 we've been trying to restart your systems this January so get you on track when it comes to food when it comes to money also when it comes to your love life Shannon Boodrams here as important as anything else I love that we're off the top of the show first to because take your business at home first right is right your love life how you're feeling your mojo it is so important get the year started right there may be certain things that you're hanging on to that you need to ditch and certain things that you need to add to your repertoire to maybe get the system going again when it comes to your love life right I want to play a little game of this or that okay and not all this is our bad you can keep them but just keep them in the basement underneath a lot of stuff right okay so we're going to start with ropes I cannot wait to get out of my site yeah a lot of us have robes that look something like clap if you had this robe at home somewhere a little ready a little used a little very not sexy and what you're thinking right now but it has pockets yeah I can put my stuff in there remote control in there myself on in the baby monitor and no no no we're ditching the road ditching the road we want to come out of our bedrooms out of the shower getting our we have our oils on just feeling and looking and smelling amazing and putting on something that's still functional and warm and heavy but just makes you feel like a goddess oh that's a little slinky yeah okay let's see this but the difference is a palpable tell me about okay a little bit oh my gosh but it feels good on the skin for so many of us out there and you know you get home from work and I you know whip off my bra like it's poison I want to take off anything tight and you just want to put on fabrics that are so soft well you can get both you can use sexy and soft at the same time yeah and it isn't too inappropriate like if the kids come in the room you're not like completely you know really disheveled but it's still just beautiful graceful I think it's the perfect piece and it was 40% off oh I love that okay next I want to talk about books because a lot of us use books to get ourselves in the mood is our way of exercising our fantasy right and so I want you to throw out 50 shades of gray and Danielle steel and these books the confessions of a wild girl and all these tristful you know hard pounding filled nights and get yourself some real education spend this year actually learning about your body what works best and then pass it off to your partner so I didn't have this is the book I'm reading right now which is like kind of not that much fun but yeah fundamental human sexuality okay this book I didn't have I have it back in California but she comes first this is the ultimate guy every woman should read this throw these books in the garbage spend it's like you one day to read it yeah it will teach you things about yourself that you didn't know existed and you'll be very grateful for it so it's the road of going from fantasy to going from actual physiology like what does it take to make my body work in those ways that I wanted to work that makes a lot of sense so she comes first yeah you're gonna learn a lot more about what works for you and amazing and passion filled and pleasurable your life can be from real books rather than the fantasy kind of garble books I love that really good advice okay so we've ditched the dingy road 50 shades okay now when it comes to underwear a lot of us do the like kind of sexy we try yeah so I have these ones which you might be thinking aren't that bad you might have got them 15 and they're okay but you know you kind of had to elbow a 12-year-old out of the way going to the bins like they're not so I get it and they're nice and they're cute but I want you to get something that has its own section that's on a hanger that when you see it as a matter of fact this is my gift to you oh I can keep oh wow it just looks like something else see this is what my mom would call an eye patch but I'll wear it I'll try it I'll wear it somewhere it's my body hold it up right because it's the it's the lace it's the strings it's like so this how it goes yeah that's how it goes Leo thanks you thank you Shannon these are awesome happy new year to put that right there in my pocket in my row thank you very much for that I think your underwear should make you feel like your armor like your secret underneath it well I like the secret part because a lot of your day depends on what you put on your body it gives you that feeling and if you feel like you've got this secret arsenal going on underneath your regular sweater in your jeans it gives you a little bit of hidden power so I like it I agree I tended to ask for your state because you feel very powerful today I really do yeah I'm really good now last one at least I want to talk about jewelry so when we're having those days where we feel sensual and awesome and strong we want to make a statement we might go to a piece that is loud that sort of says you know I'm here and I'm I'm today exactly it's a statement piece but I suggest something that's a little bit more mysterious so woman's power is in her mystery so my statement piece that I wear all the time every time I'm the show is this okay it's just a simple you know metallic piece but it is also a five-setting vibrator and I want you guys to hear how powerful that is it's a great conversation starter I feel like you're more of a pulse girl that might be more you where do we get these necklaces I'm just asking for a friend yeah I'm actually doing a special edition of these so if you go to my website Shannon Teresa dot com you can get them that are specially for them yeah and so this is so this is I mean is that to use or is that just jewelry I mean that's part of the mystery that's part of the mystery is a part of the conversation starter is something that I use five minutes ago you don't know until later when you smell your fingers I guess I'll be washing my hands listen that is so cool that's the sort of thing that you just bring up you know when you're on your date with your with your honey and you say by the way this vibrates and everything's taken to the next level