 Hey guys, it's David here, and I'm excited to share this video. It's an important one because In it I'm going to outline the number one reason Why we fail in our New Year's resolutions or goals in general So stay tuned guys and I promise I'm going to share the number one reason and what you can do To approach it differently this time So what is it guys what is the number one reason why we fail in our New Year's resolutions Or an any goal Okay drumroll the real reason guys is that we take on too big of challenges or Areas in which we want to change we have too many things or they're too big Okay, the truth about change Healthy change is that it's gradual. It's consistent. It's Predictable almost okay, but it's just small steps. Okay, you might have heard this before but When I mean small steps, I mean small steps right, so A way to think about that is whatever the big goal you have in your mind Have it And then have it again Okay, have it and have it again. So let's say for instance You have an idea of You're going to get super fit this year. Okay Now that might involve for you just randomly saying here going to the gym for an hour a day So if you have that your new resolution or goal, it's going to be to go to the gym for half an hour every day And if you have it again, it's for 15 minutes a day okay now You want to get to the point where you are saying to yourself that sounds ridiculously easy that sounds So easy in fact, it's not even worth doing okay now The whole thing that we're aiming for here is consistency this year our consistency so if we can just Encourage ourselves. Okay. Um be more loving to ourselves be more Considerate make things easy for ourselves. We are far more likely to move We're far more likely to take action Okay, and the action that comes from that mentality is always done with a grace It's always done with a willingness that's there Now and you'll find I promise this is the thing that if you do this these easy steps The 15 minutes will say okay You will occasionally just want to do more than that Okay, because you're going to be consistent. You're going to be saying to yourself. This is so easy I can't believe how consistent I am. I'm following through with this And that positivity Will Carry you forward. It'll give you the momentum you need. Okay The truth about all of this guys is that Change should be in the positive direction It should be you should be growing. It should be helpful for you. It should be bringing you to where you want to be But it should be almost imperceptible. It should be gradual growth. Okay the other way to grow There is a different path to rapid personal growth But that's always It always involves a great deal of pain If you think for a moment in personal transformation say A person might go what they call go through what they call the the dark night of the soul And that can change a person Literally overnight sometimes. Okay a person can completely change the way they look at the world But that's not advisable. Okay, you you don't want to do that because it's unnecessary There is an easier way to change just requires a small bit of willingness So I just gave the gym or the fitness as an example But this could be in relation to any goal you have whatsoever this year That could be in your personal life or in your relationships. It could be in Your professional life. It could be in your personal transformation work that you might be doing Or um therapy work that you might be doing. Okay gradual consistent steady change in the right direction And you'll find that you'll keep growing but you get you get to a point where the Progress becomes more and more rapid as long as you're consistent So guys we need to talk to ourselves in caring language this year We need to be loving to ourselves Another way to put that if you don't like that is we need to be less hard on ourselves. Okay encourage ourselves So guys, um, that's the secret. Okay One super simple thing. That's what you need to focus on ridiculously uncomfortably easy thing And apply yourself to that and see what happens. Okay, go ahead from there Guys if you like this video Um, please consider liking it and maybe subscribing to this channel as well because it it helps other people to see the videos And and also if you are interested, you can also contact me. Just hit the link in the description I do one-to-one skype coaching counseling or psychotherapy with uh With people who are interested if they're going to through something a personal transformation That's what my work is all about So, um, check it out if you're interested guys And with that, I wish you all happy new year and I will talk to you guys in the next video. Bye