 Are you having problems dating? Do you feel like all the men that you meet are just players? Do you feel like the men that you meet, they're just not putting in enough effort? Well, here's what you need to do. You need to stop messing around with them pretty boys and you need to find yourself an ugly man. Find yourself an ugly man. Hi, my name is Matthew Coast and today I'm going to talk to you about five reasons why you should find yourself an ugly man and stop messing around with them pretty boys. All right, so number one, reason number one is that you won't have to fight other women for him, right? So other women don't want your ugly man and that's because they're just way too superficial. And let's just be honest here. Let's just talk totally honestly. Who wants to fight off other women for your men? You don't, nobody does. It's just not one of those things that's worth doing. And so if you get an ugly man, it's like getting a reliable car. It might not be pretty, but it's there when you need it. And so there's actually a saying out there in some of the red pill communities about 20% of men are hooking up with 80% of the time, right? They're the ones that are doing 80% of the hooking up. And so if you're running into lots of players, if you run into all these guys and you're like, oh my God, I just run into players all the time. All the men I meet are players, I hear this a lot. If you're one of those women, it's a really easy fix. Just go find yourself an ugly man. If you're here with us right now, say hi in the chat and tell us where you're watching this from. It's cool to see so many women from all over the world watching these live streams. So reason number two, why you should get yourself an ugly man and marry him is because he will try a lot harder. Most of them will anyway. He'll go the extra mile and do things that most men won't do. He'll do more to please you. He's more likely to treat you really, really well. He wants to let you know that he's the right man for you. Why? Because he's ugly. He knows that you're the best. You're the best thing that he's gonna get. It's just downhill from here, right? So he wants to prove to you that he's the best man for you because he knows he's not doing any better than you. And so what you wanna do is just get that ugly man. He's reliable. Like I said, he'll be there for you when you need him and he'll fight for you like no pretty man ever will. He's gonna prove to you that you shouldn't be with anyone else or anywhere else because he's the right guy for you. He will try harder. Reason number three is that he will value you more. And so he'll feel luckier that he has you, right? This is, he'll immediately feel lucky that he has you because he's this guy, this ugly man that you're gonna meet and bring into your life. He has approached a lot of women and none of them have said yes, right? This guy hasn't gotten laid in years. He's asked out all of these women and none of them have said yes and you know that he values you because he doesn't get beautiful, amazing, attractive women like you allowing him into their lives very often. And so he will just feel like you are amazing and he's just so lucky to have you in his life. You don't have to prove your value to him. You don't have to trick him. You don't have to manipulate him. You have to do any of those things because he will immediately think this woman is so amazing and I just don't wanna let her go and I'm so lucky to have her. Reason number four is that he'll have a stronger personality than pretty men do. So I don't know if you know this or not but if he grows up as an ugly man, he knows from the very beginning that he's got no chances with women because no women are hitting on him. He sees these pretty boys getting women. He goes over and tries to talk to women. They completely ignore him and so he spent his whole life developing his personality in order to get further in life. He's more likely to be driven. He's more likely to go through things. He's more likely to develop a really strong character which is something that you want in a guy and he's far more likely to be mature because he wasn't given everything in his life. It wasn't easy for him and so he's gonna be probably a lot more mature and a lot stronger than a pretty boy will be. So if you get what I'm saying, say I get it in the chat. If you don't get what I'm talking about just go ahead and go ahead and I already know there's gonna be a bunch of hate on this video but it's okay, it's okay. So reason number five is that you will be so much happier. You're gonna be very, very happy with an ugly man. I actually, there's actually been studies done on this. Believe it or not, UCLA has done studies on marriages and ugly men. I swear to God, this is true and UCLA tested extensively because apparently there's a whole lot of hot women in LA and I guess and women, what they found is that women are actually far more likely to be happier when they marry men who are uglier than they are. So I mean, if UCLA has done a study, it's proven. It's proven you're far more likely to be happier according to UCLA studies because prettier men are more likely to walk away when you're being a pain and an ugly guy, he's gonna figure things out. He's gonna work things out with you. He's not gonna wanna let you go. He's gonna hold on. He's gonna figure things out. He's gonna say, hey, let's work this out. A pretty man, he might just walk away and you don't want that. So ugly men, they're not going anywhere, right? He's not going anywhere and he wants you to be happy. He wants you to feel like you are just blessed to be with him because he feels like he is blessed to be with you. And so if you don't get it yet, this is kind of a joke video a little bit. This is somewhat of a joke video but being serious for just a moment here, just being serious for a moment, let's talk about standards. Let's talk about standards for just a moment because I get women all the time and they have great standards, right? If you have standards, you wanna have high standards and you want them to be good standards. And at the same time, you don't want those standards to weed out good men. And a lot of the women that I talked to, their standards, what they do is actually weed out good men even though they're not bad standards to have but they get represented in the woman's mind in a way that doesn't really work or doesn't make