 Hello survivors. In this video I'd like to talk about a very important topic Because if you tell anyone that you were in a relationship with a narcissist Especially if you were with them For several months or several years They're not really going to understand you. They're gonna wonder Why didn't you leave? Why did you stay with them for so long because they don't understand what the narcissist does If they could understand that Then they would know why you didn't leave So that's what I'd like to talk about in this video I like to talk about how the narcissist Prevents you from leaving They keep you from moving on By them doing this and what they do is They give you false hope they make you believe Something that is not true They tell you lies they give you these fake empty promises and It leaves you Without a conclusion Without resolve because normally you might think Okay, this person is bad They're no good for me So now I've got to leave but they create Doubt and uncertainty in Their victim's mind They keep you holding on Thinking that at some point things are going to get better If you would just be patient If you were just Hold on and that's how they get you to stay in the relationship That's how they stop you from moving on even though things may be very difficult for you It may be something that you're barely willing to tolerate But you stick in it Because they're telling you things are going to get better They're trying to change and after everything that you put into the relationship All of you are time energy money and resources You're hoping to get a return on that because they're making you believe that one day You will get something back And not only will you get back what you invested you'll get more And maybe you don't really care so much about the more Just as long as you get something back Of equal value of what you gave out Is that not the least that we should hope for? In any relationship in our lives The very least that it should be 50-50 there should be an equal exchange There should be reciprocation So they do this They make you think that if you're patient, it's going to benefit you in the end So then you stop worrying about it Whatever they're doing you just forget about it You put up with it Because you're led to believe that things are going to get better You're going to be rewarded For all of your suffering For everything that you have to endure but it's all fake They are fake and They are future faking They're lying They're promising something about the future Just so they can get what they want right now That's all it is And it stops you from worrying about what they're doing Makes you think yeah, things may be bad now But in time it's gonna get better. It's gonna be worth it Or at least That's what they're making you believe because This really is the problem of it all Is that you never actually receive anything it's always in the future If you ask them It's always just wait a few more weeks Wait a few more months But you never get anything They never give you anything and it works great for them It does exactly what they want it to do And you have this picture of the future in your head And it's like no matter what the narcissist does to you You just tell yourself not to worry about it Just forget about it because things are going to get better for you And they put these images in your head They talk to you about the future And they will even start the conversation About it with you Just so they can put these pictures in your mind So you can imagine it What it could be like If you just hold on If you just put up with it And do what they tell you to do Then you get this Fantasy This dream that they're selling you Then you'll finally get it Any time that there was Any progress towards the future It's like it was One step forward, two steps back Whenever there was any progress They just went right back To how they usually are They would give you This dream This fantasy And then before you know it They're insulting you again They're putting you down There's another argument Sometimes they would behave really well And they really made you believe Yes I've been waiting months I've been waiting years for this I put up with so much I lost all my money Spent it all Almost lost my own life But finally All of this waiting Now Things are getting better They're starting to change And then maybe just An hour later Things go right back to normal They put you up on this pedestal It's like you're in the heavens Everything's so perfect Everything you've ever wished for It's like finally You're gonna get it And then they throw you right back to the ground And then reality hits you You think all of this work Now we gotta start all over again It's just The carrots on a stick They're just dangling this carrot in front of you And you're running after it You're trying to get it But it's like no matter how fast you run It just keeps moving further and further away from you And you're putting in more and more effort to try to get it But no matter what you do Your efforts are not enough But this is what they do They give you this dream as an incentive To make you do things that you wouldn't normally do If you look back at some of the things you had to do Just to get their behaviour to improve Just to get them to change Those were things that you would have never normally done But you did it for them You did it with the hopes that they would change And you put all of your time, energy and money into it Everything You gave it all You gave your best effort Because you thought maybe one day It's gonna come back to you You're gonna get what you want in the end If you just hold on But you never got it You never got anything Because what they were doing was only intended to mislead you They just gave you false hope They planted these false beliefs in your mind Because no matter what you did It wouldn't have made a difference You were never gonna get what you hoped for What you believed in What you expected The dream that they sold to you It was just