 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast head dating coach and founder over at commitment connection calm And today we're going to talk about things to talk about with a guy So if you're struggling to figure out what you should be talking about with a guy to make yourself more attractive to him Then this is the right place for you to be so here's what doesn't work Let's talk about a few things that doesn't that don't work that aren't attractive The first one is guy topics, right? So I get so many women that come to me and they want to talk guy topics with guys and That can be a plus if the guy is into those guy topics But it's rarely Attractive like most guys won't be attracted to you for talking about guy topics So I would just avoid if you're not into guy topics You don't need to learn about them and don't worry about that one at all The second one is talking like a guy and so a lot of times women will like put guys down or though Like make front fun of a guy because they had watched his friends do it or they watched other guys Kind of make fun of each other and and this can actually be really unattractive if you do it too much If you do it every once in a while, it can be kind of cute Some guys don't like it at all So it's not it's definitely not attractive like it won't make you more attractive to a guy The third one is relying on commonality So a lot of times there's this myth out there that you know commonalities will make you really attractive to somebody And that can be good for like a friendship developing a friendship with someone, but it's not going to Make you more attractive to a guy. It'll make you it can make you closer to him as a friend but it won't make you attractive to him and The last one is expectation So this is something that a lot of women do and it can be really it can be actually a source of Massive amounts of pain for both men and women So I suggest that you stop doing it if you're doing it and what it what it really is is expecting some type of Response from a guy expecting or even worse expecting the Response that you want from a guy that I mean, it's just horrible This is just a very painful thing and and I suggest that if you do that And if you try to get that response and if you get angry about not getting that response that you just stop that all together Because that is so that is just some pain painful stuff right there So what does work the first one is telling stories telling stories is really really powerful for a number of reasons But really what they do more than anything is they can help you convey your values and convey Who you are convey your personality convey things about you in a very attractive way And so the things that you want to tell stories about are your values right things that are important to you What's important to you? What are some stories that? Are about different topics and things that you've done or that you want to do or that's going on in your life That are important to you The second thing is things that you've done that are exciting So having a an exciting life having an interesting life is can be very attractive to a guy. So if you have Things that you've done that are exciting you can talk about those things and it can be very attractive to a man and a third thing that you'd want to convey in stories is your Your personality and more specifically the fem your feminine side So having stories about times where you've been caring or nurturing can be Incredibly attractive to a guy even if he's not consciously thinking about it Subconsciously it's gonna bypass that conscious part of his mind and go back there and he's gonna be like wow, you know This woman is really awesome So the second thing that you want to talk about is things that he is passionate about so Find out what he's passionate about find out. You know if you're you're having a hard time Getting a guy to talk almost everybody will talk forever About whatever it is that they're passionate about and this a lot of times won't be their job It might just be some hobby that he has But if you talk to him about what he's passionate about that can create a really strong connection And you don't have to know anything about whatever it is that he's passionate about You just have to let him talk and let him express himself and let him you know Talk about where he's going and what he wants and what he wants to see and all that kind of stuff that Can be really really powerful and then the last thing that you want to talk about is things that you plan on doing in the future that are funding and exciting like we talked about before having an interesting life is Incredibly attractive and it's gonna be a lot more attractive if You're already doing things that are interesting than if you're waiting for a guy to show up so that you can start doing those things So that's it for today if you want more information on how to attract a quality man into a committed Lasting relationship make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon