 Welcome again to another Narks by the live video Just checked in to this new room. Got my new nikes here bought these here in Taiwan They got a pretty cool style here, and if anyone wants to come and join me on my travels I've got a nice little bird here for you, but yes The topic of this video Will the narcissist find someone better? Before I get into it Because I'm really going to give it to you in this one I'd like it if you could give it a thumbs up down below very important It will help to support our community So yes, let's get into this Will the narcissist Find someone better Because let's be real Whenever the narcissist is done They finish with you They've used you up They've drained you and your supply has lost its potency When that happens they want to move on They want to act like They found someone else Someone who is so much better than you Maybe they're more attractive More intelligent The wealthier Whatever it is So they run off with this new supply as though they're now just living their best lives They're having such a great time without you And they're posting it up all over social media You see all of these pictures They've got their arms around each other with these big grins on their faces Looks like they're really living it up without you Looks like they're having a great time Or at least That's what it looks like Because that is not what is happening in reality And I just like to quote dr. Ramani. I remember she said one of her videos She said that the better a relationship looks on social media The more toxic it is likely to be in real life And I couldn't have said it better myself That is very true all of these relationships you see on Facebook Twitter Instagram and even TikTok the better it looks like on there The more toxic it is likely to be in real life And I'm sure many of you who are watching this And I myself We've been in these relationships taking these pictures with a narcissist Go into all of these places Anyone would think we were having a great time because they don't see what is going on behind the scenes They don't know what the narcissist is really like if you just joined the video now, please do give it a thumbs up down below Very important as it will help to get this message out there so that other viewers can see it as well But yes, that's all it is Just remember back when they first targeted you they manipulated you They manipulated you They gave you a false character and all they're doing now is they've just tailor-made a new character for their new supply And then they're feeding this illusion back to you When it's just as fake as it was in the beginning with you It is really no different and yet there they go Posting these pictures up on social media Flowing to their new supply in your face And why? Because they want to irritate you They want to get to you because they've learned something very true While being with you they've realized that they can't experience life in the way that you do They can't experience real intimacy Love a deep emotional connection They can't experience any of that Because they lack a fact of empathy So they have an inability to connect Which is why the first thing they have to go and do When they discard you Is they've got to run off and find someone else Unless they already have someone lined up and it's just to show you to prove to you No, there's nothing wrong with me. I Can go off. I can find someone else. I can have this amazing connection this wonderful relationship. I Can experience love intimacy Just not with you Because you were the problem You were the reason why I couldn't do that Yes, an amazing story and it's quite convincing It's quite believable, but that's all it is It's a story It is not reality and here is the Contradiction with what they're trying to portray to you because at one point in time they had something with you And if they're so empathetic They have this ability to connect and to build a Loving healthy relationship with someone else Then why couldn't they do that with you? And that is how you know It's all lies Because if they had even an ounce of empathy, they would have been there for you They would have cared about you But they didn't They didn't do that And they didn't do that Because the truth is that they do like empathy They have an ability to read into your emotions and this is known as cognitive empathy Remember they are predators so They actually tend to have higher cognitive empathy Than an empath But what they're deficient in is Affect of empathy and if you are an empath Then you have a lot of a effect of empathy And that is where you can feel another person's emotions As if they were your own This is how they could do all of those horrific Abusive things to you Because they lack Affect of empathy You know that feeling you get when you see someone in pain or distress It could be a loved one It could be a pet it could just be something Where you see a dog crossing the roads in front of a car And then it's like suddenly the alarm bells are ringing in your head It's like you're jumping out of your skin and you're just reaching out you just want to save them You want to rescue them that feeling you get That is a fact of empathy which is something that narcissists Lack that's not hard-wired in them for us. It is instinctual if you are an empath As I've said before empaths are very rare Studies show that maybe one to two percent of the world's population Are empaths who are high in affective empathy, but channels such as mine They do tend to attract a lot of empaths So I'm sure many of you who are watching this right now. Yes, you may be an empath yourself And I'm sure you will know if you can relate To that instinct that feeling When you see someone experiencing pain or distress You just want to run and save them And at times it may even be to the point where you neglect your own feelings and needs I'm sure many of you can relate to that I'm sure that is what many of you did when you were with the narcissist and yet they want us to believe That they can just move on they can find someone else Have this amazing connection Build a healthy relationship when they've clearly forgotten about the key ingredient Which of course is affective empathy which they never had for you and that is not a choice You can't choose whether or not you feel that And that is why it was so easy for them on so many occasions To guilt trip you To make yourself loathe and feel bad about yourself And they made you feel bad for them on many occasions Even after all of the times that they abused you They were still able to get that reaction out of you When you saw them in distress and you just wanted to save them That's hardwired in you as an empath And that is also what allows you To experience the higher vibrations It allows you to experience peace love and joy It allows you to experience an amazing deep connection because you're able to Share another person's feelings and emotions As if they were your own It's something a narcissist cannot do That is why they couldn't have a healthy relationship with you At times it just seemed like they couldn't even understand you Because they couldn't feel your pain If when they were abusing you And you were experiencing pain and distress You were angry you were upset You were going through something You were experiencing anxiety depression whatever it is If they had an affective empathy They would have felt your emotions your pain as if It was their own But they couldn't They couldn't feel that That's why you could never have a connection with them It's why you could never have anything with them So you could be sure But whoever they find Even if they find the perfect person in the world That's not going to make a difference It doesn't matter who they're with they're going to experience the same issues Unless they just find another person who can live a lie Someone who doesn't mind a fake relationship Just this