 There was a survey study done back in 2017 with women who were over the age of 40. And in that survey study, they found that around 30%, it was just over 30% of women over the age of 40, are actually dating men who are younger than them. Many times these men are up to 15 years or more younger than the women that they're dating. And so today we're going to be talking a little bit about why men date older women, why they love to date older women. So my name is Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. If you're really serious about getting into a great relationship where you're seen and loved and valued, make sure that you go to theforeverwomanformula.com and get a free copy of my program there. So you've probably heard a lot of people say some things like men only like younger women. I've heard a lot of women kind of complain about that, like, oh, men only like younger women. Men don't like older women. Men don't like me because I'm an older woman or whatever. And it's true that a lot of men do like younger women. However, our community is filled with a whole bunch of women who are dating men who are much younger than them. There's a woman posting today who is talking about this guy she's seeing who's 11 years younger. And I feel like I see posts almost every single day about women that are dating guys who are 10, 15 years younger than them in our community. And like I said, there's a survey study that came out showing that up to around 30, 31% of women over the age of 40 are dating younger than them. So why do men date older women? So by the way, if you're here with us right now, make sure that you say hi in the chat and let us know where in the world you are right now. It's really cool to see all these women all over the world watching these videos. So one of the reasons why guys like to date older women is because there tends to be a lot less games when you're dating an older woman. A lot of guys don't want to deal with games, right? They want things that are a lot more straightforward and it can be really relieving to a guy to date a woman and not have to deal with a lot of games. And a lot of women that are older, it's not necessarily when you're younger that you always want to play games, but a lot of women that are younger, they're just kind of confused and they don't know what they're doing. And maybe there's a lot of different things going on and they're trying to pick what they want and all that kind of stuff. And to a lot of guys that it makes it feel like they have to play games with them in order to be in a relationship with them. And so a lot of guys would prefer to not play games. Another reason why men date older women is because they tend to be more confident and they tend to know what they want and know what they don't want. Like I said before, a lot of times younger women are just, they're like, so they get into the dating world and there's all these options and they don't know what's going on and all these guys want them for different things and they don't really understand what's going on and why guys want them for one thing or for another or any of that kind of stuff and they're getting all this attention. And so what ends up happening is women that when you get a little bit older, they tend to figure out what it is that they want and what they don't want and they tend to be able to pick up on the signals of what they don't want and what they do want a lot better. And so it's a lot easier for a lot of guys because they can talk to a woman and the woman's very upfront and she knows what she wants and she's not playing games and she just cuts through things and she's like, hey, this is what's going on. And for a lot of guys, it's a lot better. Another reason is because a lot of older women tend to be more grounded and realistic. So a lot of guys want women who are emotionally stable and less dramatic and they tend to get that with older women. And another reason is older women tend to be calmer and easier to have arguments with or disagreements with. Some of this can have to do when you're younger with your family and how you were kind of raised and what kind of way that you've seen or been imprinted on in regards to relationships when you're younger. And a lot of times what happens is when you get older, sometimes you take things less personally. Sometimes you just don't care as much about things anymore because it's like whatever. I don't care. This is me. This is what's going on. This is how I feel. I'm not going to take it personally. I'm not going to attack you for your beliefs and what's going on with you. We can just have a real conversation and it can be a lot more enjoyable and less painful. Another reason is that a lot of women that are older tend to know what they're doing in the bedroom. And so for a lot of guys, this can be a lot better and a lot more enjoyable and it can open up the guy to a lot of new experiences and take a lot of the confusion and frustration and a lot of other weird things out of it and it can open it up to be a lot more fun. Another one is that some men are actually physically attracted to older women more than they are to younger women. There's a guy who's a friend of mine in high school. We weren't really friends but we kind of knew each other. And after I left and then ended up coming back to my hometown at some point, it was like 10 years later or something, I ended up running into this guy and we were talking and one of the things that we ended up talking about was relationships and all that kind of stuff because that's kind of my world. And one of the things that he revealed to me was that he's always been physically attracted to my mom. And at first I was kind of weird because I've never had anybody say something like that to me and my mom's like 30 years older than this guy. And at first I was like, you know, and at the time I hadn't really kind of been in a lot of these conversations. I think I was still on the men's dating side at that time. And so for me, I was like, used to a lot of guys talking about younger women. And so I was like, is this guy messing with me? Like what's actually going on here? And he was like, no, no, no, I really am attracted to your mom. And he was actually telling me that he's in this relationship right