 What he represents is patriarchy. We're here to do work as men, as patriarchs. There's nothing more natural than being a father. Welcome back to the 21 Convention 2019 Special Patriarch Edition of Orlando, Florida. Our next speaker is a former strongman, the CEO of Strength Camp, a great new friend of mine this year, one of my favorite new speakers. And he is a famous YouTuber with about 2 million YouTube subscribers between his two channels. Definitely one of the biggest speakers we have ever had on this stage. A man I'm proud to present on this stage next. Please let me welcome to the stage the proud patriarch, by the way, of four, Elliott Hulse. Thanks, Elliott. Thank you, Anthony. Yes, sir. Kick some ass, man. Yeah. Well, I'm pleased to be a part of this movement and the spark which ignites a movement. I've spoken on some pretty big stages and right now this one is small. This group is small. But all it takes is a small spark to start a raging force fire. I really truly believe that that's what this moment is. And it's not even that we are the spark, though we are. It's that this is the spark moment in time. This is when the pendulum begins to swing back to righteousness. And man takes back his nobility and our place in the family. That's a big part of what we're going to be talking about here today. Before I move on, I also want to thank Anthony and the 21 convention staff here for creating this sacred space to house this spark that will facilitate the roaring flames. So thank you, Anthony. Very important work that's being done here. Critical for the development of mankind, more specifically for the perpetuation, the maturation and the proliferation of a righteous western culture. I really and truly believe that. There's a huge attack upon it. But we are seeing the pendulum swing, as I said. I think that marriage is worth defending. And that's the name of my talk, as you saw there. Defending marriage in a degenerate age. Doesn't take much convincing, especially since the guys that spoke here before me asserted to the idea that marriage and patriarchy is built into our DNA. Fatherhood is built into our DNA. It's a good idea. I'm just going to expand on a little bit more about why it's a good idea and maybe how we can navigate it best. So what we're going to discuss is, number one, the war against marriage and the family. There is a war to destroy us. And it begins with destroying the man, destroying the family, destroying the sanctity of the children that are being raised in those family and turning things topsy-turvy. Where the children rule the families. The mother, of course, wants to do everything for the children. And the father on the bottom is being led by the wife and the children. So we live in a backwards time in the war. They are winning. We'll talk a little bit more about why. Number two, protect your marriage against infidelity. In this YOLO hedonistic do what you want as long as it feels good culture with zero boundaries, zero discipline, no devotion. Infidelity is kind of like going to a drive-thru. Everybody just does it, right? I want to talk a little bit about that. I'm not going to rant, but I got to stay on track. Finding pleasure in your marriage. You know, the old saying that it's a ball and chain game over. That's a mindset. That's a paradigm that I think is bred out of our, or has come out of our degenerate culture, our hedonistic culture, our long-lost, confused culture. There's tremendous pleasure to be found in being yoked with a feminine counterpart. We're better together, as Rollo would say. We're better together. Men and women are not only is it better together as human beings, but we understand that everything in the incarnate world works together in opposites, zeros and ones, sun and moon, day and night. Top, cistal, diastole, lub-dub, works together, we work together. Leading your wife and family. So much great advice has been offered this weekend. I am grateful because I wish somebody would have told me some of these things. I had my dad's example, but not necessarily his word on a lot of these things, that had I been conscious of it, rather than allowing things to play out unconsciously, that leading would have been a lot easier right from the get-go. So you guys understand that you're getting a solid foundation here. How to find a good wife? Damn, I feel bad for you guys, especially you all that are young and don't have wives yet. I don't know what I would do with these chicks in the Instagram culture. Tough, but you got a lot of really good advice. Steve Williams' advice that you gave to you guys about how to date and what you expect, that those boundaries vary early. So before we get into that, we got to talk about a couple myths, a couple lies. I call them liberal lies about marriage that need to be dispelled before we go into some of the information that I want to offer. Number one is this lie that humans are promiscuous by nature. Interestingly, I was introduced to this book when I found the Red Pill. It was promoted by another Red Pill teacher, and as I got through it and as I read it and as it started to put it into context, I realized that the only people that really love this book are pickup artists and feminists. Really, just look at the book itself. It's teasing you with the vagina on it, but I don't want to go too far. How we made, why we stray, and what it means for modern relationships. So here's the premise that the quote-unquote scientists or researchers tried to offer in this book that is not new to this book, but we've been duped into this lie for quite some time, and that is the lie of the Bonobo. Has anybody heard this? That we may be more like Bonobos, they say, because now we've got to study the Bonobos because the Bonobos are a bit more evolved as a creature than, say, the shrimp, which we've related to a lot longer before, and that's even if you believe in evolution. I'm not here nor there, but I'm saying that these people who believe that promiscuity is a part of our DNA go to the Bonobo as why. You want to know a little bit about the Bonobo? Number one, here's some interesting facts about the Bonobo. The Bonobo lives in a relatively safe community where there is plenty of food. There's not much competition for resource. Food is readily available. That's one thing. Bonobo men, father children, but they don't know who their children are. They have sex because the women are ready, willing, enabled, and there are lots of them, there are lots of women, and they're ready to bone. And they give birth and the fathers very rarely, almost never know, and there's no bond between father and child in the Bonobo culture. But in the Bonobo culture, the boy, the baby, stays close and connected to the mother well into adulthood, in some cases where the mother will come into the boy's defense when he's an older Bonobo. Very much mommy boy tie, very little daddy boy tie, very little male to male tie or bonding. In the Bonobo culture, the men are sort of, they're submissive to the woman's agenda, the female agenda. The women are controlled of inter-tribal relations. If a group of male Bonobos start, or if a male Bonobo starts to get out of hand, the women form coalitions. So the female, and they squash any male resistance very quickly. So they have no support, but if they do act out, the mommy culture comes down on them really hard to put them back in their place. As far as sex is concerned, it's interesting that they, in Bonobo culture, there's a lot of homosexuality. And one of the practices of the female Bonobos when they meet new tribes is in order to solidify the pact, the female Bonobos will start having orgies with each other, female sex with each other. And the male Bonobos will kind of just like sit around. And eventually they may like join in, but it's about the women. So Jack Donovan calls our culture, because there's a lot of significance, the Bonobo masturbation society. Plenty of food, plenty of women, plenty of sex. Who needs to know their daddy? Mama tells us everything. We got this Oedipal complex thing going on. So there's some credence to the fact that we may be more like Bonobos. So I want you to keep that in mind. But as you listen to this, I just want you to also notice the feeling in your body when I told you how the Bonobos behave with their culture's life. No judgment, just notice your sense. Bonobo