 Bronnie Ware is a nurse who spent seven years at the deathbeds of the elderly and dying During those seven years. She collected What were the top five regrets of the dying and wrote them all in her memoir? Let's go over some of these so that we don't have these regrets on our deathbeds The fifth most heard regret was I wish that I had let myself be happier It turns out that when we get older as we gain experience through life Especially once we are approaching our death That's when we realize that happiness is in fact a choice That you have to choose to be happy Sure, your outside circumstances can help you in making that choice if things are going well if things Looking really bright. It's a lot easier to be happy But ultimately it's a choice. You have to let yourself be happy. There are people that have things millions of dollars beautiful friends Beautiful circumstances that don't let themselves be happy as a result Torture themselves because of it The elderly seem to realize this that for a lot of their life They were waiting for something to allow them to be happy. They could just simply let themselves be happy So don't make that mistake. The fourth most heard regret was I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends How many friends do you have in a lifetime? How many faces do you see? People you saw you'll never forget and yet because of the vicissitudes of life because of what happens We forget some of them. We lose them in the midst Which have to realize is that people are not like items and objects or collectibles that you can replace in this regard and once you're on your deathbed when you realize this that Every person has a story every person has their own individuality their own characteristics Don't flavor they brought to your life and some of them you should have never let go of Here you are wondering what happened wondering where they are Because you couldn't stay in touch. You forgot to stay in touch with your friends. The third most heard regret relates with people I Wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. I wish I had the courage to ask the girl out I wish I had the courage to tell my parents the truth about my sexuality about my goals I wish I had the courage to live a life that I wanted to be honest with myself Expressing my feelings That's something a lot of people don't do and that's one of the most potent regrets Because when you don't have the courage to express your feelings to tell people how you feel by how you're not happy with the situation about how Much you love them When you are on your deathbed, that's a feeling. That's a fact that's gonna haunt you It's gonna haunt you all the opportunities you miss because you weren't honest with yourself because you were too scared to be honest with others So have the courage to express your feelings. The second most heard regret was I wish I didn't work so hard How many of us work 50 hour weeks 60 hour weeks 70 hour weeks Trying to get ahead trying to get that next big car try to get the bigger mortgage the bigger house how many of us Forget to spend time with our family and friends because we're working Because we need to beat the neighbors because we have to work hard. That's what we're meant to do Save money into your Roth IRA save money to your superannuation. It's all about working work and work and make more money work work and yet When some of us on our deathbeds, what do we remember? We remember a life of working a life of Not having fun a life. That's too serious. Where are the memories of us camping? Where are the memories of us climbing a mountain? Where are the memories of us traveling to Berlin? Where are the memories of us actually living? They don't exist because all we have is work We work so hard so that we could have a good life when we were older and here we are on our deathbed The number one regret she heard said was I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself Not the life others expected of me I feel that we can all resonate with this even before we reach our deathbeds You see a lot of us we follow what is called the socially conditioned narrative We go to college because our parents tell us to society tells us to we get a degree in a job That we don't want to because it's the right thing to do We buy the house we get the car we get the mortgage we get the kids We marry the person who wasn't right for us. We live a life that's expected of us We don't want to go against the herd. We don't want to be outcast. So we do what's normal We omit our dreams because of this sometimes the dreams we have seem too ridiculous seem Not appropriate for situation and when we're on our deathbeds, that's when we can truly realize that We might have wasted our life. We could have done something else We could have actually lived a life that would have enjoyed more following our higher purposes Not agreeing with what others expected of us but doing things that we wanted to do So that's the number one most potent regret So don't live a life the others expect of you Pave your own way. I want to show you how to be part of the notification gang It's sort of simple click subscribe and you click on this little bell here boom, bam, boom That's it and you get notifications as soon as the videos are up. Peace Do it