 Hey what's up you guys, welcome back to my channel, if you're new here, hi, hello, I'm Lydia and today we're talking about BPD and abandonment. Now I believe I've covered this topic in the past but the video's probably crap so I'm filming it again now when I've got a proper camera and a new lens. I've got a new lens for my camera and I love how it works and how I don't have to be rightful about it anymore. Anyway back on to the topic of abandonment and BPD. So BPD has many characteristics. Abandonment, it's one of them, it's one of the parts of BPD-ing. So say you're in a relationship and it breaks, you break up, you feel abandoned by that person that you've been cast away and yes I'm using a person I've experienced here. It does affect people already to their living and then when I got broken up with last week it did some of his bargaining and made me suicide and it made me want to sell file. It made me cry. It made me feel so unwanted that I didn't even want to be a liar. A couple of years ago if you'd have broken up with me I hardly would have made them a head in terms of my life. This time it was just thoughts and I didn't have any intention of acting on them so to say a lot has changed, a lot has changed. But when you have BPD abandonment issues are, it's such a big part of it because you don't want people to leave you. Abandonment is a very big part of BPD-ing because you had attachments to people and when attachments broke you can't help but feel abandoned. So here are a few little things you can do to help yourself when you feel like you've been abandoned. Look at photos of positive memories. I've got photos on my wall of my family and my little sister going to her prom and her first day of school. I've got pictures of my grandparents when I went on holiday with them. I've got a picture of me and my sisters. I had two younger sisters, one is 18 and the other is 11 and I'm 25. So I turned 26 next month. It's crazy. Another thing that comes to mind when you've been abandoned is the urge to get their attention again by messaging constantly, voting constantly, emailing, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or is it X now? I still call it Twitter. But my main bit of advice is if you have BPD and you feel abandoned, look for positive memories. For me that's my positive wall. Another thing I think is important to say is it's okay to feel abandoned when you're broken or with when someone leaves your life. It's okay to feel abandoned. That relationship was important to you and not having that is hard. Yes, you're likely to feel abandoned because someone you care about has just left your life. That doesn't mean you can't have positive memories with that person. I hope this video made some sense. Thanks for watching and I'll see you in my next video. Peace.