 I'm just going to take it off. OK. It's not like everyone. I took notes kind of as we went along, and I just wanted to add a few really key points. So the first one was actually, I'm just going to comment on a video that I watched in class this week. And it was a little boy who was talking to his mom. And he was telling his mom, you know, mom, I was feeling angry today. And my emotions, and he was having this whole beautiful little baby talk conversation with his mother about anger. And if you're on TikTok, you may have seen this video. So he tells her mom, I was feeling, you know, and he's specifically talking about how he was feeling angry. So I was her mom, I was feeling angry today. And she's like, that's OK. And at the tail end of the video, he tells me, and mom, did you love me when I was angry? And she says, yes, of course, and she hugs him. And I think I can't normalize enough how much validation your young, young ones are going to seek from you right now. And I've got some points about your teenagers and your young adults. But your young ones are really going to look for, is it OK for me to feel the way that I'm feeling right now? And Sister Wajima kind of touched on this, right? Like, don't tell them you can't be sad. And don't tell them you can't be angry. This is not quite the time to kind of talk them through the different emotions. And you want to make sure that your children are fostering a safe space to come and share with you how they're feeling when things are getting really difficult, when things are getting really heavy. If your kid is only ever sharing with you, mom, I'm great. Mom, I'm happy. Maybe ask yourself, does my kid know how to feel sad? I cannot express to you how many of my clients don't know how to be sad. Don't know how to feel. They tell me, Muna, I'm happy, but you can't see it. I'm like, well, you know, Muna, I'm angry. And I'm like, well, I don't see anger, right? I see, like, numb. I see someone who can't express emotion. And then when I talk to them, they tell me I was never allowed to express at home. If I had a reaction, my parents would tell me not now. And I'm telling you, I have clients in their 60s who can't express some of these emotions. So this is a lifelong journey for some. And Sister Wajima touched on this as well, and I'll build on it a little bit. Social learning theory, your kids are looking at you to role model emotional regulation and expression right now. They are looking at you, and they will take from you, because you are, if you're a primary caregiver or an elder in the household, they're watching you and they're watching how you respond across the board. And if you suppress your emotions, Dr. Rania talked about people saying right now, well, it's not as bad as it is for people over there right now for me here. If that's the approach you're taking, know that your kids will never feel like their issues are worth talking about. And then you're gonna bring them to Maristan, inshallah. And we're gonna work with them for months. This is not a, I've had parents tell me, can you fix my kid, they're 14. Okay, where have you been for 14 years? I told my kid that I didn't have time, or I spent my work away from my children and there wasn't really that connection built. Therapy is great, it takes time. It's not going to be a fix overnight. And so I really, really, really wanna drive that message home to a lot of parents who have younger kids right now. Sit with your kids and process your emotions. Mommy, are you feeling sad? Yes, baby, I'm feeling sad. This is hard. This feels heavy. Mommy, where does it feel heavy? It feels heavy in my chest. It feels heavy in my shoulders. Mommy, I'm not sleeping well. I had a mother tell me today, her kid who has not really, who has been relatively okay in the dark. Mommy, will you walk me into my room? I'm scared someone's gonna kidnap me. And he's hugging her feet. He's hugging her leg. He's just, I think he's about four. Mommy, I'm scared someone's gonna take me away in the dark. And these are real. And alhamdulillah, if your kid is able to verbalize those. Because some kids, they experience something or they are witness to something and the words come later. So Dr. Rainia mentioned kind of keeping tabs on your child's behavior. And I wanna be clear that this is not just for five days or when this is over. Some of this stuff we see when in a year, in two, sometimes three, they're finding the words and now they're gonna process that as young adults in whatever age group it comes to them. They're gonna start processing that in that time. And so the one thing I took back from, and Charlotte, many other things, but the one thing that has always stuck out to me about working with adolescents is parents, miss mental health issues in adolescents because they say they're a teenager, they're gonna act out. They're a teenager, this is expected and we just let it go. And then we see it's so detrimental. And events like what we're seeing right now exacerbate already existing mental health issues that our teenagers are facing, that your young kids are facing and honestly that adults are facing too. It is hard, it is hard and it is heavy to continuously see this and process it. But give yourself time to sit and process. There's days where you're like, the best I can do right now is make a meal. Say alhamdulillah and congratulate yourself for making that meal because your family needed you and you needed that meal. That's why Allah swt guided you, gave you the energy to get up and make that meal. And if that's all you got