 Hi, it's Bridget. Hey there. Welcome to a new series, Sunday Morning Coffee with Bridget. And yes, I have my coffee cup. I'm sitting outside on my porch. It's summer. You might hear the wind whistling through every once in a while, which is much appreciated. Let me tell you, it's going to be a very hot day today, which I so love. I know. So people think I'm crazy. Love that. Sunday Morning Coffee is an opportunity for us to stay connected during these times. Audio is a great way, real convenient for me to just grab and share some insight or inspiration with you. As you know, my purpose is always, no matter what YouTube channel I'm on, whether it's Ferry Grasshopper, my vlogging channel, where I share lots of psychic and life things, videos and such. Or whether it's above life channel, where we focus on mediumship and psychic connection with afterlife celebrity guests. The goal is always to inspire your spirit and to fill you with hope. And I intend to do that. So as we are here today, we're going to start off sort of a podcast style. I've done this exact format previously. It's been years. Many of you didn't even know me 10 years ago, but I have done this very series, Sunday Morning Coffee with Bridget, about 10 years ago. So kind of bringing it back again, this format is just a talk style format. Today's topic is looking forward or having something to look forward to. Do you have that? Like, are you that kind of person where under normal circumstances, now I'm going to ask you to think back to normal circumstances, what that used to be, where you kind of always, whether it's during the day, like you had something to look forward to when you got home that night, whether it be a great dinner or time with friends or whatever it might be, or looking forward to Friday, you know, so you could have the weekend in a traditional way, or looking forward to that vacation that you've been planning or saving up for that great vacation or whatever it might be, right? Looking forward, looking forward, looking forward. That's kind of our habit. That's our tendency. And it's a motivator for us. It motivates us. It inspires us. I know it inspires me. I always have that myself. I always look forward to. If you watch me on Ferry Grasshopper on my vlogging channel, you know that I love Disney. I love Disney. It's very sentimental to me. It reminds me of my dad. It reminds me of family. I've had great memories there with my sister, with my kids, with my family, with my friends. I mean, I've had, I've even done a business retreat there or a retreat there at Disney World. I've been at Disneyland. That's where I grew up going to. So I have this connection, right? And the energy of that for me is so hopeful, so inspiring. It keeps me going. So if I plan a trip, even if it's a year and a half away, I can do things that help to trigger my excitement and anticipation of that fun time. And it gives me something to look forward to. Now you do that too. I'm sure you do that. You do that in different ways. It seems as though right here right now, this idea of having something to look forward to, I'm not sure that it exists. I'm not sure that we can use it as a trick to get our bodies to comply, our hearts and our souls to work with our mind to achieve our goals. The goal of living, getting up every day, working, saving our money for that trip, focusing on that future experience that we're looking forward to. For some it might be a goal. Maybe you set some goals for health, for example. Like I'm going to get into those size 10 genes, for example. Whatever it may be, something to look forward to, something to look forward to. We have been constantly programmed to live for a future. Have you noticed that? Like right here right now, during this time where we are paused, where everything slowed down in some ways slowed down or ground to grinding to a screeching halt, and in other ways speed it up like fast, fast, fast, fast. Almost like rush, hurry up and get it done before something happens to me, before I'm affected, before I get sick, before I lose my job. There's this different kind of almost a manic energy that's also happening at the same exact time that this complete stagnant, frozen, pause energy, you can't do anything. So it's like this incredible manic, I have to do everything, and this incredible almost like a depressed, can't do anything state. And what I'm suggesting is that we, you and I together, we've got to find this place in between this center point that isn't looking forward to the future. It's looking forward to today to narrow our frame of reference so that we can actively engage in ways that are healthy and not manic or stressed out, or so heavy that we're so buried in worry and concern about what if, what might happen that we can't even function or participate or show up today. We're kind of self-fulfilling our prophecy of not having that job or getting sick because the more heavy your energy is, the more stagnant your energy becomes, the more you give in to energy that is not healthy for you. So you see this place that we're in is such a stark contrast. There's like either this or that. It's like all or nothing. And what we need, you and I together, what we need is something to look forward to. And it's not something, it's someone, it's us. We've got to be looking forward