 Next up we have psych not only as psych. Thank you. Gotcha. All right. He is a returning speaker to the 21 convention He was in 10 knee 2008 get back in 2009. He had a great speech And he actually just spoke in Stockholm at our first year European convention one of the few speakers to do both back-to-back He's one of the best coaches around and it's awesome to have him here. Thanks for coming man. Kick some butt Hey, thanks for having me man Man, yeah, I mean it's been a while right. I got to do the Stockholm 21 convention where I talked about my VI system and you know what I teach for guys to get good This speech though. It's looking a little bit different. This is how to get good This is the stuff. I had to implement myself From the get from the very start to now a lot of speakers here. We're talking about all kinds of great stuff talking about Ways to implement stuff in field. By the way, I actually want to say something. It's so cool seeing a room full of all faces I know That's one cool thing about this convention that I don't think there's anyone here. I haven't actually personally Worked with and talked to you know But um, I want to give you guys something on how to get good because When I first started this I had to come up with a plan I Had to come up with a system That would allow myself to implement all the stuff that's out there because there's a lot there's a lot of different things that you guys are going to be hearing about I'm learning about and It's going to clog your head a lot you know and You have to have a progression a steady type of progression So I want to show you guys what that looks like now To do that. I want to show you guys where I came from This was me. Yeah This was me for you. Thank you. Thank you. This was me four years ago. I Don't know how bad you guys think you are But if you weren't playing Magic Gathering every single weekend by yourself in your mom's basement You weren't as dorky as me If you cannot have an intelligent debate on who would win in a battle the Avengers or the X-Men You're not as dorky as me If you do not know all the names of Han Solo and Leia Solo's kids and Luke Skywalker's kids Ben Skywalker You're not as dorky as I am I Was used you know, I still got a little bit of a booty belly on me, but I used to be 35 pounds heavier I could not talk to anyone. I had two friends from high school. I Mean I was bad when I got into this But I know I mean some of you guys talk about coming into this as a natural. I was not a natural I Never done a code approach. I don't think The concept was just foreign to me The whole idea was just ridiculous. The only way I could talk to girls was if I met them basically online, right? So and I talk about this in my previous speech I did last year like a lot about you know my progression one night However that did change the fact that I'm here shows that this kind of thing changed a lot of you guys have seen me in Field you've seen me do some stuff yourselves. You've seen me coaching you and you implementing some of this stuff By yourself. I had to go out time and time again to make that happen and afterwards Some some of this stuff has blown my mind being a dating coach for the MTV show made Getting the best new POA award in 2008 or just recently the best natural game which blew my mind again Because like I said, I was nothing. I was definitely not a natural, right? Which reinforces again that a natural is not something you're born with a natural is just a guy that's progressively figured this stuff out Any one of you can become a natural. There's not any crazy thing to it. It's just Going out there and getting this stuff More importantly of some other stuff I used to formally work with AC Adam Lyons and POA training those are my roots and now I'm with psych of game That's my own website. You can look me up there, right? But since I mean from this guy to This guy it was a crazy journey There's a crazy journey. I've had some of the best nights of my life and I've had some of the worst nights in my life I've done. I'm not one to Talk about sexual exploits especially on camera. So I'm not gonna get into some of the crazy stuff. I've done Some of the amazing shit that even to this day I just think like really like that just really happened But I will show I will share with you guys a bad moment in my life a bad time of learning this. I remember one point About a year into my progression. I was gaming this girl and I was doing everything right Everything this community told me to do I was doing it correctly. I'm at the social proof I had guys giving me drinks. I have a friend of their friend. I got our way She was all into me everything was that like this was meant to have logistics were perfect She's coming back to my place was already set up. Everything was perfect. She was a nine. Literally. She was a nine She was gorgeous girl just my type, right? I'm thinking done deal. This is game I was on cloud nine, right? I take this girl and I take her to an Irish pub and an Irish pub. There's a there's some Band on stage and a lead singer the band looks at the girl And he's like hmm. She points to himself. He points to her and he points down She may turn to me. She goes. I think I know that guy I'm so she runs off and she starts going to talk to him. I Loose her ten minutes. I do not see where they are I go outside to find this girl and then I see her and him walking away arm and arm Just ten minutes. I was giving her for the last two hours and very well mind you Right, I followed them because I want to see where this was going and he lettered into his car I went in five minutes the car started rocking. I Was crushed I actually wrote up a whole post and I sent to every guru I could find because keep in mind I was still learning in his face. I wasn't structured just yet I wrote it to every single guy I knew and the title of it was what's wrong with me that can't be fixed Because I did everything correctly. I remember at the end of that night I just sat on a bench trying to figure out what where I did wrong because I knew I did everything properly I did everything according to the book and when I realized that I realized that that just has to tell me There's something wrong with just me It's not you know if this works for the people then something's just inherently wrong with me and I just started crying It was the big it was at that moment. I have never felt more hopeless in my life And on top of that it started raining So I want you to picture that me just sitting on a bench Balling getting rained on right after this just happened. Most guys here will talk about them the most crazy successes there You know for some on with a nun or something. I don't know whatever Like the most crazy, you know stories, you know, you know, whatever But it's important for you guys to hear the other side of it I want you guys to hear the time where I didn't get the girl where it was not The most beautiful thing ever right Because you're gonna go through that but you know what it's all worth it Because I've had those moments. It was crazy, you know similar things to that where it was just like this is surreal and To me the juice is worth the squeeze and that's a huge question You're gonna have to ask yourselves when you're going through this because it's gonna get frustrating It's gonna be challenging. It's gonna be tough Going day after day trying to implement