a lot of sense or doesn't actually get them what it is that they wanna get. And so here's my recommendation is that when you look at your standards and what you have and what standards you have for the men that you allow in your life, instead of just having these standards, right? I hear a lot of different things like women will tell me, I want a man who's, you know, I'm four foot 11 and I want a guy who's six foot one or whatever, right? And I won't date a guy who's not six foot or six foot one, right? Or they'll say just all kinds of little things, right? Little nitpicky things. And here's my suggestion instead, focus on what you want to experience and feel, right? Why do you have this rule of a six foot guy? Is it because you feel safe around him? Is it because you feel protected? Is it because you feel like he's a big strong man? You know, what is it about whatever standard you have that makes you wanna have that standard? And instead of looking at how you interpreted that feeling into the standard, instead look at that feeling and say, what else could give me that feeling? What else could a man do that would give me that feeling? And if you're having a lot of problems dating and you're just running into all these challenges, you might wanna look at dating some men that you wouldn't normally date just to find out if maybe they have some of those traits that make you feel that way that maybe your previous standards didn't allow you to have. So that's it. If you have any questions for me, ask your questions in the chat and I will get to them real quick here. I just wanna go back over the five reasons that you should date an ugly man. First one is that you won't have to fight other women for him, right, cause other women don't want him. He's an ugly, he's an ugly man. Other women don't want him. He tries harder. He's gonna try harder because he wants to please you. He wants to do things right. He will value you more from the very beginning cause let's just face it. He's approached a lot of women and none of them have said yes before. He'll have a stronger personality because he had to since birth, he had to fight off, he had to fend off things, he had to develop his personality to get somewhere in life and you will be happier. And that's number five. UCLA has actually done studies on this extensively where they found that women are happier when they date men who are uglier than they are. Okay, so let's just go ahead and see what kind of questions we have today. Hello, everybody. Da-doot, da-doot. CJ says, I'm gonna go with your advice, man. Take an ugly man because I think I will agree to most of the things you will mention. Okay. Okay. So, Azar Azra says, I am North Carolina. Cool. Lots of people from all over. Yvonne says, what if you're not attracted to him? Well, it's very, very important to be attracted to someone. However, one thing I will mention here is that a physical attraction doesn't always just come from physical traits. And so there's other things that create attraction and physicalness is only one of those things. And so there are other things that you wanna look at and it's really how do you feel around him? And when you hang out with a guy, if he has a certain type of a personality or if he's really in his, for instance, let's take masculine feminine. If there's a polarity there, if there's a strong polarity there, that actually creates attraction. Let me give you an example. I have a friend from college when I was going to college, I had this friend that he was known for dating really thin blonde women. That was what he was known for dating, really beautiful thin blonde women. And we would always see him out and he was always with some really thin blonde woman. And one time we went out and we saw him and he was with a woman who was very attractive, but she wasn't his typical type, right? She wasn't thin, she wasn't blonde. She was a woman though, right? But what ended up happening is he ended up getting into a relationship with this woman and I left college and I ended up coming back a few years later. And I remember seeing him and he was still with that woman. And at this point I was into kind of the dating and relationship stuff. And so I went and asked him, I talked to him about it and I was like, hey, man, you know, when we were in college, you're kind of known for always dating these really thin blonde women. And your girlfriend is, you know, she's gorgeous and she's not the typical type of woman that you would normally go for, like what happened? You know, and he's like, you're right, he's like, you're right. She, when I was in college, she wasn't my type. However, I don't know, there's something about her when I saw her, I just, I don't know, I just wanted to, you know, run over and just grab her and hold her in my arms and just make love to her and kiss her all over her body, you know, and I was like, ah, that's cool, you know, that's cool. And what I think it is, is her feminine energy, right? She was really kind of in touch with her body and she was into kind of this type of dance where she would just connect with herself and her body. And like, you know, he was attracted to that polarity, to that feminine polarity, that emotion that he felt when he was around her. And a lot of women will experience the same thing. And so you might want to try connecting with men that you normally wouldn't. And so you might not initially be attracted to them physically, right? That's one of the challenges with a lot of these dating apps because you're just swiping based on what he looks like and possibly if you, you know, get deeper into it, you might look at his profile and see just words, right? So you're not hearing his voice, you're not really seeing him move, you're not, you know, flirting with him and talking to him. So you don't know whether this guy actually has a great personality or whether he's more masculine and you're connecting with him through that, right? So it's worth connecting with a guy in that you might not normally date just to see if there's some spark of chemistry there. And it is important, absolutely. By far, it's very, very important that you have attraction there because if you don't, eventually you're just gonna feel like you're friends and you don't really feel the passion, you don't feel that spark, you don't want to be physically intimate with each other and the relationship will just end up