a fantasy A shared fantasy And they were never gonna deliver that to you Never They just made you believe that maybe one day It's gonna happen They're trying to make it happen But they were never taking the steps To make it happen They made you believe that they were But you never actually saw any real proof That they were And sometimes there would be a delay They would stall They would postpone things And they got you really worked up That really upset you You just wanted it to hurry up And You just wanted a payout after all of your hard work So you pressured them into continuing with it Just as they would pressure you to do what they want Now you're wondering Where's the exchange? What do I get for all of this work? And they acted as though They would deliver it to you If you just stayed patient If you just give them more time But that's the whole game The reason why they delayed it Why they constantly stalled Is so that they could gain more time Because while they were getting more and more time You were investing more and more of your time More and more of your energy More and more of your money You were giving it all up to them Maybe they were living for free They were living in your home You were paying for their food You were paying all of the bills While they're just sitting there Telling you Just be patient Just hold on Things are gonna get better I'm going to change I'm going to get a job I'm going to make my own money Just keep doing this for me Keep doing what I want And one day you will get everything back Is what they wanted you to think The reality is that You just ended up investing more and more of yourself You invested Things that you may have never done If they didn't put you in this situation And as time went by You ended up accepting less Than you hoped for You ended up accepting less than you deserve Because in the end You never got what you wanted Everything they promised you You got less Or you got nothing Because it was all fake They lied to you It was all a lie They were fake But for many of you It got to a point Where you got fed up You couldn't take it anymore You were wasting all of this time Spending all of this money And you just felt like I should get something back Everything I've given out it has value They may have minimized its value But deep down you know that It's worth something So why shouldn't you get something back For all of your efforts For everything that you produced for them Because you did what they wanted you to do You waited You stayed patient You did everything they wanted So some of you got fed up You didn't want to wait anymore They promised to provide something to you And you just weren't going to have it any other way You're going to stop Giving them everything that you gave them You're going to cut it off And Yeah when you go to the narcissist And you say You know you're fed up of waiting You can't be patient anymore You want to return on your investment You want that exchange of value You want something back And when you go to the narcissist And you make this known to them That is when they will ghost you That is when they will disappear All communication will end They will cut all contact with you And if you try and reach out and contact them They will ignore you They will block you Even if you see them in person They will avoid you Because it's done It's over All of them in a belation A deception It's done all that it needed to do They done all of the faking and lying That they had to do They made it seem Like everything you wanted Was going to become a reality They gave you all of these fake promises They concealed Their faults and mistakes They concealed their flaws and their perfections And they made them appear more attractive They made them seem more interesting More valuable More worthy of your time Money And that's why they did that Is to deceive you To trick you But once you start to catch on And you've done all of this work for them And now you've got your hand out Expecting something back in return You're expecting your payment You're part of the exchange That's when they ghost you That's when they're gone They're out of there They know where to be found And at that point It hits you You realise Oh wow I've just been tricked I've just been cheated What a waste of time What a waste of my energy My money For what? For someone's sick Twisted game They sold you a dream They got you to believe in it They gave you this promise But they never intended to make it a reality They just did it to Get the kind of behaviour they wanted from you But it's a very powerful tactic It works It will break you If you let it It will break your heart It will crush your soul And it will just leave you Unable to trust anyone after that Because you trusted them They may have even told you to trust them And after you invested so much of yourself It was like you trusted them more Than anyone you had ever trusted in your life And they did that to you And that's really the worst part of it At least from my perspective I mean it's one thing You lose your time Maybe even your money But it's just that trust When you trust someone And it's not just that they let you down But they knew what they were doing the entire time They knew exactly the effects that they were having on you And they betrayed you They threw you under the bus This person who you trusted Who you expected to be there for you And it was just such a shock You just couldn't believe it You thought of all people in this world They're never gonna do that They would never do that to me Maybe sometimes they say the wrong thing Maybe sometimes they do things that upset me But if there's one thing They're never going to do it's that They're never gonna do that But that's exactly what they did They broke your trust They betrayed you And you thought That was the one person who would never do that to you But they did it They led you to believe in this dream They kept telling you things are gonna get better But you never saw any real progress If there was