 So for those of you who missed it, Bam Margera posted a series of pretty troubling videos over on Instagram and he eventually asked Dr. Phil for help. So in this video we're going to be discussing the situation from Bam Margera's perspective as well as Stevevo and Brandon Novak and then finally we're going to ask the question can Dr. Phil help Bam Margera? So stay tuned. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I try to do is take different topics going on in the community or in pop culture try to see what lessons we can learn from them to improve our own mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and real quick for those of you who don't know I've been sharing over on the community tab and on Twitter and on Instagram but I've been doing daily podcasts I know I work my butt off because I love you all so much so not only am I doing daily YouTube videos I'm also doing a daily podcast and all that stuff so make sure that you check it out the links will be down in the description below and follow me on Instagram and Twitter so you don't miss any of the updates alright so yeah let's talk about this Bam Margera situation it actually happened within about the last week or so I was actually out of town with my beautiful girlfriend and my son visiting her family when this went down and a lot of people were messaging me about this especially on Instagram where all this stuff took place so before I jump into this topic those of you who don't know me you might be like who the heck is this guy and how is he qualified in any way shape or form to discuss this subject so allow me to introduce myself hi my name is Chris I'm a recovering drug addict and alcoholic my clean date is June 23rd 2012 so yeah about a little over a month ago I celebrated seven years clean and sober not only that but I worked in addiction treatment for a little over three years and I'm a certified life coach and I specialize in sober coaching alright but aside from that part of my job and part of my own personal experience I have had interventions done on me I have had to do inner interventions for friends for family members as well as a ton of clients who have helped get into treatment as well so I'm kind of well versed on this subject okay so first for those of you who missed it I'm not going to show the whole thing but anyways bam posted a series of videos you can go check it out but they're very concerning and this is why people were worried bonkers so when people say bam might be going crazy maybe they're right let's get to their right let's get to my mom which is the worst part everything she says is negative and she always cuts people off and never lets them finish she's already ready to say what she's gonna say before you're done that means she's not listening ever how many times have I got you out of rehabs and paid for them 25 out of jail numerous you wrecked my $125,000 S-55 Mercedes it was my favorite I could have put you back in jail instantly but you just did a year in jail and I didn't want to do that to you because I'm a nice guy then I had $100,000 deal with Wawa for bam energy shots until they found out that every time Novak would go to Wawa with me and Westchester he would steal a cheap chicken-steaser wrap and they counted how many you stole because they didn't feel like calling the police for $4 I owed them over $5,000 on chicken-steaser wraps and then they canceled my deal so I never even got the hundred grand I've paid for every food drink any bar tap anytime he got caught stealing Xanax I'd have to throw somebody $300 to not call the police the list goes so on and on and on that it's ridiculous even to the point where his mom disowned him I don't want anything to do it I was the last one left so yeah if you want to check all of those out feel free to go check out Bams Instagram I recorded this on my phone about a week ago but I'm pretty sure they're all still up there but yeah as you could see like it's it's super sad and whenever I see this happening I remember the insanity of addiction and it's it's brutal and like I can relate so much like when I was watching bam I felt like I was watching myself like the last intervention that my family had for me seven years ago which ultimately led to me getting clean and sober like it was my mom who was seven years sober at the time she's coming up on 14 years it was my dad and a couple other family members and I was losing it and I was screaming and yelling and calling them all sorts of names and much like you saw what bam was doing to like I passed the blame on to other people like I called my mom names that you should never call anybody let alone your own mother right and I blamed her for this I said had you not been an alcoholic you know when I was growing up I'd be fine right you're the reason I'm this way and you saw a band margera like talking about his mom are we talking about his friends and everything like that and part of my addiction a part of this disease and part of that sickness is thinking if this one thing would change then I'd be fine all of you are the reason why I drink and use and don't you understand if you just treated me the way that I think I should be treated I wouldn't have to drink or use drugs right and like I get it and what we're gonna talk about at the end of this when we're talking about how Dr. Phil's gonna help we're gonna talk a little bit about what BAM's gonna have to do as well but anyways throughout BAM Margera's videos he's talking a lot of crap about Brandon Novak those of you who don't know who Brandon Novak is he was a pro skater friends with BAM and he was deep in his addiction I watched Brandon Novak share his story there's a YouTube video of it somewhere and it is a powerful story like like this dude is in the program and you could tell he's working on his recovery and like I remember listening to him speak I was like dude like that is my jam right there and a lot of you know you know Steve oh he's been sober for a while too but anyways like BAM talks a lot of trash about Brandon and I had to help my best friend get sober after I got sober and it's difficult being the friend of someone who's in their addiction when you get sober because of a few reasons one of them is we have to separate ourselves from that person right like my sobriety has to be my number one priority seven years ago I had a 10% chance of living I wasn't allowed to see my son like my life was a mess so if I don't put my sobriety number one I lose everything so I can't put my friends family members I can't put a job anything above my sobriety or I lose all of that stuff right and for the person who's still in their addiction it hurts like BAM like talks about how Brandon just like