 He's as guilty as the mother. I mean, it's not a gender thing. But if any father that's like that is a woman, he's like his mother. Well, that is not for me to judge, but I'm just saying that when we have issues, it could be coming from our father or from our mother, right? Right? No. Our father could have issues just the same way as our mother. If you resent him, it's because you resent him. But she just said she asked for forgiveness to both of them. Here's what I, and I want to respond to that. When you go to your mother, don't ask for forgiveness. You forgive her because you are wrong for judging her, but as a little kid, you couldn't help her. And now that you're an adult, go and say, you know what mom? I'm sorry for resenting you. I realize now you can't help yourself. You're evil. You hate your mother and you can't help her. All right? I think that's actually being very prejudiced show to say that you're evil. I mean, maybe there was an issue. That is evil, it's not good. I would rather it's good or evil. It's not nice, it's right or wrong, good or evil. Anyone who has love, love will pass through you. So when you go to your mother, you forgive her because the sin, you know guys that we must be born again, confess your sin and be born again. The sin is not the things you do, but the sin is the hatred of the heart. That's why the heart is renewed once you forgive. So anyone who has anger is playing God because we can't judge one another. The worst thing you can do in life is hate one another, judge one another. We discern right and wrong, but we don't hate what we see. And then that way we'll be protected from it. So go and forgive your mother. I'm sorry mother for hating you. You're such an evil woman. You recreated me in your image and I know now that you can't help yourself. And if she say, oh daughter, I'm sorry, that's fine. And if she doesn't, that's fine because God will forgive you and you will become free. Then you treat your family with love instead of anger. And don't let her come to your house. Don't let her around your kids. Don't let her around your dog. Don't let her look at the paint on the house. Don't let her walk across the grass because she'll kill it all. It's pure evil. Unless she repent and overcome that, she gonna do the same thing to your kids and she'll destroy your family. She'll literally destroy your family and she'll blame your husband for it instead of you. And if she blamed you, she'll make you feel so guilty. Now you're subject to her. But I'm telling you, forgive your mother, love your father, your life will change. And if you wanna be around your mother, you will be able to do it without her controlling you. And if you don't wanna be around her, you won't feel guilty about it. You would not feel guilty because you're in control and you're loving your parents with the right kind of love rather than this emotional love that come from a father's state. And I think we are making progress and we are getting along better. The last time I saw her, I complimented her something that she had done for me when I was having trouble with my stepmother. And I said, mom, you encouraged me to get along with her. And I didn't listen to you. No, don't let your stepmother row either. Yeah. Well, that's a whole nother. I don't wanna take everybody's time with that. But in any event, she appreciated me saying, mom, you tried to help me and I resisted. And I now know it was one of the biggest mistakes I made in my life. And she was heartened by that. So we are getting along better. Thank you for your help. But let me tell you this, come back. Go back one more time. The worst thing you could do is appease your mother. You appeased her trying to get along with her. That's not love. And she's not gonna respect you for that. And she's gonna make you appease her more and more and more. You wanna be free of that spirit that's in your mother and you wanna be yourself. So the only way to deal with her in the right way, you gotta forgive her. So when you do deal with her, you deal with her like a woman. Not like her child, not like her baby. Not like her daughter, but like an individual woman. And you would deal with her with perfect love. But you gotta forgive her. And if you go and forgive her and say, hey, you just awful, right? And I'm sorry for hating you. I realize you can't help yourself. And if she admit it, that's fine. If she doesn't, that's fine. If she start crying, that's fine. If she lay down and die, that's fine. You just look at her like, oh, mom and dad. Where is the insurance? And to ensure, I would get to you in one minute. I would get to you in one minute. Just hold that thought. You're gonna be in love, your mother with perfect love. You know how guys that are under your parent. And you're gonna be in love then with perfect love, not emotional love. And you're gonna treat them the way you should treat them but not out of guilt. You would be a free person. Thank you. I will do that and I have forgiven her and I'll continue to do it because it's a continual issue. No, once you forgive one time, if you truly see that she can't help herself by getting to know yourself, once you forgive, that's it. Right. Okay, you brought up one other question. I'm sorry to do this, but I think other people might have this question. How do I know when I have found myself, when I am truly Kimberly and not a reflection of my mother's bad behavior? Perfect question. Number one, you're gonna have perfect peace within. No matter what happens in life, you're overcoming rather than freaking out over it. Number two, you would no longer have fear or doubt or worry or insecurity. And then number three, you're gonna be you and you're not gonna compare yourself to anyone. You would just love being you. You would love having what you have. And you wish everybody well but you would not want to be like them. You wish them well and it's gonna be amazing way to live. It's gonna be paradise on earth. Everything that you're looking for is already with you. You just have to look within, not without. The kingdom of heaven is there and God love you very much but you gotta overcome anyone who has anger, Satan is their daddy. So you gotta overcome his nature because you cannot enter into the kingdom of heaven with Satan's nature. There's nothing but love in the kingdom. You can't bring that hatred into the kingdom. But you're gonna know you're gonna have perfect peace and you can be yourself. You're awesome. Thank you so much. Amazing. Isn't that amazing? And so you have it. You could come on down. But how many children do you have? Oh, you was not. Okay, but you're married, right? You and your husband. Apologize to your husband too for being such a beta lady with him. Controlling. Yeah, your husband can't help it. He's just like his mama. Is he having mama always in the way? Tell him I say stand up to his mother, forgive her and you and your husband become one and that would be amazing. Thank you. So don't hate him for it. He can't help it. Oh no, I love him. Right on. I really love him. Of course. But I hope so. Yeah. I hope so. Yeah. Well if you forgive your mother, the idea will be taken away from you and you can be you. Then you can love your husband and marry to last until death to your part. And you're still gonna disagree and agree but it won't be devastating. In the fight you won't go to bed with the argument. You'll be done with it. And tomorrow's a new day for you. All right, I wish you well. Amazing. Yes ma'am. Hi Jesse. Hi. Thanks for coming out. You're very funny. I do think that the parental alienation issue is probably one of the biggest issues facing our society. If we have a 60% divorce rate in this country, then 60% of the children born into a family of divorce have mommy and daddy issues. So we're fighting a losing battle if we can't stop the divorce rates from continuing to rise. I also went through that process that you're talking about of forgiving your parents. You went to your mother? I went to my mother. And what'd you say to her? I asked her, I used the Socratic method and I asked her, mom, how would you feel if someone did this to you? And I gave specific examples and I was very indirect in my delivery and it actually led to us going no contact. She hasn't spoken to me since that conversation. Nice. Beautiful. Yeah, so yes, I did win. But you gotta go back though because you- Oh, I've gone back several times but much like this woman's mother, she has very little self-awareness and any admission of guilt or wrongdoing would destroy her entire identity. So we have- The hardest thing in the world for a woman to do is to admit that you're wrong. The hardest thing for a woman to do, the hardest, hardest, hardest, hardest thing for a woman to do is to admit she's wrong. Yes. A woman would see you to hell and back.