 okay hi you guys okay so I'm on this new camera that it's not the one that I ordered I went and picked this one up from a different store so it's not gonna be the best quality this is gonna be my vlogging camera but I'm using it temporarily into my good camera cams so here are some weird clicking noises that's the camera okay um so I can't move around a lot so I kind of be stiff like a robot because the camera goes in and out of focus and makes weird stuff happen because I've already tested it so I'm just gonna be very still today until my good camera gets here so what we're gonna be talking about and today is another youtuber because I've been watching her for a while Trisha Paytas you guys probably know her she's a very famous youtuber and she's always you know putting her personal life out there online she's blonde if y'all know who she is y'all go check her out she has like millions of subscribers but recently she just broke up with her boyfriend because someone snapped at her and you know he was cheating on her and he was gay okay so that's what she said and you know someone saw him kissing another man and you know has snapchat footage of him in a gay club and blah blah blah blah so she's kind of really distraught and she made a bunch of videos crying and you know being upset at him and now he's suing her and so now she's really pissed off and she says she's very numb now once someone hurts you like that to a degree and you feel like you've been used and you've given all you can give and you feel like you know you know I really was in love and I got got because I was too nice I got taken advantage of I got played okay once you get to this point you are now ready to you know make yourself the priority and instead of putting all of your hopes and dreams and you know your happiness into one person you start to put them in yourself because now you realize no one can make you happy but yourself only thing is men are an added bonus to add onto you they can't add to you or benefit you in any way or do things for you that you can't do for yourself then you're being used okay you're being taken advantage of you're being drained okay so we all know she has money and you know probably way more than him and he was using her to get views on his channel and for his music or whatever and all the time he was gay like whenever the holidays would roll around he would go home and take his friend instead of her and as we know it is the holiday season this is when you find out who you are in the relationship or your position in this person's life so if you're not being invited to Christmas dinner if you want invited to Thanksgiving if you haven't met the family yet after you've been dating for a while as you think seriously chances are you're probably not the person that they want to you know spend their life with because they have not introduced you yet so understand and don't try to push things just understand your place and understand that if you're not putting yourself first neither will anyone else now being too needy that's another one of the things that I think she can work on being too needy when you get into a relationship of course you want your man to do all these things for you but sometimes they just can't you know sometimes you're needing them too much sometimes it's an emotional drain it becomes more of a drag than you know an emotional bond so when you're trying to emotionally bond with someone you don't spill out all your problems and secrets and desires if you are a mystery to someone they don't get tired of you okay because they don't even know who you are yet okay if you tell everything to someone within the first week of knowing them you know they're basically like they know everything about you so why you know there's nothing left to get to know you've done everything you've told them everything now it's like you know on board of you mystery keeps people intrigued so I know I noticed another thing with her she tends to tell too much she tends to do a lot of things that I always say are not good for relationships she tends to be too needy to tell too much to chase men to go for guys that are out of her league and I'm not saying he was out of her league I'm just saying guys that she's gonna have to chase obviously who won't who would never chase her you know what I mean so my suggestion to her would be to scale it down a bit find someone who's gonna chase you you know of course you know living in LA there's lots of rich guys out there who would chase you but they might not be famous and look like your ex but they're probably straight and they're probably appreciative of someone like you you know you can't always have the entire fairy tale come true some things you're gonna have to sacrifice on okay even the most famous most beautiful women in the world get cheated on so it's not anything about your looks it's about how you act and how you present yourself and how you treat yourself how you treat yourself is how a man is going to treat you if you're you know always criticizing yourself if you're always putting yourself second and caring more about others than you do yourself that's how you're gonna be treated so ladies y'all can take a lesson from this treat yourself the best put you first you know if they haven't texted you or called you today don't call them okay don't respond back as soon as someone text you that's too desperate you know make them wonder about you make their thoughts with you you know what I mean if they always always know what you're doing or you're at what time you're gonna call what you're wearing that day if they know too much about you you're no longer attractive to them because they it's like you're a family member now they know too much about you they're bored they're probably sick of you so the more mystery the better keep telling women this the more mystery the better okay and when you have emotional problems don't run to your man to dump on on him go to a friend that's what they're for go to a girlfriend go to some strangers you know go to a reader you know a lot of people have personal readers or therapists or something go to them that's what they're for that's what you pay them for so a lot of times relationships with will end with someone too needy like that so if you're a needy person go to someone else don't go to your man for that okay that's not what they're for of course if something bad happens and it's devastating and they asked to be there for you and they say I want to be there for you then fine but don't just go with every single issue problem minute detail type thing what do you think about this what do you think they don't care man or not like that okay they don't care about little small things like oh what color do you think I should you know we got my nails today they don't care about that you know oh well dressy think I should wear next Friday they don't care about it stop bugging people stop always asking them for their opinion this is your life do what you want if they like it great they don't oh well it's all about you okay if women would take on this attitude they would be a lot happier and men would still be chasing it okay most of the time it's mental it's not physical okay because it's not physical it's a mental game you can you can have all this plastic surgery you can have all this stuff done but a man will never treat you any different if you don't love yourself okay so I hope she sees this message I hope it's helpful for her and I do like her channel I watch her I've been watching her for years years and years and years I like the fact like I think I started watching her like in 2009 and I think it's cuz she's like always doing Michael Jackson you know she's always talking about Michael Jackson I was like really into Michael Jackson I still am you know a lot but like in 2009 that was like the year he left and so there's lots of videos on and I just started you know subscriber but yes women who are too needy and tell everything always end up alone okay women who are a little bit you know less needy and I'm not talking about money I'm talking about emotionally you know women who are less emotionally needy and who are more mysterious and who put themselves first instead of other people and everybody else and you know who speak words that they want to actually see manifesting their life you know those women are more happy because she's always saying oh I just want to be loved I just want to be left you're manifesting to just want to be left instead of being loved you know wanting is different from being understand wanting means you will always want being is that you are so if she changed her words around and change how she viewed herself and change the type of attitude she had when it comes to men as far as being too emotional emotionally needy she could have a good decent relationship you know but sometimes you don't learn this until you've been through it like many many many times it takes to it takes a lot to slap someone in the face to make them realize to put the focus on themselves instead of other people you know the man is supposed to win the woman over it's not the other way around you're not supposed to win him you supposed to win you and that's why it's off balance because you actually took on the male role so sit back be a girl in every way not just as far as it looks be a girl and letting the man chase be a girl and letting the man wonder about you be a girl and putting yourself first above anyone else's needs and let them come to you for a change you know what I'm saying if it's not the type of people you want and whatever and you're unhappy about the results you're getting you know after making that change then your expectations were unrealistic in the first place you know what I'm saying so I know it's easy to get caught up when you live in like Hollywood and California and stuff like that you know but sometimes you need to settle and be down to earth and see what comes because it could be something so much better you know you can't always have the glam Hollywood perfect picture perfect specimen of a partner and have everything you want in life that's not how it works you're going to have to you know be realistic and I think be much happier if a man was actually chasing you and I'm talking to all women who are in a situation like this not just her I'm just using her as an example because I've been watching her videos lately so yeah put yourself first and you'll never lose okay that's my that is my motto put yourself first and you will never lose okay think about it if that's what the men are doing they're putting themselves first and they're not the ones losing okay so I'll see y'all