 I love you and right here inside it with down feathers on that mean that shit cold and I'm the coldest listen it's the message right here black boy tell me how you really feel cuz I just want to build with you black girl tell me how you really feel I want to keep it real with you I want to live better eat better I want to love better sleep better yeah I want to feel so aligned I think this would be good for you so and this is almost like a survey that I'm carrying out cuz I'm asking guys the same question I know what my answer is but I'm curious as to other people so hypothetically you are dating or let's just say talking to two dudes two niggas right one dude you you create or for him you have created a an image of yourself or facade an idea of yourself and maybe it's not even big lies but like it's a it's almost like a halo version of yourself for him right and then the second dude you're completely honest with he knows you inside and out you're completely transparent with who do you love more and why that's a good question I'm gonna I'm gonna answer this a little different first and then I'll answer your question I think I care more about what guy one thinks about me if I'm building up that person I want him to see and I want him to like I'm putting myself now I don't even care about what I what I look like basically I'm basically I'm wanting I'm wanting to mold this person and shape this person into what I think he wants so I care a lot about what he thinks whereas guy two I'm like if you can see me however way you want to see me I don't really care but I think the people we can be more vulnerable with and more open with and can show like the our depth I think we kind of tend to oh I don't know if it's love but I think we kind of tend to like that person more or we are comfortable in their presence enough which shows that we gravitate towards them on like a human level that we want to we we can we can share our full selves with them but with guy one it's like that's that's who we want basically that's the that's the the the prey that's who we're hunting that's like because now I'm changing myself I'm creating this facade and I'm creating this this front face so that he can like it like boosting my own so he can like it right but does I answer your question okay but I don't know if it's love I don't know if it's I don't know if I would say I love one person over the other I think it depends to honestly it depends on what we're what we're trying to gain out of each thing out of each relationship or interaction to it is elaborate to create a whole like outer shell or to boost yourself a little for somebody to see whereas well yeah it is but it's also very hard to be completely 100 with somebody too so you probably are you probably even subconsciously do like the person you can be your your 100% selfless versus the person you're putting up a facade for but yeah like subconscious like even now like I don't really think about it much but I feel like the people that I'm closest with sometimes I'm like I could actually see myself with that person right but I'm not romantically attracted to them which is so weird but like I am completely 100% myself with you but this guy who I'm not like who doesn't even know like the tip of the iceberg and I'm just like oh I gotta let me go shimmy shimmy you know shake my shoulders and but I don't know why that is but I can be I can be with my friends I can be like maybe not a hundred percent cuz I'm never truly hundred percent with anybody but with like my friends they can see me on a different level that a person that I like would wouldn't see me until like further on if that relationship extends like if that makes sense it makes sense let's keep digging I'm keeping that in the video the question is what is the biggest lie women tell black women tell the biggest lie black women tell and it could be either they tell black men or they tell themselves or they tell each other a lot of ways you can go with that I think the blackest lie and I don't I don't even I think it's really society that puts us in this mindset like the whole strength thing the whole we don't need no man thing the whole like I can do with this on my own and I mean I have seen though that over the past few months it's in the well I can only speak personally from the black women in my life that we are coming around to being like no I actually want someone they actually do want to be vulnerable I don't like I'm tired of I don't want to be that strong woman that you think I am like you know I think that's probably one of the biggest lies we have circulating about black women that we can handle it all and that we can handle everything that is thrown at us and we're just so resilient we're strong we're big like cuz then it comes to the point where we we think that we internalize that and then in our you know romantic relationships we still think we're like big and strong and there is like a fight for power almost because you're you're so used to the mentality that anything that is thrown your way you can just bounce back from it but we get broken too we get hurt too we get we we want to be vulnerable but in in society and all even black men think that black men think they have big they can just put women black women through anything in it you stick by them that means you truly love them you see stick you stick through all the BS oh she stuck with me like why do I have to do that why do I have to stick with you for you to know that you love me and why do we ourselves put ourselves in that situation that we think if we stick by a man through all the hurt and the pain and we're strong and resilient that that means he's he he cares why is that and I think that's just years and years of being in that mindset way back from ancestry up to now just women in general black people in general we have to be strong and we have to carry society on our backs basically so I think that is one of the biggest lie we tell ourselves and even myself I feel like I can handle it all I feel like I can't like don't get me wrong I can't I could do a lot of things but sometimes so I just want to sit there and stay I'm not okay yeah but I don't think we get we don't get the opportunity to a lot because not only is society telling us that we're telling ourselves that too and then from our interactions or from our own experiences we feel like we need to to be that tough strong woman so we continue telling people oh yeah I'm good I got a tough outer shell I'm good like what happened it is what it is we move I'm good but I think that's a lie we're hurting heavy