now with this woman who's younger than him. And he was complaining about it because he's like, yeah, I feel like I have to date a woman that's younger than me because I feel like it's not acceptable and that people would get angry and that I would kind of be shunned and whatnot if I was dating this woman that was older than me at the age that I want to because he likes women that are a lot older than him. Like I said, he was attracted to my mom who's 30 years older than him. And so I thought it was kind of interesting and I thought it was something that you should probably know about because there's a lot of stuff out there. So I mean, why would I even talk about this, right? Why does this matter at all? So right now we live in kind of this war of the sexes. And as far as I can see, it's kind of getting worse right now. Like there's more and more kind of divisions that are happening. I think there's also some healing that's going on and there's some really good stuff. However, there's a lot of stuff out there that's being thrown out there, that's being said out there, that's being repeated out there, that's being put out all over the internet and thrown in everybody's faces. And that stuff is designed to hurt you. It's designed to make you feel bad about yourself. It's designed to trigger you. And so here's what my suggestion is. My suggestion is that you don't focus on all the negative stuff and instead start focusing on what it is that you want. Start focusing on things that make you feel good about yourself and actually finding some of the truths that are out there. Because if you focus on this idea, if you're older and you focus on this idea that men only want to date younger women and you're constantly thinking that you're too old to find love and all that kind of stuff, which I hear sometimes in our community, we have women in our community that are in there and they're like, oh, I'm 52 years old, do you think I'm too old to find love? And it's just really sad. It kind of breaks my heart to hear stuff like that. And the truth is no, absolutely not. And there's plenty of people that are out there dating above over 40, over 50, over 60, over 70. And a lot of the women that are out there dating are dating actually younger men. And so I think it's really important for you to make sure that you know some of this stuff and you're not kind of blinded by some of these falsities that are out there. Because if you are, what will end up happening is, number one, you'll just end up feeling bad about yourself because this is something that you don't have any control over. We're all getting older and you're getting older. And so if you're older and you're just like, oh my god, I'm never gonna find any love because men only like younger women and I'm 43 years old or whatever. And you might end up missing something that's really good right in front of you and you're just gonna feel really bad about yourself. And so are you dating a younger man? How old are you? Are you dating a younger man? If you're over 40 and you're dating a younger man, I'd love to hear about it. Put it in the chat. Let us know that you're dating somebody that's younger. I'd love to hear and see how many women in our community are dating younger men. So I am going to answer some questions. If anybody has any questions about anything, I am going to answer some questions. Again, if you're really serious about getting into a relationship where you're loved and seen and cherished by a great guy, make sure that you go to the foreverwomanformula.com. There should be a link above or below this video depending on where you are watching it from right now. So welcome everybody who's here right now. We have people from all over the world. Do-do-do. Victoria says, how about 40 years younger? I've never heard that before. That would be a new one. That would be a new one for me. So Lee says, and older women, don't get pregnant. Yeah, and I didn't mention that, but that's actually a good and a bad one, right? So depending on the way that you look at it, if you're a guy, there's some guys out there, right? There's a guy I was talking to a few weeks ago who was talking about how he was actually dating an older woman and he ended up, they ended up breaking it up not because he didn't enjoy it because he really loved it, but she was past the age that she could get pregnant and he wanted to still have children. And so it can end up being a deal breaker, right? Like, we can't ignore reality out here and pretend that things are different than the way they are. However, there's lots of good things about it and there's some drawbacks to it for men. And so depending on the guy and what's going on with him, depends on whether he'll be okay with it. And so my guess is that there's a lot of guys out there who don't date women that are older than them just because they feel like it's socially unacceptable. Like they'll be ridiculed or they'll be made fun of or their family won't accept it or if their family wants them to have kids and they're dating a woman that can't have kids anymore that could be a problem as well. From the other standpoint of she won't get pregnant so I don't have to worry about that, obviously that can be a really good thing as well. Helena says, Matt always gives the best advice. Thanks, Helena, I appreciate it. Maynot says he's 16 years younger. Yep, there you go. Lou says, I personally find younger men more attractive and energetic, but I like the stability of older guys. So I end up dating older guys with baby faces. Nice, Lou, nice. Good times, good times. So Mona says, it's my first time seeing a guy six years younger. He is 30, I'm 36, yeah. See, here we go. This is what we're talking about. This is what we are talking about. Ruth says, I find a lot of guys half my age that want to date. I'm 64 and I keep getting hit on by men in their 30s. To me, that's way too young. Yeah, I mean, it might be too young for you, right? If the guy's in his 30s and you're in your 60s, it's like, I don't know. Like, I'm, you know, I couldn't imagine what a dating somebody with that much of an age gap would be like, but I'm guessing that you would be, you would have a lot of wisdom on that guy. So Reza says, older women can listen to you and talk to you better, have the experience for giving advice to them. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Better conversations just in general. Claudia says, do you think it's long term like marriage material or just temporary dating? Well, like I said, it depends. It depends on the guy and it depends on what's important to him, right? Like, if he's a guy that, one has a family that's supportive of him, he has friends that are supportive of him and or he doesn't really care what people think because right now it's still kind of a taboo thing, right? Like it's kind of taboo for a guy to be dating a woman who's much older than he is. And so it'll probably become more and more kind of acceptable and okay and normal through our society over time. However, right now it's still kind of a weird thing and so it kind of depends on him and it could be a long term thing, right? If you are past, like we're talking about women over 40 and you're past the point of being fertile to have children and he doesn't want children and you guys have a great relationship and he's not worried about what people think and he's totally in love with you and he's like, hey, let's do this. Absolutely it can be a long term marriage type thing. Absolutely. Paul says it's about trust. One can't be with somebody who is not trustworthy. That is absolutely true. Reza says my younger guy finds our sex is outrageously great. I'm sure he does. Michelle says people online shame older women 30 and up. It's true. It's true. You get all that stuff about like the wall, right? And it's funny because sometimes we get those trolls on here and I love to just hit them back with facts, right? Because they don't hear about it. A lot of them don't even know and they don't even realize that they're trolling. They're just like, hey, yeah, women hit 30 and nobody wants you anymore. And it's like, that's not true. That's totally not true. And the facts don't say that. The facts say that there's a lot of guys that won younger guys that are dating older women and there's a lot of guys that date women that are their age as well. Obviously the women that they surveyed, around 69, 70% of them were dating men that were their age or older. So it's kind of a non-issue. Melanie says I did date a 32-year-old at 46. There you go. Got more evidence here. You guys need some evidence? Just look in the chat. Lee says I'm dating a man 14 years younger. There you go. There, there you go. Beverly says I'm 72 and my fiance is 54. See, I mean it's just, it's all over the place, right? Like people are, they're so critical of this but it's happening all over and there's reasons for it. Guys, there's a lot of guys that are like it. There's a lot of benefits to doing it. And I think that it's important that we talk about it and I think it's important, especially for women that are over the age of 40, that a lot of them that aren't in these communities that haven't seen this stuff before that haven't talked about it, that are scared, that are confused, that are really concerned with themselves, a lot of women that are beating themselves up or getting depressed or whatever because they feel like they're too old now and no guy's ever going to love them and all that kind of stuff and I think it's important that we show people that it's not too late. I think it's important that we show women that they can still have love, that it's happening all the time, it's great and that women are actually, lots of women are even dating men that are younger than them. Ginger says I'm 56 and dating a guy 10 years younger than me. Awesome, that's awesome. Reza says I find that in a younger men get along with me much better. They are outgoing and fun. Most older men are boring. That could be true, that could be true. Kristen says I'm 38 and he's 35. Flawless skin, I have always had younger men wanting to date me 12 to 16 years younger. There you go, there you go. Evidence all over the place. Jamie says hi I am dating younger guy than me right now. Karen says what is a general time to be introduced to someone's children? He hasn't dated for six years. Well it depends on the person's children. Like how old their children are. So you want to be introduced to his children or you want to introduce him to your children. If you want to introduce him to your children I would say that I would wait at least three months, maybe six months before you introduce him to your children because if you have children that are not grown yet and they're still figuring things out and I don't know what the situation is with their father but there's a lot of different things that you have to be concerned with. We had a woman in our community the other day who her husband died less than a year ago and she's dating this guy now and her daughters are very kind of angry at this new... Oh no, no, wait, wait, wait. No, it's him. His wife died a little bit less than a year ago or something like that and she was trying to meet her children and his children weren't really warming up to her yet and there's a lot of things going on there like psychologically and mentally and from a standpoint of like are you trying to replace my mom and just all kinds of different things and so you want to make sure that if your kids are like... I don't know, if your kids are... teenagers are younger, right? If your kids aren't adults yet you really want to be very careful about who you introduce them to because a lot of guys could come and go and you don't know whether you're really going to connect with a guy and what they found through study is that most people usually hide some things or they're not totally upfront about things or they're putting on their best face of who they are for the first like 60 to 90 days of being in a relationship and so if you've been with somebody for less than three months you really shouldn't be introducing them to your children yet because you don't really know this person that well yet and so my suggestion is that you just chill on that and if you're talking about him like when is a good time for him to introduce you to his children then really you just have to wait for him to be comfortable with it so I'm not sure which one you're saying here however I hope that answers your question if not you can re-ask it, Karen so Reza