dying and you'll be like, yeah, we just weren't right for each other. And so you might wanna give those kinds of guys a chance. That's what I have to say about that. And also, if you're here with us, check out the forever woman formula theforeverwomanformula.com, you can get the program for free. That program, by the way, is not for everybody. It's only for women who really wanna be valued in a relationship, women who are coachable, right? And if that's not you, it's probably not for you, but if you really wanna get into a great relationship, you should go check out the program and see if it is for you or not. Do, do, let's see. Jess says, nope, totally insecure. Some are just as ugly on the outside as they are on the inside. Yeah, I mean, you definitely don't want to date somebody just because they're ugly, just like you don't wanna date someone just because they're pretty on the outside. You wanna make sure that the people that you're getting into a relationship with are beautiful people, beautiful people. More hellos, Nigeria, cool. So, some Raj says, I need to marry an ugly man. You do that, girl, you do that. LeBang says, not an ugly man, Matt, not for me. Rachel says, hi, Matt, I'm from Midlands in England and ugly man really, I had one and he didn't try it all. My new partner is gorgeous and he does everything to make me happy. Yeah, I mean, there's no, whenever we talk about anything and hopefully at this point, you know that I was joking about all this stuff, but whenever we're talking about anything in here, it's never 100% of anything, right? You can't generalize anybody 100% into any category. Even from like a masculine feminine standpoint, not all men are masculine and not all women are feminine. At most, we can say it's like somewhere around 80 to 90%. We cannot say that it's 100% because there's a lot of people that break all the rules. There's a lot of people, right? If you have a pretty guy, he might have had a really difficult childhood and he got really strong and developed his character, right? It has nothing to do necessarily with him being pretty or ugly, although it could, although it could and again, that was kind of the video is kind of a joke guys. It's a joke, it's a joke guys to a certain extent. They turn cute, women start wanting them, Ben there, they start thinking they're all that, okay? Rizrock says, why not the man, marry an ugly woman? There's actually a song about this. There's an old song about marrying an ugly woman and it's kind of a similar concept. Nicole says, oh my God, Matt, you're so funny, thanks. Rachel says, no Matt, no, no. Sarah says this didn't work out for me, now he has a five year restraining order. And Donna says it's hard to be an ugly man, it's hard to be. Ah, yep, yep, yep. Where do I meet him? Supermarket, you can find ugly men everywhere. Ugly men, ugly men are everywhere. Melanie says that top 20% males get 80% of females is actually real evolutionary biological science. I actually looked up the science on this and I didn't find any science that actually said this. And it's not, the truth is what they have found is that it's not that 20% of males get 80% of the women. That's actually not how it works. It's actually a lot more nuanced than that. It's 20% of the men are having 80% of the sex is what the outlook is actually on it. That doesn't mean that they get 80% of the women because women are, they're not, most women aren't just running around hooking up with all these dudes, right? The 20% of guys that would be hooking up with all these women, they would have nothing else, they would have to have nothing else going on in their lives in order to actually do that. Cause that's a lot of women. It's a lot of women that these men would have to hook up with. And the truth is, is that it's a lot more nuanced, right? And so I wouldn't go off of that. It's not actual science. There's no studies that prove this. And there are some studies that actually prove against it. Although the idea that there's a small percentage of men hooking up with lots and lots of women is actually very true. Jenny says, from Nebraska and I have a gorgeous man that treats me like a queen and is faithful. I don't have to fight for him. And he shuts down any attempt of another woman trying to seal him. Well, that is awesome. Jenny, high five for that. That is obviously the ideal scenario that you want to be in. Lots of ha ha ha's. Liz says, I don't get it. Ha ha ha. Rachel says, Matt, you're a class. Your class is a pretty, I'm a pretty boy. You think, wait, wait a second. I want to know, how many of the women watching this right now think that I am a pretty boy? If you think I'm a pretty boy, say I think you're a pretty boy. And if you don't say, I don't think you're a pretty boy. You just, you tell me. You tell me. Lisa says, sounds like a Mickey Mouse study. Leah says, my brother said he only dates ugly women. His excuse says they are grateful and won't cheat. See, see, we have evidence here. We have evidence here. Nox says, average is probably better. Have some internal connection and friendship basis. First, no commonality, forget it. Yep, yep, yep, yep, yep. May Yuri says, to be honest, everything matters. Stop lying. Of course everything matters. Of course everything matters. Joanna says, ugly and pretty man is not correlated with smartness. That is true. That is true. Lori says, I must admit, Han, I've always been with nice looking men. And to be honest, they're all nasty. Yeah, well, you know what? That's, you know, Fran Fres says, he's rich. All right, do we have any questions? If you have any questions here, say, ask me your questions in the chat and I will get to them here. I would love to answer any questions that you have. Get some, I get it. Riz Rock says, I don't know if I can kiss an ugly man. Ugly doesn't turn me on. Exactly, Heidi, you got it right there. What is pretty? Some guys are ugly, but so attractive. That's right. Mika says, ugly or pretty, he cannot respect you the same if you cannot, can't respect yourself. That's right. That's right. It's called the law of belief transference. Yvonne says, ugly guy is maybe not the best description. Maybe not. Maybe not, Yvonne. Maybe not. Hyanson says, ugly man won't go anywhere, but it's too much to put up with ugly man emotionally and physically. And above all chances are, I will get ugly babies. Yeah, well, you know what? They will have character