this stuff, right? But I want to help you make that as small a time as possible. I want to help you with that learning process The problem though is you have bad odds 97% of guys would never truly become good at this. I actually saw Fuji, you know Say something someone said 95% of guys so maybe me and him can meet our eyes to just say 96 But point is this is a really well-known thing in this community 97% of guys will never truly become good at this what that means is that this lucky bastard right here is gonna become amazing and screw the rest of you Only him no one else. He's like Hey, only him all of you are going to fail. That's what that means as much as you think you're like Oh, well, you know, we're all improving. You're gonna all improve I don't think anyone comes into this and doesn't get some kind of improvement out of it might be small It might be big, but there's gonna be some improvement, but only 97% of guys Truly feel like yeah, I just got this handled. This is awesome So you have to come into this realizing it is bad odds. It's worse than trying to bankrupt Vegas However, there is that 3% Right there is there are guys who do do this it might not be the best odds But there are those guys out there So this whole talk what I want to do for you guys is show you how you can become part of that 3% I'm gonna teach you this stuff that I had to implement from day one These are things I did from the very first month of Getting into this when I didn't really know game I was just figuring all out, but I remember doing these things and I wanted you to start implementing them yourself So how to beat the odds in my experience there were five key things that put me into 3% The first one anyone even talk about anyone worth a damn will mention this and let you guys know this is important And that's practice, but there's a lot of stuff people don't mention with practice. I'm going to get into number two is the basics keeping them sharp and Never letting those go faulty ever number three is purpose Understanding the purpose of why we do the things we're doing Other than just reading stuff and going okay. Well, it's something told me to do it number four is leading Leading the set to where we need to take it progressing and always and number five is finding that mentor finding someone or To help guide you and show you the way If you have these five things and you really focus on them I Almost promise you you will be enough 3% because a lot of people might get three might get four But if you implement all five That's all I really had from day one. That's all I was focused on So let's go into each one of these Practicing these are some quotes. I found that I really like and that resonate with a lot of the problems. I'm seeing in this community When you are not practicing remember someone somewhere is practicing and when you meet him he will win That band guy knew his game he knew let me practice my guitar every day and girls will want to get with me Right. All I got it. All I he knew his game is just let me point to a girl Come to me. Whatever it is instantly escalate, right? He practiced man He probably practice that guitar to be the shit and be that awesome, you know, band guy all the time Anything he won You are out practicing right now. Yeah, they don't hear not practicing Cool, but I want you to look around Actually, I want you guys to look around because all the rest of these guys are practicing also Are they practicing more than you? If you met one of these other guys in a club and you're both going for the same girl who would win Now obviously the community we want to you know be there for each other, but there's other guys out there There's naturals out there that are practicing right now while you're in this room. They're out there talking to girls Any moment you're not practicing you're not getting better at this than someone else is and when you find a girl You're dream girl the girl that might become the mother of your children Do not let it happen where you lose that a herd to some other guy But you want to because even if you put in that one extra hour a field work in that's all it takes Because you know that one extra little thing that will get her to go to him and not you If that's not enough motivation for you to be out there doing this stuff, I don't know what is It's not necessarily the amount of time you spend that practice that counts. It's what you put into the practice What that means is I see I will see these guys though go into the field, right? And they'll just think as long as I'm in a club. I'm practicing right now I'm being field time in field experience. No, you're not you're just in a club practice means being in a set talking to a girl That's what that means. In fact, I want every I'm gonna give you all a challenge right now I get I'm gonna guess that a lot of you guys might think you practice a lot, right? And you probably say maybe you'll say I go out four hours a night. I practice four hours each night Maybe that's a lot to you. Maybe that's little to you. Whatever. I don't know. Let's say you've got practice four hours each night I'm gonna do a challenge. I want you to go out and I want you to stop watch All right, and every time you go into a set click your little stop watch Every time you've done talking to the girl click it again and You do not stop of that night until that clock watch at four hours. I Guarantee you're gonna realize man. It's a lot more practice than I used to be doing It's gonna be a lot more You want four hours of practice? That's what that means you get your stop watch and you spend four hours in set Any in-between time does not count hunting around is not practice All right Practice without improvement is meaningless another huge common mistake. I keep seeing a lot of guys. I know a lot of guys Who are approach machines? They will run more sets than I will though. They'll be non-stop practicing, but there's no improvement It's they're just doing the same stuff over and over and over and in the wise words of Albert Einstein Those who do the same thing over and over expecting different results. That's the definition of insanity So when I practice, I'm always looking at what I did right what I did wrong. What can I take away from this? What can I experiment exchange next time? I remember one time? No, I Can't I'm saying this on camera I remember one time just for the hell of it. I approached a girl like this I don't know why I just wanted to experiment something It came into my head and me and my boy Elevate were just like let's do that one time. Let's see what happens Didn't work But the point is I now know that for a fact I experimented it and the funny thing is Nine times out of ten if you do something like that ten times nine times out of ten It won't work. It'll be just ridiculous and it'll be of course, but that one time out of ten That one time out of ten you'll do something you think this is never gonna work. It's ridiculous So like how would this ever mean anything and then it will and you'll just your mind will blow I'm not doing it for those nine times out of ten. I'm doing it for the one time out of ten I'm trying to find I'm trying to I'm always experimenting. I'm always playing around with stuff If you keep doing the same thing over and over if you are of your openers the same thing every single time And you still feel you have a problem opening