said most of my best relationships have all been younger than me awesome Flala Skid said I'm in my 40s always had men 20s hitting on me started dating them because there were so many but it doesn't always end well it's interesting Glory says I am 54 and he is 45 and the sex is amazing I'm sure I'm sure it is Kristen said yeah but older women don't have time to waste if they want kids so he needs to want them yeah and there's other things that you can do as well right like you can freeze your eggs and do other things there's more options especially with fertility, medicine these days there's a lot more options nowadays but it is true and I think that's something that you need to kind of figure out early on anyway in seeing a guy to make sure that it's one of those things where you see somebody and for some reason a lot of women do this where they see a guy and they kind of ignore these deal breakers with the guy and they're hoping that they just connect really well and through that connection they will kind of make this guy want what they want and I always think that's just a bad real bad idea Lee said however the man in question already have children May says what if you don't see a long term future with this person he's 16 years younger and we really connect the age difference might be an issue later I mean it's really up to you and what you're doing and what you want and what you care about I mean it's not a big deal if you're okay with that and it is a big deal if you're not okay with that and so you need to think about it and you need to have real conversations about what you want and what's going on and what he wants and make sure that you're just very clear and open and honest about this kind of stuff Sonata says I'm 50 and dating 36 there you go it's everywhere everybody's doing it everybody's doing it flower child said would you Matt date an older woman I've dated older women flawless skin says younger men always attracted to my high energy young state of mind love that even in my 50s nice it's a way to be Michelle says we are over 5 years younger and we can't see a difference Claudia says I got asked out by someone that is 42 and I'm 50 but really felt like it would waste my time would it be long term could marriage be possible of course it could be long term and of course marriage could be possible and I don't know why you'd think that it wouldn't be long term and that marriage wouldn't be possible and you've already seen somebody somebody earlier in the chat was mentioning that her fiance is a lot younger than she is right so Sarah says they have to be very mature for their age not babysitting right yeah that's what I would kind of be worried about with the one where she was talking about dating a guy who's 30 years younger that seems like you might feel like you're babysitting somebody like that's pretty young Joyce says I'm 64 dating a 55 there you go Reza says my boyfriend is 12 years younger than me but he looks 4 years older than me I'm 56 and he's 45 works out and sex is great awesome Ginger says I don't go looking for younger men then they come and find me I'll bet they do Heather says do guys have an age barrier like for me at 48 I would only date someone between 46 and 52 some do some don't it really depends on them and it really depends on you just like some women do and some women don't what I found though is that a lot of times people think that something should be different than how it is or they think that they'll like something different so they have like these arbitrary ages right they're like oh I only date a guy that's 5 years older than me or 5 years younger than me or something like that and then they meet a guy that's 7 years older than them and they really like them and they enjoy dating him and they're like oh you know what I don't care anymore there is I was at this Airbnb one time in Colorado and there's this huge Airbnb with tons of people in it and I ended up meeting this couple there and of course we started talking about relationships naturally because it's the topic that I love to talk about and everybody whenever somebody asked me what I do it's like it becomes the topic that everybody wants to talk about and so this couple right they were they'd gotten married I think it was like a couple weeks before I met them and I was asking them how they met and like what they did and they ended up meeting on this dating site and one of the things that kind of slipped out when we were talking was the guy said the guy goes yeah I lied to her when I met her I told her that I was 6 feet tall and I'm only 5 11 and what she said she's like if he would have told me that he was 5 11 and not 6 feet tall I never would have gone on a date with him and so because he lied I ended up meeting him and I fell in love and we were great together and we ended up getting married because she was like I don't want a data guy that's shorter than 6 foot tall right and so a lot of people have kind of these arbitrary things and these kind of these rules that don't make any sense and they put them in place and it's actually stopping them from finding a great person because the rules aren't that's not usually how things work right and that's why I don't like rules that are just like hey do this amount of time or that amount of time I mean there's some things out there that are actually like there's studies and research that's done about them and so those things I'll talk about like I talk about the thing where if a guy's been with you for 6 months then he knows for a fact what kind of a relationship he wants with you and those kinds of things I think are important but some of these other things like you don't hook up with a guy for 90 days right like why right like there's a reason behind it and if you don't have a reason behind it then you're just doing something to do something and that usually doesn't get most people the result that they want and so a lot of times when you say things like oh I have this age barrier so if somebody's you know more than 2 years younger than me I'm not going to date them and then you meet somebody and you really like them and you would have had a great relationship with them but you cut them off because you know they're 3 years younger than you right you don't do 3 