too as your ugly babies. They will, they will have great character. Joanna says, no ugly babies, Matt. Ah, yeah, I don't know. I don't know, you know. You'd always have babies and then get an ugly man because, you know, he won't mind that you have some kids already and just get your tubes tied that way. You don't end up having any babies with him. The drama says, my ugly guy was for me the most beautiful guy I've ever met, but then beautiful story became ugly and I've had enough, but yes. Nocturnal says, unless you're six foot, you don't need a six foot guy. If you're looking for private size, it's not in the height. Look at the hand size. I've met a well endowed five, six. Yeah, and hand size doesn't necessarily mean anything either. That's actually a myth. That's actually a myth. Theresa says, it's true that you say, but this is not if he's ugly or not. I don't have feelings you can't hang out with. Yeah, I mean, you want to be attracted to him, like I said before. Lee says, godly man, the best to marry him. Laurie says, I don't know why men aren't interested in me. I'm kind, gentle and nice. Maybe I'm too nice. We'll just, just get you. Hey, Laurie, just get yourself. Just get yourself an ugly man. Just get yourself an ugly man. Get yourself an ugly man. Get yourself an ugly man. CJ says, a good looking man is every woman's man because he knows he's good looking and woman chasing him so his ego will be higher. His ego will be higher. Theresa says, you have someone for me? Serious Matt? Maybe. Michelle says, what an ugly, muscular man? Maybe. Maybe. Maybe. Yeah, Cheryl says more comments than questions. I know everybody wants to leave a comment about this. Everybody, everybody has a comment on ugly men. Ha, ha, ha, ha. Louise says, Matthew likes his partners to be pretty, pretty ugly. Maybe. CJ says, you look great by the way, Matt. Fresh and rejuvenate. Well, thank you. Thank you. I was just in Turkey actually yesterday. I was in Turkey yesterday. It was really warm and nice there. I have to say, I was in Antalya. Beautiful, beautiful place. If you haven't been to Antalya, Turkey, it's worth checking out. It's worth checking out. Just make sure you hold on to your wallet. Make sure you hold on to your wallet. It's no good. Matt's doubling down on the thing. Ha, ha, ha. Ha, ha, ha, ha. Chioma says, and I married an ugly man, yet women can't let him be. Ah, is my, is my, is my plan for you falling apart? Is it falling apart? Uh-oh. Beer goggles. Maybe we're talking about them beer goggles. Beer goggles. Lori says, I think I'm ugly, but can't seem to get a decent man. Well, I'm looking at your photo right now. It doesn't look like you're ugly to me. It looks like you're very pretty. So I don't know. I don't know. All I'm saying is go, go find yourself an ugly man, Lori. Go find yourself an ugly man. CJ says, don't want no short man. CJ says, does size matter? I wanna know what you think. Do you think size matters? Let me know in the chat. Does size matter? Does size matter? I wanna know, let's, let's, once and for all, let's settle this. Does size matter? Let's find out. Tell us in the chat. Do you think size matters? The Drenna says, well, I just wanna love and I'm open for all of what is coming. Ugly, pretty, all right. So I just have some faith. Just have a little bit of trust. Have a little bit of trust and faith. Hazel says, you can't force yourself with people that are not attractive because at the end you're not getting your expectations and we can always do better. Yeah, you don't wanna be with somebody who's not attractive, but attractiveness like I was talking about earlier comes from a lot of different things. It's not just physical attractiveness. And so you wanna look at, you know, when you hang out with a man, does it, does he grow on you? Do you feel more attracted to him by hanging out with him? You know, you can always do the friend's first thing, especially with some of these guys that you're not, that you're not necessarily physically really attracted to first off. Just, you know, just let him know that just friend zone him, just friend zone him. He won't be happy about it. But if he's a strong, confident man, if he's strong in himself and he's confident, it won't phase him that much and he'll just keep moving forward. As Hamas says, I can't find ugly men attractive. I tried going out with one and I had zero tolerance with him over a little stuff he didn't do right. Yeah, of course. And, you know, you're, see, so this is one of those things that happens a lot with women and you might wanna rethink about this, right? You're saying, I can't find ugly men attractive, right? Which is this global statement about a man that you might not be physically attracted to or men that you might not be physically attracted to. And then you say, I tried going out with one, right? I tried going out with one and I had zero tolerance with him over little stuff he didn't do right. And what this sounds like is like everything, right? Anytime I like give advice or do anything, you usually need to try it a couple of times because the first time you try anything, you're not likely to be successful. First time you go to the gym, you're probably gonna screw everything. First time you try to start a business, it's probably not gonna be successful, right? First time you do anything, it's probably not gonna work out. The first relationship you get into, it's probably not gonna work out. It could, right? It could be the first time you start a business, it's super successful. It could be the first time you go to the gym, you do really, really great and it's something that you just love and are naturally good at. It could be that the first relationship you get into is an amazing relationship that lasts a lifetime. It could be, but for most people it's not that way. And you have to try things a couple of times to find out whether it's really right for you or not. And so my suggestion is that you give it at least a few more tries and just go out with a few guys that maybe, and they don't have to be ugly, right? It doesn't have to like, I'm joking here a little bit when I talk about ugly men, but think about it in terms of like, somebody that you wouldn't normally go out with, right? Somebody that isn't normally your type and just try doing that a few times with a few different guys and see what the difference of experience is with that person than with