 Hello everyone Welcome to another dark spider live video Just driving around this lake here and probably breaking the law, but this is for educational purposes So I think it's okay Just gonna stop down by here And then we are gonna begin this video to check out this view pretty nice, right? I'm in tower decks. Okay. We're gonna stop there onto the topic What narcissists think when you move on? And this could be for any situation It may be that they discarded you They had enough of you. They didn't want to deal with you anymore and They left you Well, maybe you got fed up and you decided to move on you decided to leave them In these situations, what are they thinking? Well in the beginning You have to remember narcissists. They are very arrogant They think they're so much greater than what they actually are. They think they're better than you They think they're better than everyone They have an exaggerated sense of that when abilities and importance So in their minds in the beginning they're thinking great You know, I got rid of you or Okay, you go ahead and move on. Let's see what happens with that That's what they're thinking because They're looking at it like You're moving on to what? Because they don't think it gets any better than them in their minds They are the best that you're ever gonna find Because they've created this false self this false image and in their minds. No one can ever live up to that So they're looking at it like what hope of you got moving on without me At least that's what they're thinking in the beginning but with time things do begin to change and They do start to look back and remember how things were with you. They had it easy with you You were always there when when they needed you. You were always there to listen to their problems To make them feel better. You were always there and And The problem is they didn't care about you They neglected you you were there for them, but they weren't there for you and They're not thinking about that so much when they move on because remember it's Never them they never see themselves as the problem. There's no accountability. They never look at it like What could I have done better? What could I have improved? In their minds, it's all you it's all Your audacity of even Thinking of moving on or leaving them in the first place and their minds It's very arrogant of you to do that to think that you can do better than them. But yeah, the reason Why most of you get to that point It's because You realize it in a situation where They don't actually care about you. They don't Consider your situation. They don't consider your feelings They don't consider none of that. It's all about them It's like the world has to revolve around them It's all about their interest and needs while you're being neglected And it's affecting you It's dragging you down It's not making you feel good It's making you feel worse. But as I said, they don't look at it like that Narcissists they lack self-awareness. They can't even see what they're doing wrong half the time Sometimes they don't even know what they're doing but yeah That is an important factor of what happens to them afterwards Because remember they never cared about you. So How can they move on? and begin a New relationship with someone else If they never cared about you because if they didn't care about you, why would they suddenly care about someone else? They don't just suddenly change They continue to only care about themselves the exact way that they were with you Which means that any new situation that I get that they get into It ends in the same way It's a pattern An endless cycle It always has the same result where they have to leave Well, someone ends up leaving them That is the only possible way that it can end Because whoever they're with they don't care about them They don't give a shit It's all about them. It all revolves around their feelings and needs. They do not consider the other person They have an inability to connect to you and of course the definition of a relationship is The way in which two people connect To each other, of course you connected to them But they never connect connected to you They never wanted to do that Narcissists want you to attach to them But they do not want to attach to you It has to be just one-sided and also you have to consider that When you leave or they move on many of you May not actually have realized this But take a look around The people in the narcissist life the people that they associate with Whether it's family members or friends co-workers Their boss whoever it is that's in their life None of those people genuinely care about them None of them do In fact, I would say that the only person Who cared about them was you Many of you are empaths you feel on a very deep level You care about people and things That's why you're on here watching my videos Commenting being a part of this community Many of you you are the only person who actually cared about them and so What do they think When you move on? I mean you have to think that How they never cared about you So they're not going to move on and care about someone else if they didn't care about you And also you are the only one who ever cared about them So just consider those two things you were the only one who cared about them They never cared about you they only cared about themselves, of course Anything that they get into It's going to fall apart eventually It's going to end And it's not going to end well Because people cannot exist around someone with that mentality Someone who is all about themselves People cannot exist around someone like that So in the beginning they may be arrogant and thinking You're not going to move on to anything and they're going to move on to something better than you Because they're always looking for the next shiny new toy. They're always looking for the bigger better deal They always think that they can find something better than you They think the grass is greener on the other side But then they realize That it isn't They do realize that Now they may be narcissists But they're not completely delusional They're not completely insane Of course They know the difference between something that is Good And something that is bad They know the difference