Masturbation Society, referring to Jack Donovan once again, a book that every man needs to read, The Way of Man. And in The Way of Man he says that the men, that men, the way of men is the way of the gang. And in the book he gives another or actually a more appropriate example of how mankind evolved, human kind evolved and how we got here. And we've always sort of related to, prior to I think like the 1950s or 60s when they started studying Bonobos, to the chimp. And for the most part, if you asked most people today, they'd say, yeah, we're more like the chimp. And there's a good reason why we relate to the chimp. And there's some things that you need to know about the chimp, not the fucking Bonobo. I just want you also to, because I get off on tangents, look at the cover of this book here. I just want you to know where you're getting your sources of information from and what you guys choose to use as resources, because there's so much information, there's so much science, there's so much references out there, it all contradicts each other. You got to use your senses sometimes. And when you got a book that I just sense I'm being tricked with a big vagina on the fucking cover, like I'm going to get some real talk right now. You got to judge a book by its cover. Right? So anyway, the way of the gang is the way of the chimp. And what you ought to know about chimps is, number one, where they live, food is not as plentiful and they prefer high-quality food. Where the Bonobo will eat what's like, they very rarely eat meat. They'll eat mostly plants. There's a certain amount of plant, there's a certain plant and there's not very much competition for it. The chimps, they want meat. We want meat. And as a result, they got to work for it. And the best way to work for meat is in small, patriarchal, hierarchal bands of brothers that will work together to go out and hunt what he refers to as the red-colobus monkey. So they're going out and they're in order to be able to maintain their vitality to live, they've got to organize themselves as a band of brothers in a hierarchal way that number one allows them to go out and get food and number two, protect their territory. Number three, raid and take out competing tribes because resources are limited. Also, female chimps are highly prized because they are in limit also. So they were treated more like a commodity. And so they were protected so that there could be future chimp tribe and they were submissive because if they wanted to live and they wanted to eat, they had to listen to what the gang said. The way of the chimps follow the way of man. This is how we got here. This is deeply embedded in our DNA. We work as bands of brothers with a source, a goal with this ever expanding sense or drive to, and I was speaking with one of the guys before, to insert and liberate, to dominate and expand. This is very masculine. This is very American. This is very Western. This is very Genghis Khan. This is very civilized. Civilization comes from the way of the gang, the way of the chimps. So just to move on past this one liberal lie that were more like the Bonobo than that guy, just look once again. Do you want patriarchy? Who do you want to have your back? I wish I had a pointer here. Do I have a pointer? Who do you want to have your back? Who do you want to go to war with? Who do you want to go hunt food with? This guy who's beaten off and looking for the next piece of pussy if she'll give it to him? Or that guy who looks like, yeah, he's ready. He's ready. He's tough. He looks wise, strong, able, patriarch. So I don't know the truth. I don't know if any of this monkey's business is true at all. But this is one of the lies. This is one of the paradigms, one of the foundations for their reasons why we need to be out there jizzing and jooking and being promiscuous and undevoted to our families, cheating on our wives or whatever, because it is. Get out of here. You guys choose. You decide. Way of the chimp or the way of the Bonobo? I don't know. Liberal lie number two. Liberal lie about marriage. You know, and I use that term literally liberal lie because it's all about getting loose. It's all about no boundaries. It's all about no authority. It's all about nothing matters and everything's okay. Very loose, lax, promiscuous, even in ideology. Lie number two. Marriage is a social construct. A patriarchal makeup from religion or for political power. This myth came to be by this white woman trying to prove a point to bring back to her privileged culture why the women should be sluts. And so she goes to Samoa where the savages live. Just think about the arrogance. Where the savages lives in order to... She had an agenda, of course. Margaret Mead had an agenda to prove that the noble savage is a slut and that the girls start throwing their puss around at age 12, 13, 14. She calls it coming of age in Samoa. This was a big book. It was a big feminist push. It was very helpful to this leftist agenda. Psychological study of the primitive youth for Western culture. She's trying to help out Western civilization with some... What's the term I just used? Uncivilized. They're very quick to point out these savages. Yes, savage when it's here in your interest. They're savages. But because she wants to prove that American women should be sleeping around, she's going to go there and try to do some investigation. Well, it turns out... And just check this out. If a picture ain't worth a thousand words, I can't help but just think arrogance. Look at you. She's out there and she wants to prove that these girls are sluts. And I just can't... I love this picture so much more because of that boy standing right there. Just check out his face. He can sniff... He smells the lie all over her. He's got that face like, I don't know what you're doing here, woman, but you better be careful around our women. Well, it turns out, she was a complete liar. The work that she came back with was completely refuted but unpublished because it wasn't in line with the agenda or the idea or the leftist policy. But this man, Derek Friedman, you could do some research on him, wrote... He went back to Samoa because he believed that she was wrong. He knew she was wrong, did his own study, brought back his own conclusion in Margaret Mead and Samoa, the making and unmaking of an anthropological myth. It turns out... Now, check these people out. It turns out that these noble people... I mean, you can't not look at that picture and think that these are noble people. Integrity. Strength. Tradition. Look at the two men, the two patriarchs sitting there. Do you think they're gonna have their women standing back there? Loose? Do these look like loose women to you? They're not. They're so conservative that when a woman gets married on her wedding night in order to make sure that she was a virgin, they must display the sheets that have blood, that prove that a hymn was broken. If that's not the case, she brings shame. Do these look like women that want to bring shame to those men? I don't think so. Liberal lie number two. So it's not in our DNA. I don't believe that we're bonobos, masturbating and screwing and letting women push us around. And Margaret Mead was wrong. It's not about Christianity. It's not about religion. It's an archetype that's found in the human condition, even in the savage. Just to continue, marriage in Greek and Roman culture, great book, Staying Married in a Degenerate Age by Michael Sebastian. He talks a little bit about reference to how marriage was treated in the ancient world. It says here, marriage was indissoluble and divorce was impossible, almost impossible. The Roman law did indeed permit the dissolution of the marriage, but the dissolution of the religious marriage was very difficult. Religion had ritual that brought you together. It goes on, for that, a new sacred ceremony was necessary as religion alone could separate what religion had united. It wasn't Zionist document with the state. It was between, as it had been, between a man or woman and the father above. Barbarian culture! Another shout-out to Jack Donovan. He's got another book, a second or third book called Be a Barbarian. Interesting that he went there with that. And in what we know from the Roman historian Tacitus, what he writes of the Germanic tribes is that the marriage bond is strict and no feature of their