years younger than you and so you have to think about that a little bit and make sure that you're doing things that makes sense for you and aren't stopping you from getting into something great because you're arbitrarily just putting it in place so to Jana says I'm 46 and like a guy who's 40 with 4 kids I want to be with a guy who has kids already alright Annette says I was dating someone 8 years younger and unknown to me he was dating someone 10 years younger than him at the same time and stopped seeing me well that's weird such a weird thing Kelly says I have seen a few younger men and I do not look my age but seem attracted to younger more than they are to me and they to me I seem to be attracted to younger more and they to me I am 45 but look young and feel younger Leslie says I just joined this group today so thankful so thanks for this topic my guy is 15 years younger than me I'm 60 we've never discussed the age difference it's hard to not be a bit insecure about being older and it makes sense right you're dating somebody that's younger you hear all these things from society you hear all this nonsense on the internet and you feel insecure about it and that's why I think it's important to have this conversation and I think that's why it's important and why I want to have a discussion and if you are dating somebody who is younger than you I want you to put it in the chat just so many women can see how many people are dating how many women are dating men who are younger than them it's going on a lot nowadays so you nailed it Matt younger men always told me they didn't want to date girls their age too many games insecure don't know what they want it's true it's true Angel says nice video a nice topic my dear friend thank you so much you're welcome Michelle said red pill men say they do not date women over 30 yeah I mean I wouldn't date red pill men if I were you Lee said men and women of all ages stop me on the street to ask what perfume my perfume is a wonderful scent is quite a turn on Louisa says a 22 year old guy was determined to meet me at 48 and I told him no way 22 year old son this would totally not work for me yeah I mean for some people it doesn't work right Mira said okay I'm 57 and have a 36 year old that insists he wants to date me he has children and doesn't want more children his family seems to like me awesome Nancy says I met him six weeks ago had four dates already and kissed and had a connection so we kissed on the first date recently he said we're more than friends but not friends with benefits my concern is that we don't talk on the phone only text while most of it is sexting I'm Scorpio he's Taurus we're very attracted to each other but haven't made love just wondering if this is normal can I take him seriously well I mean what you need to make sure that you do is that you know there's kind of this thing where some women are like have you had the what are we conversation yet and that's not the conversation I think that you should have I think the conversation you should have is a conversation about what he is looking for and make sure that when you end up getting physically intimate with each other that you only do it in the case that you that exclusivity is a part of the deal you know that he wants something more and that he's looking for something more and you know is sexting normal I kind of depends on what you mean by sexting I know that a lot of people do it before they end up getting in getting physically intimate with each other I think I you know I probably wouldn't do it I'd probably if I were you I'd be focusing on the emotional connection and setting up a boundary around sexting for the time being until you've developed that emotional connection so that he's not so kind of chasing that sexual experience instead of instead of pursuing and chasing kind of the emotional connection investing and and setting things up with a foundation for a real relationship instead of something that's just based on sexuality she says I love how you think it's true Nancy says he's 54 and I'm 49 Elizabeth says I'm 46 and I'm dating a 26 year old I adore him nice Macy says I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 15 but curious if I'm too young you're 13 and he's 15 you're probably too young to be on this channel right now so I would probably go somewhere else for your own sake Reza said when my younger guy doesn't know what to do with his children he turns to me for motherly advice interesting Danielle says hello Danielle Phoenix I'm 40 he's 29 absolutely clicked unfortunately he pulled away when going good came around for a minute then left on a trip for 30 days he told me in person this time at least Debbie says you are so beautiful she says where did you come from you're great Kristen says but if we are about to be 40 and want kids these younger guys need we want kids or it's too late for us that's true Allison said I dated a 32 year old at 49 didn't work so well thinking he just wanted a mommy figure I ended it Michelle says this is nourishment for women's souls that's why I like to hear A says hello from Canada I love your videos thank you I appreciate that Frank says I've been dating a guy for 2.6 years great sex and mature Carlene says my friend is 47 and I am 62 we get along very well he wants to marry me he is very stable in his life I think that's why we love one another so much maturity awesome I mean it's just it's all over the place right we've got a whole chat here just filled with women who are dating men who are younger than them if you ever have a guy or somebody on the internet post something where they go hey women when you hit your 30s men don't want you anymore if you ever hear a guy say anything like that ever again for the rest of your life here's what I want you to do I want you to take the link from this video and I want you to send it to that guy and just have him go through the entire video especially the second part where you see all of these women who are dating men who are younger than them sometimes 20s I mean there's like women dating guys that are like 20 years younger than them in this chat it's crazy I mean that's kind of young to be honest that's pretty young Reza says all my boyfriends have been younger than me by 5, 8, 10 or 12 years Wonder