parents had nothing when they got married 30 years later they developed wealth today the same parents want a husband who's already rich he must be rich from the beginning give him a chance come on man when you got married you couldn't even wear shoes you only used to move around in slippers اللہ سبحانہ واتالہ واتالہ it took you 20-30 years to develop wealth and just because you've got the wealth your daughter wants to get married it's not like anyone is shoving it down her throat and you're just saying no because perhaps the man doesn't have something and who said Allah says اِن یَکُونُ فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِ مُ اللہُ مِنْ فَضْلِحِ you've chosen the right spouse if the person is poor Allah will bless them with his virtue because Allah is the one who owns sustenance how many people have got their daughters married to wealthy people 10 years down the line they lost everything so it's not to do with wealth it's to do with the right person and this is why the hadith says there are several things people look at some look at wealth some look at looks your choice yes you must look at what the person looks like definitely you have to live with them at the end of the day you have to be intimate with them you're not going to go with those masks that they give out on emirates and then you know be intimate with your spouse no you want to look at them you want to see them yes so you must be able to like your spouse definitely but your decision must not be based solely on looks there must be an overriding factor what is it it's not going to do only with the lineage no you can't marry there they're not from our family they're not from our tribe they're not from our caste they're not from this side they're not exactly you know so and so no are they Muslim are they decent people do they have character let it go let it happen do not be a person from the pagan days of ignorance you know and his brother they got to the community and they said we are whom you know we are if you are going to allow us to marry your daughters if not Allah will provide they looked a man from Africa a man whom the Prophetﷺ said I heard his footsteps in paradise it shook the people they immediately got them married that shows us that it's got to do with the nobility of a person look at the status of a person you know I've heard of people saying oh this man is a little bit too dark for my daughter to get married to come on you can be as dark as charcoal but if your daughter is up in the air Alhamdulillah she's happy what's the point of marrying the most handsome man the wealthiest man and your daughter is crying every night and she's cursing you my dad did something very bad I'll never forgive him when you die you are receiving the sin of what happened why should that happen this is the reality of why knots are being broken today we want to tie it correctly we'll understand the hadith says yes you may look at what she looks like you may want to look at her status her lineage you may want to look at everything any clothes you may want to look at the status of a woman you may want to look at the status of a man and you may want to look at every weight and you may want to look at her status this is the best thing this is the best thing we sponsors the decisions factor is dedean حجتنا حالتیں سمجھتے ہیں سمجھتے ہیں ہمچے ایگنوہ ہے کہ حجتنا حالت ہے کیا آپ کی صرف ہمزاری پر اپنے حالتیں غلط اouse ورحمن گئی جانتے ہیں اور نکفت ہنچسنے کے حالت نہیں کرنے گے آپ لیکن اپنے حالت میں اس طرح آپ کو زیادہ کیا کرو ان سے تک برنے سمجھتے ہیں لیکن آپ سے چیزیں آپ کو یہ سمجھتے ہیں آپ اوڈی کیا جو تبحیح نہیں ہیں آپ کے حالت کے دورت ایہوں ہی جانتے ہیں دوسرے یہ جانتے ہیں جو پر اگر آپ کو سکتا ہے اپنی بہت نہیں سکتا ہے اور آپ کو سکتا ہے آپ کو محطمی نہیں سکتا ہے کہ آپ آپ کے لئے اپنے بہت سے بہت سکتا ہے کہ Tomorrow when she marries what will happen what example have you laid you speak to her with respect she is a human being before she belonged to you she is and was اللہ always اللہ's you will perhaps die leaving her behind to live for decades after you she belongs to اللہ انہ للا ہی the quran doesn't say انہ لئے آبائنا انہ للا ہی و انہ علیہ راجعون we belong to اللہ and unto him is our return the حدیت didn't say we belong to our fathers and our forefathers and unto him unto them is our return no yes we may we have to be kind Allah chose our parents for us indeed but remember one thing you speak to your children you listen to what they have to say they will then tell you know dad I went to the varsity and I saw a guy reading his salah all the time and I saw this and I saw that and for some reason somehow I developed feelings for this young man please give him a chance talk to him you say okay let me talk to him I am not encouraging this type of behavior but I'm saying it is happening face it if you have not involved in the lives of your children a lot then this type of thing will keep on happening but those parents who be involved a lot their children tell them a lot of what goes on in their lives Alhamdulillah they will be able to guide their children know if your son says hey today we saw the uncle was smoking and he threw the stub on the floor and a few of us picked it up and we were checking it out and you look at him and say son be careful watch out that's not what it's what supposed to happen perhaps he will talk to you more and more but if you tell him what and you lift him up and you pump him one wallahi he's never going to talk to you again he's never going to because he knows my dad is mad man really you tell him something he'll destroy you completely he's punched me in my my my belly and so on some of the country's people go and report their parents Allah forgive