 So my name is Travis. I am in the military I'm a lieutenant commander in the United States Coast Guard, and I'm also a writer and a consultant on my own website called bit thinking calm I'm currently for deployed to the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia for a year the best job of my career actually and I Was fortunate to take the art of charm from two weeks before I came into country The first day was pretty difficult especially when we had to have our first video day day one But there are a couple of things that I got in the first day that really really helped me out The two things are the two key key notes throughout the experience or that I see it that are the ideas of having fun and F stuff up so So Johnny You know Johnny's value in belief or structuring and value and destruction or a belief destruction I always get those two phrases mixed up. That was by far the best and you know, you know him going through The art of possibility which I read afterwards Really gets people to change perspective The idea of how it's so easy to ask a negative question about yourself And you get used to asking that negative question that becomes reality versus asking a positive question So if I say, you know, why am I such a bad leader? That may not be the best question because it reinforces negative beliefs versus if I say Why am I the one that my service has looked forward to go to the desert to build this organization? I get to build from scratch it changes Both the experiences I've had In other countries and it changes how I show up as a leader the saturday night at Hemingway's Was the most amazing experience ever because we went in and we had our energy our energy was a little too high and Approach anxiety is still kind of big for me Like approach anxiety, you know, get over that first hurdle is still something I have to work through. I know that But there are guys on the team In our group the team who were, you know, just 100 percent over approach anxiety and just the way we operated that entire night Was incredible and a lot of people think that artichoke they hear about dating pickups Not by dating pickups and I'm saying that I'm not being scripted behind me. Right. It's really by being The most resonant and the most honest and full of yourself in the most positive way possible that you can be When the door woman Compliment you on the style that you have just by presence that you have That starts everything when you go into we went to Hemingway's we posted up on a corner on a dance corner You know Nate met One of the bartenders wives And they hit it off really well the bartenders have hit it off really well We had people that were coming up to the dance with just because of who we were You know, I'm trained shots with serious xm personalities I everyone went back. I got hungry so I went to the burger joint next to the apartment and I crashed a bachelorette party a six-top bachelorette party by themselves In a corner about 3 30 in the morning. We had the both amazing conversations. There's nothing sexual. There was nothing There's nothing seedy about it. A couple other guys came over. We waved them off. It was just it was cool And it was really I would not have been that way monday like I was saturday night Yes, I couldn't have walked up to random people on my own. I couldn't have Overcome my approach anxiety on my own. I couldn't have figured out For me what it means to be a true friend To the people I know