done, alhamdulillah. Dr. Zahra and I were at Stanford last week and we did a healing circle and there was a sister there from Gaza and she was really just feeling so helpless. Like I am here, it is my first year here, she's a first year PhD student at Stanford and she was like of all of the times that I was here, now what is happening to my people? And I looked at her and I said, what do you do? And she said, I write and I told her write your story. That's what you have. That's why Allah put you here. That's a skill that Allah swt has given you. Write the story, right? Everybody is going to face different trials and tribulations across our lifetime. It's not just today and it's not just tomorrow. So think of what has Allah swt gifted you with? What are the blessings that Allah swt has? There's so many. What are they? And have channeled them into your families and channeled them into your education. It's been really hard for me to be a PhD student right now because I've got so much work and I have maybe the brain, the bandwidth and the attention span of a very, very small animal right now. But I'm like, okay Muna, this is what Allah gave you. You can show up and you can get through your work and you can get through your assignments because this is where I need to be right now. And I trust that Allah put me here because I am able and I have the ability to turn around and support my community. One of the other things I really wanted to touch on was the brain's response to trauma. I'll talk about it a little bit from a neurological perspective. So that we kind of like learn what's happening. I've had, doctors I had a touched on, maybe don't write an email when you're angry. You might write something and feel so in that moment, this is truth, this is exactly what I mean to say and you press send, right? I can tell you on our end at my university I've had to send emails all week. And one of them took me a week to send because I would sit there and I read it and I read it again and I made sure it was respectful and professional but also in an honor of my community and in honor of the people who have lost their lives. That's what they're, you know, they're losing their lives. I can at least stick up for their lives here. I can at least call out the injustice in a way that keeps me, inshallah, steadfast in my education but also honors the community. And that was really important. How many people heard of fight or flight? Fight or flight, great news, alhamdulillah. Okay, so when we go into fight or flight what happens with our brain, right? Our executive functioning right up here at the front. Our executive functioning is responsible for decision making. This is where emotional regulation comes in. When you toggle into fight or flight something has happened and I want you to keep in context not just you but also your children. Something has happened and your prefrontal cortex actually switches off. Your amygdala, your fight or flight response system toggles on. They cannot be on at the same time, one or the other. If you are in fight or flight your executive functioning is off which means you are not to say you're not like thinking clearly but there is something that is more pressing for the brain right now and I need to address this immediate item. Your brain doesn't differentiate fear of a tiger. Okay, the trauma of a tiger standing in front of you or a bear chasing you from a car accident. It's considered trauma. That is how it's understood in your brain. So when you're in that fight or flight if you think of like your kids if they're seeing images right now and they're starting to get activated and they're in fight or flight I sincerely ask we don't tell them to calm down. Nobody ever calm down because somebody told them to calm down. Think about what's happening for them. You might talk at them. This is you're overreacting. They're not hearing you. They're reacting. They're not hearing the words. So what can we do? One of the things that, so I do like my emphasis at school is in trauma and one of the things I work through is kind of like treatment through like trauma informed lens. And one of the things that you can do is a grounding exercise. It can be as simple as let's count to 10 together. One, two, three and so on. How many, if I have a lot of plants in my office how many plants are in the room? You activate the other side of the brain. You now are engaging the logical side. Count the rooms, count the plants, count the books, anything. And then you'll see that switch and then you're like, okay. And they're like, okay, yeah, like I'm good. So I really want you to think about if you're seeing higher rates of anxiety around kind of like your children or just like feelings of irritability, like it's not coming from nowhere and everybody talks about validating that experience and that emotion so Anshela won't touch on that but just really think about it. And if you're not sure, this is why this is happening right now. Consult with the people in your community who know. Consult with the people in your community who can guide you to the resources that your children need, right? Saying I don't know is so important but find people who know and guide your children or guide yourself to that resource. You know, like I really urge you don't sit on it and say, Anshela, it'll get better tomorrow. You know, it's, Anshela, today right now I'm kind of going out to do this. And so Anshela, I'll end there. I'm happy to kind of answer any questions later but I know that we wanted to also open the space for everybody. So Anshela, jazakala everyone.