 Welcome, welcome everyone. Let me dive straight in then I don't take too much of your time again today I want to speak to you guys today on This idea emotions are data They are not directives Emotions are data information intelligence Feedback But they are not directives They are not evidence They are not commands to behave in a certain way and I say this because I think most of us humans assume Because we have an emotion it belongs to us and because we have it Then we are supposed to do something with it and before we think We jump into Expressing that emotion in whatever way we do it with anger or sadness or reasonableness Or euphoria or excitement or whatever it may be because all of those things can be can be Unhelpful too at the wrong time So if we'll sit back a little bit and think of emotions this way emotions are not yours. They are not mine Emotions are like wandering energies Emotions are like wandering vagabonds and energies looking for a host Emotions are homeless And they're looking for a home And they want to find one with you and with me because until an emotion finds a human host It cannot have any expression into human experience So there's all these emotions out there and If you see every emotion are something to be responded to and expressed and Even become part of your personality or a mood or a habit or a temperament Then you give a home To rogue emotions that never belonged to you in the first place, but if you'll see this is data It's information It's feedback It's incoming intelligence And I'm gonna see it as that and before I allow it to become any more of that And there are many new kinds of emotions right now guys as we all know arriving by the day In this pandemic there are new emotions that are Incoming there are new kinds of incoming Feedback Emotions we didn't expect and we haven't dealt with before And just because we're in a disruptive time Doesn't mean that new emotion Has to be taken on board and expressed as if you're obliged to dance to its tune you are not Emotions are data listen to this carefully now Follow this carefully if you come with me emotions are data feelings are our Interpretation of that data Emotions are data I'm for emotion to become a feeling and the feeling is then what we feel physically and we feel it in our Biology and our physiology we feel it then we are expressing it But there is a fine line this happens so fast that we don't know that it's possible to separate it out I'm slowing it all down. I'm putting it into slow motion with my language to say it's an emotion It's data. It's just data But within a split second because we have not learned how to slow this down and count to five or ten We instantly are expressing that emotion And if you've grown up in a family by the way as I mentioned the other day with inherited framings If you've grown up in a family or a culture or environment where people just expressed any emotion and you grew up around drama Then you've never had it modeled for you To not respond to emotion and to not start to get involved with it Instantaneously because that's what you've always done, but it is not serving you well as you know so for emotions To become a feeling the emotion needs to be giving a meaning Given an interpretation Given an angle given an understanding Given a why given a what on the moment you give the data the benefit of that it begins to embed itself in your in your psychology and it begins to inhabit you and it becomes a Feeling and now the moment you say well, I just feel this if you believe that you feel it and If it is a physical feeling Then you can't understand how that may not belong to you And what we need to learn is we need to have greater border control between emotional data and reason Where emotion meets reason and that reason gives the emotion a name and it becomes a feeling Between the incoming data of emotion and your reasoning of what that means. There's a border There's a if you can imagine it as a border From now on you can't see it or feel it, but you you mentally have an option you have a border And most humans have zero border control and you have to lock down the borders like the world is doing now with this pandemic Because there is a pandemic always of Emotions that are looking to become feelings and once that are feeling they have a home and Now they can live forever in Our lives because the data found a home called a feeling and the feeling becomes Your temperament and your personality and your habit of life and now you live governed by These feelings that entered your world years ago simply as data perhaps But for years now you've had these feelings and this drama propensity and this negativity or this cynicism or this sarcasm or this fear or this anger because the data became those feelings and those feelings now have taken on a narrative and You've given narrative to these feelings and made friends with them and they are running riot like an illegal immigrant committing crime In the country of your life If I can use the metaphor of all of that to help you understand to think differently about emotions and feelings That there needs to be border control Otherwise every emotion Becomes a feeling every feeling becomes a behavior and those behaviors in a prolonged way become habits and temperaments and personalities And you get to a stage in life where you don't recognize yourself anymore and These feelings will cost us it'll cost us relationally. It'll cost us opportunities It'll cost us promotions at work. It costs us Influence and it costs us connection with people and it costs us creatively Because we