 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast, head dating coach and founder at commitmentconnection.com and in today's video We're going to talk about why men don't talk about what's bothering them But before we talk about that if you're struggling to attract the right man into a committed lasting relationship make sure you go to my website at commitmentconnection.com and take my quiz So today's question comes from a woman in our community and she's asking Why men don't talk in their relationship about what's bothering them? And there's really kind of two reasons that I have here for you and the first one is that a lot of men Just you know, they grew up in a culture where that teaches them not to talk about what's Really going on with them And so if he grew up in a culture where he doesn't talk about that kind of a thing And people just kind of ignore it or they you know walk away from it or you know, whatever That might just be something that he's learned from childhood a lot of people, you know grew up with that kind of stuff and another reason is that Actually, I think I've got three reasons here and the second reason is if he gets upset or freaks out or if you get Upset and freak out or argue with him about things that he brings up or you know, you get worried about things He may not end up bringing things up to you Or if he's been in a relationship before with a woman who gets upset or you know Freaks out when he brings things up to her He might have been kind of trained not to Bring things up So if you want to kind of overcome that you need to show him that you can he can talk to you about anything and that You won't end up freaking out on Him and just be incredibly open and allow him to say anything to you without getting offended or acting crazy Or you know freaking out on him and then The last one that I have here is you know, sometimes men just need to process things and and You know things will happen and they're just like hey, you know We feel like we just need to go away and just spend some time away You know, it doesn't mean you know things are bad doesn't mean things are bad between You know two people in the relationship. It's just that you know men need to process things, especially when it's emotional a lot of times they just need to go off and just be by themselves for a little bit go into their man cave or you know, whatever they go into and Just takes some time to process things and you know, you shouldn't take that personally ever Because it's not about you So that's it for this video if you want more information about what's stopping you from attracting Mr. Right into a committed lasting relationship Make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon