 Hi, this is Mitch Mitchell, and as you can tell I'm in a hotel room again. I got the same kind of looking thing behind me I can never tell angles though because I had a swore when I've done the videos that the TV is actually well my right hand is over here, so it is I always thought it showed over here, and I want to show you my new Fitbit bracelet, which is red Red is my favorite color. I'm wearing red today as well this came and This is gonna help me because something I haven't mentioned before is that every once in a while these bad boys fall off I don't know why maybe it's not clicked on tight enough or whatever and the black one I was just always it was hard to see other people were finding it one time. It was falling off in the car I saw it then but every other time someone else saw it and if they hadn't I'd have just been walking off without it And at a hundred bucks a shot. No, I don't want to lose this at all. So the red I will find I will see it It's easy enough, and I love red. Yeah, I know some guys aren't gonna go around wearing a little red bracelet Whatever this stuff is made out of but I don't care red is my favorite color, and I'm gonna do it But that's not what today's video is about today's video is going to talk about motives personal motives times when you know or You see that someone else's motives just aren't pure and you almost hate to say that because you wonder Well, what is purity actually supposed to mean? Well, I've always talked about my morals I have three basic things that I believe should be the core for almost everything there's a bunch of others also, but these are my main three which are loyalty trustworthiness and honesty and I believe if you start with that everything else kind of falls in place now Yeah, there are times where you know you might have to have a modification for instance I think loyalty is a two-way street if I'm loyal to you, but you do something that I Definitely can't support and you know I'm not gonna support like well child abuse Spousal abuse or something like that, or you killed someone just because you got mad. I'm sorry I will be loyal to a certain extent, but I'm not gonna back you up on any of that kind of stuff If you actually came to me and asked me to lie for you I'm not gonna be loyal to you because you're putting me in that kind of position That's not what loyalty means trustworthiness and honesty are those other two things you do something wrong you own up to it now sometimes you do something wrong in the course of trying to do something right for someone else and That happens and the same with you know the trustworthiness Sometimes for instance if you're in a leadership position, which y'all know I talk about leadership on my other channel And I you know do leadership, you know every once in a while your trustworthiness has to go to the employer It just does especially if you're in a leadership position. So you sometimes can't tell all the truth I've been in that position, but you know, I've always said I can't say it I'm not gonna lie to people so I don't lie, but I will say I can't tell you anything right now Yes, that may give something away in a way that may you know not necessarily be Totally pure on the other side, but I think you have to know where your moral base is You have to draw your line and you have to decide who the people are that you need to show the most loyalty to now Having said that we're gonna talk about motives because I see some things here and there I'm not gonna get into any specific details certainly not right now, but I see some things that are Disturbing and the thing is they're so blatant that I can't believe the people who are doing them are missing it they they have to know and You know You just get into this place where you say how can you be so stupid? How can you not think that so-and-so isn't gonna notice it or that the rest of us don't know it? So I've got seven things that I'm gonna point out and y'all let me know if anyone's ever watching any of these videos By the way, let me know what you think about these things in determining if someone's motives appear Actually check yourself if you're in a leadership position or if you find that sometimes a lot of people aren't responding to you in The ways you think they should or you hope they should Maybe these are issue some of you have so here we go Number one when you're stumbling all over your words when you get into that spot where you're It looked like you're trying to find the right words to say all the time You know if you're looking not to hurt someone's feelings That's almost expected, but if everything you're saying if you're caught on something and you're well I I you know, uh, well, you know what you're stumbling over your words Number two when you can't look people in the eye This one is the strangest thing in the world where you know that someone has just done something wrong and you call them on it Or someone else calls them on it and they can't look you in the face. They just can't you know That's just the epitome of sneakiness But that just shows you their motives aren't right number three when they're making stuff up It's unbelievable how people come up with these things that they invent in their own minds And they tell other people this without thinking that some of those people might like you better than them And they're gonna tell you what they said Why would you have to make stuff up if someone is bad if someone is a bad person or someone is a bad employee? Or someone just does all kind of bad stuff There's no sense in making things up about them if someone is good and someone works well and someone is appreciative, but everyone else Why make up bad stuff about them? Are you really that jealous? Are you really that insecure about yourself? Please? But yeah, I see that all the time number four when you're claiming credit for what for work or things that other people did and They know it One of my biggest grabs about some leaders is that they won't share or they won't let someone else have the glory because they're Afraid that if they let someone else have the glory that it's gonna make them look bad, you know in my field of Healthcare finance for instance one of the things that's very strange is that there's a lot of people who I call during my marketing calls who don't want to meet me and You know, I'm in that weird position because I'm one of the few minorities who does what I do and Your first thought that you always hope isn't true is okay. Are they doing this because I'm minority Well, some of these people you know don't know who you are. They didn't go look at your website They haven't seen your face. Maybe they haven't seen you in a networking thing. So, you know, okay, that can't be it I call myself Mitch Mitchell y'all know I'm Mitch Mitchell here That's not my real name, but my real name isn't one of those names Although I never say it or anyone's gonna know beforehand whether I'm black or not I don't think I speak with what some people might say a black accent. I don't know Maybe I do maybe I just can't hear it But I don't think that's it what I know for a fact and this is a shame But it's a fact probably 90 to 95 percent of the people who I have to contact