 stay away from sexual contact with a narcissist yes that's what we're going to be talking about in this video because I think it's very important for you to understand sex with a narcissist is abuse yes you are being abused when you have sex with a narcissist and the reason why is because they're so self absorbed that they lack empathy and for them everything is just about manipulation and control it's all about just sucking the life and energy out of you and meanwhile they just treat you like a toy an object a tool you're just something for them to use you're not something that they connect to they lack empathy so they do not share or understand your feelings or experience it's just all about them it's all about their needs and that is why they're so selfish when you're with them when you're sexually involved they don't consider your emotional or physical needs it's not about what brings you pleasure no it's never about that and even for them believe it or not but narcissists are not physically or sexually attracted to anyone and you're with them and you feel like you're not that attractive you're not sexy you're not cute and you look at yourself and you wonder what is wrong with me is it my face am I not beautiful or handsome enough maybe I just need to do my hair a different way maybe I need to lose some weights maybe I'm too fat maybe I need to gain weights maybe I'm too thin maybe my butt is too big maybe it's too small or maybe it's something else there's so many different things that may run through your mind all of these things that you may think is wrong with you and they may even tell you that as well they may point out things about your body saying that it's something that they dislike and that is why they're not turned on with you that is why they do not decide to have sex with you because yes in some cases they may even withhold it all together and that may make you think that's something that's wrong with you but what you need to understand is that narcissists and even just people who have narcissistic traits they're actually not physically or sexually attracted to anyone at all because they're narcissistic so they're self-absorbed and they like empathy it's all about them and narcissists is the type of person who if they're having sex with you and they want to do it in front of a mirror just so they can look at themselves and they're having sex with you and they're just thinking in their minds wow look how sexy I look doing this right now and and you're not even there you're just a prop you're just an object they're not even really considering you in that moment you're just there to make them look good they're not even seeing you as a human being they're not even seeing you as that at all and when you think about it it's really sad it's really pathetic but this is just how it is narcissists are not physically or sexually attracted to anyone not even themselves because as we know they have this false self and this false self is meant to be perfect and they plan and coordinate the elements of a situation to produce this effect of them being whoever they want to be in that moment whatever makes them feel good whatever makes them feel sexy attractive and desirable the best things in slice bread and they just move you around it's like you switch from position to position enjoy this being moved around like a toy a rag doll and they want to position you in certain ways to set up this it's like a movie set the position things of around to produce this effect and this effect is not for you it is for themselves they're self-absorbed that they like empathy it is all about themselves it's never about giving or sharing anything with you and that is why I say that sex with a narcissist it is an abusive act because they're not even considering you you're not even there and yet at the same time they are leeching off your energy of everything that makes you who you are and that is why when you're having sex with a narcissist even during the sexual act it doesn't feel good in fact it feels bad it feels very wrong you feel a lot of guilt you feel a lot of shame you may even feel quite embarrassed to talk about it although sometimes and I say sometimes because for this to even take place you have to be in the fantasy yourself you have to be completely delusional where they have gotten you to share this fancy in that moment to validate their false self and in that moment then it may feel quite good but even then that's just all in your mind it's not real it's not a real connection and that is why even if it does feel good in that moment following the act you will then feel really bad about yourself you will feel a lot of guilt you will feel a lot of shame you will feel like you just made a very big mistake as though you should have never done that you should have never been in their bed or had them in your bed you should have never taken off your clothes when you were around them you should have never agreed or consented to participate in this sexual act what I'm saying is despite the fact that you were manipulated used views and controlled by a narcissist in a sexual way despite all of that at the end of it you may even blame yourself because they're not going to be there to comfort you they're not going to be there to hold you and tell you that everything's okay they're not going to be there to do that for you and that is why it may not even be pleasurable during the sexual act because they don't really love you they're not very affectionate they don't hold you they don't put their arms around you they don't even make eye contact with you it's like you're not even there they're just using you like a toy a prop in their movie and they are the start of the show sex with a narcissist will always be narcissistic it will always be all about them and how great they are you may be fooled into thinking that it's about you and by doing that you may experience a level of fake happiness but it's really not about you at all it's all about them I'm literally in their minds do in that moment all they really think it is wow how sexy am I how attractive how desirable look how good I look yes that's exactly what's going through their minds but you may not believe it because they manipulated you they led you led you to believe that this was something where they felt attracted to you and as though they wanted to share this connection as though they wanted to give you something when in fact no it was all about them it was all about robbing something from you and that is why by the end of it you feel robbed and this is even before we get to the spiritual side of it because yes sex is a spiritual act when you are having sex with someone you are making love to their soul it is affecting them on a spiritual level and that is why that energy stays with you even after it's done and it can linger with you for a very long time in my experiences I've noticed for a few days maybe even for a few weeks you just feel like something's wrong you feel anxiety you feel irritable you may even feel depressed and you may feel like you just want to be alone it's almost like you've just been raped even though you may have agreed to it you may have consented but it's like you thought it was something else so at the end of it you're thinking you got robbed you got cheated you didn't get what you wanted what you expected what you were led to believe because you were just used you were abused you were tricked and you were deceived and yes it can affect you spiritually and this is another thing as well you need to be aware of a person's past sexual partners because as I said this energy stays with us this DNA passes from person to person and that's another thing as well if you're talking about unexpected pregnancies I mean if you get a