 Listen to yourself today. How often do you catch yourself using the word can't each day? I can't do this. I can't attend to this. I can't get this done. I can't achieve this until can't becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You may be younger, struggling with this setback mentally, where you are constantly tormented about the things you can't do than the things you can do, but your actions go in the direction of your mind's belief. What your mind believes becomes what you do, as Henry Ford is credited to have said whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. You get the result of your belief. If, as a young person, you get the result of your belief, wouldn't it be dangerous if you do not work on overcoming your can't do attitude so that you can create a life of all-round success? Can't do mentality kills your will power. There is a difference between people who achieve great things and people who don't. Too often, it is their will power, and the strength of your will power is rooted in your mindset. What you believe about yourself? Self-sabotage and thoughts do not only ruin your will power, they also ruin your ability to push past your limits, and your will power is a requisite for staring yourself to achieve in great things. The sad thing about the can't do attitude, however, is that it is a cheap way to avoid getting things done. You either want to or you don't want to. But we cover up too often with a cup out that we can't. As Dr. Mark Sherwood wrote, I can't is simply a cheesy, weak cup out. It is very easy and a very common way to alleviate responsibility, achievement, and commitment. Can't is too often an excuse for not wanting to get things done, and excuses aren't worth anything. Instead of saying I can't, you should say I choose not to. This gives you a sense of ownership and responsibility, making you realize you are the one who is choosing to not get done what you need to get done. Also admitting this truth to yourself increases your will power. You naturally see that your honesty isn't just putting things in the right light, it is filling you with the courage you need to get done what you need to get done. All great things that have been done were once thought impossible. A US Commissioner once said, all that needs to be invented has been invented, nothing more can be invented. Yet, several decades later, hundreds of inventions have followed. The world is built by people who believe they can, and if you're still struggling with transforming from the can't do mindset to a can do attitude, here are some tips you can use to overcome. 1. Develop a positive attitude In his book, Attitude is Everything, Otter Jeff Keller describes ferociously the effect of a positive and negative attitude on our individual achievements. He proved with researches and stories how a positive can do attitude moved even reputed failures to seeming overnight success. Norman Vincent Pearl also wrote a book titled The Power of Positive Thinking. This may seem like an overused statement, but when you determinedly tell yourself, I can, and you focus on what you can do and not what you can't do, you read yourself of that horrible setback mentality and transition to the can do mindset. 2. Surround yourself with positive people How positive you are sometimes could be dependent on the kind of people around you. Too often we surround ourselves with people who share the can't do mindset and these in turn affects us. You may not always be strong to push yourself past the negative mindset barrier, but having people around you who cheer you on and support your dream is always a great help. When you find your strength and willpower waning, this is the time to approach such people. Having people who tell you you can and show you some of your strengths could encourage you to keep moving on and transition you into the can do mindset. 3. Start a can journal Do you often catch yourself focusing on what you can't do, get a journal and write down what you can do each day when you wake up writing your journal the things you can do? For example, I can write a chapter of my book. I can get a new job. I can improve my skills. I can do the right things and make the right decisions. Doing this as often as possible helps you shift your mind from can't do to a can do mindset. You would also observe soon that imbues you with the confidence you need to face each task you need to do. 4. Evaluate what you're feeling your mind with daily What do you watch on TV? What do you pay attention to on the internet? What books do you read? How are all these things helping or inspiring you? Much of what you take into yourself affects what you think. In fact, your mind always produces for you what you fill it with. Fill it with negative materials and you'll have negative thoughts and give out negative attitudes. Fill it with positive, encouraging and inspiring materials and you'll have positive thoughts that lead you to act in positively. Arthur Clarence Thomas in his book titled My Grandfather's Son highlighted how his grandfather positively affected his life. Clarence wrote that his grandfather taught him, Old man can't stood for an attitude of helplessness in the face of adversity. His grandfather's attitude was expressed, Old man can't is dead. I helped parrot him. This is the kind of mindset that should keep you going. 5. Overcome fear with action When you accommodate the can't do attitude, fear also creeps in to cripple you from taking action. But as someone wrote, everything you want is on the other side of fear. All the great relationships, the beautiful education, the successful businesses, etc. that you want are on the other side of fear. And fear is overcome by action. Courage isn't the absence of fear, rather it is choosing to do what you must in spite of fear. And too often a few successes under your belt is all you need to keep you going. Get to the other side of your fear by acting in spite of it. A can't do attitude isn't just useful for building a successful material life, it is also needed to build great relationships. As an under 40, you may not be enjoying your personal relationships because you are being affected by a can't do mindset. But making the transition to a can't do mindset with these tips will help you become equally great at building strong relationships. For what is worth, you can if you think you can. If you are inspired by this video, like the video and subscribe to our channel so you don't miss other interesting videos like this. We love you.