 Hello, so today I wanted to do a quick video. I'm we're on the road. We're actually going back from From Charleston back up to Charlotte and my wife had to stop off to do some work in There in Panera anyway and and it just reminded me because Usually it's always been the other way around like you know, it's been I'm always the one who has to you know Stop off and work somewhere because I've been a freelancer and you know My wife works in an office so she usually is the one following me wherever I go someplace And so that brought me down to the sub you know to this subject that I wanted to talk about About being a freelancer with a spouse a boyfriend girlfriend a significant other who is not and the difference is and how that can be an Issue or problem. I'm gonna try to go somewhere else fewer cars and anyway, so you know and how to deal with that and And you know how to have two people that were working basically on different wavelengths and how they can Deal with you know things along those lines. So I'm not sure where I'm going here. Anyway just try not to get run over and So So yeah, so where do I start so first of all I like to say Okay, I really need to find a better place Okay, I'm gonna continue this somewhere else Okay, this place might be a bit better as long as it doesn't get too loud Hopefully it's not too loud kind of right next to the road But I hopefully you can hear me and anyway, so I was talking about Being a freelancer and having a significant other who isn't or maybe you are not a freelancer But you're with someone who is and just having to you know How to reconcile these two very different ways of life I mean if you think about it on the surface, it shouldn't matter your freelancer You do what you need to do your spouse maybe works for a company They do what they need to do and that's it except obviously it's not like that at all And the first thing the main thing I think that comes to mind is the fact of Taking what you do seriously, you know and so many freelancers entrepreneurs people who work for themselves in any form or fashion You know the worst things they have from there and I've even done a video of this about dealing with your friends You know who think this way, but whether it be friends you're gonna go a bit more in the middle Hopefully it's a bit more quiet Sorry we have some loud cars passing by here. Let's try to do this Anyway, one of the main things is You know about taking what you do seriously because what you do is a job and many times They think you're just sitting at home doing nothing all day That's why I did in the video where people like ask you to pick stuff up for them to do favors for them and stuff like that And it's really annoying and this is the same if you have a boyfriend girlfriend spouse or anything like that They'll ask you to do the errands to buy groceries to clean up or something because you're just sitting at home doing nothing While they're at work all day and it really is a change of mentality Especially for the person who's working in the company because let's face it you as a freelancer is an entrepreneur working out That's kind of the new thing. That's the not standard thing. So it's kind of different and they need to Kind of get used to it and accept it How however having said that you as a freelancer as the entrepreneur also have a duty to take what you do seriously Like I mentioned before No one's gonna take what you do more seriously than you do So if you don't take it seriously and treat it as a real job No one else will so you have to and you know and that way other people will treat it seriously as well And if you say no no I have my certain office hours And if this even means going to a co-working space or to an office or just staying at home But sitting aside office hours closing all doors and being like I'm getting work done and that's it Then that's how it is and you know, you have to be your own boss Meaning you have to be the guy who stands behind your own shoulder and says get to work We need this done by 3 p.m. Or whatever it is and as long as you take yourself seriously It's a lot easier To for other people to take you seriously and if you don't take yourself seriously with your job No one else will and so that's to me the main thing you have to do and That and that the spouse has to understand just because you're at home doesn't mean you're twiddling your thumbs and watching TV You're actually getting things done Usually a lot more than people in the office with its face It's been a lot of time talking at the water cooler going out for cigarette breaks or whatever, you know stuff like that so I mean That's yeah, so that's the first thing to keep in mind the second thing is you know at at this point It just becomes an idea of flexibility for us It was a lot of stuff because I like being location independent And that was an issue with her with my wife because she worked at a company And so we had to figure out at the beginning she kept working out and I kept doing my thing But then and her job was also really stressful So she quit that job and then we were you know traveling around for a while But you know just because we're traveling around and living in new places doesn't mean I'm not on not on the clock I still am I mean I still have to get stuff done. So many times we'd be stopping at coffee shops all over because I need to get stuff done and you know sometimes the clients like oh I need this done, you know quickly and so we have to stop at whatever coffee shop And it just reminded me because we're literally driving and she had to stop here at this Panera bread Because of an emergency with her work even though today is technically Memorial Day But you know it happens and it happens so many times with me that I can't not be understanding And I think so many times we'd be traveling or I mean not many times But it did happen definitely that we'd be traveling I had some emergency I had to find a coffee shop and work and then you know she either would walk I remember at a coffee shop in Taiwan, you know And she'd walk around another time and Milana had to do it and then she hung out with a friend there Monaco too when we were there she hung out with a friend So it's always you know she's always been super nice about it We've figured out a way to you know work around it And she doesn't complain because as I just heard we were in all these different places around the world Which was thanks to kind of my lifestyle. So just the fact that I need to interrupt every now Then to get stuff done it's kind of a small price to pay if you will and But whatever your situation is that's the thing you're gonna have to be a bit open-minded about it Both you and your significant other who's not a freelancer. I think more them And so they need to kind of understand that what you do is real and that there's certain downsides maybe where you might be called to do something last minute, but they're definitely many upsides as well and Ultimately, it's both of you guys's choice to To be that way and as long as you have a real business and you're able to earn money and earn a living from it And where you're able to build it up so that eventually you can do that Then yeah, of course it makes sense. You do that then you need to see with your significant other How you feel if one of you should take their job more serious here less seriously I'm not gonna go into all the pros and cons and the details about if you want to be location independent And your spouse is working how to go about that also because it's starting to rain So actually I'm gonna stop this right now Anyway, I just wanted to touch upon some of these details about when you're a freelancer You're an entrepreneur your significant other isn't and some of the issues that can come up And I don't know if you have any of these issues have any of them You know I've come up for you or other issues come up definitely let me know because I would like to hear about them But you know my wife and I have been together now six plus years and she's always been an office worker I've always been doing my own thing as an entrepreneur. It's a freelancer and It's worked out so far So yeah, I can't get into it in another video if you like but I just want to kind of bring this up just because it came to my mind now on this Memorial Day and So but otherwise, I hope all you guys are doing well and I'll talk to you in the next video and That's it for now before it starts raining too much. Okay. Bye