somebody that you would normally be all over or think is really hot and all that kind of stuff. And what I found is that, especially in this day and age with Tinder and all these dating apps and stuff, most people have developed crazy expectations. A lot of women have developed just insane standards because they're used to these really hot guys wanting to hook up with them. And so they go, I want him, but in a version that's not a player and isn't a Chad and that just wants to treat me right and all this other stuff, which is possible. You can get that guy, right? That's out there, absolutely. And my suggestion is that if you're having a really hard time and you're not finding any guys that you want and all the guys that you meet are players and they're not putting any work and all these different things are going on, you might want to try something a little bit different. Just try meeting men that you wouldn't normally end up going out with and see if there's a different kind of a connection there with that guy. Anna says, but ugly guys will believe they are handsome if a nice girl date them and they will act bad at the end. They might, if you're doing all the wrong things that might happen, right? That could happen. And, or if he is insecure, right? If he's like still insecure, if he still has issues that he hasn't resolved from his past, if he's not matured, that can definitely end up happening. Or if you're not doing all the right things that could end up happening, right? If you're not connecting with him, if you're not building a real relationship with him, he might end up getting resentful and taking it out on you, right? That could definitely happen on both sides. Not that that's your fault, but most people want to be in a relationship where two people are growing together. And so, if a guy gets hurt and he miscommunicates, he doesn't communicate with you that he got hurt. He might end up taking it out on you. And this can happen with anybody, right? It's not ugly men or pretty men. This happens with everyone. And it can happen with women doing it. It happens all the time with women doing it with men as well. And so you just want to figure out what works for you and try it with different men. Try meeting men that you wouldn't normally meet and make sure that they are matured. Make sure that you are matured as well, right? It's really, really not popular these days to talk about women having challenges and problems as well with their own personality and character. There's a lot of things going on out there with kind of this, you know, just be yourself kind of advice. And it's very important to be yourself, but most of the people that are kind of promoting that advice are taking, what they're really doing is they're taking old habits, right? Things that they learned from their childhood, things that are destructive and toxic behaviors. And they're saying, I don't want to change these behaviors. I just want to be myself, which that isn't who they are. Your behaviors aren't who you are, right? But it is important to get connected with who you actually are deeper down inside of you. And you're connecting with somebody for who you are, but the rest of it, most of your behaviors, most of your thoughts, most of the things that you do, those are things that you picked up along your journey of life that should be evolved so that you can grow into the best version of yourself and have a better relationship. Relationships are designed to help us grow, right? Relationships are a spiritual game. They're a spiritual journey that you should be taking and growing through, right? That's what relationships really, in my opinion, are about. Drona, I want to be proud of my partner. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. And so here's the thing that you want to think about, right, because this is a standard, right? And you hit the nail on the head, Drona. You absolutely hit the nail on the head, right? So what is it that you actually want, right? When you see a guy and you want an attractive person in your life, what do you actually, why do you actually want an attractive person? You know, it could be some of the women of here said because they want beautiful babies. And I understand that, right? It's, what's it called when you marry and have children with eugenics, right? When you marry and have children with people with better genetics than you have because you want to have better offspring. It's called eugenics, right? And there's nothing wrong with that in my opinion. And there's another thing, right? Which is what you're talking about here. Like why do I want an attractive man because I want to be proud? Well, what else, what about having somebody would make you proud to have them in your life, right? What other characteristics would somebody have that would make you feel proud that you have this man in your life and you could show him off and you'd be proud of having this man with you. And the idea of an ugly man is kind of taking things to an extreme, like getting an ugly guy or whatever. But even if he's not the most beautiful man in the world, does he have other characteristics that you'd be proud of that would make you feel proud that you showed him off to your friends and family where they met your friends and family and your friends and family were like, this guy's a keeper. You should not let go of this guy. This guy is amazing and awesome and you should do everything to keep that man, right? And when you have a guy like that and your friends and your family are talking about him like that, is the only characteristic that he's hot, right? If he's hot and dumb, is that gonna do it as well? Probably not. What's probably gonna do it is if he's strong, if he's responsible, if he's mature, if he's got a lot of other characteristics and you wanna think about what are those characteristics? What are the characteristics that I would want that would make me proud to have this person in my life? And think about that. Think about that. June says, no sound, is there a fix? Does anybody else not have any sound? That would be funny if I was like talking all this entire time and nobody had any sound but everybody was like leaving all these comments and stuff. That would be pretty, pretty funny. That'd be pretty funny. Pretty sad, I'd cry. I'd go, I'd cry tonight, is what would happen. Soya says, you getting prettier and prettier. Yeah, uh-huh. Pthudo