motive life is more credible to them than this. They are content with one wife. Barbarians! One wife. Very few of them have more than one and these few exceptions are not due to wantonness. They are the case of men of high rank whom several matrimony alliances have been offered from motives of policy. Politics. And even if you look in like Islam and Muhammad saying, take upon yourself multiple wives, it was a policy of protection because they were warring tribes and there were a lot of women that needed protection from men. And that's why he said, bring these women in, have multiple wives. It wasn't from wantonness. It wasn't because they were sluts. It wasn't because they were licentious with their behavior. They were one-wives. And I remember reading Genghis Khan and the making of the civilized world. We're talking about Germanic tribes and barbarians but even Genghis and the roaming beasts of the Mongols were content with one wife. They were very noble in their relation to relationship. So I'm convinced that it's a part of the human psyche and soma. It is in our mind, it is in our spirit, it is in our pattern and it is deep rooted in our biology and DNA. And Jesus agrees and we'll talk more about why I think that's important. And although this is not Jesus making this up, he's just reminding us in the wisdom text of old, he says he's not read that the one who made them at the beginning made them male and female like everything in the world and said for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife be a big boy and the two shall become one flesh so that they are no longer two but one flesh therefore what God has joined together let no man separate. It's good. It's noble. It's savage. It's human. The war on marriage and the family very quickly. Female primary social order, a term I learned from Rolo. If you haven't had an opportunity to listen to Rolo's talk on my podcast he goes real deep in the beginning with this. We recorded it last week. Female primary social order so those of you guys who are rational men, you know it's this unfettered unchecked hypergamy that is at the foundation of this female primary social order that is deleterious to the marriage bond and to the archetype of marriage. This state easy divorce we all know that the majority of divorces are initiated by women women at work as a result of state supporting that because more women at work equals more tax slaves Marxism, socialism equalism, this pervasive ideology that has America by its balls the left you could call it I have a couple of quotes here one quote from Frederick Engels in the origin of the family you could see the disdain in how it continues private property and the state he goes on to say the modern individual family is founded on the open or concealed domestic slavery of the wife and modern society is a mass composed of these individual families as molecule consider the language, consider the paradigm from which that kind of attitude proceeds they're overthinking there's nothing about slavery in marriage women is not a slave if seen rightly but with the social justice warriors needing something to fight against they use words like this they use words like racist and misogynist and slave they lie to go a little bit further in that same direction feminism in the context of Roxanne Dunbar of the female liberation as a basis for social revolution discourse I know how much Anthony hates feminism and I didn't understand because I didn't dig too deep until recently and when I found this quote that I'll share with you right now I began to realize how evil feminism really is so according to Roxanne Dunbar how how will the family unit be destroyed this is her question she poses this how will the family unit be destroyed after all women must take care of the children and there will continue to be children our demand for full time childcare in the public schools will be met to some degree overall and perhaps fully in places the alleviation of the duty of the full time childcare in private situations will free many women to make decisions they could not before but more than that the demand alone will throw the whole ideology of the family into question so that women can begin establishing a community of work with each other and can fight collectively women will be freer leave their husbands and become economically independent either through a job or welfare and I didn't realize this I thought it was more about women's rights and I understand women's rights and I'm okay with women's rights but this is in assault it is terrorism against the family they want to destroy it because it is the founding building block that she acknowledges it's the building block of our civilization there is evil at play there is nothing to be built or grown or good by destroying the family no civilization survives with destroyed families war on family I'm going to start going a little bit quicker here consumerism consumerism has been I think it's the disease that we're all addicted to they say capitalism is the problem but it's not it's us it's the constant sucking in consumption be it food, entertainment needing more and apparently the pregnant woman is the biggest spender in America you want to make a lot of money you want to make a lot of shit to pregnant women and if you've ever had a pregnant woman you know how much shit gets bought they even have these racket parties where they call them showers where they shower with you with all kinds of shit that you'll never need because you got to spend money the baby bullshit families are more you guys laughing because you know we have these showers like all kinds of junk that we've never used and because our order is backwards and we put children on the top and fathers at the bottom it basically goes like wife what do you feel the child needs which is basically everything it's the baby we got a sacrifice and as a man as a servant leader doing the best he can especially if not red pilled yes dear and so he provides for a bunch of bullshit and it's not the woman's fault it's not the baby's fault I don't need to say anymore families are more focused on working jobs to buy more stuff rather than providing guidance offering wisdom and teaching religion now make no mistake your children are learning religion in the schools even the public schools on television they're getting guidance they're getting wisdom they're just not getting the right stuff and what you would want them to have if you've even thought about what you want them to have because that's tough for us to even think when we're swimming in this shit Tanner used the term yesterday I felt my heart sank when he said you guys are living in the wasteland is that the term you use the ruins yeah we're living in Babylon we're living in the ruins it's pervasive insidious all around us we're suffocating with this shit and make no mistake it is religion it's not the religion of our fathers the religion of our matriarchy vulnerable religion we're on family corporations women in the workforce flood the market with excessive labor excess labor and limited jobs thus driving down wages so you gotta understand it has a lot to do with profit to destroy the family in this sort of back door way where let's liberate women like Dunbar said and guess what that does that creates would that mean that 5 minutes oh thank you that creates more competition in the workplace so a number of things happen number one now women and men are competing with each other I mean the list goes on women and men are competing with each other for less jobs lower wages women are not in the homes so they're not caring for their children they're not leading their children they're not caring for their homes they're out there having extramarital affairs why corporations and the media and the emotion that they drum up around women in the workplace trick everybody the most important job profession devotion to something in life is the bearing and raring of children what could possibly be more important in the corporate world than bearing and caring for raising children nothing is a trick they are somehow enlightened and progressive by sending their kids to child care and competing with men in the marketplace and because of the Marxist attitude the social Marxism you can't say anything against that you can't refute that because then you're a misogynist you're some