Woman says I just turned 34 and this now 22 year old has been trying to date me since he turned 18 I just cannot he knows what he wants girl he knows what he wants he's like I want you Allison says Lee says may I ask oh yeah she wants to know what kind of perfume Lee says could the widowers children be afraid that they lose their inheritance it's possible that's definitely a possibility too Macy says I am here because me and my boyfriend are like I don't know I guess you'd say falling apart but I also met him online please don't judge me well I wouldn't judge you for that I mean there's tons of people meeting each other online and lots of them are getting married so I wouldn't be overly concerned about that there's a lot of bad things going on online there's scams going on online all kinds of things going on online do what works for you that's my motto do what works for you Marcia says I'm 80 year old woman dating a 61 year old man who will not leave me alone no matter how I try to discourage him for 3 years yeah that's my mom's kind of a similar situation with my mom she's my mom's dating a guy who stalked her for for 3 years right now oh it's a crazy story it's a crazy story remind me to tell you sometimes Michelle says men pray on children to single mothers as well be smart yeah I mean you have to be smart no matter what right you always have to be smart that's the key to life all the time is to be smart Khaleesi says I am 39 and he is 31 and he is happy I love that he has energy like me it's awesome Reza says you should not introduce your boyfriend to your kids or family for about a year after you know it's for real he's not going to leave you yeah Shilane Shilane I've been hit on younger men and for some reason I don't bother in their 24 to 30 I'm 44 years old and I want a man to at least be 35 to 40 yeah I mean do what you want to do right there's pros and cons to all of it there's pros and cons to dating people that are younger there's pros and cons to dating people that are older there's pros and cons to dating people that are a lot younger and there's pros and cons to dating people that are not a lot younger Julie Tree says I'm 49 and I feel like I have no hope well you should read go back through this video and read all the chats and listen to all these women who are dating men who are younger and there's lots of hope there getting married to younger men I mean you know what is it that you feel like there's no hope for Julie Tree should let us know what's going on what's going on with you Julie Tree I want to know I want to know how you're feeling what's going on with you what are the thoughts going on in your head maybe we can talk about these things and like work them out figure out what's going on and give you some better thoughts and beliefs to have so Shirley Brown says I am in a relationship with a guy 38 I am 50 he is amazing mature and we enjoy each other I said Matt you are so cute with your answers no I'm not hitting on you well I appreciate it Renee says why does the age difference bother other people well I mean we've had norms right we have norms in our society and so the norm is that when you're a guy you date younger women and in our culture western culture specifically in the United States there's something weird about dating somebody that's more than a couple years 5 years younger than you and so right now a lot of those things are getting all broken up and everybody's kind of like still weird about stuff and they don't know what to do and should I date and should I not date and you know is it ok and what are my friends and family going to think you know and so cause a lot of people especially parents right a lot of parents don't care what you want they care what they want and they're very selfish about that and if you're not doing what they want you to do then they have a problem with it and you know that's just ridiculous in my opinion Kelly says no one has a right to have an opinion on someone else's life agree who cares about the age difference I agree there's always hope Tabitha's here she says mom son dynamic Coco says hello from New York love your videos well thank you I love that you love my videos it's what I love I love that you love my videos Michelle says chemistry is natural between adults Crystal says now that I'm older I find younger men interesting I'm not really into anyone my age or older I'm too active for men my age I'm 45 yeah I mean we keep hearing that right there's other women that have said that in this chat and it's just it's a that's what's happening that's what's happening what's happening these days a lot of men you know especially if they don't take care of themselves right you're a guy and you don't take care of yourself and you start hitting like 50 60 years old you're like you know I've seen some of these guys and they're just like you know falling over and stuff and so if you take care of yourself and you walk or do any kind exercise and you want somebody that's got energy and is alive and stuff and if you aren't finding that with older men that are out there then you're more likely to find it with a younger man for sure at least said I find that men my age have lots of health issues I'm not a nurse and refuse to become one exactly that's he and that's kind of the other thing that's going off of what I just said right like a lot of these guys if they're not taking care of themselves they get older and they're just a mess right if they just they were a workaholic their whole life and they're just not taking care of their body they're not taking care of their emotional health they're not taking care of of their you know how they're feeling about themselves and any of that kind of stuff and they might just be a total mess by the time you get to him he says I'm 53 I've dated guys in their 30s but I'm saying no to the 19 year old this is this is hilarious I've never heard this stuff before like I thought it was funny I you know I thought it was interesting the whole like 5 10 years but when you start hitting like 20 25 years younger than you I don't know I don't know what is going on here I mean okay you know Tabitha was talking about the months mom son dynamic I don't know I don't know if you're into that if you're into that you know I'm not