 So I'm going to give you an easy way super easy way to understand What anxiety is or how it works and more importantly when it comes up? Why it's so hard To process it to get it to move through your body and leave which is exactly what we want to happen But why is it so difficult to do that? Well, when I'm telling when I'm working with people I usually this is what I tell them You're sitting there you're watching this video Now imagine for a moment. I'm anxiety and My job is to make you feel anxious. I hope watching videos like this doesn't make you anxious But bear with me for this exercise. So you're watching this and I'm anxiety and I'm going to make you feel anxious How would I do that? Well, this is how anxiety works. The first thing I'm going to do is I'm going to throw a thought at you It's just one thought now It's going to be an anxiety provoking thought something fearful probably about the future something that you feel you can't handle Then I'm going to go away for a while Now as anxiety, I've left you alone with the thought that I've given you But now I'm a bit worried because as anxiety all I want you to do is feel more anxiety So I'm thinking to myself. Okay, I've got a problem here because I've left the thought over there with them But if they actually sit down and inquire about that thought and look at that thought that one single thought that I've left with them I'm in trouble because they will date There's a good chance that they might see through it and realize there's nothing to worry about here So what I do is I come back as anxiety and I'm going to throw three more thoughts at you and maybe five more and a few more and sooner Soon rather than later, you know, you're feeling this thing of what I call fog. It's like a brain fog You're sitting there and you have this feeling of anxiety But because there's so many different thoughts different anxiety provoking thoughts going on in your mind You don't know what the root of the anxiety is and you can't grab on to which thought it is that you You think what should I worry about first? Is it this but what about that? It could be this so you're all over the place and you can't focus down to any one Point any one thought to start to process it To get rid of it because as soon as you do focus just on one thing at a time You can only process one thought And by process, I mean look at it analyze it Not analyze it. I mean Inquire into whether or not it's valid and Begin to realize okay, I can let this go and it does involve feeling the feelings that come up with that but It can be done as the point. I'm saying you can process you can release One thought you can let one thought go you can't let 14 thoughts go at once So that's the kind of mechanism that anxiety uses to keep you feeling anxious You'll know that it'll feel like a fog a brain fog. I don't know what it is. That's making me anxious I can't pinpoint it. I have a few things going on, but I'm not sure what it is and The only way to really a debt the hardest part of the whole process is Finding out the core thought that's really really bugging me So in order to do that what you need to do is get still for a while get silent for a while and Allow yourself just to feel the anxiety for a moment and you ask yourself, okay I'm not going to figure out what it is that's really bothering me. I'm going to ask the feeling I'm going to ask anxiety to come forward and tell me what it is That is really really bugging me And you allow yourself to be judgmental. You allow yourself to be insecure. You allow yourself to be irrational And you identify yes, this is the thing that is really really the worst thing right now for me And then you just follow that process. I've talked about another videos But basically you're just inquiring and trying to figure out is this true or not true Is this thought helpful to me? Would my life be better off without this? Is there any evidence that this is not true or is there any evidence that the opposite thought to this could actually be true? Which in you will invariably find there is usually lots of evidence that the opposite is true So I hope that helps because that's really why the whole process is so difficult. It's this fog so Next time if you are experiencing anxiety and so many of us are experiencing anxiety out there generalize anxiety or some kind of specific context related anxiety Start to realize this is why and there's too many things going on and I need to narrow down my focus And see if that helps and from my experience it really really can help so give it a shot and I hope it helps talk to you soon. Bye