 Can I make 40 here? So there was this medieval Jewish philosopher, Maimonides called the Rambam who had the idea that we can tune in to God, that there are certain select, you know, highly elevated thinkers who can tune in to the divine and that God reaches out to those who reach out to him. And so I like the idea that there are transmitters in the universe, right? And we can tune in to God, if we want to. We can tune in to radio station K-G-O-D, or we can tune in to radio session K-L-O-V-E, right? There's love that's transmitting in the world, there's love that's broadcasting in the love that's broadcasting in the world, and we can tune in to it. Like there are channels broadcasting of gratitude in the world that we can tune in to. There are channels broadcasting beauty in the world. We can tune in to those channels. We can tune in to the divine. We can tune in to compassion, right? There are transmitters of love and compassion of the divine, of that which is holy and spiritual. So one definition of spirituality that I really like is spirituality is that good feeling you get when you help somebody else. So many of us stay tuned into rage, so much of my life like tuned into resentment, so much of my life tuned into frustration, like why aren't I getting what I deserve? Yeah, take the U-line pill. What's the U-line pill? So we get to choose like what channels we tune in to here. So we can tune in to the channel of gratitude. Like when we're in the mood of gratitude, we can just notice everything that we can be grateful for. Like I'm grateful for the opportunity to talk to my friend Ricardo right now while I'm talking to my phone. I'm grateful for the opportunity to share my ideas with anyone in the world who wants to tune in. I'm grateful that I just have to hit a few buttons and boom, I'm live. And I'm grateful for the delicious strawberry banana protein drink that I started my day with. Grateful for this new supplement that I take at night to think how we get about a night's sleep. And so when we're in a mood of gratitude, then we notice there are things to be grateful for. I'm grateful that Japan is my president instead of disavowed. But I mean, even if you're a Trump supporter, you can be grateful that we have a president who's less frantic and frenetic and who isn't always trying to dial up the outrage. Even if you're a Trump supporter like I am, I mean, there are lots of things that I find that can be grateful for with Joe Biden. And like if we're happy, we just notice things in the world that reinforce our happiness. Like our mood has such a profound effect on what we notice in the world. And so I found I have to make, you know, a deliberate effort to tune in to certain certain frequencies in the universe. Because if I don't watch out, I'll just tune in to rage, right? That seems to be the dominant mood on the right since the 2020 election rage. And if you go on right wing Twitter, there are all these things that you can get outraged about. And it's like rage porn, you can tune in to Tucker and Tucker does a lot of good work, but also much of it is just rage porn. So like just all these reasons to get more and more enraged. And I don't think that's life that works. Like I prefer to tune in to reasons to be happy reasons to be grateful reasons to be optimistic reasons to find common common values, common activities, common perspectives or common ground with the people around you. Like it really easy to just get ticked off with people. And it's inevitable if you have people in your life that you're going to find lots of reasons to get angry. But you can tune in to channels where you look to magnify that which you have in common with people that you may have to interact with. You can tune in to channels of love. Like you love your job or you love the food that you eat. You love your church or your synagogue. You love the people in your life. You love your hobbies. You love these books that you've got lined up to read. You love learning new things. You love the simulating exchange of email that you just had with a friend. And like tuning in to that vibration, to that broadcast channel. Like choosing to make that, the channel that's operating in your mind, such a happier way to go through life. So there is grace in the world. I'm sounding like a Christian now. But like even in the midst of rage sometimes we'll get a little bit of perspective. So Fred Luskin before he Stanford professor, a Stanford professor of psychology before he embarked on doing his doctrine, I think in forgiveness. He was very hurt by a friend who he felt had betrayed him. And he was really whining about it. And finally his wife said, this is what I signed up for. I didn't sign up to be married to a guy who's so filled with anger and rage. And one day she sends him to the supermarket and he doesn't want to go. He's mad. And he said, well, what can I go to this other supermarket, which is closer? And she says, no, I want you to go to this particular supermarket because there's an item there that only the supermarket has. So it's Christmas time. He goes to the supermarket. He has to park a long way away. He goes into the Safeway and goes look for the item. And it's not there. And he's just about to become engulfed in a tsunami of rage and resentment. And then he gets a moment of grace. Like he looks around Safeway and just sees like the 12 million items that you can buy. And he feels such a sense of abundance. And it was like a moment of grace. Like sometimes we can be going down a railway track of rage and resentment. And then we can look out the window and we can see