 Hey, Psychoers! Thanks so much for your support. Let's begin. Are there certain statements or words that trigger you or completely rub you the wrong way? In general, everyone hates hearing just calm down or you're being too sensitive. Nobody wants to feel like they're being irrational regardless of your personality type. But what especially triggers the perceptive empathetic INFJs? Here are seven things you should never say to an INFJ. 1. You're too sensitive Have you ever felt really down or upset and just needed a listening ear? During moments of sadness, an INFJ wants to have their feelings accepted with understanding and comfort. The last thing an INFJ would want is to have their feelings challenged and dismissed by someone they're confiding in. If you tell an INFJ, you're too sensitive. This downplays and invalidates their emotions. They might choose to avoid you in the future and turn to someone else when they're going through something heavy. 2. Let's wing it Do you enjoy having everything in order and are not very flexible or willing to adapt? INFJs thrive on following through structure. This could be attributed to the INFJ's desire for perfectionism and control. But nonetheless, an INFJ is much more comfortable maintaining order over having to face uncertainty with no backup plan. 3. You should be ashamed of yourself An INFJ absolutely hates letting others down. And when they've disappointed someone, it stings really bad. Being told that they should also be ashamed of themselves stirs up all sorts of negative emotions within an INFJ. This causes inaction and doubtfulness. If you want your INFJ to feel at peace and be productive, practice kindness, patience, and provide constructive criticism for them rather than a pointed finger. 4. Here's some advice Have you ever just wanted to vent about your problems but then been handed unsolicited advice? When feeling upset or facing a problem, the INFJ is not looking for someone to fix their problem. Since they are serious thinkers, they've already spent a lot of time coming up with different solutions for themselves. At the end of the day, they just want someone to listen to their problems and be there for them. 5. I've had it worse than you Have you ever had someone downplay your problems by bringing up someone else's plight instead? An INFJ is acutely aware of how other people feel since they absorb other people's emotions like a sponge. When an INFJ is going through something bad, they might need comfort and understanding and they don't like to be told that so and so has it way worse than you do right now. This invalidates their feelings and diverts the attention away from them and what they're trying to talk to you about. Consolation and support are a much better way to relate to them and help them out. 6. Can you be more practical? An INFJ is not the most practical personality type. They have a harder time navigating the physical world around them because they can easily get lost in their own heads. An INFJ has a very vivid imagination and mentally likes to explore the different ideas, theories and visions running through their minds. Practicality does not come easily to an INFJ, so telling them or asking them to be more practical will do more harm than good. 7. But that's how we've always done things. INFJs are not blind followers. They oversee and critique things, regardless of age or custom. An INFJ is not willing to compromise their ideas in order to fit in a company, organization or club. INFJs thrive in coming up with new solutions and angles to problems. So if the environment is against any proposal of change, the INFJ will become uninspired and seek out another avenue and people that are more willing to accept their flow or change. Are you an INFJ? Or do you know someone who is? What are your thoughts on these phrases? Let us know in the comments below. Please like and share this video if it helped you and you think it could help someone else too. The studies and references used are listed in the description below. Don't forget to hit the subscribe button for more Psych2Go videos and thanks for watching. We'll see you next time.