to market my specific set of skills Which are you know pretty valuable if you ask me, you know, I helped a hospital make a 730 million dollars in one year Yes, I did. So I think that's pretty valuable But I end up having to try to teach them about this thing that they're over that they know nothing about Stranges that sounds that's very big in health care. It probably happens a lot of other businesses also, but I don't know So sometimes, you know, people want to claim credit for stuff that they don't know and that's wrong And when the other people know it and if they work for you They don't want to share things with you anymore And that's just horrible because you should always have people who are willing to help the company Which helps themselves and if you promote those people and not just like like give them a different position But you say, you know But this person did really good and you give them some kind of honor Maybe you throw some kind of party, you know, everyone doesn't look for money all the time But if you show that kind of thing people will do almost anything for you That's number four number five when you can't find anyone who agrees with anything you have to say You know, this one is another strange one because a lot of people think that just because someone is in a position of authority That they know everything it happens a lot with consultants One of the nicest things someone ever said to me one time And this was many years ago is you're not like other consultants I said why is that they said because if you don't know something you'll say I don't know something but I'll find out other people just make stuff up or they come up with an idea on the fly That turned out to be wrong later on You know, that's never been my style But you will find that there are people who just have to give you an answer right off the bat No thought about it. No thinking. Well, we'll just do this. We'll just do this We'll just do this a lot of times that stuff is wrong. You should never do that I know people who are definite authorities and experts on something who will very rarely do stuff like that on the same Token I go see my doctor every once in a while. It's rare, but I go see him and usually within two or three minutes He already knows what's wrong Maybe my stuff is just so common that he sees it all the time that it's not a big deal He hasn't been wrong yet. So what can I say? So you do have some of those folks, but you know, he's a doctor Those guys have to get through a lot of people so they can make a lot of money. So Now that's five number six when people aren't listening to you Something that I hear some leaders say is you know, I try to tell people things and no one wants to do what I say And I'm the person in charge, you know, you earn respect It doesn't matter what you do. Do you play games? Are you a leader in a company? Are you a manager director or whatever? Do you drive people on a bus? No matter what you do if you work with other people You have to earn respect You have to show people one that you know what you're doing or two that you're willing to learn Or you're willing to help and if you're not willing to do those types of things if it always has to be about you and By the way, it's about you, but you're wrong More often than not no one's going to listen to you And you can't just demand it just because you're in a certain position. That just doesn't work Think about it this way When a football coach basketball coach baseball coach hockey coach or whomever Can't get everyone to listen to them to the point that they don't win at all They get ousted that happens in other companies, too Eventually if you're the person at the top you got all those other people It's easier to get rid of you than everyone else And if you're in a department where you're not the leader, but you're just someone who's just so contrary all the time You bring everyone else down and you ruin the mood of the department. You got to go I've gotten rid of people like that. You cannot destroy the team and number seven when it's all about you And you should know it, but you don't sometimes you do but most of the time you don't when Everything that's going on is Something that you think you should know or you should be doing or you should be getting the credit for and You're looking to get promoted or you're looking for This accolade or all these things, but it's not something that you did Then that's wrong that your motives aren't pure if you're an employee and your Only goal is to get people to notice what it is that you do so that you can Be promoted or so you can stand out so you can go up to someone did you hear what so-and-so said about me or whatever Your motives aren't pure and you're just you know, that just doesn't work You know, there's this thing about team now. Sometimes there is this thing where it has to be about you I mean truthfully I've done some videos where I said, you know But you have to think about you first You always have to take care of yourself first because no one else is gonna take care of you at the same time While you're taking care of yourself. You're taking care of everybody else. You know, like I said, I'm an independent consultant And I know that my reputation lies in going into a place and helping it be better in some way before I leave That's my reputation and I go in knowing that but I also go in Hoping that if I find something that people don't know or people need some help with that They're gonna let me help them to learn it and to get better so that they will Retain this thing when I leave because I'm not going in to stay permanently I don't want that kind of work ever again But I want people to feel that they know this thing and I always give credit to those people I say, you know what so-and-so did a great job. They've learned how to do this or they came up with this idea And we do that. That's how it's supposed to go now is about me in a way because I'm there I'm trying to produce. I'm trying to make things look good. I'm hoping to get that letter That says hey, you know what Mitch Mitchell came in here and he helped us do good But it's always also about other people. You have to be willing to share the credit You have to be willing to let other people at least have that opportunity if you have to be the one Who goes in there and says oh my god, this whole thing is messed up. Let's get it fixed Then you do that but you bring people along. You get people to buy into it. Sometimes that's difficult So you go for those little victories That's what I like to call them those things where you do a few things here and there shows people one that you care and two that you know what you're talking about and Three if you're open to their input you have to show that sometimes you have to take some things and say You know what this is something that someone else wanted to do let's put that in the practice Maybe they know because if you think you know it all for every single thing in the world Kid yourself So are your motives pure? I just gave you seven things to think about do you see people who fit some of these things? Let me know this is Mitch Mitchell. Hope you all have a great day and Loving my red Fitbit you take care