sort of extremist this is extreme shit right here if you look into the history of mankind this is extreme we're in a weird place folks so I'm sort of making a case and I'm talking around why marriage is a good idea and I think I can get more into that I tried to relate that with my story but if you do decide to get married which you know my only hang up in defense of marriage right now is state involvement my biggest hang up I think marriage is wonderful it's great I'm giving you a case for it my whole thing is called in defense of marriage but the one thing that is the fly in the ointment is the state involvement and I think they know that they got us by the balls in that way and I think religion needs to go back to between the man and get the state out of it completely you know that but the state love is divorce so here are some of the liberalized and encouraged divorce the spiritual awakening so I want to go there right now the spiritual awakening everybody's woke and this is a this particularly comes from this book Eat, Pray, Love where there's like a best seller I think Oprah's best seller and somehow in this story you know the woman she settle down, gets married we all know the story is probably a beta male provider has children and then just she falls out of love she wants to go and find herself and go to Bali and India in the east so here's where I'm going to go with that and so she has a spiritual awakening I'm coming to this sense I'm spiritually promiscuous meaning I love God I love religion I've dabbled with it all and I love eastern religion in fact it was a big part of my foundation is Taoism and Buddhism and studying the work of Alan Watts way back when it was on he wasn't on YouTube there was no YouTube back then I think eastern religion coming to the west where we were mostly Abrahamic has created a lot of chaos and I think one of the bits of chaos chaotic bullshit that we were fed is the spiritual awakening stuff and how it just liberates you to be and do whatever you want spiritual awakening in this sense is not it has its negative association these days it's not religion because it doesn't unify the father with the mother it doesn't bring pattern down into matter through discipline and boundaries this is the idea that anything goes is the left hand the spiritual awakening in my ass divorces a celebration and I see this with now my wife and I have always been younger than our children's friends parents but a lot of my wife's friends children's parents friends parents so they're a little bit older than us we got started early so we get to kind of see not what our life would look like but what life starts to look like a few steps down the road for those who live in the ruins and one of the things that they do is they it's like it's a celebration why are you going to get divorced guys we ain't doing this but when I stepped in and spoke to some of the guys that I know were having divorces and I don't throw a celebration I kind of throw a actually what I've been doing is I'm throwing a red pill party I'm like okay now she's gone and I hand him a book of rational mail and read this and start spinning plates but the women what they do is yeah it turns into this it turns into this whole liberation party and Rolo talks about how women will never check their other women's hypergamy and even my wife who's a great wife is out there celebrating with her friends that are having divorces and she knows how I feel about that but she can't help it she's got her hypergamy and so they cheer each other on no matter how wrong they are they can't help it and I understand it biological I'm a chimp you see those chimps they look like gangsters they don't have this ball hanging out divorce leads to a sex filled single life this is that old sex in the city bullshit that they give them on tv these all used up 50 year old hags who are out there screwing are not what men are looking for they're out there I think Rolo calls it the redevelopment stage where like you know they might I see them they come to my gym they lose a little weight they always gain it back yeah I'm watching them right now now my wife went out with a couple of them all the girls in the gym they'll go out together put a picture on instagram from last night I was like damn they started coming to my gym because they were having divorces right they were it's funny they were having divorces they started losing weight all of a sudden now they're getting laid out they're getting laid out there and a lot of them are like that's it they're getting pounded and they just gain the weight back so they think they're going to have this sex filled life but you know what as we all know you're just going to do the same thing you did before in a different way you didn't heal yourself you didn't evolve you didn't grow more mature as a result of your divorce you didn't grow up and can do it better next time you're more than likely just going back to trying to be in your party years but now you're old you got baggage what are you trying to do get boned you're just going to hit metapause in a couple of years so it's like you're on your last leg but anyway they have this they believe they're going out there to have this sex filled life this gets I got a lot to say yeah I'll talk to all of you the myth of perpetual youth delayed childbirth for career partying single life is more interesting addiction to the thrill of falling in love again this goes both ways you know I don't want to pick on women but a lot of guys out there I really like what Pat said before some of you the other guys were saying before about love don't trust love I think Steve was talking about it love has been completely misconstrued and turned into this emotional physical sensational melting that's a high just like any drug people who are addicted especially men I'm talking now who are addicted to sex who are addicted to falling in love are no better than a heroine at it because you're out there just looking for that next high it feels good to quote-unquote fall in love but it's a thrill it's just like getting in a rollercoaster you can get back off and when you get down off that rollercoaster you're going to be a little dizzy right cheap thrill falling in love there's nothing sexy about falling in love don't trust this is what one of my favorite eastern gurus said Osho never trust a man who's falling in love do not trust a man when he's in love because you're not yourself you're clouded I think that's what Pat said before he says that you're clouded by the emotion you're not a rational male when you're in love don't be in love the real effects of divorce takes man up to 15 years to recover from the divorce that's financially and I'm sure a lot more statistically children are broken homes are less successful divorce sucks split parenting is stressful and values are often at odds you guys I don't have to like beat a dead horse or sing to the choir I'm sure you're aware protect your marriage against infidelity the reason why I bring that up is because cheating will destroy your marriage instantly nothing will destroy your family other things will destroy your family over time it'll seep in and you gotta be aware of those things and I think some of the other speakers spoke about it but if you want to destroy the dynamics of your family instantly put your dick somewhere else bad idea a bad idea because the power dynamics in the home will instantly be reversed and even if you were alpha all of a sudden you're you're asking for forgiveness now you gotta watch your step you gotta watch what you say you don't want to piss her off another one that both Pat and Steven sorry man I like the Dean I keep going back and forth like I'm gonna say Dean or Steve says is what I agree with there is if you do let's say you do you messed up don't tell her that's another one of these liberal lies that men should be vulnerable tell her all of your deepest darkest secrets no don't do that you didn't destroy the family yet you didn't destroy it yet you made a mistake repent that means don't do it again but the worst thing you could do is go and tell her 23% of men 19% that's why I bring it up a lot of people cheat I don't say most but a lot of people 25% who tells some survey says it could be as high as 50% and you and I would say it could even be higher because our culture doesn't value