between those two things So When you move on or when they leave you and then they go into another situation Of course They do recognize the difference They can see that it's not the same But by that point it's too late. You're already gone. You've already moved on One moment. I've just got to move The car got a tractor coming Didn't expect that But it is a nice view here Okay, we are back. Can everyone hear me? Okay Let me know down in the chat I want to make sure everyone can hear me clearly Sound is hood I think you mean good Yeah, so They recognize the difference. They know what's good and what's bad You know, they're not completely delusional. They're not completely insane. Of course, they know But um It might take them a while to realize it though because once They're around you so much And they always have access to you so they take you for granted And you will remember they didn't appreciate anything you did for them everything you helped to help them with All of the kind gestures everything you were so generous Did they ever even say thank you to you? And that is how you know that Anything they move on to they're not going to be happy there, too They're not going to be happy there, too and another thing is Many of you you were the The best they had ever had They've never seen someone like you before You were great a supply You did everything for them When they said jump you said how high You were at their back and call You were ready whenever they needed you So when they lose you they do feel that and They want to prove to themselves and to you that they can find someone better than you But when they do that They run into someone who is just like them They run into a narcissist They find someone who is Tricking and deceiving them Selling them a dream And that is the same dream that they try to sell to you To try and make you feel like you're missing out and now they're doing better without you. They're so much happier They've moved on Catch up with them in a few weeks or months You see it all fall apart You see them being taken advantage of Because I I will tell you right now In this world And I'm not afraid to say this on live video in this world A lot of people are not good It's the truth I mean just look at my videos I've got over 40 million views And I'm far from the biggest channel that talks about stuff I would even Go as far as to say Which is also what dr. Ramani has said is that Possibly we're 50% of people in this world Are narcissistic Maybe a lot more people are More and more just looking out for themselves now They're self-absorbed. They lack empathy They don't care about anyone but themselves They're very good at playing a role in the beginning. They know how to suck people in They tell you whatever they think you want to hear They show you whatever they think you want to see Just to lure you into it and then they future fake They Give you this vision of the future, but they have No intention of following it up with action It's just something they give to you to keep you around to keep you chasing after them and That's often what they run into Once you moved on or once they've left you they Run into narcissists as well It happens more often than you think two narcissists in a relationship And of course once they've been through that They've gone through another situation They've been used and abused They've been chewed up and spat out Of course after that they feel like shit And then they have to look at you moving on You're on to bigger and better things You found someone new you found someone who treats you right Maybe you found someone Who loves The way that you love And then they have to look at that After everything they've been through After they've been used and abused And what do they think? I think many of them. They don't know what to think Because in their minds they're always right. They always know What is the right thing to do? They're always right They're never wrong That's how they think in their minds. They're very arrogant And then when they go through all of this stuff after you're gone And they have to watch you moving on because many of them They will be stalking you on social media Even months after you're gone. They will want to see What you're doing who you're with And when they see that when they see that you've picked yourself back up you found someone else You're bigger and badder than they are And they feel when they see that it just makes them sick They can't stand it. Some of them may try to come back But if they do it's only just to pull you back to the same situation again It's not going to be anything different There's only one thing you will ever get from a narcissist. I have said this before The best thing you will ever get from them is an illusion You're not going to get anything more than that Because they don't have anything real or genuine to offer you. It's only lies and deception And as long as you believe in it As long as you Share this fantasy And you validate the illusions of their false self Then they're quite happy with that. They'll keep you around Because then they have a use for you They can use you For attention Validation But then when you stop validating it Then You're no good to them You become a lost cause As far as they're concerned You could just go walk away When was the last time you actually sat down? And had a normal conversation Did you ever Have a normal conversation With the narcissist And to take it even further Those of you If you can remember a time when you had a conversation with them Was it a deep conversation? Was it anything of actual Substance or meaning? And that is how you know That When you move on or when they leave you They do not find Happiness They do not find love Why would they find that? You should know from your own situation with them They do not want a relationship They don't care about that They do not value intimacy or connection The only thing they care about is themselves and what you are going to do for them They don't feel any need to connect to you And that's why I say can you remember Anytime when you had a deep conversation with them All they want you to do Is Validate the illusion the false image They just want you to praise and compliment them and Make them