there's no judgment here no judgment here it's kind of the first time I've heard about it flawless skin says our rules can hold us back from the perfect person exactly there are real deal breakers but don't sweat the small stuff you could be preventing yourself from meeting the man of your dreams flawless skin you are amazing you that that is exactly what I'm talking about thank you for being here and reiterating exactly that point it's very important Danielle says I'm too on the go and active guys in my usual range older so boring I have found myself to be a full blown Cougar at least you at least you're embracing it and owning it at least says Renee if you and your younger man are looking extremely in love and being affectionate in public everybody will find you both extremely gorgeous all that's cute macy says you know there's always other ways to do things women who say that it's wrong to have a guy younger than them technically there is no wrong way to date or have a relationship I know that's what I'm saying that's what I'm saying I'm saying the same thing over here that you are saying she'll says thank you macy says this is also known as being fixed mindset that's right macy that's right what is that Renee Renee Brown my butchering her name fitness girl says I've lied about my age in a dating app I was just trying the app for fun okay Debbie says thank to you Matt you're welcome to you Debbie Tracy says they want a mommy it's possible Judy says I'm 57 and date guys in their 40s love it Jennifer says age is a number that is what I hear a lot I'm 55 and dating a man 48 but what draws men to older women makes me wonder well a lot of men like I was talking about earlier a lot of men are attracted like actually attracted more to women who are older than them sometimes a lot older than them and so it's it's one of those things like you know when I was growing up I heard a lot of things that were bad about men right like I was constantly hearing stuff that was like you know doubting on men and men are gross and men are all these things I remember when I was like like 1819 and I first kind of got into the real world and the dating scene and I remember being like why would women be attracted to men at all like men are gross like because I would look at men and I'm not attracted to men and so I'd look at men and be like men are disgusting right like why are women into them and then I'd hear women talk about how men are disgusting you know and and it kind of like filled my head with that for a while and it it took some time for me to break some of those thoughts and belief patterns and it's one of those things if you do have thoughts and belief patterns like that I think it's worth it to those are and kind of shift some of those thoughts and belief patterns there's a live stream that I did recently it was called something like 15 affirmations to raise your value in a man's eyes and I would go over that one and I would take a look at that and I would take some of those affirmations that I give and I would kind of adjust some of those for yourself around the age thing Julie says hi I have just found this group well welcome to our group we are so happy to have you Michelle says reputation is so important it is important fitness girl says I've lied about my age in app what should I do I'm online dating someone younger than me with 40 years not a huge difference but a lie is a lie it's true what should I do I'm in my early 30s well you should be honest with them sit them down and you should just be like look I screwed up and I have to come clean about it because I just feel really bad about it and I lied I lied to you just be like straight up I lied to you and I just want to let you know and you know however you take it you take it and here's the deal I'm not whatever age you said you were I'm actually this age and just let him say and do whatever he's going to say and do and if he's really angry about it he'll let you know and if he doesn't care then he'll let you know that too but you gotta do it you gotta tell him you gotta let him know Sophia says thank you for this video my ex is 15 years younger than me but we couldn't feel the difference from a connection side it seemed he often said still the social pressure was too much for him see just talking about that I was mid 30s him early 20s and he broke up with me by then I already really cared about him and it's hard not to feel unworthy due to my age although I am well educated and successful and I know it's not true but it's still hard just to say to other women wrestling with the age thing you are not alone again thank you for this topic you are welcome and I am happy that you're here and I'm happy that you mentioned that and so thank you for contributing that to the group Melissa says older women can't date older men that is that's definitely not true I mean there's definitely some older women dating older men so pretty feisty says this is enlightening I've always been hit on by men of all ages including 20s I'm 62 I never understood before this that they may actually be sincere yes they may actually be sincere it's not just they're not just messing with you I mean you know like some of them might want something that you don't want to give them but at the same time there's a lot of guys that are very attracted to women that are much older than them Jillian said four of my brothers have been five plus years younger not by design they approached me oh whoops brothers sorry four of my boyfriends have been five plus years younger not by design they approached me and things worked out I'm in my current relationship I'm the younger one age is nothing but a number there you go Jasmine says most of my partners have been younger than me I feel like the younger ones like me more most of them are in their 20s and I am in my 30s Macy says hey I may be young but that don't mean I don't know much laugh out loud I'm actually smarter than the average seventh grader or you're a seventh grader what and get told that I sound like I'm some sort of scientist or something Macy you shouldn't be on this channel right now if you're a seventh grader go to another channel wait wait until you're 18 before you come back to my channel please Melissa says I am 68 and men my age are aging