boundaries it does not value we are skeptical of boundaries so marriage is one of those things where it's kinda like yeah you do it but nobody gonna tell me who I'm not gonna fuck so there's this attitude of hedonistic attitude fidelity I wrote the word infidelity I wrote cheating first but I didn't like it because it just sounded too much like you know 16 year olds cheating not fucking cheating because it's not a game infidelity I like that word better and I want to go look up what fidelity meant and I realize just how alpha how masculine how patriarchal the word fidelity is that's a strong word even a bank uses the word fidelity right fidelity bank there's a good reason why because there's faithfulness loyalty noble these are these are masculine traits fidelity is very masculine so to remain to have fidelity is to be a real man real man's not promiscuous real man on cheetah's wife not because you gotta be a good like what the world calls a good man no that's not why it's because you're not a man because you're not carrying the virtue of a man virtue we gotta think in terms of virtues how to protect your marriage and be devout you know quickly because I got about 6-8 minutes left maintain your level of attraction don't get fat one of the things that I realize I had going for me and still have going for me big time in my marriage what keeps me in that dominant role is I'm a sexy motherfucker and a lot of women want me my woman can't get fat she realizes that she has to do everything she can keep up with a lot of the young girls that got that eye on me maintain your level of attractiveness avoid relationships with the opposite sex women are not your friends you have a friend I hate when guys say this we were friends she's my friend no she's not it doesn't exist Rolo says that if you have a friend that's a woman and you're not having sex with her you're a girlfriend get that through your head that's another one of the pieces of bullshit that they teach us in school women are not your friends nor should they be I don't get it I don't even like all my shit is coming out today you know how it's like I think this shit started in middle school and then we still do it as adults and I'm not saying to any women that are in here that I'm not going to do this but like I have resistance I started to have a resistance against it it's hugging women that aren't my wife what the fuck is this hugging stuff about between men and women when they first meet each other or my friend's wife I shake your hand why am I going to go hug you why am I putting my body close to yours we're not friends and I'm not going to fuck you so what are we doing and then you know the other thing is like when guys hug my wife I don't get so upset because I realize there's a cultural thing there's nothing behind it but it's just in my mind that like that would be a good boundary to kind of be on board with everybody about there's no reason to be hugging other people's wives and women aren't your friends right it's dumb don't expect your wife to be your friend so it goes along the same line but one of the things that a lot of guys get confused is that they think their wife needs to have the same hobbies or interests I know I did at one point when I was becoming an entrepreneur and I wanted my wife to be interested in my business she's not interested women aren't interested and she doesn't need to be interested in things that you're interested in and I have zero interests in common besides our marriage and our family she reads fiction I read nonfiction we're complete opposites you don't need to be my friend develop stronger same sex relationships men need to be friends with men not like those bonobo masturbators we got to be more like the chimp gangs and we got to be up to something that's the other thing too it's kind of a call to action here but we got to be up to something and it can't just be drinking and watching a hockey game it's lame limit social media and keep an open book policy yeah there's no reason for your wife to be putting selfies of herself on instagram I don't get it but that's one of the things that when Steven said it about dating nip that shit in the bud the other thing is open book policy my wife has all my passwords she can go into my phone she can go into anything that I have going on online at any time and I could her open book policy there's nothing high there's a sense of freedom associated with that in your heart there's a sense of trust that's associated with one another it's not about control it's about truth loyalty openness feeling free, liberation you don't want to be hiding anything there's no way to build any kind of relationship or to be hiding anything don't expose your wife's temptation right? don't let her hang out with male friends just like you don't have friends that are women she don't have friends that's men that doesn't make any sense why you need a man friend for you got me and you see this all the time you know he's the leading author and the round table and Lancelot this is best man right hand man best warrior so he feels free hang out with my wife while I go do shit that's a recipe for disaster dog you don't think he's going to bone your wife if you got a chance no don't let your friends don't let your brothers and it's not about being prudent it's about being prudent why? avoid pornography develop a hobby or a date night together me and my wife like I said we have zero interest but we love being with each other especially on Friday nights we have date nights sometimes we'll sit and we won't say anything we'll just eat and you know what it would be so funny if there was like a little microphone there while we're having our date nights sometimes when we don't eat all you hear is this mmm mmm mmm mmm mmm you know why? because we're enjoying steak together that's our hobby a little bit of wine a little bit of steak and we're just sitting there like having four gatherings and looking at each other and nodding and my wife is grateful I'll talk about how to find a good woman she's grateful make your marriage your top priority I'm going to go a little bit quicker because I got about one minute left how to have pleasure in your marriage give her your gifts be a strong provider show her why she should appreciate you give your wife your best not because you have to but because she is your moon she reflects you in all your splendor and if you don't like what you see in the mirror that's because he ain't shining bright enough shower her go on frequent date nights vacations together grab her ass touch her and make her feel desired as frequently as possible treat your wife like she's one flesh with you I'll talk about this in a moment how would you treat her if you thought she was a part of your body I'm going over on time right now Anthony so I'm going to try to go as quickly as can pleasure in your marriage right attitude towards sex look at that the husband should give his to his wife her conjugal rights and the likewise wife to her husband for the wife does not rule over her own body but the husband does likewise the husband does not rule over his own body do not refuse one another except perhaps by agreement for a season that you may devote yourself to prayer super important men those who are married sex can become an addiction in the marriage also fast from sexing fast from sex it's a good idea for you to maintain your frame less Satan tempts you so I put the duggers on there and I put the duggers over here too I think they are are they Mormon too okay well this is what she says this is her this is how you know you can spot a good wife be available this was her advice to young women anyone who can fix anyone can fix him lunch but only one person can meet the physical needs of love that he has you always need to be available for him how to be more alpha and leave your family hey Anthony if I do go over thank you sir appreciate it I think we could all agree that Donald Trump represents maybe not him as a person but what he represents is patriarchy he represents yes he represents the return of patriarchy that's what he's a symbol for and you could see it in the way he is with his family so we want to be more alpha spiritual headship I think this is really important and I'm going to make a I'm going to make a case for religion now and it's interesting because I don't necessarily identify