have lived this way in the trap of these feelings for a long time So I know this is tough because the older we get without hearing what I'm telling you now the more difficult it is to To become an immigration officer and go on the hunt for Illegal immigrant Feelings in your life But you all know what I'm talking about, you know exactly what I'm talking about You know that of feelings that you are given to regularly that you know are Not working for you and I want you to back up a little big thing I'm in it I'm not sure where that came from and it doesn't matter whether you do or not if you can notice it quickly great That's what this is about if you notice it quickly and stop it early great with border control The ones that are already inside and over the border. I'm encouraging you To ask what's that? Where's that come from? What is that feeling? I'm gonna stop that feeling running riot in the country of my life as it were And I'm gonna arrest it and kick it out and then from then on I'm gonna have careful intentional border control between data and reason between incoming Intel and me giving it a Definition and giving it a story and giving it a name Then it becomes part of who you are whether you wanted it to or not It does because we don't know we have the power to stop it at the border Hope you're okay a couple minutes, and then I'll let you guys go because feelings are Physical I'm not denying that these feelings are not physical and you may be saying that look Paul I I just feel that way. I feel it. I understand and not all feelings are wrong or not all feelings are to be kicked out, of course but the ones that are Consistently destructive and weakening and debilitating and undermining Are the ones that I know we have and they're physical and Then when we give these physical feelings Emotional connotations and those emotional connotations, which I call a feelings are governed by The historical narrative of our lives So they don't just what when a when an emotion gets over the border and becomes a feeling today or tomorrow It doesn't start a fresh in your life it attaches itself to previous Cognitive biases as I mentioned the other day that we don't know we have and the feeling just adds to what was the drama that was already there Now the drama increases now the fear increases now the negative it increases now the insecurity increases because it's a new feeling But it just finds a home in the faulty narrative We already had and strengthens it and that narrative gets more entrenched and we get more and more stuck So emotion and reason Work like a seesaw Emotion and reason work like a seesaw The higher the emotion The harder is to think straight So if we are given two feelings and every emotion becomes a feeling Then we live in heightened emotion and we can't think our way out of it Because emotion and reason as I say I like that in our humanity so The higher the emotion The Lord our ability to think our way out of it. So we have to bring this Emotion down So that our thinking can be straighter Because whatever we like this our thinking's down here. We're in panic reaction overreacting mode Defensive mode lashing out mode locking up Cutting ourselves off mode depression anxiety mode Because emotions appear in charge over it kinging it Governing it leading our thinking So we will bring emotion down Which starts afresh today with border control because all these new emotions that want to take on feelings and become part of your life If you weaken that border control bring it down Then straighter thinking will emerge in your life Certainly of clarity and definition and be able to see your way out of something. I've been able to easily see a Causing an effect be able to easily see a process that you were ignorant of and take charge of Your life and your thinking and then you can make sounded decisions You can determine better outcomes because you have more you have more self determination when you're thinking straighter Instead of the emotion hijacking your thinking and giving you outcomes you don't want Um, and if you can't think straight You can't override your default emotional version of your life So I know that's a lot for you to take in but this will be on 24 hour IG story for you to look at again perhaps and slow it down take a few notes But in this time of this pandemic this pandemic and I watch TV listen to people all the time as you guys do And I'm feeling it too. I'm feeling the the awareness of lurking new emotions That want to jump over the border in a time when I am not guarded When I'm trying to get everything else keep all the plates spinning as it were some of you in that zone I know and they get over the border because we're not looking so I'm advocating that we See motions as data stop them there. Whoa. This is not mine. Don't know what this is It's homeless, but it's not living in my house. It's illegal immigrant. It's not coming over my border I'm shutting it down. It's not bringing It's virus to me to use that current metaphor of negativity and fear and anxiety and insecurity and threaten us It's not doing that. I'm going to stop it at the border I'm not let it become a feeling that I give a name to then it becomes part of my life and a year from now It adds to the complexity of our humanity When we didn't stop a year earlier So I'm giving you tools to stop stuff at the border to lock your borders down to say to emotion your data Interesting. Okay. I know it's an option. No, thanks. Not today. Do not disturb Keep moving someone else may want you but I don't is what I'm encouraging us to try and be more intentional