 Why marriage? Why so much emphasis? What's the secret of marriage? What's the benefit of marriage? You need to know. And you, the one who is aspiring to get married, get this benefit and objectives on your fingertips. And those of us who are married, let's go and ask ourselves whether we have achieved it or not. The first benefit is to hold the hand of each other to Allah swt. Through my marriage, I need to know Allah and get closer to Him. You see today, the moment you get married, they hardly go to mosque. This is really disturbing. It disturbs me as a youth. Because I contract so many marriages. In a year maybe 50 more. It's disturbing. So that made me to understand. No, no, no. People have not yet understood what marriage is all about. If I'm a weak in my abada and I get married, that marriage should take me to Allah. But we married. What is in our mind only outing, outing, outing? Where do we go for holidays this time? You never hear them planning when are we going to start going to the mosque every day or every Friday? You'll not see people discussing that. You'll not see people discussing which book we have to read in this month as family. You'll not see families talking about now how many verses of Quran we have to understand at Afsir. No, no, no, no. Where are we going for holidays this summer? Where are we going? Last week we went to this restaurant. These are trivial issues. These are secondary issues. Umur faanawi. Umur e tebari. Umur hakegi. So therefore number one, marriage has to take me to Allah swt. Hence you find the Rwaya of Ameera al-Mu'mineen in Fatima al-Sahara. When Imam Ameer got to marry to Bibi Fatima al-Hassalaam, Rasulullah visited Ameera al-Mu'mineen. And he asked him how is your wife? What did Imam Ali say? Naimala awli alata'a. Allahu akwa. Naimala awli alata'a. Blessing be on an assistant to be obedient to Allah. Meaning Fatima al-Sahara al-Hassalaam, in that one night she was a great pillar of assistance to Ameera al-Mu'mineen to be more obedient to Allah. That's number one. That's why we get married. Because I know I'm weak. I may not be able to wake up for Fajr Salah. I may be lazy for my Salah. But I know my wife will remind me. I may be lazy in wearing my hijab. I know my husband will remind me today. Husband tells their wife, I don't want you to wear that hijab. Don't go out with it. I want you to look presentable. So it means we have not understood islamic teachings and principles about matasna. Number two philosophy and benefit of marriage is that it was so cool nafsi, inner peace and tranquility. Because when you are alone, and I know brothers who are sitting here and sisters who are alone, they know what I'm going to talk about. Because I'm also from there. I've been alone sometimes. Not anymore insha Allah. When you are alone, there are things sometimes you want to confide with someone. You look at here my father, my mom, my sister. Okay, these are very close to me. Can I confide with them? No. Why? Because when the time is up, I'll go to my bed alone. They will all go to their bed. The only one is your wife and your husband. All these people sitting next to you find these are friends, they argue, they spend the whole night with you. Later on everybody will go. The same house with your father and mom. This one will go to his bed, that one will go to his room, that one. So therefore when islam says which is Quran, the second philosophy of marriage is to give you inner peace and tranquility. Because whatever you have as a problem either of personal stress or social stress or political stress or sometimes religious stress although I don't believe in that type of stress. When you get back home to your wife and your husband the moment you start confiding with the person you find peace, that is one pillar of marriage. You able to confide with her what you cannot even confide with your father or your mom. There are things you cannot just tell your father and there are things you cannot just tell your mom or even your sister how close you are to one another. But your wife is so therefore Quran in suratumum so that you dwell in them so that you obtain peace and tranquility. So that is the second philosophy of marriage. It brings peace. It brings tranquility. It brings comfort. It makes you live your life in ease. No stress. Whoever is married and is stressed then there is something wrong in that marriage I guarantee you. What lie? Married with stress then it's not a proper marriage. There is something wrong with that. You cannot be married and you are worried again. That's number two. Benefit of marriage. Number three secret of marriage. Sense of responsibility. You see if you are alone you may think you are very responsible but ask those who are married. It's a great deal of responsibility and I'm not talking of only monetary responsibility how to make marriage work better. The wife is thinking about it. The husband is thinking about it. What do I do to make him happy? What do I do to make him happy? It's a sense of responsibility and when you come to the monetary fold also when I have money before I spend itink twice so marriage brings about sense of responsibility. Of course when children are there that's the different ball game. But the two of you now you are alone you may think I'm very responsible I'm working I'm serving my money I plan my year lovely excellently ask those who are married they will tell you. That sense of responsibility within marriage you cannot find it anywhere. So the third benefit is that there is a sense of responsibility. The fourth secret and benefit of marriage is what it brings to order in the community. Things are not done or handled hapazadly in chaotic way. Therefore as Rula mentioned but I'm not saying all those who are not married are like that. The worst of you are those who are single. Of course not every single because there are those who are married and those who are not married they are the worst. But then it brings to order in the community things are placed in order because there is marriage he is married, she is married and the young ones are looking up to them they are their role models they see them loving, caring friendly in their marita relationship they are also expecting to get married and the fourth benefit of marriage Allah mentioned it fourth and fifth naturally in san you need someone to love you naturally you cannot just say I live my life without somebody love me you need somebody to love you here and there and there is no better person to do that than your wife and husband I promise you Allah said father you love me I know mom you love me so much I know but my wife my husband is a different model so that mawadda it comes in marriage and of course to ahalilbayt alihimu salam as Quran mentioned you need mawadda you need somebody to love you and to demonstrate that love to you alone with you and you need to show that again naturally you need a heart that you know when you pour something it stays there that is mawadda and then the last one says the fifth one is called rahma mawadda two sided I need it she need it but later on in the marriage there may be not to mawadda it may be rahma what is rahma one person is not doing well but the other person is handling the person it's not losing his or her cool he's at fault but I won't say because of his fault I'm going to reject him and throw him she's at fault I'm not going to say because of her fault I'm going to throw her I hold her I keep her she's my wife no problem these are the benefit of marriage and then of course another one Quran mentioned they are your garments and you are the garments what does it mean they are your protective measure and you are their protective measure that's the benefit of marriage wherever you are you represent your wife wherever she is she represent you she is overprotective of you and if you are wrong later on when you are alone she is able to tell you that's the benefit of marriage in other words you need somebody to plan your life wait you need somebody to hold each other's hand hold each other's hand and plan it together and build civilization like the Fathumata Zahara build civilization and today all of us are benefiting from the civilization established by Fathumata Zahara and Amirul Maumini