says, thank you, Matt. Finally I could join. I had a disconnection, okay. Brigitte says, will you marry me? Just kidding. Just kidding. Valerie says, at least alcohol makes ugly men good looking. Yeah, just be, just get an ugly man and just be drunk all the time. That's what you really wanna do. And it says, you're not my type. I like toxic guys, okay. And it says, not a pretty boy, a mix of good looks, charm and sex, yeah. Louisa says, would you given the same advice to men to pick an ugly one? Well, it's the point here, Louisa, isn't to actually get an ugly man, but to think about your standards and what you actually want, right? What is actually the thing that's important, which we were just touching on, right? Like being proud and feeling proud of somebody. And if you're proud of somebody, is that just because they're physically attractive? And so for men, I would absolutely tell them the exact same thing. Like what are your standards and why are those standards, what it is that you want, right? What is it there that you want? And like I was talking about with my friend who ended up dating and getting into a relationship with a woman who totally wasn't his type. And he did it because there was something else there. There was a feeling that he had and attraction that he had to her that was different than this normal physical attraction that he would feel, but it was something that was deeper and stronger because it was an emotional attraction instead of just a physical one. Casey says, the ugly ones are just as bad, good as the handsome ones. Yeah, I mean, yeah, I mean, yeah, yeah, I mean, yeah. Beth says, my ugly guy is a sweet talker. New relationship, I still have my same sabotage tactics, right? And you can get over those if you heal and get stronger within yourself. And he's always hot and cold. How can I make them not be hot and cold? So what do you mean? So he's always hot and cold with you. And how can I, so what you wanna look at is why is he hot and cold? And what does hot and cold mean actually, right? Cause I talked to a lot of women and they'll tell me like, oh, a guy pulls away or he's hot and cold. And I'm like, well, what does that mean? And they'll say, oh, well, you know, he doesn't talk to me for like two days or three days, right? And especially if you're dating, normal dating, that's like at the initial stages of dating, that's totally normal behavior. That's totally normal. In fact, here's what you wanna do. Beth, here's what you wanna do is you wanna have a conversation with him about what is normal for him as far as communication is concerned. Like what does he think is normal behavior? I call this the communication blueprint. Everybody has a communication blueprint. And if you talk to every single woman out there and every single man out there, we all have different ideas about what's normal for being in a dating scenario. So for him, he might feel like he's not being hot and cold at all. He might feel like, oh, this is normal, right? I talk to her every couple of days. We meet up once a week or whatever and that's normal dating behavior, right? We're in a relationship and we meet up once a week or we meet up twice a week. That's normal dating behavior. We talk once every couple of days. That's normal dating behavior. But for you, you might be like, I wanna talk to him every day or I wanna talk to him multiple times a day or it might be the vice versa, right? Where he thinks that he wants to talk to you all the time and you don't. And so it's very important to find out what his communication blueprint is. What's normal for him as far as what he thinks is normal in regards to a dating scenario or a relationship scenario. And if what he's doing is different than what he says, find out what's actually going on with him, right? Because he might be busy with work or something. I don't know your scenario, Beth, but what you need to do is find out whether it's abnormal behavior or normal behavior. If it's abnormal behavior, then there's something that's going on there that needs to be talked about and addressed. If it's normal behavior, then you're freaking out for no reason because you have different expectations about how often you should be communicating in the dating scenario than he does. And if you work those out and you clear those up and you get on the same page, then all of a sudden you go from this world of, oh my God, he's hot and cold all the time to this world of, okay, it's okay, this is normal behavior, this is what I want. I'm gonna either ask him to start getting closer to my communication blueprint or I'm gonna start getting closer to his communication blueprint or we're both gonna come in to more of a center point and just be more okay with what we're doing. The drama says, do you wanna be my boyfriend, Matt? You know what? You are probably a very, very wonderful human being, Vidrana. However, I am actually taken, so that is not, that's, you know, we're not gonna do that. We're not gonna do that. Tamara says, it's important to have some physical attraction. All right. So nocturnal says, how many dates should you give it until you make a call? There is no chemistry. I just give it like two or three at most, right? Three at most. If by the third date, there's no chemistry, there's no chemistry coming, right? There's absolutely no chemistry coming. If by the third date, you don't have any chemistry. Usually the first date, there's kind of, you know, sometimes it depends on you and him. A lot of times though, there's kind of this awkwardness and, you know, trying to figure out each other out and do we even wanna talk some more? And then the second date, you'll usually, what you can usually do if you're connecting the right way and you're playing and you're flirting and you're, you know, in your feminine energy and you're having fun and you're using some of the stuff that I talk about, then what will end up happening is you'll start learning about him and his energy and the way that he connects with you and you should start feeling something or not. And if you don't feel anything, then it's fine. I wouldn't give it more time than three dates if I were you. Hello, Susanna says, you know ugly. Well, I appreciate that I know ugly. Debbie says, how do you know how to trust if the man's ugly or not? So it's, you know, so if you look at his face, if his nose is like, it's like real big and it kind