feel like there's something But it's all superficial things It's always Something to do with Money or physical appearance It's never anything deeper and yet many of you you see these posts on social media You see them that was someone new They're going on trips And you start to think you're missing out No You have to remember how they were when they were with you That is who they are There isn't some other magical wonderful side to their Personality that you don't know about that you haven't seen That they didn't show it to you There isn't What you got From the narcissist Was what they had to give You got what they had to give There is nothing more But I know many of you You fall for the future faking They tell you just hold on things are going to change Just wait for a few weeks a few months Some of you are in it for five 10 15 20 years You're still waiting for something To magically happen For things to finally change they're not going to change And you know why they're not going to change Because they're quite comfortable with how things are That's why they're not making any effort to change things Because they're quite happy and comfortable with how things are It works for them They get what they need They get all of your time and attention You're always there for them when they need you Maybe you're given the money or place to stay What more could they want Why do they have to do everything for you? They don't need to do anything for you if you're given them that If there's one thing in this world that is more valuable than money It is your attention Attention is the new currency Companies will pay Millions even billions of dollars every year For advertisements For your attention That's how valuable your attention is And it's very valuable to the narcissist as well They feed off your attention And many of you You get trauma-bonded you become addicted to the narcissist And you actually think in your minds that you love them But that's not what you're addicted to you're not addicted to Some kind of love What you're actually addicted to is A lack of love Because there is no love with the narcissist They never loved you When did they ever express their love to you? When were there ever any acts of love? If anything they were just acts of hatred Whatever it is that They think you want Trust and believe that they are going to withhold that from you Trust and believe that they are going to do that So there is No love Not in that type of environment With a narcissist it does not exist Because they do not love themselves They are very insecure and they have low self-esteem But you need to love yourself So that you then have love to give to someone else The problem is they do not love themselves Many of them hate themselves And that is why they are so desperate for attention But many of you who are watching this Deep down you do have that confidence in yourself You have that self-love They try to target your self-esteem and make you feel like you're not good enough for them or anything else But deep down you know your worth And you do have love to give You have love to share with someone else Many of you do And you will move on You will find someone who treats you right Someone who takes care of you Someone who loves the way that you love You just remember all of the things That you did for them Remember all of the times you were there for them whenever they needed you And maybe you took them on trips you gave them money a place to stay You did all of these things for them You're going to find someone who Treats you the way that you treated them And I'm not saying Someone who does everything for you and then you become the narcissist You know we're talking about healthy relationships here, of course I mean you'll find someone where there will be an equal exchange where there will be reciprocation An equal exchange of value Because when you're with a narcissist you're you're giving them everything you've got And you're getting nothing back and return to replenish yourself That's why you feel so tired you feel so drained You're down and depressed Some of you are crying yourselves to sleep Why? Because everything that's meant to sustain you you're giving it to this person You're giving them all of your love and attention and you're getting nothing back So of course you're gonna feel down But it doesn't have to be like that when you move on You will find someone who loves you someone who cares about you you will find that But it all starts By getting rid Of this toxic person This person who is not serving you they're not making you feel good You don't need that around you It's just taking up space And when you let go of that it will make room for someone else to come into your life That's why it's so important not to waste your time With things that are not serving you Because then you will make room for something better To come into your life Something that will be good for you something that will make you happy You just got to stop Chasing Happiness from the narcissist Because you are never gonna get that I can promise you I've spoke to hundreds of people in my coaching sessions. I've been doing these videos for almost five years I've never heard of anyone say That they've ever been happy consistently With The toxic person the narcissist someone who is self-absorbed and lacks empathy That's impossible the whole nature of it is that They find satisfaction at your expense They're not gonna be happy if you're happy That's why it's like they love you one minute and they hate you the next But you need to find that happiness within yourself Because you can generate it from within And you can share that with someone else And hopefully that person Will be able to share that with you too But yeah, let's Wrap things up now. Let's conclude on this I was gonna sit down, but there's a lot of ants there But yeah, let's conclude What do they think when you move on? Eventually they know They know that they fucked up They do know that because as I've said before They know the difference between something that is good and something that is not good They do know the difference and They were comfortable with you Things were so easy with you I mean, of course, they would be you got someone who's always there