something and see something beautiful. And have that moment of grace where we get off the railroad track of rage and appreciate that, which is beautiful because we can find channels that reinforce our capacity for awe, our capacity for holiness, our capacity for God, for our capacity for spirituality, our capacity for kindness, for love, for compassion, for forgiveness. And we have to make a little bit of an effort, though, to tune into these channels. Look at the window and see a half naked woman jogging in Beverly Hills. True beauty. Right. So that's an example. So depending on what level of recovery I'm at. So with regard to my sex and love addiction, I can look out the window and notice a beautiful woman jogging along. And it's just like looking at a beautiful sunset. You know, just how beautiful. And then I can look out the window if I'm at, say, a lower level of recovery. And I start thinking that, that thing that is jogging by, if I could just possess that in certain ways, that would fill the hole in my soul. That would make life worth living. That would mean that I was a real man. That would be the triumph over everyone who's ever mocked me. This would be my ultimate redemption. I can find my redemption inside of her. And so that second way, yeah, it feels false. So then like if I go down that track and start thinking, ah, I can find meaning and purpose in life by filling up that woman. I don't have to berate myself for that. I can see, okay, what is it that my soul is trying to tell me right now? Like, what is it that I'm trying to find in that woman's butt that I can perhaps better find in God? Like, what is that, that desire for connection? That obviously my desire for connection and for wholeness and for feeling alive has become warped so that all my frustrations are just boiling down to I have to possess that particular woman. And I can think about, okay, what are healthier ways that I can express that? What are ways that I can say triumph in my day? Something that I can do that I have control over. So I have control over everything that I say right now. Like, I can take this talk in any direction. And so I can assert control and I can send this video down a particular direction that I want to go in. And so I have no power over that woman. I may not be in a circumstance or it may not be an appropriate relationship for me. But there are things that I can take control of. Like, I can write a book, I can write a blog post, I can read a book, I can volunteer, I can sponsor people in my various 12-step programs. There are things I can do to take control and to connect. Because I know that when I connect my desperate yearning to possess some woman I don't even know, it's not nearly as intense. When I'm feeling connected with other people, my desperate yearning for fame is, you know, it's not nearly as intense. When I'm connected with other people, my tendencies towards rage and resentment, they diminish. Okay, I feel less need for attention seeking, for shocking people, for offending people. I don't need to do anything bizarre or extreme to grab attention when I feel connected with someone who I value. So I like this idea that there are broadcast channels of love in the world. We can tune into them. There are broadcast channels of compassion in the world that we can tune into. There are broadcast channels of the divine, of spirituality, of the transcendent that we can tune into. We just have to make a bit of an effort. Sometimes we have to situate ourselves in particular places. You're not going to be after, yeah, these recumbent streams always remind me of Andy Nourke. So I arrange my room so that it brings out the transcendent. Like I have all these posters of Jerusalem and of the wall. And I don't have posters of women in bikinis or guns or anything that's going to bring me down. So you're not going to access God nearly as easily at a bar or while you're watching some completely secular and hedonistic entertainment. So to tune into these higher channels, I have to make some changes. I have to put myself sometimes in particular places, to put myself in a particular mood through prayer, meditation, listening to a particular type of music, reading certain things, listening to certain talks, getting on certain meetings, 12-step meetings, phone meetings. I have to be rigorous about the type of people that I allow into my life. But there are these channels broadcasting out there in the universe. There are channels of grace and of love and of recovery. Clever, you're saying that Luke might have infected himself by engaging with Andy Nourke. Yeah, so it's so interesting that we both came away and, you know, I both came away from the exchange like even more reinforced in our world views. So yeah, there are people that you can engage with who will bring out your melancholy, who will bring out your craziness. Like you can be a secure person, but you can bring one person into your life and you can start becoming insecure. You can start becoming crazy. Or you can start becoming more melancholy. You can start becoming depressed. You might find your brain slowing down when you're interacting with certain persons. You might find yourself getting ticked off. So you have to be really careful. Like there are certain people that I hear on 12-step meetings and I just take my headphones out or I just turn down because they're just so sunk in their depression that it doesn't serve me to have them in their lives. There are people who call me and I do not return their calls because I want to stay tuned in to these channels of love, grace, transcendence. Bye-bye.