of comes down, you know, to the side of his face so that it pushes his eye over a little bit and like his top lip is really big but his bottom lip is really small and he has one of his ears is like really big and round up on this side. And the other one's just really small. He might be ugly. He might be ugly if that's what's going on with him. I'm not sure. I'm not, I might not be the best person to ask if somebody's ugly or not. But those are things that I would check for it. If I was checking for an ugly, a physically ugly man. Natasha says, there has to be chemistry. I'm not looking for a drop did gorgeous, but there has to be some physical attraction. Yep. Yep, yep, yep, yep, yep. Joel says, it's not about ugly or pretty. Okay. You're so funny. You're so funny, Leah. Luisa says artificial insemination plus ugly man. There you go. See, we have a solution. Luisa has a solution for the ugly man thing. Just make sure that there's something like you're not getting artificial insemination and he's like a completely different race or something like different skin color completely and then the ugly man that you're getting. Are we really talking about this right now? Okay, okay, we're talking about this. We're talking about this. Vajrana says, oh my God, I sent like few messages and still not noticed. It must be that I'm bull. Chrissy says, hello, hey Matt, do you have any video about long distance relationships? I do. Actually, if you go to the homepage on my YouTube channel, you'll actually see, there's live streams and you can go over, just click on the right and you'll see I have a, I think I have a couple long distance relationship videos. Leah says, ugly babies matter. You're right, Leah, ugly babies matter. Anybody who says anything else is just, they don't know. They don't know. Casey says, nobody is ugly. Yeah, you know what? You know what? I like your point of view here, Casey. I like it. Laurie says, I date you. You've got the looks and you're nice. Well, I appreciate that. His siantha says, ha, ha, ha. I guess we need to know what do we consider ugly? If you consider you are ugly, then I agree with this video. Ngozi says, marry an ugly man. It's easier to forgive a pretty one. One look at him and the anger is gone. Okay. Louisa says, anything five or below of 10 is ugly. Are we rating men on a scale of one to 10 right now? We need to stop objectifying men here. All men are beautiful. All men are beautiful. Alexandra says, laugh out loud ugly men. As long as they have a nice personality, they can't be that ugly. I like your, I like the way you think, Alexandra. I'm just going to call you Alexandra. Casey says, depends on the eye of the beholder. That's right. Depends on the eye of the beholder. Rachel says, ha, ha, you're digging a hole in me. So I know, I know, I figured this out. Adrana says, however, this is not topic for me. There's lots of other topics, what I like from you, but didn't have a chance to catch you in my phone. You don't wanna, you don't want an ugly man, Adrana? Get yourself, get yourself an ugly man. Get yourself a, Jonah says, ugly man can't exist. Maybe their attitude are ugly, oh, okay. Deanna says, oh my God, are you drunk today? I actually don't drink. I haven't had a drink of anything in over a year. Not because I'm like, I have problems with drinking or anything like that, but just for health. I'm living the healthy life over here, so I don't drink. I don't drink. My personality is, you know, lots of people, my whole life, lots of people have always been like, are you on drugs? And I'm always like, no, no, what? And they're like, they're like, nobody can be this happy and funny and playful. And I'm just like, okay. Maita says, isn't that kind of lowering standards? I mean, basing a connection on looks is pretty shallow. It's just hard to connect with decent guys these days. Well, what I'm talking about here isn't necessarily about lowering standards, but changing the way that you look at your standards and saying, okay, what is it that I actually want here? What would actually make me feel proud and make me feel valued and make me feel cherished and make me feel like I did a great job and I have an amazing man in my life. What would make you feel that? Instead of looking at things that are totally superficial. Kathleen says, maybe she doesn't know how to flirt. Dominica says, do you know if Quasimodo is already taken? I don't know, that's a good question. We should phone Quasimodo, find out if he is already taken. And Natasha says, I find a lot of guys, ugly guys like me and not sure why I can't find an attractive one, but ugly guys do seem to treat me better than attractive ones. That's right, that's right. Get yourself an ugly man. Stacey says, how do I get my not so great-looking husband to focus on me than other women? Women run after my ugly man. Yeah, what you wanna do is you want to, you want to put like, they make this spray actually that will, that smells like farts. And what you wanna do is before your man leaves the house, just spray him all over with the fart smell. Just what you wanna do is you wanna have him like hot arise his nose so that he doesn't, he can't really smell that much anymore and then spray him with fart smell. And when he leaves the house, women will, I mean, if he's ugly and he smells like farts and women are still chasing him, you know, you've got like a unicorn. You've got a unicorn. Jazzy says, you're a pretty man. Well, I appreciate that. I'm a pretty man. I'm a pretty man. Dion says, good-looking man, mostly cheap. Rachel says, Matt, are you high right now? This is what I was talking about. This is what I was talking about. Everyone's always asking me if I'm high. I'm high on life. I'm high on life till the day we die. That's a song. I don't know if you know it or not. Cheryl says, some women wouldn't care if your man is ugly. They'll still be promiscuous. No respect. Yeah, yeah, it can happen. It can happen. It can happen. Thudow says, looks are deceiving. I'd rather be alone. None of them is good. Louisa says, they can't be shorter than you. I mean, they can't be shorter than you than they can't be shorter than you. Size matters, okay. Cheryl says, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Size matters, lots of that. Mika says, can you talk about the misconceptions women have about men behaviors? Misconceptions about men's behaviors. I mean, that's a huge