 Hi, y'all. She was seven. I'm back and I have a video request I might cover two in this one, but I'm just gonna start covering the first one And if I get to the second one, I will so this first video request is a young lady wrote me and She says that she And her boyfriend lived together been together a while They're kind of like practically engaged and plan to get married blah blah blah blah blah and She told him that she wanted some like designer purse for like Valentine's Day, right and He this was like a really expensive purse, okay And he said no that he's not getting her that purse he and she needs to find something else that she wants for Valentine's Day and She says she doesn't ask for a lot of stuff She hadn't asked him to buy her a purse in years and that she just really wants this purse because she just Likes it loves it so much. Whatever. She has to have it, right? so She said that her friend offered to buy it for her and it's a male friend I don't know if you know, I don't think it's an ex. I just think it's a male friend You know just happens to have you know that type of money and so she She said well, she really wants this purse But if she gets this purse from this guy then her boyfriend is gonna be like well Where did you get the money to get that purse or blah blah blah blah blah, so she needs to know what to do She she wants to know if it's okay to accept the gift and just say like You know, she's got it at a discount online ebay Or it's fake or what? What should she do? Should she take the purse from the generous friend? Also, if your man can't give you the things that you like in life What do you do? Do you find another way to get them? Do you go without them? Do you find something else like he suggests or? Do you find a way to make your own money to get it? Do you accept gifts from people outside of your relationship? Do you ask your mom and dad for it? And Does this make the man feel bad when you receive the gift and he knows that he didn't get it for you But you wanted it. Do you tell the man you even got the gift? Do you lie about how much the gift costs? Do you lie what you got it from? Have anyone of any of my viewers Ever run into its problem And so put in the comments. Tell her what you think right as long as you want doesn't matter Because obviously she wants the advice and you know, whatever So, okay, so I do have time for the next question that someone sent me How do you know you're a wifey material? How do you know when a man wants you to be his wife? Well, the first clue is that he introduces you to everybody He knows that he possibly can think of you've met his mom. He met his Or you met his close friends. It's like sometimes moms and Their children don't live in the same state because they moved but if they introduce you to everybody possibly that they can in that area and You know, tell their mom about even stuff like that You've met some of his family members and blah blah blah blah He takes you everywhere with him. He lets it be known that you're his woman Y'all y'all are making future plans together He values your opinion He treats you like he wants you to be around for a long time. He doesn't try to you know Push you out of the way and say, you know, we'll talk about it later. He actually is involved as you know a Part of your future plans. He wants to talk about it. He gets excited when y'all talk about the future together He might not be ready to marry like financially or age-wise But when he feels like, you know, you're his best friend y'all can tell each other anything Y'all can talk about baby names, you know, just when you're just in that comfort zone that can't be broken by anyone You're just like so comfortable with somebody, you know, you respect them You can't imagine your life without them. They can't imagine their life without you And you just know that if you were separate life would be terrible terrible terrible terrible On both ends the man also has to feel this way and so does the woman, you know, so Um Yeah, that's how, you know, when he refers to you as his woman his Instead of his girl, he'll start saying his woman or his love Instead of his girlfriend or he'll he'll he'll try to lead have better names for you, you know And he'll say my future wife or you know something like that He doesn't say oh, this is my friend or this is my girl or he'll say this is this is my better This is my love. This is my woman. This is my my, you know My better half. This is my this is future wifey You know This is you know, bae. I know the new word. Oh, this is bae bae is like You don't know what bae is So try to get try to get a term that is more than bae or girl That's your girl. Okay So, you know, when y'all can go shopping together and y'all go grocery shopping together when y'all are already basically husband and wife Already without the ceremony the commitment the ring and Y'all are pretty much you're pretty much wifey, but You're not giving all the wifey benefits make sure that's known because If if you are then you have that he has no reason to ask you to marry him So make sure you are wifey material. You're comfortable, but you're not giving him wifey Privileges such as cooking and washing his clothes. Don't ever do that for a man unless you're married to him. Okay You know unless he's sick and he just needs help that time, but don't make it a habit like very rarely do any of that stuff Okay, all right Rarely rarely only on special occasions and when in sickness because if he feels like he got you, you know He doesn't have to ask you to marry him Or you just make sneaky comments like well, I'm saving that for you know when we get married Or I'm saving that for husband like that's husband privilege. You don't get that now. Sorry And let it be known, you know, if he thinks he's gonna get