with a religion though I am Christian yeah weird that was I have a hard time and I've had a hard time and I struggle with God but I love religion deeply and I understand that if you want to lead your family you cannot be the authority we are not the authority we don't get our authority from ourselves because we're flesh and bone we get our authority from above we get our authority from our father and our father's fathers the paternity the eternal pattern paternity comes with the word pattern which is the way to be we are taught a way to be and we have faith in a way to be that comes from above and if we don't take it from above we will be dragged down below into the matter into the mother into the Maya thing we get our authority from above patriarchy is impossible without religion you're not a father without the father you cannot carry the blessings of the father you don't have the authority of the father if you don't have religion and I'm not saying which religion not trying to tell you what to do and I'm not profilicizing I'm saying this is a fact look at patriarchy in the west it was always a religion be it the Norse and their gods or the Greeks and their gods but it always came down divine power from above no god equals no hierarchy no hierarchy means no authority no father energy author king author authority father figure mentor no father energy if there's no authority no guidance because there's no authority no humility we think that our shit don't stink and that's why we're suffering no meaning we can do whatever we want it's a barren landscape fatherhood requires that men through the authority of god the father and the example set by christ be a living representation of patriarchal authority in the home this is why the left hates christianity is why they hate religion is why they hate god because you get your authority from those things and when those things are stripped away from you you blow in the wind and you're easily manipulated it's not about right or wrong it's about faith and faith is not about right or wrong it's about conviction and when you have that you can't be fucked with the spiritual headship where your authority comes from just very briefly the umbrella of god's protection god husband wife children that's the order that's the natural order and christians would put christ between god and husband and i think it's a good idea to have a christ like figure all religions had it be a christianity be a christ and so forth an example to live by because we could never imagine god much less talk about him or be like him we can't there's no way christ or christianity is an example an embodiment a manifestation so that we can look to a father figure beyond our physical father you want authority have faith in this order what i want you to understand that the head of every man is christ the head of a woman is her husband the head of christ is god it's this in this order wise be subject to your husbands as to the lord for the husband is the head of the wife as christ is the head of the church his body and is himself its saviour if we go back to this treating your wife like she's a part of your body when i first heard this and i then began to start considering this you know the woman being and the man being you know flesh and how he talks here about treating the wife like your body my entire mindset shifted with regard to my wife this wasn't too long ago and if you really just literally think about your wife as an extension of your body how would you treat that part of your body i mean it's a pretty important part of your body i mean think about your right hand or your penis right hand and penis are pretty important she's like both she gets your work done and gets your work done very powerful important part of your body treat it well that's why i take my wife out to eat steak on friday night it's going to feed you well you're part of my body i ain't putting junk in your body i'm not going to put junk in your mind i'm not going to treat you poorly you're part of my body spiritual headship where your authority comes from even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies there you see it again love your wife like your own body think about that and if you get cancer which is basically your cells going rogue you gotta ask yourself where am i not treating my body right if your wife's going rogue you gotta ask yourself where you're not treating your body right he who loves his wife loves himself damn for no man who ever hates his own flesh but nourishes and cherishes it as christ does the church because we are members of his body it's just and i put that picture there that picture is actually on my tattoo and it's like this i see this as a yin yang almost with the male female soft hard the angular dark and the soft flowing white i love it it's an integration how to lead your family number one have vision and direction you make the vision you decide a direction before you even shack up i remember talking to my wife when we were in high school i think this is why it lasted so long and did so well being in high school and telling of course she's like writing her name with my last name having daydreams and circles writing hearts and stuff and i told her plain and simple like this hey babe i'm gonna live a pretty roller coaster type life i'm an adventurous man i have high hopes and ambitions and dreams i'm gonna do big things in this world but it ain't gonna be easy and there might be struggle you wanna come along with me i'd love to have you but if you got a problem with any of that then we're not gonna be together but you would always of course no yes yes i wanna go with you i wanna go with you but you know what i don't think she could have that trust had i not had the conviction in my vision and direction and it's crazy how my life is unfolded based on that vision and direction devote yourself fully to your family this is a tough one in the world where you're supposed to be yourself and to self actualize we're so self oriented devotion is the preeminent warrior quality to devote oneself to sacrifice oneself for something bigger and better than yourself devote yourself to your family i love that word very masculine word devotion do more than your fair share i heard multiple speakers talk about that today socrates was talking about it with the diapers that was brilliant we're sockets even in here that was brilliant the way you turned it into a military operation that's what it is that was 100% it do more than your fair share be that grunt in the family because you're the stronger one the wife is gonna flip out it's gonna have anxiety she can't handle it you gotta take control and bring in the bag keep physically strong i say no more, the body is the mind you can't be weak, you can't be fat you gotta be fit because this is warrior work devotion work keep morally straight this is keeping your heart strong and keeping your mind keeping your soul clear at peace it doesn't mean that you're not going to stray in thought but be chased in your behavior be strong in your will be moral in your activity keep mentally alert you gotta be aware because this snake is sneaky and will come right in your families and will sneak right in the back door in a myriad of different ways every time i think i'm setting up strong boundaries and doing the right thing for my family in that way it sneaks in somehow you gotta be aware for the demons they come from kids friends you gotta constantly be aware of what they're learning my daughter got on some some transgender shit for a moment she's watching youtube videos where you're a hero to be a transgender and it's all celebrated i had to squash that shit in the bud it got too far at one point where i had to rain it all in because i wasn't being mentally alert i didn't see the signs when it came to too far i had to stomp hard good thing that shit is gone now but it was silly but that silliness is how the children then run the family because it goes against your values and your virtue and if you're not mentally alert satan will snatch your kids minds up real quick what is a good wife an excellent wife is the crown of her husband but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones need i say more you want a crown or rottenness in your bones how to spot a good wife real quick she opens her mouth with wisdom right make sure when she