us so this is why we say if the person if your daughter has come up with something of this nature perhaps you must listen to what they have to say meet the man to talk to him he might be better than all the options you've ever thought about it doesn't mean that he she has to marry the son of your business partner no marriage is not a business deal in islam not at all people say no no no i thought this son was married those are the marriages sometimes they don't work because you know why the girl was forced you forced your daughter to marry someone whose father forced him to marry her so they were both forced on either side they sleep like a divorced couple from day one what's happening whose fault is it both parents literally silly people people who didn't think people who thought that you know what i can do and and this is me and Allah has given me the right it is haram haram haram it is prohibited to force your daughter to marry someone totally prohibited you cannot force you can suggest you can say look what about this and what about that option she has the right to say i do not want it's over did you hear that she has the right she is entitled to say i do not want and you have to surrender because she belongs to Allah before she came to you same applies to your sons no forcing and you know a man is he who can say to the father of the girl that look i'm being forced or the girl says i'm being forced speak up don't come up 10 years come down the line and say i never wanted to marry you i was forced by my dad it's happening a lot don't do that say it in advance that look i have a problem i'm not ready to marry please they are forcing me to do this you help me my brothers and sisters it's a vast topic if you notice i have tried to tackle the problems of society what we are facing across the globe in the muslim umma we have this crisis people have not understood i give you another example someone reverts to islam we get very happy don't we a person reverts to islam masha Allah this guy from germany's accepted islam allhamdulillah we are so excited because he became a muslim do you know that they are finding it very difficult to get married because of our backwardness no one's marrying because when it comes to marriage no no no but he is cleaner and purer than others who've committed sin and so on in the islam aya jubbo maqabla you look at him if he's dedicated and he's good and his his ideas are correct and his perhaps beliefs are within the line and so on you you there is nothing wrong in offering him your daughter nothing wrong in islam it can happen either way but no he's a reverd he's Caucasian or reverd these people were Hindus before brother your great grandfather was a Hindu as well what about that these people were Buddhist so what they accepted islam we have a crisis in the umma that is a huge crisis so many people who've reverted to islam they are stronger than born muslims and we say no i won't want my daughter to marry here we're not saying you need to shove it down anyone's throat but what we are saying if there is an interest and if the person is a candidate let it be so what nationality means nothing subhan Allah may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala forgive us the world is now a little global village you know people are in touch with with each other and they promise each other to marry if you were and i'm repeating it for the third time if you were close enough to your child before they promised someone that they would marry them they would have told you they would have asked you they would have involved you but because you were too distant with your friends and your nightlife and what else and everything else some people are too distant some people are so religious that it becomes sacred religious you know what that means to سب اللہ سبحانہ واتحالہ is definitely something good but to go beyond the limit to the degree that the other obligations on your shoulders you have forgotten them you have left them it's an obligation for you to do this and you have not done it in that particular case what's the point of a man who goes to the masjid and spends the whole day in the masjid whilst his family are looking at other men in order to resolve their matters and to go and buy something for them and look after their needs what's the point so you need to strike a balance nobody is saying don't go to the masjid you need to go but you must know when you need to depart when your family needs you you need to talk to them you need to meet them you need to look after them that's also a duty it is far as well it is a duty obligation from اللہ سبحانہ واتحالہ may Allah make it easy for us all my brothers and sisters let us pray that all the marriages that we have really that they work on the solid foundation may Allah help us to help one another may Allah help us to resolve our problems all those who are not married yalla get them married to spouses who will be the coolness of their eyes yalla all those who are married and are suffering turbulence help them such that they can resolve their matters tonight yalla all those who are struggling in any way yalla help them yalla those who are in laws fathers in law mother in law yalla help them to be the best that they can yalla yalla help us to have the homes that are the greatest and full of harmony and peace help us be role models to our children yalla those who don't have children bless them with offspring those who do make them the coolness of their eyes yalla yalla bless us all grant us all every form of goodness yalla accept us all وصال اللہ وسلم وبرکہ علا نبینا محمد سبحان اللہ و بحمده سبحانك اللہ و بحمدک نشہدوا اللہ علا ہی اللہ انت نستغفروك و نتوب و علیک