narcissist pregnant so they get you pregnant then there's a chance you could be bringing a baby into the world with very bad genetics a child who could be messed up in the mind and then there's also SDIs as well because as we know narcissists like to sleep on grounds and they don't like to be told no they don't want to be told that they have to use protection again it's not even about sexual attraction physical attraction or even pleasure or gratification it's really got nothing to do with that at all that's not why they do any use protection narcissists are completely emotionally and even physically numb they're completely desensitized it's all about manipulation and control that's what it's all about when you're dealing with a narcissist they don't even experience positive feelings and emotions it's all negative for them that's why the world is miserable and in fact you may notice and this is really crazy but it makes sense with a lot of what I've said up until this point you may notice that following the sexual act they're even more miserable they're even more frustrated it's like they're even more mad at you it's like you've done something wrong and they may even say that to you they may point out something doing the sexual acts something you did you didn't do it correctly or something you didn't do what they wanted you to do as we know they never actually say what it was they just expected to guess and they would just use that as an excuse so it's justification for how they feel calling the sexual act to justify their misery and frustration but the regard to guess that they just can't be satisfied it's not you so don't feel bad about yourself don't feel like you're not attractive you're not good enough something is wrong with you I want you to feel about way at all and that's not why I'm saying this I'm saying it because it is the truth no says the people even those who don't have the full blown disorder they do not experience physical or sexual attraction they don't even experience physical attraction to themselves even though you might think that they do I'm sure many of you know about the story of narcissists where you fell in love with this reflection in the lake but even then that's a false character that's not even real they don't like anything that exists in reality they shut it out they don't want anything to do with it they live in a fantasy they're not physically or sexually attracted to anyone or anything it's all about manipulation and control and of course they do try to appear normal that's why when you experience the discards they go on and they find another source of supply and they act like they're so in love this we're attracted to this person this begins from the devaluation phase as well this is why they insult you but they put you down while they always make negative comments about your your appearance it's trying to make you think that's something wrong with you but in fact they just can't even feel physical or sexual attraction that's what the problem is and this is why they go on to prove such a point to you of how they can be physically or sexually attracted to someone else but even then it's still about manipulation and control they manipulate in the new source and they're also manipulating and controlling you through your perception of this new situation and you've got to think why do they go to such extreme lengths with the new source just to try to prove this to you why is that such a concern to them and of course it's because deep down they know that something is wrong with them they understand that they can't experience physical or sexual attraction yeah they know that something is not right with that they know that they should be able to experience it and this is why when you go out into public you might be at a restaurant you could be anywhere and they're always watching your eyeballs they want to see where you're looking or who you might be attracted to it's like although they can't experience it themselves they try to experience it by cursory through you and they're so fascinated with your natural process of physical and sexual attraction so fascinated by that and it's like they always want to know what it was that attracted you to them physically they're so fascinated with that because they don't get to experience it for themselves that's why that's why they go off and it's such a point that they have to prove to you of how they can experience that with someone else the reality is that it's all fake it's all an illusion it's all just something they use intermittently you I mean you've got to think how can someone experience physical or sexual attraction and real sexual intimacy if they lack a effect of empathy which is the ability to share and feel another person's feelings and experiences just look at how many times they hurt you quite clearly they cannot feel what you feel they can't feel what you feel if a person cannot feel what you feel how can they experience physical or sexual attraction how can they experience physical or sexual pleasure and gratification how can they be satisfied how can they out be happy of course they can't it's not possible this is the regard you have it because only one to two percent of the bill's population are empaths a statistic show and this is why although you may have experienced sex a lot of times throughout your life with a few sexual partners it's like you may have never felt like you really connected with anyone I can never experienced real intimacy and perhaps that's why perhaps that's why because that statistic show only one to two percent of the bill's population are empaths which are people who have the ability to feel what you feel and really that's the best part when you know that you are making someone else feel good and that is something not to say so even really anyone who isn't an empath doesn't get to experience they don't get to feel what you feel they can read into it cognitively but they can't really feel it and that's the best part being able to feel it and maybe that's what they're missing maybe that's why they're so miserable maybe that's why they can't find satisfaction in anything in their lives maybe that is the reason for that for those of you who have had that experience where you're having sex with them and you can actually feel what they feel you will know how amazing that feels to know that you are making someone else happy you are making them feel good you're bringing them pleasure and satisfaction I mean honestly I would say that that is the best part of the sexual activity I mean for me nothing hurts me more or would hurt me more than to know that I have not fully satisfied my sexual partner and I would be thinking in my mind what do I have to do to make things better to make things right to please you to satisfy you to make you feel good yes that's what I would be thinking about in my mind but as for NASA says that doesn't even cost their mind at all they don't even think about that that's how it's so easy for them to just use and abuse you and not even care but if you're sexually satisfied that's how it's so easy for them to do that because quite clearly they don't even care if they did care you would see a different response they wouldn't react in that way if they actually cared that much about it quite clearly all they're concerned about is their own and I wouldn't even say sexual pleasure they didn't even get to experience that they don't even experience physical or sexual attraction it's all manipulation and control they're seeking power and even then that has nothing to do with you you're just an object a tool a prop they don't even see you you're just a mirror people are mirrors that reflect back to them how they want to see and feel about themselves that's literally all it is