faster I have to go for the younger there you go Kelly says just got here I'm almost 50 younger men are attentive men my own age are divorced and non-committal because of that I've experienced both I'm sure that you have Lisa great suggestion send them this link yes again if you run into people that are trying to ages um that make any sense that didn't make sense if you get guys out there online who are talking about how women that are older can't date anymore after they hit 35 or whatever they say to you just send them this video let them see the truth Michelle says you're amazing thank you Mira says love how you build our confidence you know what I'm all about building your confidence Michelle says femininity Carlene says why do younger men love older women already I talked about that already you'll have to go and watch the video from the beginning watch the video from the beginning please Macy says anyways I'm going to go since I please please go shouldn't be here unless you're 18 but thank you for being around yeah come back come back in the future shell says you look handsome well thank you Kenny says thank you flower child I'm young and hard Julie says I am open minded and it will just depend on the guy and myself in case by case situation Aya says hello from Japan love your videos I've been dating a 28 guy for more than a month now and he's been treating me pretty well I'm 36 he made it clear he wants a serious relationship there you go Megan says hi Matt from Philadelphia which branch of the military were you in I was in the Navy she says thank you for your service you are absolutely welcome Shirley says Matthew this topic is awesome I'm glad you like it Michelle says women live longer than men this is true it says I want to know how I can lead this connection to marriage within six months to one year from now here's what I suggest you do Aya go to the forever woman formula dot com there's a link above or below this video depending on where you're watching it from and get my program for free sign up join our community and go through the program and do what I talk about in the program that is my suggestion Danielle says I'm not dating a guy that could be young enough to be my son there you go Tammy said men love dating older women what lifetime is this I know every man I've ever talked to says women are basically nobody after 40 I hate me well and that's why I'm talking about this Tammy because it's important that you know that there's a lot of guys out there that want to date women that are older and not only that you know when you're older it's not a big deal because there's plenty of people out there that you can date and that if you are in the mindset of being in the space where you are looking down on yourself because you're you're older then you're just you're going to end up having problems when you do date somebody who's great because you're not going to see it when they're there and you're going to think it's just a joke and you're going to think they're messing with you or you're going to think that you know it's nothing or that they're not really hitting on you or whatever right and so you need to reshape your thoughts and you need to reshape your belief systems so that when you're in a situation where you see a great guy you're open to it and you're welcoming it and you receive his energy so Kelly says I was told today that once you hit 50 you're a super cougar well happy birthday next month so Sharon says how do I restart this video I missed the beginning well you'll have to wait until we're done Laurie says what to do with a man 25 years younger than me that asked me for money all the time from a different country been talking face time all the time to come here soon thinking the age I'm scared of I'm 50 but younger man the only one talking to me well stop talking to him right and don't give anybody money don't do anything that has to do with money and go out and start dating other people and get yourself out there get on dating websites I'm gonna do a video here soon about how to meet good men and so you should watch that one and first thing that you should do is stop talking to this guy if any guy asks you for money ever don't do it just don't do it especially if you aren't in a relationship a year plus long and even then you still shouldn't do it he should be figuring his own stuff out and he should be figuring out how to get to you if he wants to get to you that's what should happen you shouldn't be paying for a man to come over to see you and it could be a scam so make sure you're not getting in a scam okay so you know the reason I created this video and I wanted to do this video on this topic is because I wanted a lot of women that are out there to see all of the other women who are over 40 who are dating younger men and give you hope and give you confidence and give you assurance that things aren't over for you there's a lot of women that kind of get in this and there's a lot of people out there saying things that are really hurtful and I want you to understand that you're not alone there's hope and that you have a you can have a great relationship you can find love no matter what age you are and it doesn't have to be with an older man it can be with a younger man because there's a lot of younger men like I said at the beginning the survey that they did they found that 31% of the women that they surveyed over the age of 40 were dating men who are younger than them and so just remember that it's possible for you and not to give up and to you know to focus on what it is that you want and to remember who it is and remember that you're a woman of value and remember that you're powerful and amazing and engaging and beautiful you know in your own right and so really that's all I wanted to say today thank you for being here with me again if you are really you really want to be in a relationship where you're loved and seen and cherished by a great guy make sure that you go to the foreverwomanformula.com and go get my program there thank you so much everyone for being here with me my goal is to help empower you and give you the tools necessary so that you can create a relationship that you want to have with an amazing man so thank you so much for being here and I will speak to you again