to the next beautiful thing, the next meme on Facebook that makes me smile. The next time I walk down the hallway carrying my coffee cup and I bump into my little dog that just looks up at me with those cute big brown eyes, seemingly so happy, adoring me with unconditional love, that moment. And then the next one and the next one and the next one and the next one are looking forward window. We've got to zoom in a bit more. We've got to bring it into the moments of our life as we are living and moving throughout our day. Now that doesn't mean that everything's going to feel great as soon as you're a Bridget. I'm not going to just magically feel better. Well, no, it does take some effort on your part to be willing to participate. Are you willing to participate? Are you willing to look forward during your day and find things that help to inspire you or help you to feel better than you felt the moment before? Like finding your, seeing that little doggy and having it look so sweetly at you. Are you willing to pause in that moment and absorb that to really receive that? Because that's directed right at you. You people with pets, you know exactly what I'm talking about. So much joy and so much love. Those are the kinds of things that we come look forward to, to jumping on a phone call with a friend and chatting. You know, maybe pouring a beverage and like I'm doing right now, I have coffee of my Sunday morning coffee, my hot, hot coffee and chatting with you. Maybe you do that. You look forward to doing that with a friend once a week or twice a week or different friends just checking in talking about things. Maybe you decide together then to like read a book together or something. So you have something to talk about that's different than world events or past. It's what's present. So maybe you read a book and you share that with each other and talk about that. There's lots of creative ways that you can engage with your life right now. Lots of things to look forward to. You can plan some of this. You can be planful. Like I said, like read a book, get a friend to read it with you, have conversation twice a week about it, what have you. You can to some extent generate some ideas for yourself so that you can consistently and constantly have things to look forward to in your day. Maybe a quiet walk around the neighborhood. Maybe an early morning walk. I love these, you guys. So I'm discovering these this summer because it's been so blessed hot in July in Minnesota. It has been so heavy humid. Oh my gosh. Where, and I like humidity. If you, again, if you watch for a grasshopper blog, you know, I love humidity. But it has been so heavy for me that gives me some headaches and some sinus stuff. So I haven't actually been able to enjoy it as much. So what I've done instead is to ensure that I get a nice walk in in the morning. I get up early enough so I can go out now like right now. I'm thinking, okay, the sun's getting higher in the sky. It's going to get hotter. I need to get my butt off this audio and out walking. And I will. I already did actually two loops around the block with one of my doggies. But I have discovered walking early in the morning is beautiful. It's so peaceful. It's quiet. Lots of birds, lots of just this fresh energy as the sun is coming up. It's gorgeous. I would have never thought to do that before. I would have never made the effort to do that before. And that's something to look forward to. That's a great way to start my day. And it's not something I'm doing because I have to exercise. I have to work. I have I'm doing it out of an inspired energy. I'm doing it with the intention to connect to be present. And maybe right now part of the purpose of us is that we're having collectively in this group experience we're in this big experiment because that's really what we're in is like this big grand experiment. That shouldn't make you feel any worse than you already do people is that we get to learn how to be present. What the hell does that mean? Because people have been talking about forever all these great yogis and these very masterful spiritual teachers who are way more evolved than I know I am in this human body are like all about peace and being present. I'm like yeah yeah okay okay sometimes I can do that sometimes I can't I don't know about you but I got a lot of life a lot of human life distracting me well now here right now the only thing that's really distracting me is the worries that I have the projections about the what ifs the concerns the worst case scenarios the the that energy that I can't do anything about in this moment. I was on a call with my coach the other day and I said to her I am just I'm pretty much over the worrying thing worrying about my kids worrying about if college is going to start worrying about the mental health of my kids because you know that's kind of fragile for anybody but for some people more than others during this time and the money situation and I mean just all sorts of stuff going on and I said to her I am done with worrying I'm just tired of it I it's not doing me any good it's exhausting and I feel like it's such a waste right now because if all I'm doing is spending time with myself in my thoughts in my head which we always are even when you're in a group of people or you're at work or no matter what