image that they portray to the outside world Of how everything is so perfect But in reality there's no connection. There's no nothing They're never going to have that with anyone And just look back at everything you went through with them They were always so miserable Always so angry Always pointing the finger at you for everything that went wrong They're not just going to change overnight and suddenly be happy It doesn't work that way So I hope you can rest Knowing that yes it is all fake It doesn't matter what you're seeing on their social media It isn't real And I know that yes it may look real Of course it's going to look real because These narcissists they have been doing this their entire lives They are masters of manipulation And I'm sure you will remember that when you were with them You will know that because just look at how they portray this False narrative about you And they were abusing you behind closed doors while acting like this Completely different person to everyone else The masters of manipulation And deception They can make something look like whatever they want it to Doesn't mean that it's real It is all fake And the reason why they do this They constantly try to make you envious and jealous of them They triangulate you with other people Because they're projecting their feelings of envy and jealousy onto you Yes, they are envious and jealous of you Because unlike them For you it is real You can experience real happiness A deep emotional connection True intimacy You can experience all of that and you get the full effects You feel everything You're highly sensitive to it And they're very envious and jealous of that Because for them They're always so miserable They're never satisfied with anything I mean they were never satisfied with you Just look at everything you did for them You were at their beck and call When they said jump you said how high You were willing to do anything for them And if they couldn't be happy with you, of course They're not going to be happy with anyone They're not even happy with themselves They're not happy being alone Which is why they can never be alone They always need some distraction They can never just be alone with their own thoughts Because it's misery inside their heads And that is what they're constantly projecting onto the external environment Or onto you What you get from them Is what they have to give You can't get blood from a stone So please don't worry about it When you see these pictures on social media And it looks like they're so happy with their new supply Yes, I know I understand what it looks like But trust me I've got over five years of research in this Every day And making videos I've got a lifetime of personal experience And even if you're in show of whether or not you were dealing with a narcissist This goes for toxic people as well I mean really it goes for everyone If someone has an effect of empathy Where are they now? If they care about you, if they ever cared about you If that was true, they would be running right back to you They would be doing whatever they possibly can to make it right Because it would be killing them inside But of course they're not doing that Because they lack effective empathy And you should know that just by looking back at your relationship with them They abused you On many occasions They felt nothing They couldn't feel your pain So that's it That's all you really need to know And the best thing that you can do now is Just get off their social media Don't even look at it Because they will be putting things out there To hurt you To cause you emotional pain Because as I said, they lack effective empathy They don't feel your pain It does nothing to them It doesn't affect them And at some point When that all goes wrong They may just then start playing the victim Because although your pain does not affect them They already know that other people's pain Does affect you Yes, they're already fully aware of that They're not stupid They study us Very well They know exactly what is going on They may not know the exact term Of an empath But they know who you are And they use that To their advantage To manipulate And control you So yes, deep down they already know That it's them They know that something Is very wrong with them They know you're alright You're on the right path You're a good loving caring person Deep down they know that But on the surface As you can often see In denial They know it, but they don't want to accept it That's why they create the forced narrative The smear campaign It's why they enforce their flying monkeys Because if they can get other people to believe it It makes it more believable for them And if they can manipulate and gas like you Into thinking That's something that's wrong with you Again, that makes it more believable for them But just think for a moment Why do they have to do all of these things Shouldn't it already be believable to begin with No Deep down they already know the truth They know that something is seriously wrong with them And they know That you are an empath That's why they put so much effort Into all of these things Into the manipulation The gas lighting The lies The smear campaign That's what motivates them to do it So I don't want you to worry about it I mean if there was anything to worry about Of course, as you should know I only speak the truth on this channel And if the case was But actually The narcissist is doing better They've moved on They're happy without you If that was the truth I would just say that This isn't just to make you feel better This is the actual truth This is what is really going on In reality As we know, narcissists They do not live in reality They're in denial That's why they always project To deflect But yeah, this is the truth They are completely miserable without you Regardless of who they're with It does not matter They're never going to be happy Or satisfied They're never going to be at peace They're never going to enjoy their own company And that's just the way That it is always going to be for them Which is why They're always on your case It's why they may come back and hoover you They may stalk and harass you Because they know that you have the ability To go off and be happy Whether it's on your own Or with someone else But for them, they are never Going to have that That's never going to be A reality for them This is why they do what they do It's why they create a false reality And they try to pull you into it Because the true reality Is just no fun for them They don't like it It puts them at a disadvantage That's why they're so heavily Involved in the manipulation And the gaslighting Because that's what seems to work for them Anyway, I do hope that This video is helpful for you I'm going to do some more work now I actually just recorded My first Pre-recorded video I know for a while I've been doing these videos Where there's just The Narx Viva logo But from now on I'm going to start introducing These pre-recorded videos So it's going to be like this Where you see me But it's not going to be live It's pre-recorded I was just sitting here Earlier this evening Just recorded the first pre-recorded video On my laptop So that should hopefully be up By the end of this week Some big changes on the channel So I'm going to continue With my work tonight And Wake up early then, ready for Some more travelling tomorrow Just checked into this room Got a little badge here You're welcome to come along But yes, that's it for this one I'd just like to thank you all For joining me If it was helpful, you can give it A thumbs up down below It's as important as it does Help to support our community It will get this message out there So that other survivors Of narcissistic abuse will see it Also let me know Your thoughts in the comment section Let me know what you've experienced As a narcissist Discarded you And are there with 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