 إذا كانت أخي ونبي يأتي مع this goal of compatibility ماذا is compatibility is when both of them recognize that in order to have a successful marital relationship they need to place their goal which is Jannah everything else falls into place if paradise and the seeking pleasure of Allah سبحانه وتعالى is something that both husband and wife work together to establish and what happens there will be problems no one's denying that it will be roses but the major problems will be prevented why because the individual recognizes that whatever there are issues going on in life there are bigger ones and that is they ask is God pleased with this or not because my purpose the compatibility the goal of this marriage the fact that I am with my wife is to seek the pleasure of the Almighty isn't it is for me to attain Jannah isn't it what my action is doing is it in accordance with the pleasure of God or not if it is not should I correct it should I make it a better action in that respect therefore you'll find I recall that one of the scholars one day was talking about this he said look marriage and successful happiness in marital relationship is based upon seeking compatibility when it comes to spirituality and the pleasure of God seeking Jannah and then he said you know in Jannah the husband has the ability to intercede for his wife and the wife has the ability to intercede for her husband they have the ability to do Shafa'at for each other to raise each other to the status in Jannah so work together so that you enter Jannah together so all of a sudden when he was saying this somebody from the crowd stood up and left he was unhappy so later on the scholar asked him back he said can you come back what happened after the majlis he said to him what's wrong with you why did you leave and why were you unhappy by this suggestion that you should be with your wife in Jannah he said Mawlana all my life I'm trying to get rid of my wife you want her to come with me in Jannah I don't want that to happen but why is that because that individual has not understood the purpose behind marriage they've looked at it in a very physical superficial manner not in its complete package that the region of Islam has presented it what about Ali and Fahmd how does this particular model and how does it apply to their lives let me give you a number of examples when Sayyidat al Nisa peace and blessings be upon her was asked about Amir al Mu'mineen what do you think about your husband Ali he responded by saying he's the best husband in all the qualities in everything that I'm looking for in all the aspects that the human being seeks in a husband when Amir al Mu'mineen was asked what about your wife Fatima al Zahra what a line notice what Amir al Mu'mineen said he said he was the best aid and help and assistance in achieving the goal of creation and existence and that is seeking the pleasure of God he was the best help for me in achieving this which means what which means that when Ali and Fatima are working together everything falls into place because they have one goal let me give you several examples مقداد looks at Ali and he's not in the right state Imam says to him why you're not happy today مقداد said that my family is hungry Amir al Mu'mineen had one dinner to go and spend and buy some food for his own family he had taken that as a loan he takes it and gives it to مقداد مقداد goes away Amir al Mu'mineen goes to the mosque the holy prophet he prays behind Rasulullah they finish Salat al Aisha Rasulullah says to him I want to come and eat food with you tonight Imam knows there's no food at home what does he say to Rasulullah does he say to him Rasulullah sorry we do not have any food he says Rasulullah this is your house you're very welcome to come he comes to the house say the Fatima notices that her father the holy prophet has come to the house she goes and sits in the area that she prepares the food she lifts her hands towards the heavens and asks Allah SWT for assistance as soon as she finishes her dua the traditions tell us that Jibra'il descends with a plate of food from heaven from Jannah and when Lady Fatima presents this food do not be surprised because the maqam and the position of Sayyida Fatima is that above much more than Mary Maryam alayhi salam in the Quran Mary is Sayyida to Nisa'a she was the leading women of her time whereas Sayyida Fatima is Sayyida to Nisa'a العالمين من الأولين والآخرين from the beginning of time towards the end and of course this aspect happened to Mary that she was praying and she would be given food from Jannah the holy prophet looks at Ali and says ya Ali this is a small recompense from Allah for the fact that you sacrificed whatever you had in other words this element of self sacrifice for the sake of Allah was very much present and prevalent in the life of Ali and Fatima you look at other examples when this is not present you'll find problems you'll find challenges I'll give you one example and then we move on to the second practical point there was a man a king by the name of King Parviz and his wife his wife is referred to as Queen Shaheen I'm just giving this example just to illustrate that sometimes compatibility if there is no common objective problems will occur so King Parviz one day asked the sailor you know fisherman he said can you bring me the best fish that you have obtained best fish so the sailor presents him with a big fish that he has caught the king is so impressed with this fish he says I will give you 4,000 gold coins but unfortunately his wife Queen Shaheen was not on the same wavelength in generosity so she says to her husband the king she says you've given him 4,000 gold coins for one fish it's too much the king said well it's gone I cannot take it back now she said no ask for refund he says how she said ask him is this male fish or female fish if he says it's a male say no no no sorry I want female and if he says it's a female say I want male and take your money back he said ok come back sailor came back the king asked him is this a male fish or is the female fish the sailor looked up the king he said your majesty this is a special breed of fish it's neither male or female it is special very special the king was so impressed with the answer he gave him another 4,000 the queen now is burning inside she's thinking why have I done this why have I said this so the man walks off he's carrying his 8,000 gold coins and all of a sudden one gold coin falls onto the ground and he's looking for it anxiously the queen says to him you have 7,999 gold coins and you're still looking for one leave it why are you acting like a miserly stingy person you should just walk why are you looking for one gold coin he says to her your majesty your queen it's not the one gold coin that I'm looking for it's the fact that this gold coin has the picture of my beloved king I don't want anyone to step on it the king hears this gives him another 4,000 so sometimes when there is this element of breakdown in compatibility there will be problems