opens her mouth and the dumb bullshit comes out and the teachings of kindness is on her tongue my wife the other women come to my wife for wisdom they come to my wife for wisdom and she's the youngest one and you know why because she's reflecting my splendor i give her credit for being a good moon which when she opens her mouth know that she's a reflection of you she looks well to the ways of the household notice those aren't two sentences not she looks well i think pat was talking about that fuck the way she looks it's important but she looks well to the ways of the household and does not eat the bread of idleness you gotta keep busy the house is like running a company her children raise up and call her blessed wonderful to have children that acknowledge how wonderful their parents are it's a good thing her husband also praises her as you should always praise your wife when she's doing a good job i say thank you a thousand times a day women have done excellently but you surpassed them all remind her about how awesome she is but it won't take much if you got a good woman charm is deceitful and beauty is in vain yeah you know what the world is dangling in front of you all day long charm and beauty run the other way look it's a small boo they used to be big when she was pregnant but she's breastfed four kids and they're not perky and plump like they used to be but there's not a chance in hell they're gonna have her stuff silicone up her fucking skin in order to uphold some sort of imaginary Barbie ideal of what a woman should look like she's a good woman she needs big breasts you get where i'm going anyway give her of the fruit of her hands and let her works praise her in the gate okay that's my last one i'll go through quickly i didn't even click them okay good from the book of hauls these are my rules how to find a good wife number one observe the virtue of chastity i don't think it's a good idea to be promiscuous and jizzing a lot especially if you don't have your boundaries in order refer back to uh steven the dean his workshop if you're gonna be screwing there's gotta be rules i ain't giving you my seed ain't gonna get that just cause i want a nut number two if you're having sex with her she's already your wife that's my mindset you put yourself in her guess what one flesh you just became one flesh buddy and what god brings together no man shall separate so if you're having regular sex with a woman you be of the mindset that she's your wife that's the way to approach it otherwise she's a prostitute you can't say to her or to yourself or anyone else that she's my girlfriend or she's my i love her not if you don't acknowledge her as your wife while you're banging her have that amount of respect for yourself and her number three if your wife doesn't need to be your friend don't talk about that but a good wife date and marry young this is where i'm different from a lot of the guys only because of my experience well i have to share based on my perspective it was good that we dated and were exclusive very young my wife unlike a lot of my friends wife has not ridden the cock carousel she's free from carousel cock right very limited partners between the two of us very limited we were children basically so she's you know all that comes with it the alpha widow ship and of course you know i don't have to tell you anymore but i think it's good especially and so i have to go back to my experience if she's trained well my wife came from a trashy background her father was not an alpha male and her mother was a crazy woman that went crazy and ran away to Maine and left her children there but the fact that my wife stayed with my family basically my parents basically made her one of their children crazy but this is kind of the stuff that you would see maybe in like tanner's community where like the parents know the other parents children and they kind of are raised with the same values she came into my home at a very young age a very impressionable age and she wanted to take on the value of the virtues of a good family and that's why it worked so i could just go back to my experience don't marry a useless woman this is my dad's actually you guys will get to meet my dad tomorrow don't marry a useless woman he's good looking but good at nothing don't date older women i think pat was talking about it i know a lot of the other guys talking about it she will always look down on you don't marry a woman's baggage because now you have two masters her and her kid speak openly about your vision and values early make it very clear what i'm about what i'm not about where i'm going know your roles play a part be very clear we spoke about like with my wife you're gonna stay home you're gonna take care of the kids why? very clear i put steve williams there again because of what he said yes and i was so impressed with his talk advice about dating you gotta be very clear about what it is what you're about what you'll tolerate and make your own rule you only got those three iron clad rules and that's it folks i appreciate you appreciate this time appreciate you let me go over a little bit done this is the dark edition and i'm talking with elliot holst welcome elliot thanks george how'd it go today on stage? really well what was your topic? defending marriage in a degenerate age it certainly is degenerate isn't it what are the enemies of marriage today? well i went through a list of about ten and i began with one that i learned here in the manosphere from rollo tomasi i went through the female primary social order something of that effect hypergamy unchecked hypergamy it's one big part of it but then it also goes so much deeper i think that's like the biological component but when you look at consumerism and the focus outside of the family and more on how much can we get and how much can we buy and how much can we consume as opposed to how much time and energy and effort can be given to the family for its own nourishment soul's nourishment the state with easy divorce feminism with their objective to destroy the family i gave a really good quote written by dumbar i forgot the first name so i went through a list of a myriad of different ways that there's this onslaught against marriage in our culture how do you fortify a marriage with all this stuff being against it well that was what my talk was about and one of the things that i offered as far as fortification is concerned i think it's important for men to take the position of leadership in their home and i spoke about where we get our authority and that it's important for us to draw down divine authority by having some faith that your woman is not going to trust you just on your own authority many of us have strained or estranged relationships with our fathers but there's always the archetype pattern of the father and whether it's right or wrong it's your level of conviction that the the path laid in front of you for how to be a man and how to lead your family the faith in that gives you the strength to stand on that gives her the trust in your ability to lead so it's like we can't have we it's very difficult for us to rest on our own authority because i say so right and so a part of my talk was just to at least consider i know we've got guys of different religions and some are religious or not but at least to consider it as a as a red pill mechanism for how to raise your family right now you're a father four and you've been married for a while and you go way back with your wife right yeah how long we started dating when we were 14 years old that's amazing yeah and we got married at age 23 and we have four children so a part of my part of my talk was the benefit of limiting sexual partners and not being promiscuous you know men and women of course I have to be an advocate for dating and marrying or marrying early you know I did it and it worked and I laid out all the reasons why it worked and you know so um that's pretty awesome I think because there's so many waves against marriage and society's pretty wacky I was talking to the guys earlier you know I'll talk to a young man and say so do you want to have children he'll say well I wouldn't want to bring children into this crazy world and I'm thinking that's kind of like waving the white flag of surrender and just giving up before you even start and that's like saying I wouldn't want to give medicine to