dumps him off at a rehab or whatever it is like we have to do that to protect our own recovery you know what I mean and I remember like my best friend who I eventually got you know helped get sober and he actually just celebrated four years sober too but in the beginning it was rough it was rough like because he would just accuse me of thinking I was better than him and he would talk about all the terrible things that I did in my addiction and like he wasn't wrong like I'm sure like Brandon's like yo like you're not wrong about yeah these are the things that I've done but part of our own recovery process is making amends for those things and living in a better way so we don't repeat those mistakes and one of the ways we do that is by staying clean but not long after BAM went on that tirade Steve and Brandon Novak came out and we're like yo dude like proud of you glad you're getting support and everything like that and like that's just the way you got to do it like I remember when my mom and her best friend from a 12-step program were intervening on me and I was like losing it and saying I don't need help I'm fine I could do this and I was screaming and yelling like this was like the pre-intervention before the actual intervention and they kept saying oh oh that's just your disease talking Chris that's your disease talking and I was so mad I'm like what the what do you mean that's my disease talking that's me talking it's me it's Chris it's not the disease talking but later on like I understood like the way addiction works is it takes over the survival part of your brain right the prefrontal cortex is no longer doing its job we're not thinking logically we're just trying to figure out ways that we can continue living the way that we're living by destroying our lives with alcohol and drugs right part of my recovery is separating my my addiction voice the disease voice from like the logical good Chris the person I meant to be right so when I saw Bam talking like that and when I saw you know him say what Brandon Novak has said in the past or even like Brandon and Steve O coming out and support like they get it like that is not actually Bam that is his sickness and if you know somebody who's struggling with the disease of addiction like this is something I try to teach family members all the time please recognize that your loved one is not a bad person they're a sick person they're dealing with an illness all right now that doesn't mean like let them off the hook for everything right like they still need to get well but just know that it is their addiction talking so anyways Bam Margera beg Dr. Phil to help him he says like he connects with Dr. Phil and he like it feels like Dr. Phil like you know talks his language and gives that tough love and everything like that and that's awesome all right but here's the thing Dr. Phil cannot save Bam Margera okay like first of all not only can Dr. Phil not save Bam Margera but like Dr. Phil just you know links people up with like treatment centers like Dr. Phil isn't going to personally treat Bam Margera right but how can all of us learn from this our recovery is our responsibility and when seeing Bam talk I could relate because he has so much anger built up in him right like he was talking about his kids mom he was talking about his mom he has so much anger towards the people in his life and like in treatment he's gonna have to learn different strategies to let go of those things right like when I was working in the treatment center I had I shared my experience a lot because my anger my resentments towards the rest of the world that's what kept me sick I used to drink and use at people right but when I got clean and sober something that my first sponsor taught me was no matter how much I'm trying to change it doesn't mean the rest of the world has to all right so I had to learn how to stay sober no matter what regardless of how anybody treated me or how anybody acted like I had to get myself correct right and it's empowering too because now there's no external circumstances that control my life they don't depict whether or not I'm gonna pick up a drink or a drug because I take 100% responsibility for my actions and this is something like with Ben Margera because he has been to treatment multiple times and like this is all just strictly my opinion based on my experience but he's going to have to realize that treatment is not the cure all right like addiction recovery is a marathon it's not a sprint a lot of people have the misconception that you just go into treatment you get that addiction cure like Malibu and what is that place Malibu something who says they found the cure for addiction or whatever that's not how it works this is something that we work on every single day all right I am seven years sober and my sobriety is something that I work on every single day I don't have these insane cravings or this obsession to get high or drunk but every day I wake up and I remember oh yeah I am a recovering drug addict and alcoholic I need to treat my illness in order to maintain the life that I have and not go back down that road and that's something I do every single day and the last thing I'll say is whenever I see a celebrity battling with their addiction I just know that they're on a really hard road because when you get rich when you get famous when you have all these fans the ego is your worst enemy right you don't think you need anything from anybody you don't think you need to take advice from anybody like you think you are just the person at the top of the world right and recovery takes so much humility I always say the best thing that ever happened to me in my recovery was when I had this moment of clarity when I realized I don't know crap I thought I knew everything but I didn't know a dang thing and I had to start taking suggestions from others in order to start improving my life so I will be following up on this and I do hope the best for BAM and by the way anybody out there if you ever need someone to talk to you like let me know if you have a friend a loved one whatever it is like I'm I'm like I'm much like Dr. Phil I am not going to fix you or your loved one but I will provide you with the resources that I can or have a conversation to hopefully point you in the right direction so be sure to reach out to me on Instagram or Twitter at the rewired soul the links are down in the description below all right but anyways that's all I got for this video if you liked this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and a huge huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon you're all amazing and a huge thank you to everybody who 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