Someone about someone who cares about you I mean, you were quite possibly the only person in their lives who cared about them And they know that they didn't care about you. They know that they didn't give you The attention that you deserved Of course, they know that Some of them they even deliberately Withhold their attention from you because they know But that's what you want. They're not stupid. Of course, they know what you want They know that You value relationships You're trying to build something They know that But as I've said before there are two types of people in this world people who build and people who destroy And they are the people who destroy But they do I can say that it hits them hard in the end Because Of course, everyone wants someone who cares about them That is a very Valuable thing, especially in today's world empaths So rare It is extremely rare to find an empath I know some of you will say you've never met an empath in your in your entire life That's how rare they are So, of course It hits them It affects them When they lose you And that's why Many of them they do try to come back I've said before Every narcissist The ones that left me first They all tried to come back All of them did They took me for granted And they thought they could do better than me I've had a few weeks or months Sometimes even a few days later They try to come back to me But by that time it was too late Because once you realize your worth there is no going back You see They thinking that the grass is green on the other side and they can do better Nah Actually, you are the one Who can do better It's you Well, that's what they don't want you to know They don't want you to know that They actually need you more than you need them You don't even need them, you are fine without them But when they found you they They felt like they had struck gold The year does affect them in the end And when you move on and they don't hear from you They're thinking that someone must have taken you away from them Because you're not the first person that they've done this to The reason why they're so good at it is because they've had lots of practice They've done it many times before So they think their manipulation is so powerful That there is no way that you can move on on your own They don't believe that that is possible They assume that someone Must have taken you away from them They assume that that is the only way that you can move on Because in their minds their manipulation is so good That there's no way that you can just Unstuck yourself They underestimate you they don't realize Your power they think they are powerful They actually don't have any power at all they're weak They're just taking your power from you You're giving your power to them That's all that is and your power comes from your attention As long as you're giving your attention you are given power So what have you got to do take your attention away? Stop giving your power away And when you do that you will begin to feel more powerful You won't feel like you're at the whim of someone else So yeah that is really my advice You know those of you who You're watching this now you're hearing What are our sisters think when you move on? And yes it does get to them it hurts them they feel like they're missing now They get really mad and envious they try to come back All you got to do is just take your attention away from them Watch what happens You take your attention away For a few days their demeanor will completely change You will see a completely different side to them Right now they seem strong they seem powerful They're like the big big bad wolf But you just take your attention away for a few days and you watch what happens You see how they react to that But by that time it will be too late You will have moved on 91 live viewers I appreciate your wall But I would also appreciate if you give this video a thumbs up down below To help support our community I'm just out here in paradise. I'm living my best life Watching the sunset Over this beautiful lake And then I'm gonna drive Out of my Range Rover Get something to eat Life is good And it will be for you too When you leave the narcissist behind you take your attention away Put the focus back in yourself Put it back in your own life And watch How things begin to change Because the problem is you're putting your attention on something That has no value This is the problem When you're giving your attention to something that has no value Nothing is gonna happen It's not gonna amount to anything Like you as an example If I put all of my attention on this rock Do you think anything good is gonna happen for me? No Of course not But what if I put my attention on this youtube channel Making videos You think I'm gonna help Millions of people around the world I'm gonna make tons of money, of course Because this has value That rock does not have value The narcissist does not have any value Which is why when you give all of your attention to them You get nothing back in return Narcissists are low value people They are not good investments You don't get any return And that is why you need to put your attention back in yourself Build yourself up Invest in yourself so that you become Even more high value And then You too will attract People who are of a higher value People who have something to give back to you People who can reciprocate what you're giving out And When you get that The narcissist will be watching They will be stalking you on social media Like they always do And yeah It's gonna irritate them and it's gonna wind them up. They may try to come back But once you close that door keep that door shut Don't let them back in Because if you let them back in it is gonna be worse The more chances you give them the worse it's gonna get Because then they just They think you're a fool. They think they can do whatever they want You have to put a stop to it. That's the only way that things are gonna change But yeah, as I said, I'm gonna drive out again now Get something to eat Thank you all. Please give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed it Let me know your thoughts down in the comments below I read your comments every day And as always, I will talk to you in another one very soon