this dying patient when we bring children to the world who can reflect the divine splendor children who are good children we're offering medicine we're injecting medicine into a degenerate culture and they're focusing more on the degeneracy in the world rather than the power in their own parenting like I would want to bring children in this world because my children are an antidote to the degenerate society right absolutely and I think that's focusing on despair and I think a lot of guys in the quote-unquote mana-sphere succumb to despair and negativity and darkness and our message is be fruitful and multiply there's no better way to create a legacy your kids will outlive you hopefully and yeah and I think there's no better way than to be fruitful and multiply to perpetuate cultural values and norms we're living in a country where white people the people who built this country are having less children and Puerto Ricans and Mexicans are having a hell of a lot of kids and you know that's not to say that it's good or bad but if we want to preserve American culture Western culture then the people who created it should be having more children absolutely otherwise they're going to be out popularized pretty soon outnumbered yeah I had heard at one point in 20 years Italy won't even be Italian anymore because of the influx of non-Italians in Italy can you imagine Italy won't be Italian yeah how weird that's just an odd concept is I find that bringing children into the world gives the world hope and there's never a right time to have kids was there ever was society ever perfect for child rearing every era has its challenges every era has its wars so for someone to say in despair I don't want to bring a child into this world it's almost they just gave up too early yeah weak it is weak it is weak and I'm finding a lot of young people are saying that weak what do you think contributes to that despair why do they have that there are all kinds of myths that attend that also like this whole idea that the world is going to melt because of climate change I think that's one of the lies that white people have been more apt to just accept that we should stop having children because the earth is going to melt and I tend to think that there's a social agenda behind that science has shown us that that's not true not to say that it's not true that the earth is getting warmer but the earth is supposed to be getting warmer we go through these cycles it's normal and natural don't stop having children because the earth is getting warmer just acknowledge it and so where am I going with that my point is I don't remember I can see doing things like not littering because you want to leave a nice clean earth I can see not like wasting natural resources that's cool but lumping not having children into that same category to me is going a little bit too far I think so and I think it's alarmist in nature back to your question why are people feeling despair because they're swallowing the media bullshit where does hope exist in this world of degeneracy how do you give hope to young people I know you spoke on marriage but to give hope you've got to be inspired and I love that word inspire because the word spirit to inspire to take in the spirit there must be something that you've drawn in or has infused itself into you that gives you this a courage and a sense of meaning for the future that I think can only come from religion and a religious imagination more so than religion itself but the religious imagination that gives us this sense that things can get better we can evolve we can grow in virtue and so when we have that no matter how dark it gets in the mass of the world there will always be small pockets of light that light even in the thickest of darkness that candles will be lit you have an influence you're on YouTube with quite a following what kind of message do you give your followers as and always will be become the strongest version of yourself I started as a strength coach but strength went beyond just the body to be the strongest version of yourself and to empower one another and that's about being the brightest candle you can and being sure that your flame is catching other candles as well I've watched you on shows like the red man group and wow what in addition to that group of men the perspective that you bring changes the flavor of the red man group to kind of strengthens it I think it's it's not it's not all about picking up women it's not all about the single life and going wide it's about going deep and I think you bring a depth to that conversation that's what I noticed that was one of the first things that I noticed thank you how do you like the convention so far I love it and I love what it stands for more than anything what it means it's a sign of the times it's needed isn't it yeah it is who have you connected with here that you feel that you will stay connected with in the future oh well I really enjoyed both the talks and then individual conversations with Steve the Dean Williams yeah you know what's interesting about Steve he talked about legacy and actually he and Tanner both said something and I interviewed Tanner this morning and Steve yesterday and Tanner would say to his kids you're a guzzie would say you're a guzzie act like it Steve Williams would say you are a Williams like when he finds his children acting weak you are a Williams be worthy of that name yeah I like powerful yeah I resonate with both of their messages holy smokes Tanner was also right up there you know between the two of them and their talks I resonated deeply with both of what they offered and then had a wonderful opportunity to speak with them yesterday at dinner what does it mean to be a hulse to be strong that's the first thing that comes to mind and comes to heart hulse is about courage it's about strength it's about determination and forward momentum and stalwartness steadfastness you know it's very vigorous I've noticed three or four times during this talk already you've taken deep breaths to empower yourself it's like breathing charges you up some people one of the biggest things that I noticed with people is that they breathe very shallow you and air are good friends you and oxygen seem to be good friends I'm a fire sign oxygen in fire I noticed that and for the few moments that I saw you on stage there's periods of you're not just talking to talk you have periods of silence and I watch you look at the crowd and think and make eye contact with people and I was standing in the back and as you were walking back and forth on the stage I watched the heads watching you it was really interesting very inspiring just watching the crowd respond to you what do you think is the biggest message that the audience left with today well what I was hoping was to instill a sense of dignity in the marriage archetype that there's something strong and masculine and devout to the marriage commitment because I think it's really been bastardized and taken advantage of and has lost so much of its splendor in our culture and so what I was hoping is to show them how red pill it is to be married to be a father our whole conference is about patriarchy and to bring back and to strengthen a patriarchy we've got to become fathers and to be a father you've got to be a husband to be a husband you've got to lead women be strong for women draw down the divine authority and lead your home and so between just giving marriage some dignity again and also with this sense of openness to God and religion as an authority that you can rest on and bring into your home as a foundation for your own strength faith really that maybe I open some questioning and exploring marriage and family is not for weaklings no the first thing that I thought of was you see all these hats with similar phrases make this great again and I'm thinking make men strong again make men strong again and I think that's what you're doing I notice that when attendees stand around you like everyone has their little moments with the speakers in the social areas after the speeches in the evenings and stuff like that when people are around you they stand taller their posture is better yeah and they tend to mirror you and you are making men strong again I observed it and I need to tell you that it's very very obvious it's noticeable Elliot Hulse find him on YouTube thank you Elliot