all these extra perks He might as well just ask ask you to marry him, right? It's like, okay Well, I can get home cooked food and get my laundry done. I can get back massages, you know Blah blah blah blah. He's gonna think he's getting all this the extra stuff and You know, it's just stuff that you're basically holding out on that You know, it's not that that much of a difference than what you're already doing if you are living together But there does need to be boundaries. Okay Okay, so let me see if I can fit in a third. Okay. Yeah third question. Um, third question is Okay, there's a sit there was a situation and I'm not gonna say the person's name, but a lot of these men are going to foreign countries and they are Staying there for a few years because you know when their visa's up, they gotta go and they're like getting into these Relationships falling in love and leading the girl on and then all of a sudden their visa is up Or they have to go back home and the girl is just left heartbroken and y'all I I have talked with one of these women and They really are sweet and kind and they're just all about love and catering to their man like we used to be like in the 50s and And she's just got a wake-up call because her man just up and left her went to another country and started life over and You know, she want in the whole time that he was there. He wasn't working because he was on visa, right? So guess who's taking care of her? And so She was like, you know, I have to save up money to go find him and she's gonna travel halfway around the world to Go be with him even though he has a job and hasn't saved up money to send for her She's like still Well, I love him and we're meant to be together and I and I had to break it I had to tell her the truth y'all I had to say well, you know men in other countries they go looking for women like y'all in other countries to exploit because they can't do it to us anymore and We haven't felt an act it like you Since 1950 or 60, you know, we we have already been down that road and understand how these guys are sometimes and We don't fall with okie-dokie anymore, but y'all are you know And I said well, why didn't you demand that he save up his money and you know sent for you? And she was like well It's not supposed to be about money if we talk about money too much in my country or if we only date a man for money and they'll call us whores and bitches and I'm like To us that's a compliment, you know, you'd be a whore and a bitch with some money and a man And so she was like oh my gosh, and I was like, yeah, that's like And she's like well, I need to go think about this because I I just I can't understand this. What about love? What about I like girl? You can love I said most people do not marry the person that they fall in love with I Said your man's probably gonna go back to his country Marry somebody from his country because he's are he's done with you and So these women that all these like men so-called claim are better than American women. They still get left anyway You know, they can't bring them back to their country because they'll turn into us So what they do they use them up for good five years And then leave because their visa ran out and you know The poor woman has been with this dude for five years thinking that it was gonna lead to marriage and she was taking care of I'm choosing she was you know, she worked she had a really she had a career and Then he just bounced and I'm like, okay. Well This was a lesson for you the next time you see a guy That's not from your country come and you know try to sweep you off your feet You already know what to expect, you know, spread the word because a lot of these guys in America they can't meet American women's standards So they go exploit other women and these women are they're catching on they still they come to me They found me. Okay, and I don't know I didn't you know Cuz my my videos are international y'all so If y'all are planning to go like a whoever guy is watching this that plans to do this if y'all are planning to go exploit women you know, they are they do get they do get YouTube and other countries y'all and Just just saying you know, so if you're If you're doing that if you're playing if you're planning on doing that to these women, you know a Lot of them are still in shock and they're still like I can't believe this Should they don't believe me. They're like, oh, that's just not true. He's coming back for me. I know it's true love I'm like girl. Okay When he comes back to you if he does let me know and I will say that I was wrong But we all know, you know Sometimes that's his life and you have to learn from those lessons and move on become stronger, but yeah, so Thank y'all so much for sending me those questions And I hope that I covered them well enough and if you have any comments to leave any of these Ladies who you know are in these situations feel free and do so and Because they are reading the comments most likely and maybe your you know advice can help them as well I'm not the only one that gives advice. I'm not the only one that has a right or wrong answer Not everyone is like me now everyone thinks like me. So it's good to hear different perspectives on certain Things because y'all know I'm kind of extreme so sometimes there's a middle ground that can help both sides and you know make things More balanced, but y'all know me So I don't claim that my way is the right way I don't claim always the wrong way either, but it is a way and Sometimes people just need to hear both sides of the story to make their own you know to form their own opinion about it and Make their decisions based on you know something more than what they can see So I'll see y'all later. And if you haven't subscribed Subscribe thumbs up and I'll see y'all later. Bye