anything Things would always go back to normal They would just go back to the start Because they're future vacant They never had any intention of making it happen They never cared about you They never cared about your needs It was all about them That's why they did it They did it to make you do more To put out more So that they're getting everything that they want And you're giving it all And you don't mind giving too You're happy You're excited about it It's not like you're giving Resentfully You are giving with your heart With all of your enthusiasm Because in your mind You think that they deserve it Because you're looking into the future And thinking about all of the things you're gonna get But little do you know It's never gonna happen And if you look closely Just look back when they were promising you these things It's like you can see it in their eyes When they're putting this image in your head They're selling you this dream They're talking about it And they're making you feel so much joy and happiness You're smiling You're laughing You're so happy It's like some parents telling their child It's only a few weeks until Christmas Not long now you're gonna get your presents Just be patient But the narcissist When they're telling you this They know you're not gonna get anything And if you really look back You may remember that when they were telling you this They were smirking It's almost like they were laughing at you At the time you may have thought they were laughing with you They were happy for you But know if you look back They thought it was amusing Because in your head you think it's gonna happen But they knew all along You're not gonna get anything You're not gonna get nothing You're just gonna get a lump of coal and you're stalking Yeah it's crazy But this is what they do to you This is what they do To make you do what they want To make you put out more Because they're promising you things But trust is a big factor in all of this And the betrayal The betrayal of your trust Because you're trusting them naively It's like very innocent It shows a lack of experience and judgment Like you don't really understand them You don't really know what they're about You haven't figured them out at that point Now that's why you put everything into it You give as much as you can But you never get anything out of it We cannot change the past But one thing we can change is the future And the future starts right now If you are with someone I don't care who it is I don't care if it's a relationship A friend or family member A co-worker Whoever it is You need to look at that right now And you see if there is an equal exchange Are you getting something back For what you're giving out Is there an equal exchange of value Because in any interaction or engagement You should mirror people You should mirror what they're giving to you So if they're giving a lot You can give a lot But if they're giving you a small amount You give the same back Because then that way You're not going to run yourself into emotional and financial debt You're not going to lose a lot And you shouldn't have to wait For things to get better Because that's the game they play Their game is to keep you waiting Thinking that there's going to be an exchange at some point From now on Do not wait anymore For anyone If you're giving them what they want And you're not getting what you want Cut that off right now Just cut it off Otherwise you will get conned You will get cheated And you will be deprived of whatever it is that you have Don't play the waiting game with these narcissists No more No more waiting Because if you're not going to get it now You'll probably never get it No more waiting I want you to put that in the comments right now No more No more Yeah, narcissists Will play this game with you They will use this tactic The future faking And honestly I just look at it and I think It just It overwhelms me to even think about it I can't imagine how Anyone could do that to someone How could you put someone through that Especially when They're doing all of these things for you They have your best interest in mind They're trying to build you up They're trying to make your life better And all the while You're promising this stuff With no intention of giving anything back And as Robin Has just commented there Ten years I've waited but no more I just can't imagine it How can you make someone wait ten years It's just crazy But that's what these people do But we can't change the past We can't get that time back That time has gone But we can decide now We can take our power back By realizing that We can create our future right now It all starts with our awareness With our understanding Of what these sick people are trying to do Because that's what they are They're sick people No one Normal would ever do that Never But this is what they do And they feel no shame No remorse They just don't care But on the other hand That's their karma Someone like that Is never going to be happy They're never going to make anyone proud But you can You can move on And have something for real Instead of a fake relationship With a fake person You can have a real relationship With a real person I hope this message resonated with you Many people out there Who have been through this future faking Many people have wasted their lives With someone who Really ain't about shit They're just talking Just yapping But you never see nothing That's all they do Just talk They can talk the talk But they can't walk the walk And when you realize that It's time for you to walk the walk It's time for you to walk out of there Yeah I hope this message helped Please give this video a thumbs up And definitely Comment on this one I'd love to hear from you I know it's been a long video So let me know what you think About what I've said I wanna know if it's Something that you've experienced Do you agree with what I've said And click that subscribe button as well Then you will get the notifications For my future videos Thank you all And have a great day