 Everything about how things in life operate kind of like the gears in a big machine, right? The the the gears affect one another and one is doing something it affects something else and the butterfly effect It's kind of the same thing right a butterfly flaps its wings in Taiwan and you end up with a hurricane in Haiti right across the world And everything is sort of being interconnected in some way the same thing is true inside of us in many ways and in Our minds and with ourself and and so I want to talk a little bit in this video about the self-fulfilling Prophecy the idea of a self-fulfilling prophecy and And what we do in one area affects something else in effects, you know has a ripple effect in some ways That's what the self-fulfilling prophecy says. So let's take a look at it. What do we mean? First of all, what's a self-fulfilling prophecy? Let's start there So the self-fulfilling prophecy starts with an attitude We have different attitudes about things and feelings about things and expectations So our attitude then though will affect in many ways our behavior Right our attitude leads to a particular behavior if we have a good attitude about something It's going to cause us to act one way if we have a bad attitude about it. It's going to affect cause us to Behave in a different way right so our attitude affects our behavior and then our behaviors then again That's kind of domino effect to the butterfly effect our behavior then It can impact the outcome of a situation right so our attitude affects the way that we behave in a particular situation And then that that behavior will affect in some ways the outcome potentially, right? Let's so let's talk about what we mean first of all Let's set the stage. Let's say you get invited to a party. Yeah, you get invited to a party, right? Everybody likes to go to a party and you start thinking about this party and you know these people You know this person and so you're you're thinking to yourself Gosh, you know, should I go to this party? Should I not go to this party? I want to go to this party But you know when I go to go to parties at this place when they have a party They always have Diet Pepsi to drink and I hate diet Pepsi and it's always country music from start to finish Oh my gosh, it's all country music and diet Pepsi And I guess I'll go but but this party's never gonna be very good Because it's all gonna be diet peps in country music and it's gonna be terrible party. So whatever I'll go anyway I have to go I guess so so you go and you end up that guy on the couch or that person on the couch He just looks like they're having a miserable time They're snacking on stuff and and of course they get there It's all diet peps in country music. So you're having a miserable time and and then afterwards you say to your friend I told you that I was gonna be miserable this whole time because of the diet peps in country music I didn't want to go anyway. I'm shouldn't have gone. It shouldn't gone Should have known better but in what way I mean who wants to be at that party and talk to the person who's sitting on the couch Let's be miserable, right? So no wonder nobody came up and talked to you your attitude I factored your behavior which in turn had some impact at least on the outcome in that situation, right? people avoided you because you were the miserable and Doofus on the couch, right? So All because of that so But you know next time you think about it again You think it over and you think there's diet peps in this country music, but you know I can live with that I really want to go see my friends and so your attitude is different this time you're going on So you you think it's gonna be a lot of fun this time. So you go and you have fun You know you have fun. It's amazing how your attitude affects your behavior You don't sit on the couch moping you go out and you talk to people and you enjoy people and you play games And you do stuff because when you get there you see the diet peps in the country music And you think yeah, who cares? Let's have a good time anyway, right? Your attitude that affects your behavior which can then affect your outcome It's kind of a silly example, but but let's let's look at another one here Let's let's think about a job interview You find out you get a job interview and you go to a friend and you say You say to your friend. I have an interview at this at the place where you work It's for this job. What do you think and they say? I don't know It's you're not really that qualified and they've got somebody in-house. They're really looking out for that You know good luck, but I don't it's probably don't get your hopes up It's probably not gonna work out so when you go to the interview You're like oh, this is gonna not be very good So you don't bother putting a lot of effort into it And you know you kind of your attitude then your negative attitude affects your behavior going into it and And that in turn could affect the outcome right if people you know when you're interviewing Nobody's gonna want to hire somebody who doesn't look like they want to or it looks like they don't want to be there And doesn't look like they're interested in the job and so forth because you've already decided you're not gonna get it As opposed to you know your friend says oh, yeah, that'll be great You'll be great for that job or or you and your own mind decide this is this is the job I'm gonna be good at I'm gonna my attitude is gonna be good for this And you you pump yourself up and you go in you have energy and you have a right answers And you you're excited about the position and things and then then you may have a better chance of the job Not it doesn't guarantee your job. I'm not saying it's gonna manifest itself But but you're putting yourself in a better position right for a different outcome your attitude affects your behavior Which in turn affects potentially the outcome in that situation? And that's in essence a self-fulfilling prophecy. That's that's really what we're talking about There are really two types of self-fulfilling prophecies one is self-imposed It's one that we kind of create in our own minds and you know We do this all the time We let our mind run away with this in one direction or the other positively or negatively through that self-talk Self-talk really is a determining factor in the self-fulfilling prophecy So we have these self-imposed ones that where just by ourselves We developed a particular attitude about something and then that affects our behavior and potentially the outcome We can do that all on our own positively or negatively right we can get in this negative kind of self-talk spiral That just brings us down and affects our behavior in that way or we can you know Be conscientious of of having positive self-talk and building our self up and and and having a positive self-imposed Self-fulfilling prophecy as well the other type of self-fulfilling prophecy is one that's imposed kind of by others and meaning that that Somebody like it like when you went to your friend and they gave you that input about I don't think that's gonna go very well for you Or yeah, that's gonna be great That can plant a seed in our mind that begins that self-fulfilling prophecy as well It can come from from outside of us and come from others Really the key is kind of breaking the cycle with that that self-talk It's recognizing that we control our self-talk again It's not that we can manifest these things positively all the time but we can put ourselves in a better position much of the time by breaking the cycle of negative self-talk and engaging in positive reinforcement and visualization and really driving our self-talk in that kind of positive way if you have any questions about about Self-fulfilling prophecies or anything else related to the self. Please feel free to email me I'd love to chat with you via email and and discuss anything related to the cell for communication further in the meantime I hope that you will be conscientious of your self-talk and the way that it impacts Our self-fulfilling I can impact the self-fulfilling prophecy for better or for worse