 The single most annoying topic that I Struggled with the most for the longest time is motivation Fuck I struggled with it for so long Yeah, the beginning my problems were with perfectionism, so I would be too perfectionistic about things I wanted to accomplish so if it wasn't perfect it wasn't good and I Would just find myself quitting all the time like beginning things and quitting or setting my aim so high that I just fail and then stop Once I solve that using the concept of you know my concept of setting habits using minimal aims and simply Search on YouTube where I'll be Frank Habits or you have a full playlist for habits. I've Talked this idea to death about how to create perfect habits I also wrote a guide by the way a short guy that I'll link in the description for habits, so I got that solved and then my next problem was with me basically Starting something and then continuing with it all the way and with that the way I solved it was Using commitments So basically the problem was that the way I would go about goals I would start things because it felt really really awesome to start But then when I would lose that motivation I would simply stop And move on to the next shiny objects So again, that was solved by bringing real skin in the game So creating situations where I could not leave like you know, you start a project setting a deadline or Creating a situation where if I stop there's a certain punishment sometimes, you know small sometimes severe, but Simply having skin in the game that that's what solved it and then finally This got me to the next level of success where you know, I start projects and I was succeeding in them and When you start making a lot of money when everything goes amazing when you see how strong you are when you kind of live the life of abundance You start sometimes not everybody, but many people start to see how meaningless it is So you can no longer tribute Motivation to things like money just money for money because the illusion of Amazingness is not there anymore. You don't you know, you're not gonna get completed by money because you already You know had a lot of money and you still didn't feel complete at all, you know, maybe more Relax and happy but not complete so That was a tough one that that was a real tough one that took a long time to solve like okay now that I'm not motivated anymore by you know getting stuff, how do I motivate myself again and What I realized is I can motivate myself by Love and contribution so for example when I'm in a relationship and I'm truly in love with the person I'm in a relationship with all I want to do is make that person Happy and I want to make them proud and I want to make us work. So In my current case my current relationship is my single biggest motivator for everything that I do But even if you're not in a relationship, you can still get extremely motivated by giving yourself to an ideal so perhaps love perhaps Making other people happy so you need to shift the attention outside and You know when when getting stops motivating you need to Figure out how to give properly so that that's what's motivating you. So that's just a quick summary of the three Main motivational obstacles that I had to overcome again when you're a freaking perfectionist Basically read my habits guide Link in the description and that's gonna solve it for you I guarantee that no matter where you are or how old you are or what's the thing you're trying to be habit for Second level is okay. You have some basic competence. You believe in yourself to some extent But then you always chase dreams and always chase the passions and there's no groundness to it So the next you know the moment something else becomes more shiny or the moment you're going to get into obstacles You know you even find yourself getting really really good really fast but then again first major block you just move on to the next thing and Trust me, it's better be a master of one thing than just really good at a lot of things So again the way to solve that is by having skin in the game. It's approaching from If it's a skill then approaching it from a mastery perspective, you know just Committing from the perspective that it's going to take a long long long time and you're ready to face the shit and if it's just if it's a project or you know basically anything that requires Marathon thinking where you know you stay focused. You don't get distracted. You just follow the plan Again get skin in the game. So so there has to be a cost of failure. There has to be some sort of a commitment, you know financial spiritual Social just make sure you're committed in some way where The more ways the better by the way So the more people you say for example, they tell you don't tell anybody that you know You're gonna do something look no tell everybody because now you're committed to doing it now, of course you want to have at least like four or five Really good reasons why you want to do it because some people will challenge you on it but what I'm trying to say is that You want people to know it and want people to know that you committed to doing it because you're never gonna look like a fool If you don't do it and the next level if you really want to be committed is again to have true skin in the game by Choosing some sort of a punishment for not sticking to the goal So for me like I told you with my girlfriend We decided that I have to do 30 videos in the this last two weeks so Because of that. I'm uploading anywhere between one to four video one to four videos Every day pretty much So I'm well on my way to reaching the goal of 30 videos in two weeks And even though I didn't want to even though I had major kind of like inner resistance and the reason for that is That I've committed because I've said okay if I don't accomplish the goal then I Will smash my phone my phone. I will delete permanently my permanently delete my YouTube channel with over 350 videos and I'll also Eat a big ball of wasabi Which is the spicy food that you know you get in sushi like really really spicy and horrible taste so There you go. Here's as I said like a week and a half ago. Here's proof like it is Working like as you can see I'm doing exactly what I said I would because I have skin in the game so commitment commitment commitment and again finally Regarding intrinsic motivation When you actually attain this certain level of success and you see how Kind of the the getting part is no longer motivating then Start focusing on the giving or even better yet Just find someone who you want to do good for whether it's you know family member a relationship or your dog and Just do it for them. So don't do it for you do it for them and I Don't remember exactly the research that I read but All the way from Andrew Carnegie in thinking girl rich up to recent books that I've read with tons of cited research. They all say Exclusively that it's basically having someone else Having that special someone that you do everything for so again, that's the quick summary of my three motivations Hope you like it and check out the links in the description for more information and stuff for me Talk soon