topic. Is there something specific, Mika, that you wanted me to talk about around men's behaviors and misconceptions? Because we can definitely talk about that. Lindsay says, yes, size matters. Well, we know what you're there now, Lindsay. Hazel says, my grandma used to say, if you marry a frog, you'll have little times. I've never heard that before. That's a very interesting saying. Your grandma sounds like a very honest heartfelt woman. Rachel says, the size of the heart is all that matters. That is very sweet, Rachel. It's very sweet. None of us Facebook users says, nope, it does not matter. Skills do matter. Joanna says, size of what? The lucky cat tarot says, that's always seemed too ridiculous to me that people want to be around someone because they're pretty. It's like picking your breakfast cereals based on color instead of taste. That's an interesting metaphor. They're lucky cat tarot. Thanks for mentioning that. Thanks for mentioning that. Lots of size matter. Annette says, size doesn't matter. Size matters. It looks like the size matters ones are winning here. Thudo says that size matters. Kate says, I don't think so, but even men try to date ugly women. Nope, nope, we got more. No size doesn't matter. Debbie says, of course, size matters. Although how good he is with what he has makes all the difference. Carol says, no me. I don't want an ugly man. I am 70 years old, but I don't look it. I've never looked my age growing up there for him. Not interested in men my own age because they look too old for me. Maybe someone between 60 and 65. Yeah, well, I have a video actually about why men love dating older women. Check that one out. Karen says, hello from Florida. I missed the beginning. So I need to catch up. Yes, size matters, but don't we all want the same size? Just like everything else. We all like different sizes. Yep, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep. Kiyoka says, I think you're a pretty boy. Oh, I'm a pretty, I'm a pretty boy. I'm a pretty boy. You tell me I'm a pretty boy. Nope, I should marry an ugly one. You're not ugly. I don't even know if we have any more questions. Sarah says, I did first for 10 years with an ugly man and married him now waiting on my divorce with a five-year restraining order. Well, well, well, well, well, well. CJ says, right now, who do you take? The ugly or the good looking? When it comes to size, which most women want problem with? Right, which problem do you want? Which problem do you want, CJ? Doop dee, doop dee, doop dee, doop dee, doop dee. Sarah appreciates this topic. Well, I appreciate you appreciating this topic, Sarah. Chris says, nothing hurts. Then dating an ugly man, then he starts cheating on you. He makes you feel useless and wasted. Wasted time dating an ugly man that cheats on you. That's just horrible, horrible. Shouldn't happen. Natasha says, Matt, you should start your own dating app. You know, I was actually talking to a few people about this. I was talking to a men's dating coach about this, actually, and doing some matchmaking services. And there are actually a lot of people with a lot more money and resources than me who have tried to start their own dating sites, their own dating apps, who are in similar positions as me. And all of them stopped, all of them, all of them stopped, all of them quit. I'd love to talk to some of them and find out why they don't do it. But, you know, I think there's a lot. I was talking to a few matchmaking people who've run a lot of matchmaking services about this. We might end up doing that. I don't know. I need to run some more surveys and talk to some more women and talk to some more matchmakers and talk to some more men on the men's dating side and find out if this is something that we actually want to do or not. Do we want to do it? Do we not? Do we want to do it? Do we not? Lea says she had, she asked a question. Let's see if we can find her a question. I don't see your question nowhere in here. Lea, okay, here we go. So Lea says, question, my boyfriend is in New York. I'm in LA. That's a big distance. It's been over three years now. He's wealthy and ugly, but he's married to work. I'm about to bail because this is too long for me. How long should a woman date? You should, so they've done studies on this and extensive studies on this and men know unanimously. It's like 99% of men know by the six to eight month point what kind of a relationship they ultimately want to have with you. And so if you've been with a guy for three years, he knows what kind of a relationship he wants to have with you. And at this point, the reason he's not pushing things further forward, if you don't want, if you want something more and he's not giving you something more is because you're allowing him to do that. And so if you want something more, you have to stop allowing him to do that. What you have to do is have a conversation with him. Let him know what it is that you want. Just tell him, just let him know. Just tell him, let me be like, look, hey, here's the deal. I've been thinking a lot. And what I've realized is that I want to get married and whatever this scenario is that you want, right? I want this, I want that. I want to live next to my partner. I want all these things. And that's what I've realized. So what do you think about that? Is this something that you want as well? And just have a conversation with him about that. And if he's not, if he's like, yeah, yeah, well, we need to wait or whatever, just let him know that it's been three years and that you've waited a long time and that you don't want to wait forever and that you're not going to wait forever. And let him know that you understand him, you get him, that you respect and honor what it is that he wants and what he's doing, but that you want something more now and that you're not going to wait any longer. And then walk away from the situation and let him know. Tell him that if he changes his mind that he can let you know and that if you're still single, that you can talk about it then, right? And then just walk away. That's my suggestion. And don't wait any longer. Three years is long enough. You've waited long enough. He knows for a fact what kind of a relationship he wants with you. And so that is what you should do in my opinion. That is what you should do in my opinion. In my opinion, that's what you should do. 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