you're doing you're always spending time with yourself because your mind is going constantly and now when our our physical environments don't have quite as many distractions and they still have distractions like work and that kind of thing but not as many the worry is big and it just it seems like it's like this annoying nagging thing and I'm like it's it's not productive and I finally in my mind at least not in my heart because I do have the anxiety that I I wrestle with too just like you I'm sure empaths right but in the mind I recognize that I just I'm going to worry when it's time to worry you know because why worry in advance I'm still going to worry at the event if something happens when something happens that is undesirable I'm going to worry I'm going to deal with the consequences I'm going to deal with the effects the ramifications of people I love their suffering their pain I'm going to feel it so why should I be feeling it all along and anticipating it it's not going to make it less than when I get there instead it's going to wear me down so I am less than I'm tired of looking forward to pain or suffering or worry or worst-case scenarios I'm tired of that I'm done with that so instead I'm focusing on things that are positive and productive during the day so I'm recording this audio with you connecting with you I hope it's inspiring you I do enjoy coffee that's one thing I've gotten back to during these times in 2020 I have definitely gotten back to coffee again oh it's decaf it's very natural organic stuff mushroom-based coffee and I water it way down so don't worry I'm not like hyper up on caffeine but I do love the coffee the warmth of the cup in my hand and the aroma of it and so I'm letting myself enjoy that it is something I look forward to a simple something that I look forward to in my days so I encourage you to look forward to things throughout your day to plant or plan some things to look forward to in your day because you deserve it and you don't even just deserve it or have earned it you need it you really need it and for some of you it might be structure you might need some kind of structures you might need to plan little nature dates where you go sit out in the backyard next to a tree and write in your journal or go listen to the birds or go listen to your favorite podcast go for a drive park at a park that you used to love to hang out at and if there's too many people out there and you're not comfortable with that you can just sit in your car and listen to that podcast or maybe you listen to music and go for a drive a beautiful long drive whatever that looks like to you find it now is the time to be creative and to find ways to really look forward in a way that's different so that we can be in the present while we're utilizing that energy that positive motivational energy that inspires us and so for me today I'll probably put on some disney my mickey mouse earrings might wear some mickey socks actually I think I'm gonna wear a shirt that's a lad and I love that movie that's like one of my favorites a genie and a lad and you guys robin williams you know I've channeled him right above life channel youtube I've channeled him on above life channel love him love that movie and I like the new version too by the way that's a good one too so that's what I'm gonna enjoy those are the little things that I'm gonna do to keep me inspired so I'm interested in knowing what are you gonna do what kinds of ideas do you have or what kinds of things are helping you to stay in a positive vibe a positive flow some of your suggestions just might help other people so go ahead and put those in the comments below whether it's a really great book that you've read try to refrain from putting links though because links and comments on youtube videos it doesn't work so well youtube algorithm um thinks it's spam and puts it in the spam folder so just write the name and the author that kind of a thing okay maybe there's a great podcast you love go ahead and write that in there maybe maybe it's some specific kind of of crafting that you do some kind of needlework some quilting whatever it might be maybe people who have lost their time lost kind of time got away from you and you used to like to crochet with your grandma when you were like 12 maybe now's the time to start crocheting again even though gram is in the afterlife or you can't visit grandma right now because maybe she's you know quarantined you know got to keep those those folks safe are people that mean so much what's got to keep them safe so but maybe in honor of her you start crocheting again and then maybe you can send her something that you make see how this works you guys it's not that complicated it's not that hard your heart knows your heart so so knows all right look forward to reading your comments thanks so much for being part of sunday morning coffee with bridge it i hope you enjoy this podcast series to keep us connected goal is always as always to inspire your spirit to fill you with some hope i hope that we've done that today to encourage you to live your life it's your this is yours after all it's not mine it's yours so you need to live it i can't do for you nobody can do it for you you need to live it live it and you get to decide what that looks like today thanks for listening have a great day