 Hello everyone, I am Narc Survivor. Welcome to my YouTube channel. Before I begin please hit that thumbs up button down below to show your support. Thank you. When the narcissist suddenly sees the light, people assume that narcissists will be asleep for the rest of their lives and that they will never wake up to realize the truth. When this is actually not true at all, because narcissists do have epiphanies, there are moments when they suddenly understand and become conscious of things that are very important to you. Where they gain an intuitive perception and insight into reality, they catch on and it may even affect them emotionally to where it never would have mattered to them before. But now they get it and things are going to be very different from this point on and it's like this divine miracle. This highly improbable and extraordinary event, development and accomplishment that brings very welcome and desirable consequences. This thing that you've been waiting for, or at least that's how it seems in the beginning, because it never lasts, it never stands the test of time, it's not the end to anything, it's just a part of the cycle of abuse. And you may have seen this before where they promised to change and things may have even started to get better, but then it started to fall apart yet again until they entered a downward spiral and they became mean and cold again. They created intense difficulty, trouble or danger, a time when an important decision must be made, a crossroads, a turning point and then it was resolved and it was as though they had seen the light until it then began again. Although in some cases it may be a permanent change, there aren't any documented cases on this, but from what we know so far some people with NPD can completely change their behaviors and they never return to their previous condition, which is a remarkable development of events and it's definitely something that should be supported and encouraged, it should be held as an example so that other people with NPD can follow in their footsteps and then this world will become a more united and supportive place, but this is very uncommon and most often narcissists do not make a permanent change and instead they repeat the same patterns of behavior for the rest of their lives while taking you along for the ride. I have researched narcissistic personality disorder for the past six years and I would say that if there is one question on this topic that is more difficult to answer than anything else, it's whether or not the narcissist epiphanies are actually real because it's so easy to misinterpret what they say and do. There's a lot of miscommunication, their pathological liars and their behaviors and perceptions are controlled by however they feel in that moment, which means that it can change from one moment to the next. So how could anything ever be real to them? Because if something was real it wouldn't change so quickly, it would be sustainable and consistent, so even if their epiphanies are real they're not going to be permanent because they're completely controlled by their emotions and their emotions are stronger than a normal person's, they are never in a rational state, they're always unreasonable and illogical, which means that if they say that something is true it's only in the exact moment they said it was true while they were experiencing a particular feeling. So it may have been true at that specific point in time but in the next moment it can be wrong, which can be very confusing for those of us who are not narcissists because we don't function in that way, we can be angry and still care about someone but it doesn't work that way for narcissists, they have an inability to experience love, it's not even possible for a narcissist to love anyone but they have their own ideas of love and it cannot exist at the same time as when they're angry or upset so they can't hold on to positive feelings and they may often experience a lot of anxiety even when they're experiencing positive feelings because they're already anticipating negative feelings to follow which is when they will cause disruption for no apparent reason and then in the midst of the carnage they will suddenly have an epiphany as though after all of the damage that they've caused they finally understand, they finally get it, they realize that they're the problem, they know that their behavior is unacceptable, which may be what you've been waiting to cure for a very long time because they've been abusing you for months or even years and now they finally understand they're changing their behaviors and it seems promising but the more you hold on to this optimism and hope, the more it's going to hurt when they cause problems again so even though we may not know whether or not their epiphanies are real does it really matter because what we do know is that it's not going to last, it can't last because they have no truth, there's no body of real things events and facts, there's no true reality, they're just existing from one moment to the next depending on whatever emotion they're feeling in that moment so in one moment they could even admit that they have a disorder and that they understand that their behavior is unacceptable and then in the next moment they will say that they have no disorder and that it is you who is abusing them because they're pathological liars and just because they say something it doesn't mean they mean it, it also doesn't mean that they won't do it again they will say whatever they need to to manipulate you but the truth can change depending on however they feel in that moment while for us the truth doesn't change with our feelings we don't stop loving someone just because we're angry but it's not like that for narcissists because they have no sense of self so they're like shape shifters or chameleons they can change and become the exact opposite of what they said they were a moment before and they can be very unpredictable it can happen when you least expect it because they have difficulty understanding and interpreting things so even though you may not have done anything wrong they can change just because they interpreted something the wrong way even if you didn't mean anything by it because they see their feelings as facts so their feelings and reality are very unstable which makes it very difficult for them and you to deal with and it leaves them feeling very anxious irritable fearful angry and paranoid because they believe that they can't trust anyone as though everyone is fake and insincere so they don't really believe that you have genuine feelings for them because it's beyond their comprehension they have an inability to understand it so even if they do have an epiphany you shouldn't take it seriously because at any moment it could change in most situations it's not going to be consistent it's not going to stand the test of time and this is why it's impossible to have a relationship with them because at any moment things could fall apart they have a weak character that could change at any time so you cannot trust or depend on them because even when they're acting like they've changed and they're confessing their love and devotion to you you never know what they're going to do next so you can't build a future with them because at any moment they may turn against you and destroy everything that you've established together thank you for watching if you found this video helpful please give it a thumbs up share your thoughts in the comment section hit the subscribe button to receive the notifications if you would like to support the channel you can donate at paypal.me.s.narksurviver you can book a one-on-one with me on our website it's narksurviver.co.uk thank you for watching and i'll talk to you soon